Pregnancy Thread - Tuesday, March 22nd

[Dar20]

BrattyChelle...........Elana Marie.......................Born 12/23/04
GetNSlim...............Jonathan Charles..............Born 12/31/04
Kay&Lydi................"Baby".................... .........Born 01/06/05
Shandril105............Elizabeth Skye..................Born 01/10/05
Viki........................."Baby Girl".......................Born 01/18/05
Nyanchan................Audrey Kay......................Born 02/09/05
MadameX................Madeleine Jane................Born 02/09/05
metroames..............Grant David....................Born 02/18/05
kimism.....................Megan Elizabeth.............Born 02/25/05
shelly........................Ethan Cole.................... Born 03/05/05
JennPayton..............Natalie Grace...................Born 03/09/05


blueyedgrl....................W40................0 3/26/05......Boy
Heather123.................W39..............03/30/05......Boy
Marthad.......................W37................0 4/11/05......Boy
Dar20..........................W36..............04/16/05......Girl
Jefinner........................W36............... .04/16/05......Boy
GoJackets....................W34................05/03/05
Hooligan.......................W34................ 05/04/05
mom2twoboys.............W34..............05/07/05
chels_hoff.....................W33.............05/15/05......Boy
Ravenly74.....................W33................0 5/15/05......Boy
Denise85.......................W32..............05/22/05......Boy
tekla..............................W32............ ....05/23/05......Boy
azktycat.....................W30.................0 5/30/05.....Girl
Luna...........................W29................ .06/04/05.....Girl


Vixendrop...................W27...............06/18/05.....Girl
naerenaenae...............W27...............06/18/05.....Girl
jehcekah.....................W27.................0 6/22/05.....Boy
gilbabe75....................W26...............06/25/05.....Boy
Miss Gigl......................W26.................06/26/05.....Girl
rooney........................W26................. .06/30/05....Boy
Acutepenguin...............W24................07/10/05
allibaba.........................W24.............. ...07/12/05....Twins (Boy & Girl)
kclynn..........................W23............... 07/18/05
Tbugs...........................W22............... ..07/21/05
Mandyhoward...............W21.................07/30/05....Boy
melos...........................W21............... 08/01/05
SmileyAmy....................W20...............08/05/05....Girl
Ketosisgirl......................W14.............. .9/22/05

jeepifer..........................W12............. ..10/04/05
Karingreen.....................W12................ .10/08/05
jojolw............................W?.............. .....??/??/05
Tammeli......................W9................... 10/24/05
LittleMagpie..................W8.................. .10/??/05
Karalynne7...................W?................... .??/??/05

Green12........................................... ...Trying!
2BFitHourglass.................................... .Trying!
lil miss.............................................. ....Trying!
Nicole133......................................... ....Trying!
StrawberryGirl.................................... ..Trying!
AnnieO............................................ .....Trying!
speckle........................................... ......Trying!
Alissaliz......................................... ........Trying!
AZParalegal....................................... ....Trying!
DasiyNYC.......................................... ....Trying!
Kaillean.......................................... .......Trying!
Louise............................................ .......Trying!

[Dar20]

::: looks around ::: Am I really the first one here this morning??

Martha, hoping you're okay today!

Really quick, want to post my latest pic.. here's me last night, 36 weeks:


And just as a comparison, here's 4 weeks ago:


Eek.. I'm tempted to cut off my head in both of them. Blech! My face gets so splotchy, but I hate make-up!

I'm so proud of myself, I got all caught up on my Thank You's last night! Woo!

I'll BBL!

[SmileyAmy]

Dar ~ You are adorable!! You can see a difference between the four weeks.

Mandy ~ Oh, I had hoped you would get better news. Keep your chin up though. Medical technology is great and you can rest assured that those doctors and nurses are going to do what is best for both you and baby. I hope you can figure something out with DH. {{{Mandy}}}

Becca ~ Regarding the sex thing...even before being pregnant, I hate having sex. It isn't that it is bad, I just could care less. But I did notice last time I gave in that it was kind of uncomfortable. I felt dry. DH insisted I wasn't, but I wanted him to stop so bad! I kept saying "Are you done? Are you done?" What a way to spoil the mood, huh?

Okay, funny thing last night...I am not a touch feely, cuddly person. Not even with DH. We were lying in bed and he turned over and said "How is my baby??" and put his hand on my stomach. First of all he put it up way high on my stomach and I was like "That is not where she is...down lower." He replied "Are you sure?" No, I am not I am sorry...you tell me where she is!! Anyway, I was totally uncomfortable with his hand on my stomach. Not becuase of feeling fat or anything, just because I am not touchy feely. I wanted to tell him to take his hand off, but didn't want to be rude or mean. So I sat there squeeming on the inside hoping and praying he would move his hand!! Is that weird??

[Louise]

Hello ladies!

Checking in from vacation. I've been lurking a bit, but our internet connection is sort of flakey. It's wireless, and will work one minute but not the next. Hopefully I'll be able to post this.

Dar--You look great. Your belly has really changed in the last 4 weeks.

Amy--Sorry you felt that way when DH put his hand on your belly. I am not touchy feely either. Even with my DH. I hope it doesn't get worse when i get pregnant.

Mandy--You are in my thoughts and prayers every day.


Okay, no more time for personals. I'll try to catch up with everyone next week.

louise

[GoJackets]

Darlene, you look so pretty!!!! I'm a cow next to you and I'm two weeks behind!

Amy - I will be curious once that baby belly really sticks out how you will be with people touching you. I thought I would be funny and not want ANYONE touching it.....I'm the exact opposite now. I poke my belly out for whoever wants to see it....and when they touch it....they pat it so gingerly....I say, "that's not touching, give it a good push".

Louise - When will you be back from vacation? How are things going?

Luna - I missed you yesterday Sweetie! Congrats for not having to go through the three hour test! That is such a drag. Good for you!!!!

[Dar20]

Louise, hope you guys are having fun!!!!

Amy, um, yeah, I think you're weird , but DH and I are the opposite. I'm very touchy feely, usually higher libido, where he's like you. Hates to hold hands, not really interested in sex, etc. So, I'm the opposite, I would LOVE for my DH to be interested in my sexually and touch me just out of the blue. Usually when he touches me, it's to tease me because his hands are freezing or something. Seriously, he did that to me the other day, kept touching my belly when we were getting ready for bed and his hands were icicles!

Thanks for the compliments.. I can definitely feel a difference, that's for sure. My ribs have expanded quite a bit and I may be mistaken, but I think my boobs are actually starting to change, too! Woo!

[karatejen]

Hey Gals!

I am delurking to show off some pics. It is moments like these that make the 40 weeks of waiting worthwhile....or at least IMO.

After his bath


In his saucer


Getting a doggie kiss (I washed his face right afterwards)


Back into luck mode.....

[GoJackets]

Jen, I love the bath shot the b est.....he is too cute and so happy!!!!! Post pictures anytime!!!

[gilbabe75]

Hey ladies.


Okay here goes on the question from last night


I always hit enter alot cuz if someone is going thru scanning my posts...they won't see this. LOL

I have to wear a pad/liner every day. I go thru 1 or 2 at least a day. BUT...that is just thin secretions.

I'm talking "getting wet" Just won't happen. And I can't even get into it no matter how hard I try. BUT..I'm horny as all get out! This did not happen with the last 2 kids.

Oh and Dena...tried myself and with DH. I have to say I'm damn good and I couldn't get myself there! It is SOOO frustrating! I cannot wait until post partum to "get off" LOL


Okay, Amy...ummm...without making you uncomfortable...is there a reason you are so uncomfortable with people touching you? And sex with DH...is this a weight issue? an issue with DH or just how you feel about sex in general? Maybe you could use someone to talk to about this. It is okay, if that is the way you feel and you aren't weird, but it isn't exactly healthy and normal.

HTH

Ladies, I'm having a crying day. WAAAAAAH....anyone with me?

[GoJackets]

Originally posted by gilbabe75
It is SOOO frustrating!

This sounds like a mental thing......are you putting too much emphasis on "finishing" that it is making it more difficult to actually do so? You know how we can be when we don't relax, try to get to our "goal" and then our brains get in the way?

[gilbabe75]

Originally posted by GoJackets
This sounds like a mental thing......are you putting too much emphasis on "finishing" that it is making it more difficult to actually do so? You know how we can be when we don't relax, try to get to our "goal" and then our brains get in the way?

Oh no...finishing would be a bonus...I can't even get wet. I think it is physical, not mental.

[Mrs Sarah]

Mandy: You are in my prayers!!! I hope this all works out!!!!

[SmileyAmy]

Becca ~ No, no reason...if you mean abuse or anything. I am just not touchy feely. I don't hug my friends or family really. I am just weird like that. I have this funny thing, worse when I was younger, but you know when someone just walks by and brushes you on the arm?? I would be freaking inside unitl I could "wipe off" the touch. Even when strangers hand me change, I hate when their hands touch me. People have told me that I am obsessive/compulsive. Maybe this is a symptom? Plus, DH and I aren't all lovey dovey. We sit on seperate couches, we don't cuddle. I have already told my friends and a couple of people I work with that they had better not touch me when I have a belly. A couple people already have and it just makes me totally uncomfortable and I want to grab their hands and be like "NO!".

Regarding the sex thing...I think a good part of it is a weight issue. DH says he doesn't notice or care...but I think I do. But, I just have no care to have it. I will think of every reason in the book to not have it. For the past 5 months, I think we have done it like 2...maybe 3 times. And, that is totally fine with me. I mean, once we are doing it, it is great. I just have no want for it. I don't know. It doesn't bother me...but I am sure it bothers DH. I am sure Dar could speak for my DH. Maybe after the baby is born I should mention it to my doctor. Its just that I never really mentioned it because I am fine with it. It isn't like I wish I had a libido...I don't care. I am fine with nothing.

I really am weird huh??

[heather123]

Morning~

So where's Martha at this morning?

You look cute Dar! Thanks for posting your experience with a 12 yo. I definatly know what you mean about the soda drinks. I just feel bad b/c I feel like I am constantly yelling at him and I know he came here to have fun on his vacation. This just wasn't a good week.

Becca-Sorry, I'm not having much of a problem in that area.

Amy-My dh is a VERY sexual person, and me? I have to be put in the mood, I'm pretty high maintenence in that department. But he works nights so we have to have quickies at like 2 in the afternoon. It's like a chore for me to do, I hate it, I am not turned on and ready to go with a snap of the finger. And I'm not too comfortable with him touching me, but that is just a weight related issue that really aggervates him. He dosen't have much intrest in feeling the baby, he's only touched my stomach once during this pregnancy and that kind of hurts my feelings.

Jen-What a cutie!!!! Post pictures anytime!

Louise-You never did say where you are skiing at, my brother is on his senior trip right now in Breckenridge, my husbands boss is somewhere in Colorado where there are hot springs inside of a cave, but DH couldn't remember where it is, have you ever heard of that before? Sounds creepy to me!

[Dar20]

Originally posted by SmileyAmy
It doesn't bother me...but I am sure it bothers DH. I am sure Dar could speak for my DH. Maybe after the baby is born I should mention it to my doctor. Its just that I never really mentioned it because I am fine with it. It isn't like I wish I had a libido...I don't care. I am fine with nothing.

I really am weird huh??

No, seriously, you're not weird. It's not an uncommon thing to have clashing libidos.

As far as the touching thing, OCD could perhaps have something to do with it. Both my MIL and SIL suffer from OCD, and they have 'issues' that are associated with it that aren't what you'd consider "typical". Most folks think of OCD people as constantly doing something over and over, but there are many other facets to it. Just be grateful you don't associate with too many Europeans. They are VERY touchy feely.

Ok, and I will speak on what I quoted above, on behalf of your DH. First a couple questions, though. Have you always been this way about sex? Have you and DH talked about it or argued about it? How do you think DH feels?

On to what I wanted to say.. and forgive the history here.. many of you can skip if you aren't interested. DH and I had a HOT sex life up until about a year before we married (we dated/were engaged for 7 1/2 years before we walked down the aisle). Several times a night was not unusual, and we even had weight issues back then. About a year before our wedding, we decided to abstain (stupid!!!) so that I could concentrate on finishing school and not stress over the possiblity of baby making. Duh... if we'd only known then how hard that would actually be!

To make a long story even longer, when we finally got married, DH was not interested in sex anymore. We did not consummate until Wednesday after our wedding! I had some bad feelings about it, of course I was wanting it much sooner than that! Fast forward about 5 years.. including MANY fights, LOOOOONG stints with no sex (one up to 11 months, another about 6 months). I considered divorce, wondered if my husband was gay, tried to get counseling, everything. I begged and pleaded with him to get help. He felt I was the odd one. I tried compromising.. maybe sex 1-2 times per month instead of once a week (which I wanted)? No such luck. At the same time, anytime we tried to have sex, it was often unsuccessful. DH came up with many excuses, anything he could think of. Looking back, I think it's because he just didn't know what was wrong. At one point, he told me he wasn't attracted to me anymore. I weighed my heaviest then.. 210. That one statement put me into a serious depression where I basically stopped eating, and lost 40 pounds in about 5 months down to 170. You'll notice that's my "start weight" in my profile. I didn't start Atkins until after DH did.

Finally, and I honestly don't know what the catalyst was - perhaps my depression, but DH started Atkins about 14 months ago. He lost weight quickly, and started to feel much better about himself. We had been discussing starting a family, and he knew that with the way things were, that wasn't going to happen without some divine intervention. So, he went for a physical and bloodwork. He found out that he suffers from low testosterone and ED. He also had a sperm count done, which was mostly fine. He could take testosterone therapy if he wants, but it will make him sterile. So, in the meantime, he uses Viagra to boost his.. uh.. ego. He'd like to go on the testosterone therapy, since it will level out his hormones (he suffers from hot flashes and other symptoms assoc. with low test.), but he's willing to wait until the kiddos are all made.

In the meantime, I just have to deal with the fact that my husband does not kiss me or hold my hand. Most of the time, I have a roommate. It's very hard.

I'm so sorry for the novel. In summary, I guess my point is that you will want to find out how DH really feels. So many say that they could live in a sexless marriage.. that is those who have never lived in one. I'd hate for your DH to feel the way I feel alot of the time.

And, at the same time, there are hormone therapies available for women to boost their libido, if you were interested in trying.

[heather123]

Dar-I think you and your dh are very strong many people would have divorced and not given it a second thought. There are days that I wish my husband would loose his sexual drive, I'm getting to the point where I almost told him to go find it from someone else. I'm hoping this is just pregnancy related, I'm *telling* myself it's pregnancy related!

[SmileyAmy]

Thanks Dar...I think the past several months I have used being pregnant as an excuse and I was half hoping DH wouldn't want to have "relations" when I was pregnant. No luck. I have always been like this. We will be together 8 years in May and he was my first. I just never have been into the whole sex thing. Before being pregnant, I would do it atleast 1 a week for him, but it was like a chore and it had to be at night, lights off. We have had a couple of fights about it. More because when we do do it, and I really don't want to, I kinda fight him on it. Like I am not really into it so I am like just do what you need to do and get off. I think it hurts his feelings. I might, later on, ask my doctor about taking something. For both of our sakes. I don't want him going anywhere else later on down the road bacause I wouldn't give in and he was tempted or frustrated.

Thanks for your input. I appreciate it.

Oh, and I haven't been diagnosed with OCD...my friends sister has it and I guess I have a lot of the similar traits. So says her and her mother. Things out of place drive me mad to the point where I can not concentrate. Things have to be a certain way or else I loose it! Ask DH...LOL!! Wait...I am having a baby!?!? How is this going to work!?!? Oh no!

[gilbabe75]

I have no picnic of a sex life either.

Some of you know that I got PG when I was ready to leave DH. He was selfmedicating his undiagnosed bipolar disorder and ADD with cocaine. He was controlling, and emotionally, physically and sexually abusive.

I only had sex when I had to with him. But would have had sex with someone else in a heartbeat.

Slowly I'm trying to get things back on track. This PG hormone mess isn't helping

Not that you needed to know any of that but since you all were sharing, I felt I would too.

[Dar20]

Becca, I knew you guys had troubles, but I didnt' realize it was like that. Are you in any condition (financially) to leave DH now? Are you still considering leaving? Being in an abusive relationship is much different than being in a relationship where the main issue is sex. I think getting out of your marriage would be more of a necessity.

[Mrs Sarah]

Dar: Huge hugs to you. You sound really frustrated. I'm so glad that your DH is willing to get help with it.

Smiley: It's probably worth your time to have a chat with your doc about it. It's probably something very easy to control. You might have a chemical imbalance that causes you to have no interest in sex. I'd definitely try, especially for DH's sake.

Becca: I'm so sorry. That situation sounds terrible.

[MadameX]

Hi Preggo mommies to be!!!!

Mandy~ Don't know where I've been, but I just read about your ordeal. Prayers coming to you from me that your babe is happy and healthy, even if a bit early. It sounds like you are getting the best care possible. I'm thinking about you, hon.

Dar~You look great!

Jen~Loved those pics from the LTBF board!

Dena~I love your belly shots! I love the one with both your hands too, but you can't see your beautiful face in that one though. Get several!

Smiley~Yay on the girl!

Becca~

Martha~You are so close!

Baby is sleeping, so I have to get some things done...but I'm thinking of you all and eagerly await your babes to get here!

XOXOXO
Kelley

[gilbabe75]

I'm not in any danger now. He actually did a 180 and is on meds. He doesn't abuse me and is sick about doing it. He is in counseling. I was. He really couldn't control it all. BUT...I have to do what is best for my family right now. My kids need us both.

[SmileyAmy]

Becca ~ I knew right before you found out your were PG, you were having some issues with DH, but I guess I didn't realized the extent. I am glad that he has turned around. Hopefully he stays on the right path!

Sarah ~ Yeah, I think I will mention it to my doctor after the baby if it doesn't get any better.

Needless to day, DH was in heaven while TTC!! Sometimes even worn out. Hee, hee...

Hi Kelley!!

[Jai]

LOL, I posted on Mondays thread... but I found you! HI!

[Dar20]

Hi, Jai!! Glad you found us.