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Old 10-18-2009, 12:35 AM   #1
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A bad week in pregnancy-ville...



Hello Gals,

Well I'm up late again tonight. Thanks to my daughter still is waking up at night. She's now two, officially. (view above image)

In order of my horrible week....

1. Tried to shampoo the carpets with my mother in law's ancient vacuum shampooer. Total failure. Took two days and no improvement to the carpets for my effort. I had a panic attack, and decided to put the thing in the garage and forget it exists!

2. Woke up a couple of mornings ago, had major cramping & light bleeding. Freaked out, and went to the hospital thinking I was miscarrying. He said everything looked good, except I have an infection. Which he prescribed antibiotics for. Still sore in my tummy, but at least the blood turned brown and was very light, and has pretty much stopped. I'm still really scared.

3. I don't currently have health insurance because its so expensive we had to save for it and it doesn't start until next month. So I'm forced to go to a local clinic. However, after four attempts to make a follow up appointment, I still have not been able to get an appointment. I even called the office manager and never got a call back. I am supposed to see a doctor within 2-4 days for a follow up. But if I can't get an appointment, I just don't know what I am going to do.

4. Today was my daughters 2nd b-day and I had to prepare the house and food for guests. I was so exhausted, it took all day to finish. Barely got in a nap before she woke up. Then in a rush to finish the work, I had a major panic attack which soaked up another hour of my evening.

5. Everyone in my family constantly says that they will help me when I need it. Never does it happen. I am forced to do almost everything by myself. My step mother keeps saying she'll help with the baby when it comes. But LORD, she doesn't help me now! And I need help now! I won't be able to count on her then, I'd imagine. If her history already tells me she's not to be relied upon. I just get sick of hearing how much she will help when she just doesn't very often if at all.

6. Started coughing this evening. I think I have a bronchitis problem. My chest feels very wheezy, and scratchy. My entire body aches. This is probably due to my wonderful trip to germville (the hospital) a couple of days earlier.

I hope next week goes better. I better hit the hay. Ugh. I almost cried when the anxiety attack hit. I just was hitting the edge of what I could handle! You know!? I start to get this attitude like... "What NOW!??" And I can barely handle another negative surprise as it is.
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Old 10-18-2009, 01:52 AM   #2
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Oh dear. If you are still feeling , are exhausted, and perhaps hormonally induced anxious, I'd say your pregnancy is likely fine. If you start feeling wonderful, then I'd worry. I think most family members don't really realize how difficult it is to do life and also grow a baby. And once you've been pregnant once already, everyone pretty much assumes you are a pro and doesn't offer to help.

Take good care of yourself. Don't feel that the house needs to be perfect. Your little will adore you for her b-day party and won't notice how clean the bathroom is. But...if you start spotting again, you will likely blame yourself, as motherhood is a synonym for guilt.

If you want a good laugh and some , see if your library carries this.

Amazon.com: The Girlfriends' Guide to Pregnancy...Amazon.com: The Girlfriends' Guide to Pregnancy...
Its a little racey at times and I don't always agree with some of her opinions, but its both hysterical and comforting at the same time.
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Old 10-18-2009, 09:31 AM   #3
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It was way nice to wake up to this message. Good way to start the day. Yeah, my step mom never had children. And the mother in law had 4 boys. (she has had enough, lol)

It is true, I'm an over do'er and a big worrier. I always feel big responsibility to make sure everything gets done. Even if I am slower than I normally am. I hope I feel at least some energy today. If not I'll probably end up zombie-ing on the couch watching the big baby. Then again, I may not, cuz im an over worrier and a do'er! ARGH! lol
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Old 10-19-2009, 12:01 PM   #4
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I'm pretty sure (after a trip to the hospital) that I am currently mis-carrying this baby.



Anyway.... thanks for the support.
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Old 10-19-2009, 01:15 PM   #5
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Old 10-19-2009, 07:24 PM   #8
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Well to top it off, I've had a hell of a time with the doctors and nurse's that have been caring for me.

Both of my hands are now bruised severely from IV's and blood draws.

The nurse who gave me morphine for the pain at the hospital decided it was best to just shove it in, and run. Because apparently another patient was much more important at the time than me. Ya, just leave a person who was just injected with a high does of morphine all by herself. No call button, no way to tell anyone accept scream if I was having a problem. Scaring me half to death because my heart rate went up and my entire body felt like pin's and needles. And my brain felt like I was on fire. All I could do was cry till it was over.

Then when she took out the IV she was pressing so hard, I thought she'd break my hand. She threw on a peice of tape and ran. I was bleeding all over the place. Blood was splurting out of my hand. I had to run out of the room to the nurses station for a different nurse to come properly wrap it. While I was holding my blanket over it to keep pressure on it. WTH! Now it's so bruised that vein will be useless for at least a week, if not longer.

Not to mention they could have absolutely cleared up the entire thing had they just given me a pelvic at the peak of my pain, to see if I was diolated. But NOooOOo! That would be too damn simple. Instead lets test you for weeks on end your HCG and drag your pain out!

Then at the regular doctors visit, he refused to deal with any of the problems that I had listed for him on a peice of paper.

I asked to get a refill for my prozac also... And he told me that he couldn't help me. Saying that "I don't give anti-depressants to women who are pregnant. Haven't you been watching TV? They've been reporting that anti-depressants are causing problems in pregnancy's." WHAT ever. I was on 20 mg of prozac my entire pregnancy and my daughter came out just fine. Just because the TV media comes out with some shotty study that suggests maybe 1 in a million pregnancy's have complications doesn't mean jack to me! NOT TO MENTION HE ALREADY TOLD ME THE PREGNANCY IS DOOMED ANYWAY! Let's just forget that fact, doctor idiot!

I don't know but hasn't this doctor ever heard the saying, "Don't believe everything you see or hear on tv." ???? Show me the facts. Don't rely your medical opinions based on media. And certainly don't use your crappy unknowing ass tactics on ME! Sure it's not an exact science. But, rely on facts, not theory!!!!

Then he says, "Well go to the hospital if you have any further issues." Ok so calling you isn't a damn option I guess, you jerk! Sure like, were made of money... Ya ER visit so totally not high on my list atm.

Tomorrow I am calling another doctor. I've had it. Just simply had it.

Then the family knows I am trying to sleep tonight but instead they call me to tell me some meaningless story and now I am awake again. Not able to sleep. Just effin kill me....



I'm in hell.

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Old 10-20-2009, 07:58 AM   #9
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Kisha (((hugs)))

as you are pregnant don't you qualify for medicare? I thought that pregnant women did? Have you checked into it?

Honey, take care of yourself.... turn off the phone... make your family #1. You know your family isn't going to help so just structure your life around what makes it easiest for you.
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Old 10-20-2009, 10:31 AM   #10
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No I simply do not qualify for medicaid. Especially since we make just a fraction above what would qualify us for medicaid, we are not eligible at this time.

However, this morning... I called the the hospital and got a referral to an OBGYN who is female and works under the hospitals billing system. They work out billing separately and do not deny anyone for inability to pay. Although we can pay but currently we need flexible terms and they do offer that. Thankfully. I'm currently waiting for a call back. As they needed to pull my ER records before scheduling me in.

So YAY that's good news. No more Mr. TV doctor... lol

I'm feeling a bit better today. I was super upset yesterday, obviously.

Thanks for letting me vent here. Sometimes I just need to poor it all out and I feel better, after I've come to terms with the mis-fortune! Maybe this is setting me up for some good Karma. And something good will happen of it in the end. I can hope at least!

PS. My parents had my daughter over at their house so I couldnt just leave the ringer off. In case of an emergency.
PPS. HcG is now down to 40. So this is a good sign that my pain is almost over. Assuming they won't want to do a DnC. Gah!

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Old 10-20-2009, 03:20 PM   #11
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That sucks Kisha... I'm actually really surprised that a pregnant woman wouldn't qualify for medicare (or is is medicaid).... I always thought they would give the baby medical care regardless of income.

Another thing you might look into is care with a midwife. It might be less if you are paying out of pocket for care...
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Kisha, sending tons of hugs your way. I've miscarried before and then subsequently had trouble with my son's pg too. If you need more hugs & support or to vent, let me know.
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Old 10-21-2009, 06:19 AM   #13
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I'm so so sorry. Miscarriage is never easy.
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Old 10-21-2009, 08:13 AM   #14
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Well, what I have done (and found out) is that I can be seen (by recommendation of the hospital) to hospital doctors offices. The billing portion is handled by the hospital and not by the individual doctors.

Since they are funded through the hospital, they cannot deny patient treatment, for any reason. Even the inability to pay. So I called the referral line and got a number to a female OBGYN. I'm actually excited because I get to meet with a doctor who isn't 1 hr away. And possibly will treat me much better than the crap clinic I was going too.

I can tell that the HcG levels are reducing. My breast tenderness is minimal now. Along with the pain is decreasing dramatically.

It's not easy knowing that I lost this one. You never think these things will happen to you. Then BAMM, life hits you on the head and says, "Oh yes it can!"

Had I been single, or without a husband with a decent job, I'd certainly qualify for Medicaid. Of course those people who don't pay tax's or pay a very mere small portion of tax's get all the breaks. Those who are working hard, and are contributing get shoved down! They look at me (a slightly middle class income bracket) and think it's okay to just rob a person of all their financial means to obtain health care. What a damn racket! And we only make 40k a year for a family of three. We don't use credit cards or anything like that, so our debt is minimal. Just normal stuff like mortgage, car payment, insurance, tax's, etc... And we barely make it! Each month we bicker because we can't afford to buy even a few simple luxury's. It angers me so much.

I don't agree with the health care system they are trying to build now in the government either. They'd solve a lot of problems for people if they'd open health insurance from a state restriction level to an open national level. Bringing in competitive pricing. So in Idaho, there is only 2 major state licensed company's to choose from... These company's have the market cornered here which makes them my only option for private insurance. The cost? $500-$1000 a month just for the premiums. And there is a $5,000 deductible! So our government thinks that instead of removing restrictive laws like that, they just want to make more laws and complicate it even more!

If they'd drop the law restrictions, I could get insurance from anywhere in the country and not just in Idaho. The price's would drop due to competition. Capitalism is being widdled away in this country, bit by bit. Soon, our government will have their greedy paws on all of it and I'll still have nothing!!! And possibly even less!!!

We had to "save" to get health insurance which doesn't take effect till next month.

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I'm soo sorry this is happening with you... I agree with everything you said 100%....

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My HcG is down to 19.
OB confirmed miscarriage has passed (ive had visual proof)
And, I am currently just waiting for my HcG level to drop to zero. New blood testing next week.
The pain and bleeding is still present. I'd imagine now, Im shedding anything remaining.

I cannot believe it still. I think the shock will last awhile.

It's okay. Thanks for all the supportive voices out there. It really does help.

I've been hugging my daughter alot. She is enjoying it too! Till she wants to play that is! LOL
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Old 10-23-2009, 07:47 AM   #18
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