Pregnancy Thread.....Wednesday, 11/17

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Teach2Live............David Morton..................Born 9/10/04
Shenandoah..........Surrogate Twins.............Born 9/20/04
babyblue26062.....Alexander Jude...............Born 9/29/04
Bozo......................Helen................... ...........Born 9/30/04
ThininMex..............Brianna Irish...................Born 10/05/04
little bear...............Aiden Xavier.................. Born 10/06/04
aphexacid..............Bethany Erin...................Born 10/08/04
lizzyd.....................Henry Stewart................Born 10/15/04
Mrs. Sarah.............Tanner.......................... ..Born 11/12/04

karatejen.................W39...............11/26/04.......Boy
ChristinaK................W38...............12/02/04.......Boy
GetNSlim..................W35................12/24/04......Boy
supportinghubby.....W34................12/30/04......Girl
DesperateInFL.........W33................01/07/05......Girl
Kay&Lydia................W31................01/18/05
Viki...........................W30................ 01/22/05......Girl
Shandril105..............W30............... 01/23/05......Girl
Nyanchan.................W30...............01/31/05......Girl
metroames...............W29................02/08/05......Boy
MadameX..................W29................02/09/05......Girl

AmyJuli.......................W24................0 3/10/05
JennPayton................W23................03/13/05......Girl
blueyedgrl..................W22................03/26/05
kimism........................W22................0 3/26/05......Girl
Heather123................W21................03/30/05
shelly..........................W21............... .04/02/05
Marthad......................W19................04/11/05
Dar20..........................W18................ 04/16/05
Jefinner.......................W18................ 04/16/05
GoJackets....................W16...............05/03/05
mom2twoboys.............W16...............05/07/05
chels_hoff....................W15...............05/15/05
Denise85.....................W14...............05/22/05

azktycat.....................W12................05/30/05
michigangrad.............W12.................06/01/05
Vixendrop..................W9...................06/18/05
ChristieJ.....................W9.................. 06/19/05
jehcekah....................W9..................06/22/05
gilbabe75...................W8..................06/25/05
Miss Gigl.....................W8..................06/26/05
rooney.......................W8..................0 6/30/05
AZparalegal...............W7...................07/01/05
allibaba......................W6.................. 07/12/05

Green12........................................... ...Trying!
2BFitHourglass.................................... Trying!
SmileyAmy......................................... ..Trying!
lil miss.............................................. ...Trying!
MarriedinSept..................................... .Trying!
Nicole133......................................... ....Trying!
jeepifer.......................................... ......Trying!
StrawberryGirl.................................... ..Trying!
AnnieO............................................ .....Trying!
speckle........................................... ......Trying!
Alissaliz......................................... .......Trying!

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Good morning ladies!

I feel soooo much better tonight. I slept really good. My husband and I had went shopping with my aunt Saturday morning and found some really good deals on a co-sleeper and stroller/car seat, but was disappointed in the dressers the baby stores had to offer. My aunt took us out and about to furniture stores yesterday (she's more comfortable driving around the cities than us from small-town Iowa ). We found a perfect dresser at HOM furniture that is low enough and wide enough that I can put a changing pad on top, which is what I had in mind. I also like that it is made of real wood and since it is lower I don't think it would topple over easily. We didn't buy it today, because we figured there might be a Thanksgiving sale or something in the next few weeks like a lot of furniture stores have....but that's the one we are gonna get. Then I get to start putting the nursery together, oh boy!

DesperateInFL, I hope everything works out ok with your job. Hang in there and try not to stress.

Sarah, I'm sooo glad that Tanner is doing better. He'll be home before ya know it.

Originally posted by GoJackets
I'm actually hoping this baby will bring me and my mother closer together. We just don't relate. We love each other, but have very different interests. This will put us on common ground (motherhood).

Hey, GoJackets and SmileyAmy....I've got mother problems too. My mom and I don't relate well either. In fact we were at each other throats most of my high school years. Then she told me that being a meteorologist was a brainless job (she thought they all just read the weather on TV ) and I shouldn't go out of state for school because it was too far from home (exactly what I wanted, in addition to getting the best schooling for my field). Then when I got my job as a meteorologist and still going to school (long story, but I actually got hired because of my internship before I graduated...so I flew back and forth from Minneapolis to Oklahoma City every week for two semesters) she told me that it was a bad idea and I couldn't handle the stress. In actuality, she was stressing me out because my wedding was planned for the summer between my traveling excursions. She ended up taking over the wedding plans (even though I had everything planned out the summer before) and we ended up parting ways after the wedding because of surmounting friction between us.

I didn't talk to either of my parents for nearly 3 years. When my sweetie and I started TTC he thought that it wasn't right how our relationship fell apart. He took it upon himself to try and get us to work it out. Basically, my parents wouldn't apologize (which I'm still not happy about) but just "go from here" kind of thing. I knew that this whole thing wouldn't work without a grandchild in the picture and evidently God didn't either, because I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks before I met with my parents.

I admit that the baby has been the center of our healing. I am still bitter in many aspects, but I'm trying to get over it. I have to admit that I'm thankful that my mother works full time and seems disinterested with coming to stay after the baby comes. I wouldn't be comfortable with that at all. My MIL will be staying with me, but she will be retired and she breast fed too (something my mother didn't have any desire to do) so I feel she can help me a lot more and be more supportive than my mother. I just feel more comfortable with my MIL and I hope that doesn't drive a bigger wedge between my mother and I. But on the other hand she has hurt me so bad that I plan to be very cautious around her and do not plan to try to have a "close" relationship with her. I do feel better that we are talking again though. That has weighed heavy on my heart for the past several years.

Anyway...I'm rambling now. But I just want those of you with mother problems to know that you are not alone.

Well, I'd better get some work done now. Have a happy hump day everyone!

Ames

[Laprettygurl]

Hi all,

Just wanted to pop in and say congrats to Sarah and Tanner!! I read your story and it made me cry.

He's just a doll though! Wow, gorgeous! I love that fresh "newborn" look!!!

[Marthad]

Morning everyone,

Sarah, I'm glad Tanner is doing better, hopefully you can take him home soon!

I actually slept really well last night sans hubby. However, I woke up at 4:30 and started rearanging our sitting room in the bedroom...then I started vacuuming, stripped the bed and did two loads of laundry! Am I nuts?! I didn't get anything done yesterday--I was feeling really sick, probably from bad carb weening. I feel better today, but am now feeling like I need a nap! Now the question is how long will it last? I had cravings yesterday, but I was queasy too, and nothing really sounded good except potato or pasta, so I didn't eat much at all beyond some taco salad. I feel like such a cow, mostly because I gained 25lbs prior to this pregnancy (due to stress mainly, I think) So far, I lost 10 lbs in the first tri, and now have gained 14 for a net 4 lb gain. It's mostly in my tummy, though, as most clothes still fit fairly well...Now I just have to try to figure out what kind of wardrobe additions I should get in the US next month....

Hope everyone has a great day!

[little bear]

morning ladies

Sarah - so glad tanner is doing better - yes the first diaper change is exciting - and i have good news for you, you will have tons and tons more!

ames - good morning - the dresser sounds great

pauline - good to see u - hows the baby?

[BrattyChelle]

G'Morning Ladies!

Sarah...so glad Tanner is doing better!!! Keeping fingers crossed all goes well with the removal of the ventilator.

Ames....sounds like you hit some great sales!!

Laprettygirl....glad to see you Hope little one is well.

Marthad.....seriously, next time you wake that early to clean, call me!! I'll give ya directions


Doing well here. Going to be a bit more diligent about eating, period. My 6 lbs. loss in the last 2 weeks has me a bit worried seeing all I'm doing is losing lately at my docs appts. I'm wondering if my loss of appetite is simply because there's no room or stress induced.

Busy busy today....we picked up the crib, mattress and some storage items for the closet so it has forced me to finally tackle cleaning out the kids' room closet and our own to make room for everything. That way hubby has no excuse for not putting the crib together for me this weekend. Not to mention the unfinished rocking chair that hasn't been touched in weeks. Maybe I'll sand that myself this afternoon if it stays cool...maybe then he'll get the hint! MEN!

BBL after a little more cleaning!! Guess this is one positive to being forced out of work LOL

[SmileyAmy]

Ames ~ Sorry about your mother issues. I guess I should feel lucky that my mother and I get along great. It is just that she is very opinionated and sometimes says things that I feel is unecessary and sometimes hurtful whether she knows it or not. For instance, I was annoyed with DH because I had spent all day making home made spaghetti sauce and meatballs and planned on having a nice dinner. Well, he called me at like 4:45 and said he was going to be late because he was doing his friend Lorraine (yes a girl) a favor. I got upset because he knew that I was cooking dinner. So, I got off the phone and was venting to my mom about how DH can't say "no" to anyone so he was going to be late and we should eat without him. I mentioned how my mothers husband is the same way and she replied "Yes, but I would NEVER let my DH do any favors or hang out with another woman!" I told her that I had no issues with it, that I trust him and she is a friend of ours and she was like "Well, it isn't right and if he was my husband he wouldn't be doing that." In my head I am like - well he isn't your husband is he? Just made me mad. I guess you just have to live your life and ignore what others say - including family members. You must be excited to get the baby furniture - and to get the room all set up! How exciting!!

Hi Ladyprettygirl!

Martha ~ Geeze...you are a woman on a mission!! You got a lot of work done this morning, didn't you. I wish I was that productive while at work all day!

Hi Amy(bear)!!

Michelle ~ Don't over do it today! I hope you have a productive day today! When do you go back to work??

Sarah ~ Hope you check in today! I am glad Tanner is doing better. I almost cried when you said how excited you were to change his diaper. How sweet... Do the doctors have any idea when Tanner may be able to come home?

Nothing going on with me...I think I Ovulated on Monday. One more high temp and I will know for sure. DH and I are going to BD one more time for good measure tonght - just in case. Then I promised DH that after I O we will "do it" his way - me on top. Ugh...I hate doing it that way. He is getting darn tired of from behind and missionary - but we just can't loose any guys.

Well, I should get to work...BBL!

[BrattyChelle]

Originally posted by SmileyAmy
Michelle ~ Don't over do it today! I hope you have a productive day today! When do you go back to work??
! [/b]

Amy....wish I knew when I was going back!!

However....I'm seeking some advice/feedback from ya'll regarding an opportunity I've been given but not sure I should take.

I was handed the fax numbers of both the district rep. and the owner of my facility where I work. I filed a complaint/concern 3 weeks ago tomorrow with corporate and have yet to get a response. It has been suggested to me to fax both of these gentleman stating that I have had no response to complaint # blah blah blah that I filed....and describe the current situation of being on forced leave of absence with no pay after a letter from my doctor released me to work with no limitations.

Should I or shouldn't I take this route??

[SmileyAmy]

Michelle...I would do it. Make them aware of this. If your manager or your managers manager isn't going to do anything, you need to go to the big wigs. JMO.

How they are handling this is crazy...maybe the big guys have no idea about it.

[vixendrop]

I would do it too Michelle, but you've been in contact with a lawyer about this too haven't you? (I am feeling extremely foggy right now... please excuse my memory) It might be a good idea to run that past your lawyer first... at the very least you could probably get some suggestions on how to word it most effectively.

[ChristinaK]

Sarah - I'm so glad Tanner is doing better. he gets off the ventilator today.


Sorry for all the mother issues....I really miss my mom these days but at least I can say that we always got along really well and she was always a wonderful mother and a friend. I know I was lucky to have that.

Michelle - I bet all the stress is affecting your appetite. Did you talk to your attorney about whether you should escalate your complaint up the chain of command? I would think you should based on what you have told us about the situation.

Can I just say that I am sooo ready to have this baby???? I went in for my appt yesterday and I was 1 1/2 to 2 cm dilated and 40% effaced. She was running behind because she had delivered a baby and they put me on the monitor late for my nonstress test. She had several other patients in labor and had to go back to the hospital. I had to go over with her because the baby wasn't accelerating his heartrate as much as he needed to for the NST. DH had to leave me at the hospital and go pick up DS and our niece. My inlaws went on vacation this week even though I told them months ago when they were scheduling it that it wasn't a good idea and we had no one else to pick up DS plus we are watching our niece this week. I was having contractions the whole time I was on the monitor and my back was really hurting so she checked me again before sending me home. No change so I got another sleeping pill. I went to bed at 6:30. Woke up after midnight with contractions in my back. DH rubbed my back and I went back to sleep. About 3 I woke up with very painful contractions that started in my back. I tried drinking water, getting on my hands and knees, rocking on my exercise ball, having DH rub my back etc and nothing really helped. I was crying a lot because it really hurt and I was nauseous to boot.

About 4:45 DH asked if we should call the dr. I told him no because they would just say to come in and get checked and I wasn't convinced it was the real deal plus what in the world were we going to do with the kids? About 6 the contractions subsided some and I dozed back off. DH got up and took the kids to school and went to work. He called my boss for me because I was crying from contractions again when it was time to call in. I managed to go back to sleep for awhile after they all left but I was still having contractions. I'm still having them now but they are not quite as painful as they were earlier.

At this point I am not convinced that I will know if I really go into labor unless my water breaks. I have had regular contractions for over an hour for days.

I will be having the baby by the 26th at the latest though. The dr doesn't want me to go past 39 weeks because of the gestational diabetes. She said if I don't go on my own by the 23rd we would see how my cervix looks then. I can either have a csection on the 24th or get induced or have a csection on the 26th. DH wants to go with the 26th either way since it would be the day after Thanksgiving instead of the day before.

Off to sit on my exercise ball again....

[JennPayton]

Hi Girls! I haven't checked in for a few days - my there's been a lot going on!

SARAH - I am so overjoyed for you and Mason. I know its been a rough start for you - but Tanner is beautiful!! Please keep us updated. Your new little family are in my prayers! Oh - and keep the pictures coming! Especially when Tanner gets to enjoy his very own bed!

DESP - I kind of feel like, what do you have to lose? You might as well try, you know? Good luck and keep us updated.

Martha - send some of that energy this way! You go Girl! You deserve a nap - take one!

Ames - Thanks for sharing about your Mom. I am glad that you don't have to carry around the burden of not speaking at all. Maybe you have reached a happy medium with her - you speak, but you aren't trying to be best friends, you know?

Amy - I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! Have fun BDing - maybe this is your month! How is charting going for you this time around? Any easier?

What week begins the 3rd trimester? I can't seem to find a clear answer to that question!

BBL!

[SmileyAmy]

Originally posted by JennPayton
Amy - I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! Have fun BDing - maybe this is your month! How is charting going for you this time around? Any easier?

I am keeping my fingers crossed too...Charting is a lot easier. At least I sort of know what I am looking for this month. I am crossing my fingers that I O'd on Monday...I just want to get on to the 2WW - even though that is H3LL!!

I keep thinking that if I found out this month that I am pregnant, it would be around Thanksgiving. I think I would try my hardest to wait to tell my family - at least DH's family because they would be the only ones happy - at Christmas. DH's family will be over our house on Christmas Eve and it would be nice to give them all a "present". Although, I shouldn't get my hopes up. You know how that goes. I used Intead Cups this month and am hoping I am one of those women who gets pregnant right away using them. I have heard a lot of woman do.

Anyway...back to reality now.

[BrattyChelle]

Thank you guys for your support and your advice....but it's come down to the answer I didn't want.

I haven't been able to find a lawyer that will take the case...or I keep getting reffered to different lawyers who ultimately "don't handle that line of expertise." It has been a very frustrating road legally and even the advocate groups do not know what recourse to suggest for me.

In the end....my own primary OB/gyn sealed my fate and I'm extremely disappointed in how it was handled. Turns out that when she received the letter from my employer (after another doctor in the practice faxed my employer a letter of limitation with only a weight lifting limitation) that also included a "job description"....she refaxed him stating the workplace was a safety risk to my pregnancy. Which in turn makes me question the validity of the job description they received because the one I saw was not yet modified and my admin stated that himself. I also question why my doctor would not call me to verify if that job description did indeed match my current job. So I'm waiting to hear from my doctor's office...I also let them know they have now created more stress for me by my being out of work an additional 6 weeks financially then if I was forced to deal with my workplace situation.

So I think it's time to go have a good cry in a hot shower....because at this point I'm at a total loss of what to do.

[SmileyAmy]

Oh Michelle...

I am so sorry for this. You don't need any more stress in your life/pregnancy. You must be very upset at both your work and your doctor. I would be. Especially the run around that you are getting from lawyers. I don't know what advice to give...I just want to offer hugs and support. I am very, very sorry you are going through this. Try to stay calm - for the baby - and yourself.

I hope this gets resolved...and I hope everything works out for the best. Take your hot shower, cry and then try to relax. You don't want to put your or your babys health in jepordy.

{{{{{Michelle}}}}}

[ChristinaK]

Oh Michelle....


Have you tried the lawyer that's representing the guy who filed the lawsuit? Also you might call the Florida State Bar and see if they can refer you to anyone.

What about your health insurance and your accrued leave?

What a mess....I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

[Suzanne]

Sarah, thanks for sharing the good news about Tanner. I hope everything goes well taking him off the venitilator. Woohoo on the first diaper change. Brianna was a meconium baby, too, and she didn't poop again for a week. There is some good info about breast feeding, pumping, and increasing your milk supply at:

Breast Feeding

Keep us posted on Tanner's progress. Can't wait for you to take your baby home!

[Suzanne]

{{{{Michelle}}}}

[Mrs Sarah]

Thanks everyone!

We went back last night to visit him, he's still doing well. He didn't handle the feeding well. His little tummy and intestines just are ready for all of that yet. I'm not sure when they will try it again, maybe a later today or tomorrow. We'll see.

As for me, I'm very sore. Mason and I talked last night... I'm trying to do too much. I'm trying to be everywhere at once and am not taking care of myself. I have to remember that I just had major surgery. So, today I will be home a lot more to rest. I'll be calling for updates on Tanner. We will go down to see him later on this afternoon. I've been making multiple trips and I'm wearing out. I don't want to be sick when my baby comes home, ya know?

[SmileyAmy]

Sarah ~ It must be hard - you want to be going to the hospital all the time and carrying on as normal a life as possible. You are right, you just had major surgery and you are probably very stressed out right now. Take some time and relax and regain your energy so that you can be well for Tanner. Your DH is right.

Hugs to you...

[little bear]

More pics!

bbl

http://awright5.photosite.com/

[heather123]

Michelle

[TRACY2]

Originally posted by Mrs Sarah
Thanks everyone!

We went back last night to visit him, he's still doing well. He didn't handle the feeding well. His little tummy and intestines just are ready for all of that yet. I'm not sure when they will try it again, maybe a later today or tomorrow. We'll see.

As for me, I'm very sore. Mason and I talked last night... I'm trying to do too much. I'm trying to be everywhere at once and am not taking care of myself. I have to remember that I just had major surgery. So, today I will be home a lot more to rest. I'll be calling for updates on Tanner. We will go down to see him later on this afternoon. I've been making multiple trips and I'm wearing out. I don't want to be sick when my baby comes home, ya know?

Sarah- I also had a section and I was hardly able to walk for at least a week, plus my DD was having a blood transfusion and needed another week in the hospital. I lived next to her crib, when they let me, its very very hard.

Please rest up and take care of yourself. You are going to be sooooo busy when you get home! You need the rest now.

((hugs)) can't wait to see more pics!

[lizzyd]

Dear Michelle,

I missed the story, so I'm not sure what's transpired, but if you reasonably feel that you are being denied employment because of a disability (or because you are pregnant) you can file a complaint with the Florida Commission on Human Relations.

http://fchr.state.fl.us/faq.htm

Also, try to google the Americans with Disabilities Act. There might be something in there that addresses pregnancy and employment.

Good luck.

Regards,
LizzyD

P.S. Henry is doing great! I can't believe he'll be 5 weeks old this coming Friday. Holy Cow!

[lizzyd]

Dear Mrs. Sarah,

Thinking about you and Tanner. Mason sounds like such a gem! I know it doesn't seem like it now, but I bet a lot of the pain of this will fade with time, and soon you will have your happy healthy family home around you!

Take care and keep posting.

Regards,
LizzyD