Pregnancy Thread...Weekend Edition 12/4-12/5

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Teach2Live............David Morton..................Born 9/10/04
Shenandoah..........Surrogate Twins.............Born 9/20/04
babyblue26062.....Alexander Jude...............Born 9/29/04
Bozo......................Helen................... ...........Born 9/30/04
ThininMex..............Brianna Irish...................Born 10/05/04
little bear...............Aiden Xavier.................. Born 10/06/04
aphexacid..............Bethany Erin...................Born 10/08/04
lizzyd.....................Henry Stewart................Born 10/15/04
Mrs. Sarah.............Tanner.......................... ..Born 11/12/04
ChristinaK..............Josh...................... ..........Born 11/18/04
karatejen...............Murphy Archie................ Born 11/27/04

Surfdol.....................W37...............12/22/04
GetNSlim..................W37................12/24/04......Boy
DesperateInFL.........W35................01/07/05......Girl
Kay&Lydia................W33................01/18/05
Viki...........................W32................ 01/22/05......Girl
Shandril105..............W32............... 01/23/05......Girl
Nyanchan.................W32...............01/31/05......Girl
metroames...............W31................02/08/05......Boy
MadameX..................W31................02/09/05......Girl

AmyJuli.......................W26................0 3/10/05
JennPayton................W25................03/13/05......Girl
blueyedgrl..................W24................03/26/05
kimism........................W24................0 3/26/05......Girl
Heather123................W23................03/30/05.....Boy
shelly..........................W23............... .04/02/05
Marthad......................W21................04/11/05
Dar20..........................W20................ 04/16/05
Jefinner.......................W20................ 04/16/05
GoJackets....................W18...............05/03/05
mom2twoboys.............W18...............05/07/05
chels_hoff....................W17...............05/15/05
Denise85.....................W16...............05/22/05
tekla............................W16.............. .05/23/05
azktycat.......................W14...............0 5/30/05
michigangrad...............W14................06/01/05

Vixendrop....................W11.................0 6/18/05
ChristieJ.......................W11............... .06/19/05
jehcekah......................W11................0 6/22/05
gilbabe75.....................W10................0 6/25/05
Miss Gigl.......................W10................06/26/05
rooney..........................W10............... .06/30/05
AZparalegal..................W9..................0 7/01/05
Acutepenguin...............W8...................07/10/05
allibaba.........................W8............... ...07/12/05
Tbugs............................W6............... ...07/21/05
Mandyhoward...............W5..................07/30/05
SmileyAmy.....................W4.................. 08/08/05

Green12........................................... ...Trying!
2BFitHourglass.................................... Trying!
lil miss.............................................. ...Trying!
Nicole133......................................... ....Trying!
jeepifer.......................................... ......Trying!
StrawberryGirl.................................... ..Trying!
AnnieO............................................ .....Trying!
speckle........................................... ......Trying!
Alissaliz......................................... .......Trying!

[metroames]

Good morning ladies!

Not much time to post this morning. Got called in early to work to help out with some surface issues over in Tokyo with cross-winds. Just had a few minutes waiting for maps to print. And I'm dead tired on top of it all!

Have a great weekend everyone!

Ames

[GetNSlim]

Good morning ladies...it is not even 6:00 a.m. and I am up...which is unusual for me! Just wanted to let you all know that I am still here and haven't gone into labor yet! I have been so tired that last couple of days that I just haven't even logged on. UGH! I know I am going to be just as tired when Jonathan arrives, but atleast then I might actually be comfortable when I AM sleeping! Well, just wanted to say hello and hope everyone has a great, restful Saturday!

[nyanchan]

Hello all!

Hope everyone is well... I haven't been around lately due to a very late working schedule and some computer issues.

I can't believe that I'm in the 3rd trimester now. I just keep thinking that I'm so not ready to have this baby, and that a little more time would be nice!

Went to a breastfeeding class this week. It was pretty interesting and would highly recommend a class if you're thinking of breastfeeding. She spent a lot of time going over the different types of breast pumps and which ones would do the job for different circumstances. I was most grateful for this section, as the pump I was thinking of getting would not do the job for when I go back to work.

Dealing with more marital issues that have popped up. DH isn't being very empathetic, so I'm missing out on some much needed "couple love", if you know what I mean. Not the physical side, just the holding hands, cuddling kind of stuff. I was so upset at how much our relationship has changed that I wished for a moment that I wasn't pregnant, so we could go back to the way we were. (It makes me tear up just typing about it). I just think that he's so terrified of what's to come, that he's afraid to touch me. This has got to be a pretty common thing, as my friend & I compared notes yesterday and the same thing is happening to her and she's only 21 weeks. Oh well, I guess it's just a husband phase and it too shall pass.

Happier note: My MIL and I are going to register today. I was reading about showers in a recent thread... My best friend is throwing me a big one on 1/15. She's combining personal & work shower.... Having a shower at work always turns into a nightmare, so we just decided to invite everyone to her place. My wedding shower at work was so horrible (2 women crying, hissy fits, general nastiness) that I told a few key people that a baby shower was out of the question. I work with a bunch of old biddies who's sole purpose in life is to out-do and make each other miserable. Out of 10 people in my group, there are only 4 that are decent and only 2 that I would trust. ARGHHH!

As the other Florida mommies can attest, it's been on the cooler side. I was so cold last night that I wore a wool nitegown (that I've had since 9th grade ) to bed last night. DH was freezing in his boxers, but I was nice and toasty!

I'll have Guy (DH) help me post a belly pic and one of the nursery that's painted and the border put up.

Wishing everyone the best!

Dierdre

[mandyhoward]

Good morning. I just lurked yesterday b/c I was exhausted. I made a 2.5 hour drive (during my nap time, lol) to have my aunt do an early U/S. She said everything looked good. Implantation was high in the uterus and I had a really good, thick lining. She did she some excess blood, which could be what I've been spotting out this week.






Unfortunately, I'm trying not to get to attached to this little grain of rice. I had some bright red spotting last night. I didn't know what to do or who to call, so I just went to bed. I keep telling myself that if I'm going to miscarry, there is nothing I can do to prevent it; it will happen regardless. I'm trying not to get my hopes up or too far ahead of where I am in case something bad happens. This morning the spotting had returned to being a brown color. My doctor's nurse told me to call her if anything changed, but what do you do if something happens on the weekend when their office isn't open? Do you just wait until Monday to report?


Sorry I wrote a book. I'm just feeling discouraged.

Mandy

[vixendrop]

Doctor's offices will have either an after hours# or an answering service during their closed hours... you should call the office number and either have the answering service page whoever is on call, or else call the after hours number they mention on their recording... if something is worrying you, or if something really does go wrong, never wait until office hours.. don't be worried about bugging them, trust me, they have people calling them for much more minor things!

[GoJackets]

Mandy, are you feeling any discomfort at all?

[mandyhoward]

Originally posted by GoJackets
Mandy, are you feeling any discomfort at all?

No, I feel fine. My back feels a bit sore, but it usually feels that way after I sleep for a long time.

Mandy

[kimism]

Well, I'm up for a few minutes and thought I'd check in. Things are still going good. I've remembered all my meds and am setting my alarm clock to wake me during the night to remember to take them. Hubby was so sweet lastnight, he works for UPS and doesn't get home till after 10 pm. Last night at 8 he called me from work just to remind me to take my meds.


Nyanchan....sorry to hear about you and your hubby. I bought a pregnancy support book for my husband. It explains things that are happening to my body and why. And also talks about any fears and stuff the husband may be feeling and reasures them that it's normal. Maybe you can find him one...it might help a little.

Mandy....glad to see the ultrasound. Is this your first pregnancy? If you have good insurance this is just a thought.....I've gone to the ER several times (especially during the beginning of this pregnancy) and told them I was cramping (in your case you wouldn't have to tell them this if you're spotting, the spotting would warrant an ultrasound) just to get an ultrasound to reasure myself. I know that may sound horrible to some...but sometimes it just helped relieve my mind for a few days.

Hope everyone has a good weekend.

Kim

[Miss Gigl]

Good morning ladies...

Wow am I glad it's a weekend. I thought this past week would never end! I'm so ready for 2 days of sleeping late, sitting around in sweats, and ordering DH around!

Mandy: Sorry to hear you are so discouraged but I can TOTALLY relate. All I can say is that spotting (even red) is very common and may or may not be anything at all. I know that doesn't help at all :-/ Just do what you can to relax and keep your mind off of it. Call your doctor as much as you need to if it helps reassure you. No cramps is also a very good sign, btw.

Kimism: Sounds like your DH is a keeper, what a sweetie!

Vixendrop, Ames, & Dena: Hi!!! /wave

Dierdre: Have fun registering!! I was going to do that before Christmas but I don't want to jinx myself just yet. Sorry to hear about the difficulties with DH.

GetNSlim: Oooo!!! You are getting close!!! Good luck getting that rest.

Meg

[MadameX]

Happy weekend all!

Up at 5 a.m. again...I decorated the trees, and will hang a wreath or two and that'll be it for my Christmas decorations this year. My DH won't do it, so if I didn't it would not get done, and that would be too sad! All our neighbors have their outside lights professionally done, so ours looks like the bah humbug house anyway with no outside lights. I asked one neighbor how much it cost, and he just said "expensive". I'm curious, but not enough to call for an estimate, LOL. Apparently if you have a light burn out, the technicians rush over with their ladders to fix it right away.

Kim~Congrats on the girl! I'm glad it went well. I read your post from a couple days ago and superimposed all your symptoms onto myself, and was convinced I was going into PTL. I finally pooped this morning and all those symptoms went away. Sorry TMI.

Mandy~ I agree with Meg, the spotting could be nothing...I hope so.Just try not to stress in the meantime. You did see a sac with a grain of rice!

Vixen~Did you go natural with your first? I'm not anti-drugs, but I don't want an epidural, so I guess that means "au natural" unless I let them give me some loopy narcotic (not an option). I think you can still have excellent medical care without drugs, and that's why our infant mortality rates have dropped so dramatically, because of improved technology and care, not the use of pain medication.

Dierdre~ Sorry abour your hubby issue. I thought we were having issues too, until I realized it was ME that didn't want him to touch me, I just didn't feel sexy or in the mood (although you don't have to be "in the mood" for affection). We went on vacation a couple weeks ago and it was so romantic, it really changed everything for me, and I realized he still finds me attractive, big ol' belly or no. Could you two take some time for just you two maybe? Sorry too about the workplace shower fireworks...sounds like Melrose Place!

Hi Chels!
Hi Dena! Cool pregnancy calculator, thanks for the link!

GetNslim~You're Get'n close, woman! Hang in there.

Ames~I hear ya on the tiredness. Are you having insomnia too? I just can't go back to sleep if I happen to wake up in the night...which I do...to pee!

Later ladies!

Kelley

[vixendrop]

Originally posted by MadameX
Vixen~Did you go natural with your first? I'm not anti-drugs, but I don't want an epidural, so I guess that means "au natural" unless I let them give me some loopy narcotic (not an option). I think you can still have excellent medical care without drugs, and that's why our infant mortality rates have dropped so dramatically, because of improved technology and care, not the use of pain medication.

Yep, completely 100% natural. I dropped my doctor when I was about 6 months along because I could tell he was already planning tons of stupid interventions... like he was planning continuous monitoring, IV, etc... so I started looking for a midwife.

I believe that the reasons for improved mortality rates has to do with technology before and during the pregnancy which can identify problems, such as GD, pre-eclampsia, etc. And the use of technology certainly helps with pre-term births, etc. But do pain meds fall into that? No... I don't think using pain medicine has improved mortality rates at all. How could they? They help the symptoms (the pain), but they don't stop any possible complications. In fact, as I mentioned before, they can actually help CAUSE complications. No, not in all cases, but that's not something I'm at all willing to take a chance with.

I don't think anything bad of women who chose to not go *au natural*, it's their own personal choice. And knowing the options available is certainly better to make an informed choice. But I still believe that women are designed to do this on their own, 100% natural.

[mandyhoward]

Originally posted by kimism

Mandy....glad to see the ultrasound. Is this your first pregnancy? If you have good insurance this is just a thought.....I've gone to the ER several times (especially during the beginning of this pregnancy) and told them I was cramping (in your case you wouldn't have to tell them this if you're spotting, the spotting would warrant an ultrasound) just to get an ultrasound to reasure myself. I know that may sound horrible to some...but sometimes it just helped relieve my mind for a few days.

Hope everyone has a good weekend.

Kim

I have Tricare Prime (military insurance) and I'm pretty sure it covers 100% of almost everything. I've decided that if I see red again, even if its only once at midnight, I'm going to the ER. Today's spotting has slacked off a lot since this morning, but that seems to be a pattern I've got going. Still no cramping, which gives me a bit of reassurance. Why didn't anyone tell me that this pregnancy stuff was so stressful? I thought I'd be stress free until the actual kid came! LOL

Mandy

ETA: Yes, this is my first pregnancy.

[lizzyd]

Hi Mommies,

Hope you are all well.

I just wanted to chime in and say to Vixendrop I couldn't agree with you more. My deliveries have run the gammut.

The former head of Maternal and Fetal Health at the World Health Organization (WHO) I think his name is Henci Goer or something like that, has been quoted as saying that the back-lying position in which many women labor and push is the worst possible position to labor in, next to hanging by the ankles from the ceiling.

As for the drugs, it's been shown time and time again that UNNECESSARY interventions can lead to increased maternal and fetal morbidity and mortality.

For all of our wonderful science in the US, we are something like 9th on the list of developed countries in maternal and fetal morbidity and mortality.

The countries that consistently have healthier birth rates are those that typically depend on homebirths, mid-wives, and little or no drugs or intervention (England, Holland, Japan).

In those counties, one sees an OB only if there is a serious problem with the pregnancy.

If you think about it, if everything goes the way it should, there shouldn't be anything for an OB to do. The body is designed to do it all by itself.

Having said all that, I've ended up with two c-sections, and boy was I glad the technology was available when I truly did need it. A hundred years ago my baby and I probably would have died in childbirth. So, it truly is a double edged sword. It saves lives, but you can have too much of a good thing.

JMHO

Regards,
LizzyD

[SmileyAmy]

Hi everyone!!

Mandy ~ I am sorry you are having a bit of a scare...I hope everything goes well.

Ames ~ Sorry you are so busy and work and on top of that, you are so tired. I hope you are able to get some rest.

GetNSlim ~ Your time is almost up!! Hope that the rest of you pregnancy goes well!

Dierdre ~ I hope you and your husband get through this rough time. Maybe you just need some special time alone.

Kim ~ Glad you are feeling better. I hope the doctors give you the okay soon so you can get back to your life!

Meg ~ You aren't the only one glad its the weekend! I slept until 10:30 this morning. It's now past 7:00PM and I am still in my PJ's!!

Kelley ~ People actually pay to have their lights put on professionally!?!? I think that is what makes Christmas fun!! I love decorating! Glad you got what you could up. My DH doesn't help with that stuff either.

vixendrop ~ I commend you women who go natural! Not me - give me the drugs!!

Hi Lizzy and Dena!!

So, we told DH's family last night. They were thrilled. It was DH's mothers birthday so we wrapped up a rattle and gave it to her. It took her a second to figure it out but then her gaw just dropped and she grabbed me!! His father just had this surprised look on his face. Later when my SIL came in and my MIL told her to go look at her present, she totally didn't get it. She was like "a rattle?" We seriously ended up having to say "what is a rattle for" and then she got a surprised look on her face and she said "your pregnant!?!?" We all just laughed.

So, I had a breakdown this morning. I don't know if it is emotions kicking in or what. But I started to freak about how we were going to be able to afford a baby!! I was crying to DH and he was so cute. He was like "This is a happy time - don't cry. We will figure it out - don't worry" and "This is a critical time in your pregnancy. You need to calm down..." I just started laughing and asked him if he was reading my pregnancy books. I am fine now, but all of a sudden the though of the costs of things freaked me out! I got so scared. Now I am fine again. I know we will make it work - it will be tough, but we will.

Did any of you have a "break down" of sorts - worrying about how you were going to take care of a child? Or am I just weird??

Well, I have to go get dressed. We are headed to DH's aunts house to help them decorate their tree with their 2 year old. Should be fun.

Talk to you all later!

[GoJackets]

Originally posted by SmileyAmy

Did any of you have a "break down" of sorts - worrying about how you were going to take care of a child? Or am I just weird??

I'm so glad it went well!!!!

Extremely normal!!!!! You will probably find a chapter or two on it in those books you bought.....and sometimes it doesn't go away...not for me at least...I worry about every thing.....I even cry at sporting events (even when we are winning).....WTH?

[nyanchan]

Congrats Amy! I'm glad that things with family is going well... Your husband is right, it will all work out!

My MIL & I spent 2.5 hours in Babies-R-Us registering. Good thing she went with me, because if it had been me alone or DH &I, we would have been out of there in 10 minutes flat and not registered for anything! I felt bad registering for all that stuff... It was all so expensive, and I feel super greedy. I'm not even sure if we got everything that a baby would need...

I don't think that I have a clue!

Anyway... registered, went to lunch, looked at a furniture store for a glider chair, then Joanne's to get fabric for curtains, then the Merle Normal store for MIL. Left the house at 10 and back at 4. I'm paying now! My hips are so sore I can barely walk! She has another marathon day planned for next Sunday, but I'm going to have to tell her that we need to tone it down!

All the talk of natural births.... I'm planning on having as few interventions as possible. I am keeping my options open, but as this is probably my first & last child, I want to experience the birt h process as much as possible. I know that sounds crazy.... I feel crazy when I say it too! Talked to my doula about it, and she understood soooo....

D~

[allibaba]

Originally posted by SmileyAmy


Did any of you have a "break down" of sorts - worrying about how you were going to take care of a child? Or am I just weird??

It hit me on the way home from my u/s the other day when we found out about the twins. I was all giddy and in La La land and then we got home and got the mail. Of course there were bills in it and it hit me like a ton of brick!!! We're HAVING TWO!!!!!!!!!! So, I'd say it's perfectly normal to worry about it, I've been worrying if I can be a good mother to two newborns and a 3 yearold all at once .

Hang in there, it's a wonderful journey .
Alli

[naerenaenae]

I hope you don't mind if I join the thread. Let me tell you a little about myself. I thought I was infertile. I suffered from PCOS and hadn't menstrated naturally in over 10 years. I lost 35 pounds with Atkins and bam... I'm pregnant. I'm concidered high risk so things have been touch and go for awhile. I've known about the pregnancy since early October (I'm due June 18th). I tend to blood clot so I take blood thinner on a daily basis. Because of the risk of birth defects, I was switched to a type of blood thinner that is injected into the stomach area. Apparently, the medication doesn't cross the placenta and the baby never is exposed. That was reassuring to find out about. However, the shots hurt and I now have bruises all over my stomach. I'm also still suffering from morning sickness. I find that it gets worse when I drink milk so I'm not drinking any for awhile. I am so tired of being depressed. Is that normal? I tend to cry over everything and I'm sad all the time. I love the idea of being pregnant but I'm miserable. Don't get me wrong, this baby is a gift from God and I am very grateful. I just wish I could enjoy the process more.

On a positive note, I've had an ultrasound done already. The doctor couldn't determine when I conceived because of my PCOS so he checked with an ultrasound. A month later, I got to hear my baby's heart beat. Now, that was cool! It really brought things into perspective.

[Mrs Sarah]

Renae: Are you taking Lovenox or Heparin? I was on Lovenox for my pregnancy (still am for a few weeks). Just wanted to let you know that we have a healthy baby boy now. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!!

Smiley: You are prefectly normal. I freaked out when I got pregnant too, and I'd been trying for 10 months!!

[naerenaenae]

Originally posted by Mrs Sarah
Renae: Are you taking Lovenox or Heparin? I was on Lovenox for my pregnancy (still am for a few weeks). Just wanted to let you know that we have a healthy baby boy now. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!!

I'm taking Lovenox. I'm so glad to hear your baby is healthy!

[vixendrop]

Hey Renae! I'm so glad you're here! Welcome!

[metroames]

naerenaenae! I'll add ya to the list Monday if I start it.

Originally posted by MadameX
Ames~I hear ya on the tiredness. Are you having insomnia too? I just can't go back to sleep if I happen to wake up in the night...which I do...to pee!

No, I'm not having insomnia. Last week, since my husband had surgery and I was off from work I stayed up later during the day all week. To get back on track I short-changed myself by an hour the day before I was going back to work. I went to bed just fine that day, but then I got called in early because of the Tokyo surface issues. That short-changed me two days in a row.

I got home yesterday morning just dead tired and ended up napping for about 45 minutes. It ended up hurting me though, because then I couldn't go to sleep at my regular time. So, I feel groggy yet again tonight. We will be going to church this morning so I won't be able to nap...so hopefully I'll be back on track tonight.

I've actually been sleeping pretty good. I hope I continue and not start getting the insomnia.

Ames