Pregnancy Thread ~ Memorial Day ~ 5/30

SmileyAmy · 05-30-2005, 09:24 AM

shelly.....................Ethan Cole.................... Born 03/05/05
JennPayton.............Natalie Grace..................Born 03/09/05
blueyedgrl...............Reilly Grant ....................Born 3/23/05
Dar20.....................Alison Rozeta .................Born 04/06/05
Heather123..............Chad Avery....................Born 04/09/05
Marthad..................Logan Harold .................Born 04/23/05
Jefinner...................Ezra Franklin .................Born 05/05/05
GoJackets................Hamilton Wood...............Born 05/05/05
mom2twoboys..............Melissa.................. ....Born 05/06/05
chels_hoff...................Payton Wayne..............Born 05/08/05
Mandyhoward...............Spencer................. ...Born 05/23/05 @30 weeks
Denise85.....................Paige Loralei...............Born 5/19/05
tekla...........................Baby Boy...................Born 5/26/05

azktycat......................W40..............05/31/05....Girl
Luna...........................W39..............06 /04/05....Girl
nbecker.......................W37..............06/17/05....Girl
Vixendrop....................W37...............06/18/05....Girl
naerenaenae................W37...............06/18/05....Girl
jehcekah.....................W37...............06/22/05.....Boy
gilbabe75....................W36...............06/25/05.....Boy
Miss Gigl......................W36...............06/26/05....Girl
thopki00......................W36...............06 /28/05....Boy
rooney........................W36...............06 /31/05....Boy
Acutepenguin...............W34...............07/10/05
allibaba.......................W34...............0 7/12/05....Twins (Boy & Girl)
kclynn.........................W33...............0 7/22/05....Boy
Tbugs..........................W32...............0 7/21/05
melos...........................W31............... 08/01/05
SmileyAmy....................W30...............08/05/05....Girl

StarFire........................W26............... 09/5/05....Triplets !!!
Ketosisgirl.....................W24.............. 09/22/05.....Boy
vjfreddi.........................W23.............. 10/01/05
jeepifer.........................W22.............. 10/04/05 .... Girl
Karingreen.....................W22..............10 /08/05
jojolw...........................W?............... .??/??/05
Tammeli........................W20..............10 /17/05....Girl

Karalynne7....................W?................ ??/??/05
Jai...............................W14............. ..11/27/05
Kaillean.........................W13.............. .12/06/05
cjthedog64 ...................W13...............12/10/05
Diabolique......................W10............... . 12/24/05
lcfortified.......................W10............. . .12/31/05
jadefox26......................W?................. 12/??/05
Trailboss.......................W6................ .01/20/06
Louise...........................W5............... 01/27/06
Portia...........................W5............ ...01/29/06

Green12........................................... .....Trying!
2BFitHourglass.................................... ...Trying!
lil miss.............................................. ....Trying!
Nicole134......................................... .....Trying!
StrawberryGirl.................................... ....Trying!
AnnieO............................................ ......Trying!
speckle........................................... .......Trying!
Alissaliz......................................... .........Trying!
AZParalegal....................................... .....Trying!
DasiyNYC.......................................... .....Trying!
Nikole............................................ ........Trying!
daisy73........................................... ........Trying!

SmileyAmy · 05-30-2005, 09:36 AM

Hi ladies...

Very sad morning here.

I have a good friend from high school that I had lost track of for about 8 years. I finally got a hold of her about a month ago. Just touched base and haven't spoken since because she informend me that her 2 year old son had been in ICU at Children's Hospital in Boston for 6 weeks due to a major issue with his immune system and especially his lungs. She sounded so positive telling me that she just had a good feeling that he was going to get better. Mikey was kept in a coma and under a paralyzing drug. They found joy when he would try and break through and they would see him move his fingers - only to be given more medication to put him under agin. They had an update page through Children's and I would read updates every few days and post a message telling them that I was thinking of them. He had his good days and his bad but my friend Annmarie was still positive.

Well, my brother is friends with her next door neighbor/close friend of the familys - and we got a phone call this morning that Mikey died in Annmarie's arms on May 27th at 2:20 in the morning.

Sorry to be such a downer this morning...I don't know what to do with myself. I never even met Mikey and only have spoken with Annmarie once in 8 years but I find myself so sad and I keep crying when I think about it.

There is a wake tomorrow but I don't know if I can go. I just don't know if I can bear to see a 2 year old in a casket. Especially by myself. Other high school friends and DH can't go. Plus, I don't know how I would deal with it. Just imagining it...

Is it bad if I don't go...if I just send a card??

I am sorry to start the day off with such a sad story...I just needed to "talk" to someone about it.

Rest in peace little Mikey...prayers and good thoughts for the Scanlan/Galvin family for their loss. I will be thinking and praying for you.

Friendship · 05-30-2005, 09:54 AM

Amy- I think if you sent a nice card it would be fine. Your friend isn't going to "expect" you to attend. If I were in your shoes, personally, I wouldn't be able to handle it and would send a card and maybe some flowers, etc.

gilbabe75 · 05-30-2005, 09:56 AM

Hey Amy, I would go if you can, if not...call, send a card, flowers. Are you sure it will be open casket? They don't do that often for children. I'm sorry about your friends loss. You could also just stop by for a quick moment to offer her a hug. Whatever you are comfortable with.

5foot2eyesofblue · 05-30-2005, 10:00 AM

Amy -
I don't think you'd really be "expected" to go....I think a nice note would be perfectly appropriate.

daisy73 · 05-30-2005, 10:00 AM

Amy- During a funeral she has many people around her. A visit from you a couple of weeks from now may mean more to her. People who lose loved ones tend to appreciate those later visitors so much more because that is the time when they are having to get used to going on with life without their loved ones. That is often when they need the most support. That way, you could show your concern and avoid the very uncomfortable circumstance of the funeral for a small child. A child's funeral is very hard to handle and may be more stress than your body needs right now.

Kaillean · 05-30-2005, 12:30 PM

Hi girls,

Just popping in to say hi. I had a busy weekend, so I didn't get a chance to get on the computer.

Mandy

- what a rollercoaster of emotions! So glad to hear Spencer did not have an issue with his intestines. Keeping fingers crossed that all continues to go well. I hope your DH is able to get his leave.

Amy - sorry to hear about your friends. That's very sad.

Louise - I was at goal when I got pregnant. I had trouble with my clothes right away - mainly in the waist. At first I think I was mostly bloated. I wanted to make sure I wasn't in ketosis, and gained a few pounds of water with the extra carbs. I was pretty worried because I gained about 5 pounds almost right away. By 8 weeks I was up 8!

I was kind of freaked out because I read you are only supposed to gain 2-4 in the first trimester. Anyway - I chalk at least half of that up to water weight.

Since then I have not gained any more weight and I'm two days shy of 13 weeks. So still at 8 lbs and seem to be holding steady for now. My appetite grew a lot in the beginning (and I had almost no morning sickness) but seems to have leveled off for the last couple of weeks. I'm also back to tracking carbs on Fitday (aiming for 60-80) and that is helping me to not overindulge. I'm basically sticking to my pre-pregnancy plan with the addition of some extra fruit and one or two slices a day of whole grain bread.

Most of my weight gain seems to be in my stomach area. I was in a size 8 when I found out I was pregnant. I can't button clothes in that size, but they still fit in the hips and thighs. I can button size 10s for now and low rise is good because they hit below my little bump.

It's a bit freaky to see the scale going up again, but I'm getting more used to it now. I'm just trying not to use pregnancy as an excuse to go crazy. I do allow myself a treat on the weekends. Yesterday I had Ben and Jerry's! (The baby needs the calcium you know.

)

Martha - glad to hear Logan is doing well. Don't forget to take care of yourself too. Can you have a heart to heart with DH and let him know you need more support. He can't expect his life to go on the same when your has been turned upside down.

Do you have anyone you can talk to or turn to for help if you are feeling overwhelmed?

Alli -- are you freaked out!? That's fun you are getting everything set up - so close now!

My friend is having a baby shower soon, so I went to buy some stuff for her this weekend. It's still unreal to me that soon I will be shopping for myself. I was going to buy something for my baby, but it still feels too soon. I guess I'm afraid of jinxing something! But I did do a lot of browsing and taking mental notes.

My only purchase was a scrapbook for baby and a photo album. I've been wanting to try scrapbooking for a while, and this is a good reason to start. Anyone else do that?

Hi to all - Meg, Dar, Dena, Becca, Grace, Luna, Vixen, Shelly and everyone else I'm forgetting.

BBL

SmileyAmy · 05-30-2005, 04:39 PM

Thanks everyone for your advice...I think I am going to pick up a spiritual card and maybe send some flowers to the church where the wake will be tomorrow. I just don't think I could handle a child's funeral right now.

Well, I am drained...after the bad news and then my inlaws cookout, I am so tired. Going to change into my pj's and veg out.

Hope everyone's day was good.

mom2twoboys · 05-30-2005, 08:10 PM

Just popping in to say HI! Miss Melissa has kept me very busy, she seems to always be hanging of my Br043034st!
Amy I went to a funeral of an 8 yr old one week before Melissa was born it was the worst thing in the world. A co-workers son dropped dead on the soccer field. He was in the coffin with his stuffed animals and soccer ball. The line to the funeral palor was a mile down the road. I would visit her a few weeks later when she is alone and it sets in and she is reallt grieving, although that will also be emotionally stressful. There is no easy answer!

vixendrop · 05-30-2005, 10:44 PM

Yesterday I went to a group prenatal... there were 7 other women there too... it was really fun... the first part consisted of a regular prenatal... we were divided between the midwives and got that all done... everything is looking fine... measuring on target, she's still in a pretty good position... looks like she might be moving towards being posterior, but I'll make it through if she does. Heartbeat was about 145, pretty much what she's been all along... nice and strong. Goodness... I can't wait until she's here!

After the regular prenatal part we all sat around and talked, discussed concerns, etc and watched a short video about pushing in the squatting position. The whole thing ended up being 3 hours long!

Mandy - I'll be praying for Spencer... I'm glad it was found to not be as serious as originally thought {hugs}

Oh, and FYI for whoever starts tomorrows thread... I think I saw at least 2 moms-to-be that need to be moved up to 2nd tri.

Luna · 05-30-2005, 11:37 PM

Hello ladies!

Sorry to hear about your friend Amy.

Mandy, I am so glad Spencer is ok. Sounds like it was a scary weekend. Will Jake get leave?

Louise, I didn't start wearing maternity clothes until about 6 months along. I've been measuring a bit small though. I guess everyone is different, you may not be showing for some time or might show right away.

Not much seems to be happening with me. I wish it was! I don't even seem to be having as many contractions.

05-30-2005, 09:24 AM	#1
SmileyAmy Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Attleboro, Massachusetts Posts: 6,569 Gallery: SmileyAmy Stats: looking at the scale from a safe distance	Pregnancy Thread ~ Memorial Day ~ 5/30 shelly.....................Ethan Cole.................... Born 03/05/05 JennPayton.............Natalie Grace..................Born 03/09/05 blueyedgrl...............Reilly Grant ....................Born 3/23/05 Dar20.....................Alison Rozeta .................Born 04/06/05 Heather123..............Chad Avery....................Born 04/09/05 Marthad..................Logan Harold .................Born 04/23/05 Jefinner...................Ezra Franklin .................Born 05/05/05 GoJackets................Hamilton Wood...............Born 05/05/05 mom2twoboys..............Melissa.................. ....Born 05/06/05 chels_hoff...................Payton Wayne..............Born 05/08/05 Mandyhoward...............Spencer................. ...Born 05/23/05 @30 weeks Denise85.....................Paige Loralei...............Born 5/19/05 tekla...........................Baby Boy...................Born 5/26/05 azktycat......................W40..............05/31/05....Girl Luna...........................W39..............06 /04/05....Girl nbecker.......................W37..............06/17/05....Girl Vixendrop....................W37...............06/18/05....Girl naerenaenae................W37...............06/18/05....Girl jehcekah.....................W37...............06/22/05.....Boy gilbabe75....................W36...............06/25/05.....Boy Miss Gigl......................W36...............06/26/05....Girl thopki00......................W36...............06 /28/05....Boy rooney........................W36...............06 /31/05....Boy Acutepenguin...............W34...............07/10/05 allibaba.......................W34...............0 7/12/05....Twins (Boy & Girl) kclynn.........................W33...............0 7/22/05....Boy Tbugs..........................W32...............0 7/21/05 melos...........................W31............... 08/01/05 SmileyAmy....................W30...............08/05/05....Girl StarFire........................W26............... 09/5/05....Triplets !!! Ketosisgirl.....................W24.............. 09/22/05.....Boy vjfreddi.........................W23.............. 10/01/05 jeepifer.........................W22.............. 10/04/05 .... Girl Karingreen.....................W22..............10 /08/05 jojolw...........................W?............... .??/??/05 Tammeli........................W20..............10 /17/05....Girl Karalynne7....................W?................ ??/??/05 Jai...............................W14............. ..11/27/05 Kaillean.........................W13.............. .12/06/05 cjthedog64 ...................W13...............12/10/05 Diabolique......................W10............... . 12/24/05 lcfortified.......................W10............. . .12/31/05 jadefox26......................W?................. 12/??/05 Trailboss.......................W6................ .01/20/06 Louise...........................W5............... 01/27/06 Portia...........................W5............ ...01/29/06 Green12........................................... .....Trying! 2BFitHourglass.................................... ...Trying! lil miss.............................................. ....Trying! Nicole134......................................... .....Trying! StrawberryGirl.................................... ....Trying! AnnieO............................................ ......Trying! speckle........................................... .......Trying! Alissaliz......................................... .........Trying! AZParalegal....................................... .....Trying! DasiyNYC.......................................... .....Trying! Nikole............................................ ........Trying! daisy73........................................... ........Trying! __________________ Amy...I'm a WIT! ~~~~~ PROUD member of the Whatever It Takes Challenge!

05-30-2005, 10:00 AM	#6
daisy73 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 470 Gallery: daisy73 Stats: 280/212.5/150 WOE: Meat/Egg/Green Veggies	Amy- During a funeral she has many people around her. A visit from you a couple of weeks from now may mean more to her. People who lose loved ones tend to appreciate those later visitors so much more because that is the time when they are having to get used to going on with life without their loved ones. That is often when they need the most support. That way, you could show your concern and avoid the very uncomfortable circumstance of the funeral for a small child. A child's funeral is very hard to handle and may be more stress than your body needs right now. __________________ Barbi

05-30-2005, 10:44 PM	#10
vixendrop MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Pueblo, CO Posts: 2,570 Gallery: vixendrop Stats: +128/-10.5/-128 WOE: Atkins	Yesterday I went to a group prenatal... there were 7 other women there too... it was really fun... the first part consisted of a regular prenatal... we were divided between the midwives and got that all done... everything is looking fine... measuring on target, she's still in a pretty good position... looks like she might be moving towards being posterior, but I'll make it through if she does. Heartbeat was about 145, pretty much what she's been all along... nice and strong. Goodness... I can't wait until she's here! After the regular prenatal part we all sat around and talked, discussed concerns, etc and watched a short video about pushing in the squatting position. The whole thing ended up being 3 hours long! Mandy - I'll be praying for Spencer... I'm glad it was found to not be as serious as originally thought {hugs} Oh, and FYI for whoever starts tomorrows thread... I think I saw at least 2 moms-to-be that need to be moved up to 2nd tri. __________________ '~Amy~'

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05-30-2005, 09:36 AM	#2
SmileyAmy Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Attleboro, Massachusetts Posts: 6,569 Gallery: SmileyAmy Stats: looking at the scale from a safe distance	Hi ladies... Very sad morning here. I have a good friend from high school that I had lost track of for about 8 years. I finally got a hold of her about a month ago. Just touched base and haven't spoken since because she informend me that her 2 year old son had been in ICU at Children's Hospital in Boston for 6 weeks due to a major issue with his immune system and especially his lungs. She sounded so positive telling me that she just had a good feeling that he was going to get better. Mikey was kept in a coma and under a paralyzing drug. They found joy when he would try and break through and they would see him move his fingers - only to be given more medication to put him under agin. They had an update page through Children's and I would read updates every few days and post a message telling them that I was thinking of them. He had his good days and his bad but my friend Annmarie was still positive. Well, my brother is friends with her next door neighbor/close friend of the familys - and we got a phone call this morning that Mikey died in Annmarie's arms on May 27th at 2:20 in the morning. Sorry to be such a downer this morning...I don't know what to do with myself. I never even met Mikey and only have spoken with Annmarie once in 8 years but I find myself so sad and I keep crying when I think about it. There is a wake tomorrow but I don't know if I can go. I just don't know if I can bear to see a 2 year old in a casket. Especially by myself. Other high school friends and DH can't go. Plus, I don't know how I would deal with it. Just imagining it... Is it bad if I don't go...if I just send a card?? I am sorry to start the day off with such a sad story...I just needed to "talk" to someone about it. Rest in peace little Mikey...prayers and good thoughts for the Scanlan/Galvin family for their loss. I will be thinking and praying for you.

05-30-2005, 09:54 AM	#3
Friendship Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 3,878 Gallery: Friendship	Amy- I think if you sent a nice card it would be fine. Your friend isn't going to "expect" you to attend. If I were in your shoes, personally, I wouldn't be able to handle it and would send a card and maybe some flowers, etc.

05-30-2005, 09:56 AM	#4
gilbabe75 Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Eastern PA Posts: 4,590 Gallery: gilbabe75 WOE: the lower carb anti-diet	Hey Amy, I would go if you can, if not...call, send a card, flowers. Are you sure it will be open casket? They don't do that often for children. I'm sorry about your friends loss. You could also just stop by for a quick moment to offer her a hug. Whatever you are comfortable with.

05-30-2005, 10:00 AM	#5
5foot2eyesofblue Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Orlando burbs Posts: 9,328 Gallery: 5foot2eyesofblue Start Date: 11/8/2004	Amy - I don't think you'd really be "expected" to go....I think a nice note would be perfectly appropriate.

05-30-2005, 12:30 PM	#7
Kaillean MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Vancouver Posts: 1,400 Gallery: Kaillean Stats: 215/155/155 WOE: Atkins Maintenance Start Date: March 2003	Hi girls, Just popping in to say hi. I had a busy weekend, so I didn't get a chance to get on the computer. Mandy - what a rollercoaster of emotions! So glad to hear Spencer did not have an issue with his intestines. Keeping fingers crossed that all continues to go well. I hope your DH is able to get his leave. Amy - sorry to hear about your friends. That's very sad. Louise - I was at goal when I got pregnant. I had trouble with my clothes right away - mainly in the waist. At first I think I was mostly bloated. I wanted to make sure I wasn't in ketosis, and gained a few pounds of water with the extra carbs. I was pretty worried because I gained about 5 pounds almost right away. By 8 weeks I was up 8! I was kind of freaked out because I read you are only supposed to gain 2-4 in the first trimester. Anyway - I chalk at least half of that up to water weight. Since then I have not gained any more weight and I'm two days shy of 13 weeks. So still at 8 lbs and seem to be holding steady for now. My appetite grew a lot in the beginning (and I had almost no morning sickness) but seems to have leveled off for the last couple of weeks. I'm also back to tracking carbs on Fitday (aiming for 60-80) and that is helping me to not overindulge. I'm basically sticking to my pre-pregnancy plan with the addition of some extra fruit and one or two slices a day of whole grain bread. Most of my weight gain seems to be in my stomach area. I was in a size 8 when I found out I was pregnant. I can't button clothes in that size, but they still fit in the hips and thighs. I can button size 10s for now and low rise is good because they hit below my little bump. It's a bit freaky to see the scale going up again, but I'm getting more used to it now. I'm just trying not to use pregnancy as an excuse to go crazy. I do allow myself a treat on the weekends. Yesterday I had Ben and Jerry's! (The baby needs the calcium you know. ) Martha - glad to hear Logan is doing well. Don't forget to take care of yourself too. Can you have a heart to heart with DH and let him know you need more support. He can't expect his life to go on the same when your has been turned upside down. Do you have anyone you can talk to or turn to for help if you are feeling overwhelmed? Alli -- are you freaked out!? That's fun you are getting everything set up - so close now! My friend is having a baby shower soon, so I went to buy some stuff for her this weekend. It's still unreal to me that soon I will be shopping for myself. I was going to buy something for my baby, but it still feels too soon. I guess I'm afraid of jinxing something! But I did do a lot of browsing and taking mental notes. My only purchase was a scrapbook for baby and a photo album. I've been wanting to try scrapbooking for a while, and this is a good reason to start. Anyone else do that? Hi to all - Meg, Dar, Dena, Becca, Grace, Luna, Vixen, Shelly and everyone else I'm forgetting. BBL

05-30-2005, 04:39 PM	#8
SmileyAmy Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Attleboro, Massachusetts Posts: 6,569 Gallery: SmileyAmy Stats: looking at the scale from a safe distance	Thanks everyone for your advice...I think I am going to pick up a spiritual card and maybe send some flowers to the church where the wake will be tomorrow. I just don't think I could handle a child's funeral right now. Well, I am drained...after the bad news and then my inlaws cookout, I am so tired. Going to change into my pj's and veg out. Hope everyone's day was good.

05-30-2005, 08:10 PM	#9
mom2twoboys MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Mom to 2 boys and a girl born 5/6/05. Posts: 1,036 Gallery: mom2twoboys WOE: Atkins Start Date: 10/26/05	Just popping in to say HI! Miss Melissa has kept me very busy, she seems to always be hanging of my Br043034st! Amy I went to a funeral of an 8 yr old one week before Melissa was born it was the worst thing in the world. A co-workers son dropped dead on the soccer field. He was in the coffin with his stuffed animals and soccer ball. The line to the funeral palor was a mile down the road. I would visit her a few weeks later when she is alone and it sets in and she is reallt grieving, although that will also be emotionally stressful. There is no easy answer!

05-30-2005, 11:37 PM	#11
Luna Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 261 Gallery: Luna	Hello ladies! Sorry to hear about your friend Amy. Mandy, I am so glad Spencer is ok. Sounds like it was a scary weekend. Will Jake get leave? Louise, I didn't start wearing maternity clothes until about 6 months along. I've been measuring a bit small though. I guess everyone is different, you may not be showing for some time or might show right away. Not much seems to be happening with me. I wish it was! I don't even seem to be having as many contractions.