*Getting Healthy for Baby* May

[amlundie]

Hi girls,

just a quick drive by

Belle- hope things go well today

menu
B; scrambled wggs w/ onions ( is that better nik? )
L; pork ribs and broccoli
S; probably a chicken thigh
D; pork ribs and peas

hugs girls, gotta go!

[ArmyWife88]

Originally Posted by LuckyKitty

Christina - Congrats on the move! I know how hard it is to eat well in the midst of that chaos, but keep trying I can't believe you just neglected to mention the whole over-due AF thing sending you BFP vibes!

Well I've been very stressed so I kinda just linked the late AF to that.

[LuckyKitty]

Originally Posted by ArmyWife88

Well I've been very stressed so I kinda just linked the late AF to that.

of course it's ok. I was just teasin ya you don't have to tell us nuthin

[Stinkerbelle]

My head is going to explode. We chatted..he told me there was nothing with the woman in question and explained certain things. When he was here I felt good about the conversation but now I just dont know. I told him we should try to move forward more positively and certain things needed to change. We will need to talk again though on exactly what needs to change and if he is willing to do so.

I just pray I am not holding out hope and being a fool. I wanted to believe there was someone else becuz it made everything made sense. I am going to go smash my head up against a wall.

[amm]

You girls who are waiting to test have some major patience! I wish I had it! I bought a bunch of tests from the Dollar General and I've tested twice and I'm only about 11 dpo! I tested yesterday and the day before. I know that the chances of it showing up right now are very low... but I'm crazy about testing!

So, like I said, I'm 11dpo... I've had tender/sore breasts for about 3-4 days now. I've also been feeling some mild cramping on and off since yesterday... feels like AF cramps but not nearly as bad. Then, yesterday while I was shopping at Target, I felt a sudden wave of nausea come over me and I had no idea why... I felt nauseated for maybe 20 minutes or so, then it was gone. And last night I felt really gassy... like gas bubbles and pressure in my stomach. I know that all of these symptoms could be caused by something else... but I am wanting this so badly that I think my mind is trying to attribute everything to a possible pregnancy.

AF is due on Monday... I am going to wait it out and not use any more tests... I hope.

[obraxton]

Originally Posted by Stinkerbelle

My head is going to explode. We chatted..he told me there was nothing with the woman in question and explained certain things. When he was here I felt good about the conversation but now I just dont know. I told him we should try to move forward more positively and certain things needed to change. We will need to talk again though on exactly what needs to change and if he is willing to do so.

Be careful, Belle, about telling him what needs to be changed. At this point, it may only make matters worse. Telling him what he needs to do you may risk him being resentful and even more resistant. When I was in this situation, I made the mistake of coming out of a good conversation with the boldness of telling him what he needs to do. He probably already knows what he's doing wrong, but stubborness is causing him to not see clearly now....try to take it easy, and take the next few days for him to think about you.

How's everything going elsewhere ladies! I see that some are in the middle or end of the 2ww. Hang in there and try to stay cool and calm. Some of the symptoms I'm ready were the exact ones I had after conception, so God (and possibly baby) only knows right now. It'll all reveal in time!

Well, I'm 30 weeks today. About 10 more to go. Wow, I really can't believe this is happening for me, I truly thank God for everything. I'm starting to get very uncomfortable and wobbly, but I don't complain, but it's not the best thing about being pg. DH has a son already, but this is his first full "pregnancy" experience, so he just stares rubs the belly all night. It's funny b/c anyone can touch my belly, even me, with no reaction, but the minute DH puts his mouth to my belly and calls out Elijah's name, the baby starts moving a lot and starts kicking at his daddy's hand. That's really nice to see.

[AsmallerME]

Hey ladies. I think I'm in the 2ww as well. Although I guess there isn't really a wait since we didn't even give it a shot this month! But I'm in the wait to get to AF so I can start TTC again. Waiting 2 cycles has sure seemed to take forever. I truely hope that each of you gets your BFP this month but, if you don't, at least we'll all get to try again together next month.....right??

Dessa - it's so great to see you! Wow, 30 weeks already!?! That's so fantastic. You were worried about preterm labor not too long ago and here you are already at week 30. Not too much longer now. And I think it's beyond sweet that he kicks for his daddy. How precious!!

Amm - the symptoms sound good. I hope this is it for you!! I can't wait for this weekend for you to test again. Or do you think you'll just wait to see if AF is late now?

Belle - try to calm down and think rationally. You said you thought the convo went well so that's good. Try not to over analyze now. Did you ask him if he wanted a divorce still? If he wants to try? Those are 2 really important things, especially since it sounds like you're willing to work things out if possible. Can you two go on a date this week and get in a good long conversation? It sounds like all of your conversations have been extremely rushed which must be frustrating.

Kat - ooo, good eye w/ the Christina BFP watch! I didn't even notice that part.

Christina - sorry that you've been stressed. I can't imagine moving with a child. You're doing great so just stick to plan the best you can.

Today's menu:
B: muffin
L: fetticcine
D: turkey burger
S: chocolate cake

Not much else new with me. My stomach has been slightly upset today for some reason. I think I just know the weekend is coming and I'm ready for some R&R!

I'll BBL!

[amm]

Amber... I think at this point I should probably wait and see if AF shows up at the beginning of next week. I caved and tested again this afternoon and seeing another negative is kind of bringing me down. I know that I'm only 11dpo... but I feel like if I truly was pregnant it would show up by now... but then I read things online about women who get negatives until a few days after AF is due and suddenly they get a positive. So, I know it's early... but it's just hard for me to think positively at this point.

I am going to a friend's baby shower this weekend... and while I'm really happy for her... I know that being there is going to tug at me a little. We went to college together... I've been married 7 years and she's been married 4. She has an 18 month old and now one that is due in July. It seems unfair to me that it's so easy for some people to get pregnant and so difficult for others.

[obraxton]

Amm, your feelings are understandable. My younger sister got married AND pregnant before I did and soon after my husband and I were going through some things, so I did feel left out. I never thought that I would be 32 before I had my first child, I thought I would be on my last, actually! But, it will happen in its time. You're having regular cycles which is very very very good. Stay encouraged, and take your vitamins, I think that helped me a lot, especially being overweight. However, your signs sound good. Please stop taking the tests, if you possibly can. My first test came back negative so I figured the test was accurate, it was probably about the same time as you tested today. I tested again when I was about 3 days late b/c that was very odd for me, then it was bfp. When I had my first ultrasound it seems that the baby was conceived a day later than my ovulation date, even though I hadn't bd the 2 days prior to O. Therefore, I wasn't the 12DPO i thought, but 11. I know it's very frustrating not to think about it, especially during the 2ww, and things going on in other people's lives, but we here have all been or are going through it, so vent here anytime!~

[amm]

Thanks, Dessa... it does help to vent.

I think the fact that I turn 30 in July and still don't have any children is really getting to me. My younger sister is 26 and she has 3 children. I just want to be a mom.

[Potaty]

Originally Posted by amm

It seems unfair to me that it's so easy for some people to get pregnant and so difficult for others.

I got to the point of feeling that way too. I especially hated it when people would say things like, "I'm a fertile myrtle," or "he just has to look at me and I get pregnant." I know that nobody means to be hurtful when saying those things, but man can that sting!

Originally Posted by amm

I just want to be a mom.

I'm praying it happens for you (and all you girls)!

[Nik]

We all have these thoughts of resentment. Thanks for admitting it, Amm. It's very difficult to look at a blessing such as a child and feel a tug at your soul. I wrote a poem about this very issue.

Not My Baby
Big, bold belly wrapped tightly in technicolor
precedes braces, pimples, ponytail
bopping down the hallway past bright red lockers to the class where
Another child screams with delight, "I felt the baby kick!"

While miles away a different ponytail streams
behind the streaking toddler as she screams into the road
And tires squeal and Mother yells at driver,
But the baby has no hand to hold.

Not my hand, which trembles, pulling tight a rubberband
around my ponytail. I sit and stare at the tile, and
Streaks of red, tear-moistened fingers, a single line.
And wonder, when will it be my time?

[ArmyWife88]

well AF showed up this morning so we're moving on to another month. i was very happy for the three lbs i lost though

[amlundie]

morning girls!

Congrats on the loss Christina!

Happy FRIDAY! It's the last day of school!

menu
B: Bacon, eggs scrambled w/onions
L: Chciken thigh and peas
D: pork ribs and broccoli or peas

Have a great day and a wonderful weekend ladies!

[LuckyKitty]

Amm- what Dessa said is true, we all know what you're going through. I'm in a similar boat as you, knocking on 30 and never in a million years would've thought I'd still be childless. We understand your pain and this is a safe place to vent it Do try to stay positive, cause it's not over till the witch shows her face

Dessa - and thanks for always giving us support and encouragement

Amber - hope you guys are getting in a lot of "practice" so you know what you're doing next month

Christina - sorry about AF but WTG on those 3 lbs!! KUTGW!

Belle - Hon. I wish I could make it all better for you

Nik - what a beautiful (and heartwrenching) poem. Thanks for sharing

Mel - last day of school! I'm pumped about the weekend, too! Hope you have a good one!

to all my girls. Hope you all have a great day!

[Potaty]

Nik~LOVE your poem, it made me

[amm]

Nik, thanks for sharing your poem with us. It's really good.

Kat... I'm trying to stay positive... I know that until AF shows, there's a chance that I'm pregnant. And I keep telling myself that if I am pregnant and don't know it yet, a negative mindset isn't good for the baby.

[obraxton]

It'll be ok, Amm...try to have a great weekend. When you get your baby, you'll see that the timing couldn't be more perfect. Our desire can be so great that it feels like it won't happen when it doesn't at the time we want it to, but not so. Most of us here aren't like other women, who'll say, "time for baby" and the next month they're pregnant. But that doesn't mean we're never going to be mommies. Just listen to your body, find a calming place. Enjoy your friend's shower. The very day I realized I might be pregnant I was actually in SC throwing a shower for one of my best friends, who was having her 3rd daughter. I was actively trying when she told me she was pg, it was an "oops" for her, and I had a moment of self-pity, but then I realized her little one was a blessing just like mine would be, and that made the planning fun, and a lot easier on me.

[amm]

Thanks, Dessa... what you say makes a lot of sense. I just sometimes feel like I obsess about having a baby... like picking out the kind of crib I want and what the nursery will look like for a girl or a boy. My husband says that I shouldn't plan things out like that until I'm pregnant... but I think that sometimes it helps me to think about these things. It makes me feel like I'm making plans for the baby that will come along.

[AsmallerME]

Amm - I so understand your frustration. I'm surrounded by women who get pregnant by just thinking about getting pregnant. Women who have more children then they probably want. Etc. Etc. I'm here ready in every way and willing and being forced to wait. I know it will be all of our times eventually. Stay strong and keep positive.

Nik - that's such a wonderful poem.

Mel - yeah for the last day! Guess that means you'll get to post more soon, huh??!! When do you plan to weigh next? I'm excited to see what happens...

Christina - sorry sweetie! But good job on the WL!!

Hi Kat, Katy, Dessa, and everyone else!

I'll BBL to post more.

[AsmallerME]

Morning girls. I'm going to see Sex and the City today so I'm really excited. Plus I'm down another pound. Just 1.1 away from being out of the dreaded 260s.... I'm trying to catch all of you!

Yesterday's menu:
B: banana nut cereal
L: meatball stuffed sandwich
D: bbq chicken pizza
S: brownie

Today's menu:
B: egg mcmuffin thing
L: turkey burger
D: mesquite chicken
S: lemon cake

I'll BBL to post more. I hope you're all having a great Saturday!

[Nik]

We're almost shocked. We've waited so long... Seriously, folks. This began WAAAAAAY back in 2003. There have been a lot of BFN's since then. I didn't know what to say when I saw that first line pop up, nice and bright!

[amm]

Nik! That's awesome! Congratulations to you! Do you know what you might have done differently this cycle?

[Potaty]

OMG NIK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am sooooo happy and excited for you!!! Sending you sticky dust! I bet you and dh are totally over the moon!!!!!!! Yay, yay, yay!!!!!