Question for the married ladies...

soon2beskinny2 · 09-22-2006, 08:40 AM

Do you find that your "love life" with your husband is improving since you've started losing weight? In what ways? Do the two of you make love more often? Does he take you out on dates more? Does he buy you flowers more? Any input would be much appreciated. Just wondering because things haven't been that great with my husband lately, and I know for a fact that it's largely because he's just not finding me very attractive at my present weight. Can't say that I blame him, as I used to be a slim size 6 and now let's just say I'm CONSIDERABLY bigger than that.

I definitely try to do my hair and makeup nice every day and I always try to dress nice/stylish as well, but my body definitely still needs alot of work.

Photomom · 09-22-2006, 08:51 AM

I know for me when I don't feel good about myself I tend to pull away. I think for me it is all in my head, my DH fights his weight and doesn't look like a movie star either. You are doing something great for yourself and your attitude will improve along with your shape. I think everybody can have great relationships regardless of their size, it's all in your head. We can be attractive no matter what our size is, it's all about attitude.

Hope things improve for you!

soon2beskinny2 · 09-22-2006, 08:57 AM

Thanks for your input and support Photomom.

It's not like my husband has a "perfect" body, but his body is definitely considerably better than mine is right now. He works out alot.

LStoner · 09-22-2006, 10:06 AM

I'm still hoping it will get better. I'm feeling a little better about my size so I don't push away for hugs and cuddling now. But I still feel "too big" and now also have some extra skin, so the naked thing is still an issue for me. I've also just had a really bad lack of sex drive problem for a long time. I've been wondering if I don't need to take some sort of meds for it, but of course it's an embarassing topic to bring up to a doctor.

lmatkins · 09-26-2006, 07:36 PM

It's definately an issue of self confidence. When you feel all gross and fat and yucky your self esteem goes down, and the LAST thing you want to do is get naked in front of your man. Much less have him touch all of your "problem areas" such as stomach, etc. But once you start losing weight your confidence goes up and you don't mind at all anymore!!

lonevision · 10-19-2006, 03:46 PM

I've always had a body issue. Even when I was around 130 or so I still had a bit of a tummy which made me self-conscious to be with my boyfriend way back when, whom I made turn the light off. I even hated to wear wear cute clothing or purchase any, convinced that I was too fat for them.

I hope you're not losing weight for your husband's sake but for your own. The fact that he doesn't find you attractive at your current weight is his own issue, not yours. =/ Regardless, I hope you do well on your WOE!

I'm married now myself... been married for about 4 years, and though I've gained weight, my husband still thinks of me was beautiful. At least he better. >.> I'm not sure of how mine'll react when I'm skinnier. Probably the same grump he always is. X)

NoAngel · 10-22-2006, 08:23 PM

Mine is definately looking for more sex and is a bit jealous too..I am loving it

Justme3 · 10-23-2006, 07:47 AM

yes...yes .....YES!!!

I have always loved sex and for my entire marriage it has an important factor in our lives .....but having lost this wt and kept it off ..not to mention the fact my kids moved out and started their own lives ...it is out of this world!!!

thanks for asking

09-22-2006, 08:40 AM	#1
soon2beskinny2 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 131 Gallery: soon2beskinny2 Stats: 180/176.25/125.0 Start Date: May 19, 2008	Question for the married ladies... Do you find that your "love life" with your husband is improving since you've started losing weight? In what ways? Do the two of you make love more often? Does he take you out on dates more? Does he buy you flowers more? Any input would be much appreciated. Just wondering because things haven't been that great with my husband lately, and I know for a fact that it's largely because he's just not finding me very attractive at my present weight. Can't say that I blame him, as I used to be a slim size 6 and now let's just say I'm CONSIDERABLY bigger than that. I definitely try to do my hair and makeup nice every day and I always try to dress nice/stylish as well, but my body definitely still needs alot of work. Last edited by soon2beskinny2 : 09-22-2006 at 08:43 AM.

10-19-2006, 03:46 PM	#6
lonevision Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 148 Gallery: lonevision Stats: 199.5/189/135 WOE: Atkins/moderate carbs Start Date: February 18th, 2008	I've always had a body issue. Even when I was around 130 or so I still had a bit of a tummy which made me self-conscious to be with my boyfriend way back when, whom I made turn the light off. I even hated to wear wear cute clothing or purchase any, convinced that I was too fat for them. I hope you're not losing weight for your husband's sake but for your own. The fact that he doesn't find you attractive at your current weight is his own issue, not yours. =/ Regardless, I hope you do well on your WOE! I'm married now myself... been married for about 4 years, and though I've gained weight, my husband still thinks of me was beautiful. At least he better. >.> I'm not sure of how mine'll react when I'm skinnier. Probably the same grump he always is. X) __________________ 02/18 - 199.5 (began Atkins, 20-30 g carb/day, induction food list), 02/26 - 194 (totally pigged out on (low-carb, at least) fewds this weekend. time to get back on track). 03/12 - 190.5 (I'm being kinda bad on weekends...) Mid-Goal: Reach 160s. ULTIMATE GOAL: 135 lbs.

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09-22-2006, 08:51 AM	#2
Photomom Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 231 Gallery: Photomom Stats: 170/170/135-5'6" WOE: Atkins Start Date: restart-10-12-08	I know for me when I don't feel good about myself I tend to pull away. I think for me it is all in my head, my DH fights his weight and doesn't look like a movie star either. You are doing something great for yourself and your attitude will improve along with your shape. I think everybody can have great relationships regardless of their size, it's all in your head. We can be attractive no matter what our size is, it's all about attitude. Hope things improve for you!

09-22-2006, 08:57 AM	#3
soon2beskinny2 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 131 Gallery: soon2beskinny2 Stats: 180/176.25/125.0 Start Date: May 19, 2008	Thanks for your input and support Photomom. It's not like my husband has a "perfect" body, but his body is definitely considerably better than mine is right now. He works out alot.

09-22-2006, 10:06 AM	#4
LStoner Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: East Central, IL Posts: 303 Gallery: LStoner Stats: 252/199/135-150 first big goal is 170. WOE: My own Start Date: 12/15/05	I'm still hoping it will get better. I'm feeling a little better about my size so I don't push away for hugs and cuddling now. But I still feel "too big" and now also have some extra skin, so the naked thing is still an issue for me. I've also just had a really bad lack of sex drive problem for a long time. I've been wondering if I don't need to take some sort of meds for it, but of course it's an embarassing topic to bring up to a doctor.

09-26-2006, 07:36 PM	#5
lmatkins Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 521 Gallery: lmatkins	It's definately an issue of self confidence. When you feel all gross and fat and yucky your self esteem goes down, and the LAST thing you want to do is get naked in front of your man. Much less have him touch all of your "problem areas" such as stomach, etc. But once you start losing weight your confidence goes up and you don't mind at all anymore!!

10-22-2006, 08:23 PM	#7
NoAngel Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: New Yawk Posts: 88 Gallery: NoAngel Stats: HW 286 preg 12/05, Atkins SW 260/239/200 mini goal WOE: Starting AGAIN!!!! Start Date: Sept 2006, Now	Mine is definately looking for more sex and is a bit jealous too..I am loving it

10-23-2006, 07:47 AM	#8
Justme3 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: in a state of disarray Posts: 71 Gallery: Justme3 WOE: lost 50lbs with over 3 years ago! YAY FOR ATKINS!!	yes...yes .....YES!!! I have always loved sex and for my entire marriage it has an important factor in our lives .....but having lost this wt and kept it off ..not to mention the fact my kids moved out and started their own lives ...it is out of this world!!! thanks for asking