30+ new moms - time to pregnancy stories please

klmeyer · 08-27-2006, 08:18 PM

At 33, I have finally decided I want to have kids. But now I'm nervous.. Since I'm still in grad school, my husband and I have decided to wait until I graduate next May (esp since grad school is out of town). But that's 2 months before my 34th... I'm really nervous that I'll have trouble getting pregnant now that I'm finally ready. I'd really like your experiences because my experience is:

- Friends in early 30's who got pregnant immediately
- Friends who miscarried once before they successfully carried to term
- Friends who took 5 years to finally get pregnant.
- Friend who thought it was all over in her 40's who said there's a "last spurt" of fertility before menopause and had a surprise (twins) at 42.

I know it's silly to worry until you try, but I'm nervous I'm missing the boat. Would appreciate any 30+ new moms & their stories.

Mystic · 08-27-2006, 09:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by klmeyer

At 33, I have finally decided I want to have kids. But now I'm nervous.. Since I'm still in grad school, my husband and I have decided to wait until I graduate next May (esp since grad school is out of town). But that's 2 months before my 34th... I'm really nervous that I'll have trouble getting pregnant now that I'm finally ready. I'd really like your experiences because my experience is:

- Friends in early 30's who got pregnant immediately
- Friends who miscarried once before they successfully carried to term
- Friends who took 5 years to finally get pregnant.
- Friend who thought it was all over in her 40's who said there's a "last spurt" of fertility before menopause and had a surprise (twins) at 42.

I know it's silly to worry until you try, but I'm nervous I'm missing the boat. Would appreciate any 30+ new moms & their stories.

Well, I'm not a new mom yet. I am expecting my first child in April, but I do have some insight as to what you are going through 'cause I have some of the same things going on in my life as well. Also, both my parents and I will tell you that from the time I could talk and knew what marriage and babies were all about that I said, in no uncertain terms, "I am never getting married or have any kids" Now, here I am, married for 5 months and have a baby on the way. I couldn't imagine my life any more different than what I imagined it growing up. I can tell you this, I can't even imagine have kids with anyone else other than my DH. Anyways, we didn't plan on having kids this early. DH is still in school working towards his bachelor's degree in social work(he'll be finished in April 2008), and I work in a pediatric dental office as office manager. I just started this job about 3 months ago and we had no intentions of getting pregnant until DH was in his final semester of school. However, God had other ideas...

Anyways, I'm 33 also and I'm at peace with having this baby now. My advice would be to talk to your DH and do what is best for the both of you. If you can make it work to start trying now, then I say go for it. Otherwise, definitely take the steps necessary to make sure you don't get the surprise of your life when you go to start your BC method for the next month, like we did.

klmeyer · 08-28-2006, 07:12 PM

Wow, congratulations. Thanks for the advice - I'm sure the baby will be a great addition for your family. Some part of me knows you're never really ready and just wants to find out, but I know it is stressful with only 1 wage-earner in the household.

kbeth · 08-29-2006, 08:08 AM

Hi!

I just had my first baby in May. At age 37, I was blessed to give birth to a healthy, WONDERFUL baby boy.

Because I am older, I wanted some testing to just see...but I didn't want anything invasive, so we did quad screening. I highly recommend it!

My experience: We got really lucky and got pg the first month we tried!! I truly give some of the credit to this wonderful WOE. As far as the actual pg goes...I have nothing to compare it to...but to be honest, I was pretty darned uncomfortable. TOTALLY worth it, but that's how it was for me. I think part of the problem, tho, was that I was working way too much, and my poor body was just exhausted.

I was able to do a natural childbirth following the Bradley Method (LOVED it.)

Personally, it was worth waiting until I was really ready (well, as ready as you can ever really be

)

Good luck!

annabird · 08-29-2006, 02:12 PM

I had my son just shy of 32. I got pregnant on the first "try" and had a fairly, uncomplicated and easy pregnancy.

It was the best thing that I have ever done.

Now, we have been trying fro 2 years for our second - with no luck. I just turned 36. I really hope it works soon as my son is 4 and we have grown out of the "baby stage".

Not sure if it's my age (since I am past 35) that it's taking longer or just 2nd timer fertility issues?

I honestly do believe that anytime under 40 is really the best and you should have no problems.

Best of luck - motherhood is the hardest but yet most wonderful thing!

klmeyer · 08-30-2006, 09:53 PM

Thanks for the stories. It definitely makes me feel better. I never really saw myself as a mom, but now it just feels like I'm ready.

Epi_Doc · 08-31-2006, 07:26 AM

My situation was similar to yours. I was in grad school when we first decided to get pregnant (2000). We had been married about 5 years and decided it was time. I was 28, DH 29. But had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. After that I needed some time and we didn't TTC again until 2003. It took about 8 months to conceive and I had a healthy boy when I was 31. We just decided to try again and I just found out I'm pregnant after 6 months of trying. I'll be 35 when I have the baby.

I was just finishing up my PhD when I got pregnant with Jack. And it was not a problem to finish up my degree and be pregnant.

I guess the only thing I can say is that I understand that once you are ready, you are ready. The problem is that you won't really know if there are any fertility issues or anything until you start TTC. I mean, there really isn't a sure fire way to know that there won't be problems until you start to try. I wouldn't worry that your age automatically makes it a problem because that isn't true. But as you age it does become slightly more difficult to conceive than if you are like 20 years old. This time it took us 6 months which is average and I'm just a tad older than you.

Do you have any problems with your cycle that you think might cause fertility troubles? Maybe go see your gyno now and you can get a pre- checkup of labs and stuff it they feel it is warranted. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry about it until I had reason to worry. They say that the average couple can get pregant within a year of no bc. You can lessen the time if you try things like ovulation predictors, temping, etc.

Just don't worry that it will be a problem because of your age.

Hope that helps.
Niccole

1970sally · 09-01-2006, 09:19 AM

I had my son this past Jan. at 35. However we started trying in Oct.03 I had two Miscarriages, one in Feb04 then again in Dec04....
I was about to give up hope, until I became prego with my son...I'm SO glad I didn't quit trying.....

MicheleS · 09-02-2006, 08:07 PM

I had 2 kids in my early 20's and figured that my family was "complete"... Well, at 33 I found out I was PG! What a suprise! I wasn't planning it and was definately practicing BC but here she is! My PG was a bit more uncomfortable this time around (although I did gain less weight

) but I survived. I *think* that I am a better mom this time too. I'm more patient and less stressed out...
I say "go for it!"

klmeyer · 09-04-2006, 01:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Epi_Doc

Do you have any problems with your cycle that you think might cause fertility troubles? Maybe go see your gyno now and you can get a pre- checkup of labs and stuff it they feel it is warranted. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry about it until I had reason to worry. They say that the average couple can get pregant within a year of no bc. You can lessen the time if you try things like ovulation predictors, temping, etc.

Just don't worry that it will be a problem because of your age.

Hope that helps.
Niccole

Thanks - I don't think I have any problems - I'm regular 28 days and I can feel when I ovulate right in the middle (a little cramping). I have a really light period (1-2 days) which concerns me a little bit but I'm sure when it does happen, there will be more than enough lining built. But that's a really good idea to start getting tests done beforehand.

NoAngel · 10-22-2006, 08:35 PM

I had my daughter at 34. I didn't even try to get pregnant it just happened after going off of birth control. I did have some issues gestation diabetes and hypertension and preeclampsia which led to a c-section, but she was my first and only pregnancy. I know plenty of people that had kids after 35. I wouldn't worry. Oh and finish grad school!! I have 1 year left and I really have no desire to go back at this time for my MSW. I enjoy being a mommy too much and want to spend her baby years paying total attention to her. She is now 10 months and I can't believe she is going to be 1.

louam · 10-23-2006, 10:21 AM

I'm 38 and just found out that I'm pregnant....I'm a little freaked out about this as my 21 year old daughter is due to give birth to my first grand child in about two weeks!!!

I can relate. I had my first when I was 17 and had my second when I was 33....and now the third at 38. I went thru a 10 year stretch without baby, I thought I was done....I was wrong.
Good luck! They are worth it!

08-27-2006, 08:18 PM	#1
klmeyer Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Houston Posts: 230 Gallery: klmeyer Stats: New mommy with lbs to lose! WOE: Atkins/Low Carb	30+ new moms - time to pregnancy stories please At 33, I have finally decided I want to have kids. But now I'm nervous.. Since I'm still in grad school, my husband and I have decided to wait until I graduate next May (esp since grad school is out of town). But that's 2 months before my 34th... I'm really nervous that I'll have trouble getting pregnant now that I'm finally ready. I'd really like your experiences because my experience is: - Friends in early 30's who got pregnant immediately - Friends who miscarried once before they successfully carried to term - Friends who took 5 years to finally get pregnant. - Friend who thought it was all over in her 40's who said there's a "last spurt" of fertility before menopause and had a surprise (twins) at 42. I know it's silly to worry until you try, but I'm nervous I'm missing the boat. Would appreciate any 30+ new moms & their stories.

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08-28-2006, 07:12 PM	#3
klmeyer Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Houston Posts: 230 Gallery: klmeyer Stats: New mommy with lbs to lose! WOE: Atkins/Low Carb	Wow, congratulations. Thanks for the advice - I'm sure the baby will be a great addition for your family. Some part of me knows you're never really ready and just wants to find out, but I know it is stressful with only 1 wage-earner in the household.

08-29-2006, 08:08 AM	#4
kbeth MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,036 Gallery: kbeth Stats: Before baby: 130/117 Now:151/136/120 5'4" 39 WOE: Atkins Start Date: April 2002/after baby 02/02/08	Hi! I just had my first baby in May. At age 37, I was blessed to give birth to a healthy, WONDERFUL baby boy. Because I am older, I wanted some testing to just see...but I didn't want anything invasive, so we did quad screening. I highly recommend it! My experience: We got really lucky and got pg the first month we tried!! I truly give some of the credit to this wonderful WOE. As far as the actual pg goes...I have nothing to compare it to...but to be honest, I was pretty darned uncomfortable. TOTALLY worth it, but that's how it was for me. I think part of the problem, tho, was that I was working way too much, and my poor body was just exhausted. I was able to do a natural childbirth following the Bradley Method (LOVED it.) Personally, it was worth waiting until I was really ready (well, as ready as you can ever really be ) Good luck!

08-29-2006, 02:12 PM	#5
annabird Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 596 Gallery: annabird	I had my son just shy of 32. I got pregnant on the first "try" and had a fairly, uncomplicated and easy pregnancy. It was the best thing that I have ever done. Now, we have been trying fro 2 years for our second - with no luck. I just turned 36. I really hope it works soon as my son is 4 and we have grown out of the "baby stage". Not sure if it's my age (since I am past 35) that it's taking longer or just 2nd timer fertility issues? I honestly do believe that anytime under 40 is really the best and you should have no problems. Best of luck - motherhood is the hardest but yet most wonderful thing!

08-30-2006, 09:53 PM	#6
klmeyer Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Houston Posts: 230 Gallery: klmeyer Stats: New mommy with lbs to lose! WOE: Atkins/Low Carb	Thanks for the stories. It definitely makes me feel better. I never really saw myself as a mom, but now it just feels like I'm ready.

08-31-2006, 07:26 AM	#7
Epi_Doc Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Ohio Posts: 606 Gallery: Epi_Doc Stats: 236/159/149.5/140ish WOE: Atkins and now LFL Start Date: Feb 2005	My situation was similar to yours. I was in grad school when we first decided to get pregnant (2000). We had been married about 5 years and decided it was time. I was 28, DH 29. But had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. After that I needed some time and we didn't TTC again until 2003. It took about 8 months to conceive and I had a healthy boy when I was 31. We just decided to try again and I just found out I'm pregnant after 6 months of trying. I'll be 35 when I have the baby. I was just finishing up my PhD when I got pregnant with Jack. And it was not a problem to finish up my degree and be pregnant. I guess the only thing I can say is that I understand that once you are ready, you are ready. The problem is that you won't really know if there are any fertility issues or anything until you start TTC. I mean, there really isn't a sure fire way to know that there won't be problems until you start to try. I wouldn't worry that your age automatically makes it a problem because that isn't true. But as you age it does become slightly more difficult to conceive than if you are like 20 years old. This time it took us 6 months which is average and I'm just a tad older than you. Do you have any problems with your cycle that you think might cause fertility troubles? Maybe go see your gyno now and you can get a pre- checkup of labs and stuff it they feel it is warranted. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry about it until I had reason to worry. They say that the average couple can get pregant within a year of no bc. You can lessen the time if you try things like ovulation predictors, temping, etc. Just don't worry that it will be a problem because of your age. Hope that helps. Niccole

09-01-2006, 09:19 AM	#8
1970sally Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Boston,MA Go Pats!!!!! Posts: 106 Gallery: 1970sally Stats: 220/200.5/160 (5'6") WOE: LC my own way Start Date: 8/14/06	I had my son this past Jan. at 35. However we started trying in Oct.03 I had two Miscarriages, one in Feb04 then again in Dec04.... I was about to give up hope, until I became prego with my son...I'm SO glad I didn't quit trying.....

09-02-2006, 08:07 PM	#9
MicheleS Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 79 Gallery: MicheleS	I had 2 kids in my early 20's and figured that my family was "complete"... Well, at 33 I found out I was PG! What a suprise! I wasn't planning it and was definately practicing BC but here she is! My PG was a bit more uncomfortable this time around (although I did gain less weight ) but I survived. I think that I am a better mom this time too. I'm more patient and less stressed out... I say "go for it!"

10-22-2006, 08:35 PM	#11
NoAngel Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: New Yawk Posts: 88 Gallery: NoAngel Stats: HW 286 preg 12/05, Atkins SW 260/239/200 mini goal WOE: Starting AGAIN!!!! Start Date: Sept 2006, Now	I had my daughter at 34. I didn't even try to get pregnant it just happened after going off of birth control. I did have some issues gestation diabetes and hypertension and preeclampsia which led to a c-section, but she was my first and only pregnancy. I know plenty of people that had kids after 35. I wouldn't worry. Oh and finish grad school!! I have 1 year left and I really have no desire to go back at this time for my MSW. I enjoy being a mommy too much and want to spend her baby years paying total attention to her. She is now 10 months and I can't believe she is going to be 1.

10-23-2006, 10:21 AM	#12
louam Junior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 48 Gallery: louam Stats: 245/230/140	I'm 38 and just found out that I'm pregnant....I'm a little freaked out about this as my 21 year old daughter is due to give birth to my first grand child in about two weeks!!! I can relate. I had my first when I was 17 and had my second when I was 33....and now the third at 38. I went thru a 10 year stretch without baby, I thought I was done....I was wrong. Good luck! They are worth it!