*Getting Healthy for Baby* May

[shanidy]

Kat-I'm all in...how much do you think gas from Texas is? $1,000,000,000? Maybe I will just hang out in spirit

Belle-I hope that everything goes the way that you hope it will. I'm praying for strength and a calm head for you. The way I feel is this...whatever is between you is between you. He needs to act normal with the children!

Amber-better you than me! Congrats on the progress. I bet your house feels nicer without all of the clutter!

Nik-The dress sounds lovely. Definitely get a picture to share!

I have added 3 hours of exercise...so a total of 7.5 now? I haven't done much this weekend. DH was home for two full days! and we all just hung out. DD is just not getting very far on this potty training thing. So frustrating! She says "potty" and 2 seconds later she is going on the floor! 2 seconds isn't much of a warning...


to anyone I missed tonight!

[Nik]

Shanidy:
Potty training is hard work, kid. Keep it up! I have been watching "Jon and Kate Plus 8" on TLC. Can you imagine training SIX kids? WOW!

Like I said, I'll think of an excuse to wear my dress again and I'll be sure to get a pic this time.

I'm thinking of testing on Saturday if AF doesn't show up before then.

I'm lonely. DH and I spent the entire day on the couch. DS is with the in-laws, and I'm pretty bored. Remember that friend I told you about who never called me after her son was born? (Best friend since 1993?) I'm initiating the process of breaking it off completely with her. It sucks, and it makes me sad and lonely.

[Potaty]

Belle~Many hugs to you, I really hope tomorrow gives you some answers you need and deserve! And I think it's total crap he is blaming all of this on you.

Nik~I had to break off a 15+ year friendship about 7 years ago. Best thing I ever did. I reached a boiling point and it was over, even though she groveled for my attention for a few years. Hugs for you too.

Shanidy~Great job on the exercise!

Kat~How was time with the little girl?

Amber~I'm excited for your weigh in!

amm~Good luck! Praying for a BFP for you! We need a BFP in this group!

Mel~How was your weekend?

Me: Today I turned 30. And I have to say, it was not a good day. I have been so down in the dumps lately. I feel fat (even though I weigh less, things have moved and shifted) and unattractive. I made the mistake of telling dh I just wanted him to take me clothes shopping today. I wanted to cry. I was looking for some linen dress pants and the 16s at Target were snug. I did find a dress at Kohl's but the pattern I loved had a hole in it (they only had one XL) so I just grabbed another pattern, same dress. I tried it on for my mom and the pattern was totally unflattering so I have to take it back.

After I had Tucker and got down below 200, I felt so good about myself. My tummy felt flatter than it had in a long time and now I look about 4 months pregnant. I weighed 204 this morning so I have gained 8 pounds from my post-pregnancy low. I have extensively researched breastfeeding in ketosis and have determined via a transcript from Atkins himself that it is safe. He warns that loss will be slow as the hormones affect the loss rate, but I think it is the direction I need to go. I decided to start June 1st, next Sunday. That will give me plenty of time to plan and do my shopping (plus, I have one more bday lunch on Friday with friends).

I am trying to switch from being depressed over all of this to being excited. I am looking forward to the 4th of July because I'm sure I will notice a difference for that holiday. Sorry to be such a downer, but dh doesn't understand and I didn't want to share my feelings with my family. I just keep flashing back to 10 years ago when I met dh and I was 130 lbs.

[Stinkerbelle]

to you Po and Nik...I will BBL to post more..

Ladies, please pray for me and give me the stregnth to confront this situation. I am sooo nervous. I pray he shows up...

BBL....

[LuckyKitty]

<--- this is me w/ DH right now

Apparently several of us are starting out the week pretty rough. I vote we all go back to bed and just start the week tomorrow. Who's in?

Shan - <passes Shan a martini, too> Maybe I'll just come there? Away seems like a good place to be right now Great job on the exercise! I bet your reflexes are getting pretty peaked with DD's "warning" time Hang in there, sounds like you've got a good start on it all with her, the rest will come

Nik - I'm sorry, hon. I know it's hard to be going through that. I've got a friend who is completely self-destructing right now and we've had no choice but to break it off. When you're feeling lonely, count your blessings and know that this , too, will pass (my Grandma's favorite saying , God rest her soul ) KUP on AF

Katy - and Sorry it didn't turn out to be a good day for you. You've got a lot to process and deal with right now, so try not to be too hard on yourself. You've done really well and it sounds like you've got a good plan to redirect your bod the way you want it to go. Remember that your health is the most important thing, cause that cutie pie depends on you for everything. Try to love yourself like the love you see in his eyes when he looks up at you!

Belle - loads of and headed your way. KUP


My day with BabyGirl yesterday was absolutely perfect! she's usually pretty shy, but she warmed up really fast and before we knew it, she was running at us and "tackling" us and laughing. She's just so beautiful, and I love getting to see her I'm a little grumpy with DH this morning cause he's just not getting it when it comes to my ED issues and it frustrates me. He's in school to be a professional counselor, but he seems to have blinders when it comes to himself and apparently me about this issue. It's really hard to not fall back into the bad ED thought process (control), but I know that's not what I want, so I'm going to go journal about it, take a few deep cleansing breaths and just dive into my work. Have I told you ladies how much I love you, lately?

Have a good day, ladies!

[Stinkerbelle]

Well, no surprise...he doesnt think he is coming. He is tired and irritable and annoyed- he doesnt feel like getting interogated. He said he was on his way to deal with some Army issues for the weekend. Whatever..he said he would let me know when he is done. I am not going to see him. He wasn't at his mothers last night either. Unbelievable. I am waiting to hear back from a lawyer. I need someone with milittary experience because of his pension and I am going to ream his a** to the wall if he is in fact having this affair.

Anyhoo- Kat- I am in total agreement about climbing back into bed. I am thinking I might stay there for a week or so.. I am sorry DH isnt being more understanding. Try to focus those control issues on your current way of eating. Control that you are eating healthy and being strong. Baby steps..no giant leaps (unless it is with a martini glass with me by your side!)

Nik- I am sorry about your friend..sometimes we need to realize we cant control how people act and sometimes we need to do what is right to take care of ourselves. If this person is not being the friend she used to be and is causing you grief, you should probably end it. She is not helping you in your life... I am AF stays away! We could use some positive vibes around here!

Po- Happy Birthday sweetie! You have been doing great. I think you have a good plan and we will be here for you. When I started back on induction, I weighed 205. Now that I am hitting the 180's I feel great. I am the perfect example that you can do this. You have been there when I slipped up and needed a pick me up and we will be here for you. So let's do this Girl!!

Shan- potty training is fun, isnt it? How old is DD? My DD was just over 3 when she finally starting using the potty (of course we bribed her with Disney World!) haha Good job with the exercise!

Dessa- how are you feelin hon?
Mel- we miss you!

Amber- good luck with the weigh in Cant wait to hear!

amm- AF stays away!

Okay Ladies- I am going to go drown myself in laundry...BBL

[amlundie]

Belle, Kat, Nik

Everyone HIYA! hope this week is good for you guys!

My memorial day was good, went to a company picnic for hubby's work. Then had prayer service. We have church tonight.

Menu today
B: eggs and bacon fresh berries
L: left over fajitas
D: chicken thigh and broccoli
S: probably veggies and maybe some shrimp

Have a great day and a great week girls! I only have 4 more days of work till summer break !!

[Stinkerbelle]

Oh Mel...so nice to "see" your positive self back here! woohoo on summer break!

[Stinkerbelle]

So, on Saturday I went over to talk with DH mother. When I was there, I went down stairs(where DH is supposed to sleep) to get some emails I gave DH that I wanted back. Emails from when he was deployed and us telling each other how much we loved each other, etc. I printed them for him hoping he would remember what we once had. Anyhoo, his mother innocently enough mention to BIL that I was there. Apparently BIL called DH to tell him. DH is freaking out about respect and he hopes I found what I was looking for etc..this is all thru texting today- about how mad he is blah blah blah. I could feel my stregnth wilting away and I started the I am sorry's. I am trying to get him to meet up with me tonight. But I feel like I have fallen back into my old ways that I am being crazy..that he is not cheating on me- I am just nuts. The evidence I have is not concrete and can be talked out of- like everything else in the past. Does he really have that bad of luck?

Ohh..I am sorry for the vent. It feels good to just get it out here...I need your strength.

[Stinkerbelle]

Hi...my name is Lisa..aka Stinker...Belle....I am ready for the men in white jackets to come pick me up!!!!!!

Not sure when I will see DH- I will say that he seems very nervous. He told me whenever we meet if I start interogating him, he is going to leave. I said I was way beyond that. Direct simple questions...

Good Lordie (to quote my grammie)- could I get a break here? I have to work tomorrow so not sure when we will chat... Isnt life grand???

My menu :
B- little pc of spinach quiche
S- coffee w/cream
L- 2 slices of turkey meat rolled up with cream cheese
S- coffee w/cream
D- 1 sausage cooked in crock pot with sauerkraut Yup- I feel bloated.

I know my eating has been crazy and quite honestly, I am forcing myself to eat. AF should be arriving this coming weekend. Unless I O'd late then it will be the following weekend. This is my first cycle in two years that I hope I am not preggo

[Potaty]

Belle~By the way he was acting it sounds like he has something to hide. Be strong, and remember that even if he isn't cheating, he still isn't being a husband to you or a father to your children. Let us know how it goes with him and we are always here for you!

[AsmallerME]

Belle - be strong girlie! You have no reason to be upset with yourself or think you're acting crazy. If he isn't open with you and freaks out that you went through his stuff then he probably has something to hide. If he doesn't participate in your children's lives then he isn't being a good father. If he doesn't share a home with your or isn't working towards sharing a home with you, then he isn't being a good husband. I could go on forever. You have nothing to hide. You did nothing wrong. You deserve more. Please keep us updated about your conversation and about what the attorney tells you. Even if he says he wants to stay with you and work things out, you need to demand certain things that he needs to be willing to do. Otherwise you're just spinning your wheels and will get back to this same spot.

Kat - I'm sorry that your husband isn't being supportive today. I hope you were able to journal through your emotions and avoid going down the wrong path. It seems that sometimes our spouses give us too much tough love or not enough support b/c they take for granted that we need that shoulder to cry on from time to time. You know?

Katy - Happy Birthday!!! Sorry that you felt down on your birthday. But use this as motivation to get back into shape before your next one. And when you feel down about your belly, look at your gorgeous son. I'm sure he was worth every stretch mark and every jiggle. Plus I think you look amazing in all your pictures you've shared so far. Get back on LC and you'll be back into a comfy weight in no time!

Shan - oh, potty training can't be fun. Just think though, this is probably good exercise having to jump up every few hours and running through the house to the bathroom to find the potty. Good job on the other exercise too. You're doing so well! And yes, my house does look nicer w/o the clutter. But I miss my stuff. It really wasn't too bad, just too much stuff for a small house I guess.

Nik - hey girlie!! I love seeing your smiling face in your avitar. I'm really sorry about your friend. I've had a few like that in my life and it's really tough to get over. I tried keeping some in my life b/c I didn't want to end it but I still went through the same mourning process b/c the person isn't the same as I remembered and as they were. Just lean on your hubby and you'll ge through. I'll keep praying for a BFP for you!

So for my weighin.....drum roll please.......I lost 7.6 pounds!!!!! I'm beyond excited. My goal is to be down 2.4 next week so that I can be down 10 pounds in 2 weeks. That would be fantastic! Plus all the JC food is really good. Well all but a few.

DH is being cranky so I'm off for the night. Something is definitely in the air. See you all tomorrow.

[Nik]

Belle: We're here for you, girl. Hang in there! Thanks for doing such a good job keeping us updated.

Amber: HOLY COW! On your big loss. Congratulations!

Katy: Happy birthday, girl. I feel for you! I am right there with you. I mean RIGHT THERE. We weigh about the same, and i'm having the same problems with body image. Let's stick together, girl. We can do this, even if it's hard.

Kat: The cobbler's child has no shoes, eh? We believe you. WE UNDERSTAND!!! (But we're not trained.)

Thanks to everyone for the encouragement about the friend situation. It feels so bad, but I know it's something I need to do. The straw that broke the camel's back is that I realized I'm setting a bad example for my son. I can't teach him to stand up for himself and demand respect from his peers if I'm unwilling to do the same. God bless the kid; teaching me again.

[Potaty]

Originally Posted by AsmallerME

I lost 7.6 pounds!!!!! .

WOOT! GREAT JOB!!!!!!

[Potaty]

Originally Posted by Nik

Let's stick together, girl. We can do this, even if it's hard..

Thanks, it really helps to come here and get support. My sister and hubby are both going to do it with me too which will make it sooooo much easier. I feel bad for my sis. She was never overweight until she got married (5 years ago). She's a couple inches shorter than me and weighs more. We took hideous before pics of each other today, haha. I am re-reading the book more for motivation than information. I know how to do it, I lost 50 lbs. for my wedding 5 years ago so I just need to take that off.

[Stinkerbelle]

Went to DH's work to talk to him (he gets out at 11:00pm) and he would not talk to me. I didnt even see him- he just left me sitting in the parking lot...looks like I need to call the lawyer again, huh? God- he is so angry....

[Potaty]

Belle~Yeah, as much as it hurts, I think you need a lawyer. He seems to have completely checked out of the relationship. Since he is refusing counseling or even talking about things, nevermind accepting any responsibility, I think you know what needs to be done. I'm so sad for you but you can't stay married just hoping he'll change when he put forth zero effort to make that happen. You deserve better and so do your kids. I'm sorry, sweetie.

[Stinkerbelle]

Thanks Po...

I am so shocked and his behavior is so bizarre. We had a texting argument and he was just saying things that did not make sense. I feel like crap- I need to eat but just cant get anything down. I guess the good thing about pending divorce is the weight I am losing as a result.

It is going to be a long work day...unfortunately, I deliver home cooked meals and it is just me and my radio all day long..bad for someone who does not want to think...

[amlundie]

hey there girls!

Belle- my opinion to follow....... I think ( by the way he is behaving right now ) he does not desserve your time and attention. I know with my hubby it took me to STOP chasing him before he realised what he was about to throw away. Right now I suggest you STOP trying to get him to listen to you. Try to focus on yourself, make yourself feel better, go out get your nails done, hang out with friends or take the kids out, do ANYTHING to keep yourself busy and not calling or texting him. If he's gonna change and recommit to you he has to realise what he's lost, but that won't happen till he loses you. Right now he is in control of the situation, and he shouldn't be! You are the one who didn't do anything wrong, you should be in control! And IF he changes he needs to meet YOUR expectations! You have nothing to apologize for, he should be apologizing to yuo!...... hope that wasn't too harsh...... and trust me I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH! I chased him and tried to reason with him and he kept on running and acting like a crazy man, but God couldn't deal with him until I stopped trying to fix the situation MYSELF and I let go and let God handle it.... He did a much better job than I did! The bible says the battle is not mine but God's and to let Him fight it for me, that is the only way our marriage was repaired!

Everyone- Hiya!!! Hope you all have a blessed day!

Amber- WTG!!!!!

Katy- Happy birthday ( I think I forgot to say that before)

Menu
B- hotdog no time to cook
L- Chicken thigh and broccoli
D- Going shopping
S- probably peanut butter

I think I'm gonna weigh in next wed for the first wed of the month..... I may start going back to weekly weigh in... we'll see

[obraxton]

[quote=amlundie;10372863]hey there girls!

Belle- my opinion to follow....... I think ( by the way he is behaving right now ) he does not desserve your time and attention. I know with my hubby it took me to STOP chasing him before he realised what he was about to throw away. Right now I suggest you STOP trying to get him to listen to you. Try to focus on yourself, make yourself feel better, go out get your nails done, hang out with friends or take the kids out, do ANYTHING to keep yourself busy and not calling or texting him. If he's gonna change and recommit to you he has to realise what he's lost, but that won't happen till he loses you. Right now he is in control of the situation, and he shouldn't be! You are the one who didn't do anything wrong, you should be in control! And IF he changes he needs to meet YOUR expectations! You have nothing to apologize for, he should be apologizing to yuo!...... hope that wasn't too harsh...... and trust me I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH! I chased him and tried to reason with him and he kept on running and acting like a crazy man, but God couldn't deal with him until I stopped trying to fix the situation MYSELF and I let go and let God handle it.... He did a much better job than I did! The bible says the battle is not mine but God's and to let Him fight it for me, that is the only way our marriage was repaired!


I AGREE WITH MEL, 100% THE EXACT SAME THING I WENT THROUGH....It took a lot of determination on my part to continue living, that doesn't mean going gusto for a divorce, I don't think that should be a decision based on how you're feeling (I know some may not agree), believe me I was almost there. My best friend's husbands went to Iraq and they're dealing with a lot of issues also. We don't know how much such sights could have wrecked his mind. But I will say, and agree with Mel, that there is nothing too hard for the Lord! This is coming from experience and proof of giving Him a try, there's not a self help book or professional counselor that did for me what truth faith in God's Word did, and I was the most skeptical, unbelieving, and "rational" person.....I'm not trying to push my beliefs on you or anyone here, I am only testifying to what happened for me. I have a great marriage and a beautiful baby on the way, and it wasn't b/c I looked for help anywhere else. You'll do what you think is best for you, and it stinks that he's like this, he's shut a door pretty hard on you, but you have to let him be the one to open it back up. The weather's warm, so there's a lot that you can do with your kids and by yourself. Enjoy it as much as you possibly can, and you'll see that the days will be much easier to go through.

[Stinkerbelle]

You girls are my life savers right now! Things are a total mess. I was in a texting frenzy and called him a couple times. Of course he never answers his phone so I left messages. I got an email from him this morning saying if he calmed down he would be over in the morning. WTH??!! But then I got another asking to to stop texting so much becuz it is costing him a fortune and he would see me in the morning. He seemed better than the earlier email so maybe he is getting a grip.

I am scared to death to confront him on the other woman...scared that he wants her instead of me...scared that maybe I am wrong...scared that he wont try for our marriage anymore. I was praying that maybe he got in too deep with the other relationship and thought he couldnt get out of it. figured I would never forgive him anyhow..I dunno. That all sounds stupid. I never thought I would be that forgiving wife and I am not sure I can be. He has done so much damage.

Ladies - I am so sorry for taking over this thread with my problems. please know I appreciate your advice so much.

I think i have a problem...I cant eat anything...this morning I had an atkins bar broken up with a bt of cream (eaten like cereal)- I ate most of it but I havent eaten since. I feel sick all the time... I can drink my iced coffee though...??? AF is due Monday (well, unless I O'd late then it will be next weekend) so maybe that has something to do with it...

Mel- cant wait to hear about your weigh in!!!

take care ladies.... i you all!!

[LuckyKitty]

Belle - I have to second all the great advice that everyone has given you, and especially the part about stepping away from him and letting him come to realize what he is jeopardizing. If that's the way he thinks he wants things, act as though he's got it. Live your own life for yourself and your kids. Best case scenario he realizes what a tool he's being and HE apologizes and makes it up to you, worst case scenario it is over and you have at least made yourself a priority and have already started the healing process. On the eating front, it sounds like anxiety is affecting your mental state and thereby your eating. I'm not usually a big pill pusher, but situations like these are what those anxiolitic(sp?) meds are made for. Not to sound like a broken records, but I hope counseling (for you, regardless of what he does) is still on the table. The sooner the better if your appetite and mind are being affected, you've gotta stay healthy and strong for your kiddos

Amber - WTG on your way in!! You are kickin booty, girl!

Nik, Katy, Dessa, Mel, Shan, and anyone I've missed and

Thanks for all of your support for my little melt down yesterday. It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood today and by golly it's gonna stay that way!