Tubals and lack of desire

jdprecious · 02-27-2008, 08:45 PM

Since having my last child, who is now a year old, I have absolutely zero desire for "lovin". Some lack of desire was to be expected since I experienced it after the birth of my first daughter. However, it only lasted about 4-5 months. This is the longest I have ever gone consistently uninterested in sex. My mom seems to think it has something to do with having my tubes tied, she experienced the exact same thing after her tubal. She also said it ruined her marraige to my stepdad. They eventually slept in different rooms with scheduled sex visits, YUCK! I don't ever want that for Jeff and I. I know this is not uncommon but what do you do about it? I could care less and my honey is starting to get frustrated with me. I keep hoping that one morning I will wake up and my desire switch will be back in the on position.

Who's got advice, experiences, something, anything??? Lol.

Snuckles · 02-28-2008, 06:09 AM

I've had my tubes tied right after my 2nd child. I experience lack of desire as well but I'm blaming that on being a mother of 2 young children. My children are now 3 & 5, hubby and I are just getting back into the swing of things. I've found that experimenting and opening myself up to new adventures (so to speak) has helped spark interest.

jdprecious · 03-01-2008, 04:59 PM

I hope it comes back. I do miss it but apparently not enough. Haha.

GGWilson · 03-03-2008, 01:03 PM

I had a tubal done 4 years ago, to be honest, my sex drive increased knowing that it was highly unlikely I'd get pregnant again! I think it just differs for each person...mines always been high, the tubal just helped me enjoy it more often. Unfortunately waiting for you to just wake up one day and have it back is probably not the way to go. Have you tried looking into things that might spark your desire? Have you talked to your doctor about this? If you were interested before and have lost it, that sounds more like a depression type thing, which is associated with tubals. I'd talk to a profession and get an opinion! Good Luck!

mikkimouse · 03-03-2008, 03:23 PM

hey there, i had a tubal 11 1/2 years ago, and didnt want or need lovin, until just about 1 yr ago.....I think that having my tubes tied indured a massive amount of problems after the tuba. Lots of pain....horrible periods. OMG what i wouldent give for a hysterectomy. LOL good luck JD

jdprecious · 03-03-2008, 07:26 PM

I want a hysterectomy also. It makes no sense to have a period and go through all the pms'ing for the next twenty years when the parts don't work anymore anyways. I might look into it but I am a wimpy baby when it comes to surgery. I avoid it at all costs. My c sections were too traumatic. I am even rethinking my boob job and I have the money saved and everything. The pain and the recovery I just can't deal with. Ohhh the woes of womanhood!

WendyK1974 · 03-04-2008, 07:11 AM

I too chalk it up to having 2 small kids (I have two boys 6 and 2). I just get tired and I'd rather sleep or read to unwind. I hope it goes away! I had a tubal, but I really can't imagine what the connection would be.

jdprecious · 03-10-2008, 03:18 PM

Symptoms of Post Tubal Ligation Snydrome (PTLS)

Wow, found this today! Sure does explain alot! I def think I am having side effects of PTLS. Should have done my homework before I got cut, tied, and burnt.

Jennyl · 03-13-2008, 02:25 PM

I had the opposite experience with my tubal. Not having to worry about pregnancy was very liberating and I was much more relaxed. I experienced a huge lack of desire when my children were young though. There was just something about being a full time mother to two young children, mine were less than one year apart, that zapped all my desire. It was very difficult on my marriage.

02-27-2008, 08:45 PM	#1
jdprecious Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: jacksonville, fl Posts: 3,831 Gallery: jdprecious Stats: (220 preg high) 199 after baby/162 now/150 goal WOE: Moderate Low Carb Start Date: Over and over since Jan 2003	Tubals and lack of desire Since having my last child, who is now a year old, I have absolutely zero desire for "lovin". Some lack of desire was to be expected since I experienced it after the birth of my first daughter. However, it only lasted about 4-5 months. This is the longest I have ever gone consistently uninterested in sex. My mom seems to think it has something to do with having my tubes tied, she experienced the exact same thing after her tubal. She also said it ruined her marraige to my stepdad. They eventually slept in different rooms with scheduled sex visits, YUCK! I don't ever want that for Jeff and I. I know this is not uncommon but what do you do about it? I could care less and my honey is starting to get frustrated with me. I keep hoping that one morning I will wake up and my desire switch will be back in the on position. Who's got advice, experiences, something, anything??? Lol. __________________ Jessica www.myspace.com/JessicaMDay Proud mother of my beautiful 6 year old princess Jaelyn living with and fighting cystic fibrosis. A new princess is here!! Jamisyn was born on March 12, 2007 She is 1 YR OLD!!! Say No To Cloned and Genetically Modified Foods! www.organicconsumers.org

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02-28-2008, 06:09 AM	#2
Snuckles Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Michigan Posts: 122 Gallery: Snuckles Stats: 150/144.6/135 WOE: Sensible	I've had my tubes tied right after my 2nd child. I experience lack of desire as well but I'm blaming that on being a mother of 2 young children. My children are now 3 & 5, hubby and I are just getting back into the swing of things. I've found that experimenting and opening myself up to new adventures (so to speak) has helped spark interest.

03-01-2008, 04:59 PM	#3
jdprecious Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: jacksonville, fl Posts: 3,831 Gallery: jdprecious Stats: (220 preg high) 199 after baby/162 now/150 goal WOE: Moderate Low Carb Start Date: Over and over since Jan 2003	I hope it comes back. I do miss it but apparently not enough. Haha.

03-03-2008, 01:03 PM	#4
GGWilson Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Ohio Posts: 631 Gallery: GGWilson Stats: OMG/-42/WOW WOE: Stressfree Low Carb Start Date: 1/1/08	I had a tubal done 4 years ago, to be honest, my sex drive increased knowing that it was highly unlikely I'd get pregnant again! I think it just differs for each person...mines always been high, the tubal just helped me enjoy it more often. Unfortunately waiting for you to just wake up one day and have it back is probably not the way to go. Have you tried looking into things that might spark your desire? Have you talked to your doctor about this? If you were interested before and have lost it, that sounds more like a depression type thing, which is associated with tubals. I'd talk to a profession and get an opinion! Good Luck!

03-03-2008, 03:23 PM	#5
mikkimouse Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Rocky Mountians, Colorado Posts: 730 Gallery: mikkimouse Stats: 230/149/150 ~6'0~ WOE: CLA/GLA,~Low Carb ~ Start Date: August 26, 2007	hey there, i had a tubal 11 1/2 years ago, and didnt want or need lovin, until just about 1 yr ago.....I think that having my tubes tied indured a massive amount of problems after the tuba. Lots of pain....horrible periods. OMG what i wouldent give for a hysterectomy. LOL good luck JD

03-03-2008, 07:26 PM	#6
jdprecious Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: jacksonville, fl Posts: 3,831 Gallery: jdprecious Stats: (220 preg high) 199 after baby/162 now/150 goal WOE: Moderate Low Carb Start Date: Over and over since Jan 2003	I want a hysterectomy also. It makes no sense to have a period and go through all the pms'ing for the next twenty years when the parts don't work anymore anyways. I might look into it but I am a wimpy baby when it comes to surgery. I avoid it at all costs. My c sections were too traumatic. I am even rethinking my boob job and I have the money saved and everything. The pain and the recovery I just can't deal with. Ohhh the woes of womanhood!

03-04-2008, 07:11 AM	#7
WendyK1974 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 1,076 Gallery: WendyK1974	I too chalk it up to having 2 small kids (I have two boys 6 and 2). I just get tired and I'd rather sleep or read to unwind. I hope it goes away! I had a tubal, but I really can't imagine what the connection would be.

03-10-2008, 03:18 PM	#8
jdprecious Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: jacksonville, fl Posts: 3,831 Gallery: jdprecious Stats: (220 preg high) 199 after baby/162 now/150 goal WOE: Moderate Low Carb Start Date: Over and over since Jan 2003	Symptoms of Post Tubal Ligation Snydrome (PTLS) Wow, found this today! Sure does explain alot! I def think I am having side effects of PTLS. Should have done my homework before I got cut, tied, and burnt.

03-13-2008, 02:25 PM	#9
Jennyl Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: calgary Posts: 23,966 Gallery: Jennyl Start Date: manana	I had the opposite experience with my tubal. Not having to worry about pregnancy was very liberating and I was much more relaxed. I experienced a huge lack of desire when my children were young though. There was just something about being a full time mother to two young children, mine were less than one year apart, that zapped all my desire. It was very difficult on my marriage.