Pregnancy Thread.....Tuesday, 11/16

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Teach2Live............David Morton..................Born 9/10/04
Shenandoah..........Surrogate Twins.............Born 9/20/04
babyblue26062.....Alexander Jude...............Born 9/29/04
Bozo......................Helen................... ...........Born 9/30/04
ThininMex..............Brianna Irish...................Born 10/05/04
little bear...............Aiden Xavier.................. Born 10/06/04
aphexacid..............Bethany Erin...................Born 10/08/04
lizzyd.....................Henry Stewart................Born 10/15/04
Mrs. Sarah.............Tanner.......................... ..Born 11/12/04

karatejen.................W39...............11/26/04.......Boy
ChristinaK................W38...............12/02/04.......Boy
GetNSlim..................W35................12/24/04......Boy
supportinghubby.....W34................12/30/04......Girl
DesperateInFL.........W33................01/07/05......Girl
Kay&Lydia................W31................01/18/05
Viki...........................W30................ 01/22/05......Girl
Shandril105..............W30............... 01/23/05......Girl
Nyanchan.................W30...............01/31/05......Girl
metroames...............W29................02/08/05......Boy
MadameX..................W29................02/09/05......Girl

AmyJuli.......................W24................0 3/10/05
JennPayton................W23................03/13/05......Girl
blueyedgrl..................W22................03/26/05
kimism........................W22................0 3/26/05......Girl
Heather123................W21................03/30/05
shelly..........................W21............... .04/02/05
Marthad......................W19................04/11/05
Dar20..........................W18................ 04/16/05
Jefinner.......................W18................ 04/16/05
GoJackets....................W16...............05/03/05
mom2twoboys.............W16...............05/07/05
chels_hoff....................W15...............05/15/05
Denise85.....................W14...............05/22/05

azktycat.....................W12................05/30/05
michigangrad.............W12.................06/01/05
Vixendrop..................W9...................06/18/05
ChristieJ.....................W9.................. 06/19/05
jehcekah....................W9..................06/22/05
gilbabe75...................W8..................06/25/05
Miss Gigl.....................W8..................06/26/05
rooney.......................W8..................0 6/30/05
AZparalegal...............W7...................07/01/05
allibaba......................W6.................. 07/12/05

Green12........................................... ...Trying!
2BFitHourglass.................................... Trying!
SmileyAmy......................................... ..Trying!
lil miss.............................................. ...Trying!
MarriedinSept..................................... .Trying!
Nicole133......................................... ....Trying!
jeepifer.......................................... ......Trying!
StrawberryGirl.................................... ..Trying!
AnnieO............................................ .....Trying!
speckle........................................... ......Trying!
Alissaliz......................................... .......Trying!

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Sarah! I can't imagine what you are going through. Praying that Tanner will come home soon.

I'm still in a fog today. I fell asleep hard at about 10am and woke up a little before 2pm for my first potty break. A co-worker had called about 10 minutes earlier and needed to talk to me about something with next year's schedule. At first, I told my husband forget it I'm going back to bed....but the minute I layed down I started to wonder what the call was about. So I got my butt out of bed and called him back. It wasn't anything big at all...what a waste. Then of course I couldn't go back to sleep right away. My husband tried to help by giving me a back rub.....but an hour later I was still wide awake. Finally, about an hour and a half after the call I got up to pee and then tried to go back to sleep. I was just about to drift off when I got kicked really hard by the baby on my left abdomen....I literally just about jumped out of bed! Then the little poop kept kicking me hard for about 5 minutes straight. I yelled at my husband that his son wouldn't let me rest! He had a good laugh and rubbed my belly a bit trying to calm the kicker down. So, I got settled back down again over 2 hours after the call.....and then the bladder kicking started. I had to get up 3 more times to pee over the next hour...and only getting a trickle out each time. Finally, I got to sleep sometime before 5pm and woke up with my alarm a quarter to 10. I just feel wiped I tell ya. Hopfully, I'll get some better quality sleep tomorrow!

Everyone have a great day!

Ames

[Marthad]

Morning everyone,

Sarah, thank you so much for sharing your story. It's good to hear that little Tanner is improving--he is so beautiful, such a perfect little face! I hope you've managed to get some rest...

Ames, I can relate. Last night I swear I was up 6 times to pee! My uterus is really pressing on my bladder now. I hope you get caught up on your sleep!

Nothing much new here. Hubby is in London for a couple of days...I'm really trying to get off the bad carbs. Had a healthy dinner last night, and have eaten well so far today. Suffering from the headache, though. Am going to make turkey stock and clean the house today--maybe the car too.

I'll check back later

[BrattyChelle]

Morning Ladies.

Sarah..... continuing your way. Tanner is so beautiful!

Ames....ah the joys of pregnancy. Hope you get a better sleep today, sounds like you'll need it.

MarthaD....PM'ing you directions to my house, it needs cleaned desperately!

Hi to everyone else


Pregnancy wise I'm doing well. Trying to remain as stressfree and calm as possible to keep contractions away. However that's getting harder and harder with my work situation. My admin. put me on "non-paid leave of absence" yesterday until he makes a decision if I can continue to work there in safety *DOH*. There's plenty of desk work to be done, he's simply discriminating due to the pregnancy and the fact he put 2 and 2 together and realized I called OSHA (plus I now have proof he is). Yesterday he asked for a faxed letter from my doctor as to my limitations. He got that, stating I could do everything but lift over 30 lbs. Then he calls me again stating I must sign a disclosure waiver so he can speak directly to my doctor. WTH?? So today I will be speaking with her as to what I'm comfortable with her disclosing so he thinks I'm still cooperating....all while still seeking legal advice. Even called the ERA last night and will be speaking with the EEOC today. Nothing left to lose so might as well fight it!!

[ChristinaK]

Sarah - Tanner is beautiful! Continuing to pray for your little guy, you and Mason.

Michelle - In Texas if you are on unpaid leave for more than 3 days, you are considered unemployed and can file for unemployment. Since unemployment is federally funded the laws are very similar in all states. You should talk to your attorney before you file as far as how it would affect your other claims but if you file at least you would have some income.

Ames - Sorry about the sleep! I had similar problems last night. I woke up multiple times to go to the bathroom, DH had a late meeting and came home very late and I woke up because the dog barked, then about 30 minutes later he got called back in to work and I woke up when he was leaving, and I woke up when he came home a couple of hours later. Plus I woke up a couple of times because my hip hurt. UGH!

I go to the dr today. I thought my appt was tomorrow but I was wrong. Preggo brain! Still not sure what I'm going to do about the whole VBAC v. csection thing. Guess I'll see where my cervix is, what she recommends and go from there.

[BrattyChelle]

ChristinaK.....I'm going to call the local unemployment agency later today. If anything, I'm told I can file under the FMLA which will still be unpaid time, but at least my insurance will continue (which I'll have to payback later).

Best part of the morning though....called my docs office about the letter and my admin. wanting to talk to them....the receptionist said that there is no way any doctor will disclose more than was stated in the letter because of HIPAA laws and "what an idiot" my admin. is Couldn't have said it better myself!

[Dar20]

{{Sarah}} Glad to hear Tanner is improving and love the pics! He is beautiful!

{{Michelle}} "what an idiot!" I love it!

I had a horrible night's sleep last night. My hips ached so much, so I moved my tummy pillow between my knees. That helped my hips feel better, but I kept flopping over. The dogs were really getting on my nerves. Oh, well.

Also feeling really nauseous this am. I thought that was supposed to stop! I think I have a cold, so that's probably the culprit.. I've been sneezing and coughing and feel a bit warm. Argh.. what a day. Not a happy Dar this morning.

[BrattyChelle]

Dar

[MrsIndpndent]

Prayers and hugs, Sarah. Tanner is absolutely beautiful!!!

[SmileyAmy]

{{{{Sarah, Mason & Tanner}}}}

Praying for a speedy recovery for Tanner. I am so sorry you and Mason are having to go through this - and especially Tanner. He is adorable though and I look forward to hearing updates!!

As for me...I am busy, busy, busy so I will have to make this quick.

Just thought you would find this funny. DH and I had to BD last night but my mom was litterally outside the door to our bedroom. So I mad DH do it with me on the floor!! I was too afraid of the bed sqeaking! Luckily there was no rug burn involved!! LOL

Well, I will try to pop in later...

[GoJackets]

Congrats Sarah, Mason and Tanner.

Thank you for taking the time to post....it must be hard to relive everything. Rest up. You will probably be feeling great by the time he gets home and be ready to give him 150% of the love you've guys been waiting to give.

He looks great. So cute! I can't wait to see more pictures of him. We are so happy for you and sad at the same time. Take care of yourself and keep us posted when you are up to it. We are hear for you while you are waiting for Tanner!

Lots of Love!!!

[cynicalcyn]

Sarah- I"m praying that your family. I know Tanner will pull thru this and he is so beautiful! Thanks for sharing!!

Cynthia

[SmileyAmy]

Oh, and one more thing:

Not to mention - you know how I don't want anyone in my family knowing that DH and I are TTC, because they wouldn't agree with it??

Well, I have my FF notifications going to my home e-mail address. Well, my mom was trying to do something on my computer at home and sent me an e-mail from her computer to mine. So, she decided to log on to my e-mail/internet account without me knowing!?!?! Well, she went looking for the e-mail she sent and I had a bunch of notification e-mails from FF in there!?!?! I don't know if she saw them. She may not have even paid any attention to it, but I am panicing that she might have seen them.

I am FREAKING out. When I got into work this morning, I deleted all the e-mails and changed the e-mail account of FF!!

[GoJackets]

Originally posted by SmileyAmy
Oh, and one more thing:

I am FREAKING out. When I got into work this morning, I deleted all the e-mails and changed the e-mail account of FF!!

I'm sorry she got into your email.....that kind of sucks, but you are a grown woman and she does not control your destiny. Is there really anything she could say or do to make you change your mind? i'm not sure that it is really her business anyway.

[MrsIndpndent]

Amy - How come they wouldn't agree with you TTC??

[SmileyAmy]

Dena ~ I don't think there is anything she could say that would make me change my mind. But, I am terrified that if she knew it was planned she wouldn't be as accepting as if it was a "mistake" which is what I plan to tell them. I hate this!!

MrsIndpndent ~ It's a LONG story...But, I am afraid to tell my parents. I think I would lie to them and tell them it was an "accident". They would be upset because we aren't "financially ready". I had a random conversation with my mother a several months ago about me being afraid to tell her and my dad (they are divorced) whenever I became pregnant, and she said that she wouldn't be mad, but she would be upset and worried for me. Put it this way - when I told her I was engaged she said flat out "what made him ask you?" Um, gee mom, I don't know because he loves me and we have been together for 3 years and we live together! She never once seemed happy for me. I am afraid that will happen when I tell her I am pregnant. My dad would't act like he was upset, but I know he would be more worried for me. And, my step mother already threatened me when I said I wanted to have a baby before the age of 30. She said "You don't need to have one before you are 30 - and you better not even be thinking abou having a baby now!" Don't get me wrong, I am very close to my parents and love them dearly, but it makes me sad that I can't tell them that this is a planned thing. DH's family will be thrilled!!

[GoJackets]

By the sound of it, nothing you do will make her happy, so why is it worth worrying about? Well, I guess it is because it is your mother and we would like our parents to be pleased. Regardless of the circumstances, I have a feeling she would be happy with a grandchild. I've seen ladies of stone turn to mush at the sight of their grandchild.

I'm actually hoping this baby will bring me and my mother closer together. We just don't relate. We love each other, but have very different interests. This will put us on common ground (motherhood).

[SmileyAmy]

Dena ~ I would hope, and I think that once the thought has sunk in she will be happy to have a grandchild. She makes little comments here and there that makes me nervous. We went to my cousins baby shower this weekend. And I said "OMG, where would you put all this stuff!?!? My apartment is a good size but this is a lot of stuff." She replied "Well, you aren't going to be living there forever - by the time you are ready to have a baby, you probably won't be there anymore." Or, we were talking about my migranes and part one of things that my doctor mentioned was me going off the pill and she was like "OH, don't do that!! You DO NOT need a baby! Just stick it out with the migranes - you don't need to be taking ANY chances."

Just makes me sad...

I wish I could share my excitement with her.

[SmileyAmy]

I saw Sarah lurking around on the PG...if you pop in, I hope you are doing well.

How is little Tanner today?

[Mrs Sarah]

Hi guys. I'm popping in and out a bit before we run back up to the hospital to visit Tanner. I haven't gotten an update on him yet today, but last night he was doing really good. I'll let you guys know when I know anything new.

[GoJackets]

Originally posted by SmileyAmy
Just makes me sad...

I wish I could share my excitement with her.

Your time will come..... I work with several people who have nurseries in their bedroom because they live in one bedroom apartments. They are managing and trying to better themselves so they can get a bigger place. We all find ways to manage-maybe she just wants the best for you, and hopes that things won't have to be hard. BUT, I prefer to work for what I have. My life is a lot fuller because I didn't have things handed to me. I think you will be a wiser, happier mother by taking care of things your way and DH's way.

I just have to believe she will understand this too. But who knows.....I'm just flapping my jaws....my number one point, don't be hard on yourself and follow your gut (and listen to DH).

[GoJackets]

Originally posted by Mrs Sarah
Hi guys. I'm popping in and out a bit before we run back up to the hospital to visit Tanner. I haven't gotten an update on him yet today, but last night he was doing really good. I'll let you guys know when I know anything new.

HELLO!!! Give Tanner a hug from us.....hope they give you good news!

[SmileyAmy]

Thanks Dena...

Sarah ~ I am glad Tanner was doing better yesterday!! I am looking forward to hearing how he is doing today. Hugs to you all!

[Annie O]

Sarah, I'm continuing to keep you and your family in my prayers.

Tanner is beautiful! I hope he's home with you and your husband very soon!

[heather123]

Sarah-I hope Tanner gets to come home soon, poor little guy. How are you recovering from your c-cection?

With the talk regarding u/s yesterday, some doctors actually believe that if your not comcidered a high risk that you don't need one at all. My previous doctor had a small private office and the ob room had the u/s machine in it, he said it was easier to check the heartbeat with an u/s, so I got one at every visit. He would also chech the fluids and position of the baby towards the end. I live in a larger town now so I go to a clinic and its not as laid back. I only get one big u/s, I have it scheduled for Nov 29th and I will be almost 22 weeks.

I've known 2 ladies pregnant this year that had to have an emergancy c- cection b/c they'd lost most of their fluids close to the due date, its so scary. It doesn't cost the office anything to swich the machine on and do a quick peak to make sure everythings ok.

Amy-You should tell your mom that there is never a perfect time to have a baby, nor is there ever "enough" money. Even if you made more money right now, you would probably be spending more, on higher rent, a nicer car, ect ect. I think the most important thing is if your relationship is ready to have a baby, ya know? I'm sure she will come around after the baby is accually here for her to hold and love.

Pregnancy wise I am doing fine. Feeling more insense movement. I do have a lot of water retension, my goal is drown myself in water for a few days and hope that helps.

[bakergirl74]

Sarah,
Hang in there hun, I know what you are going through. Chase was born sick, and was wisked away form me, and I didn't even see him for 5 hours. He had IV's in him and oxygen sensors etc... Very hard for a first time mommy to witness. But I am very happy to say that Chase is a 5 1/2 yr old little hellion, and is ove the 95th percentile for height and weight.

I hope that I read very shorly that Tanner is home where he belongs very soon.

Lots of love and prayers
Cari