ignore my questions about not losing: I'm pregnant!

genifire6 · 10-15-2003, 07:22 AM

I have been posting so many times about how come i don't lose, what do i do wrong, blablablabla!!! I found what was causing my weight lost to stop... I am PREGNANT. I was in shocked yesterday night, i kept saying no sign of TOM yet, i feel bloated... Yeah ok. I am too fertile. This is unreal. This is too much for me to deal with right now. My baby is turning 12 months on the 21 of this month... We don't always find it easy, and we are just going a bit better financialy... So I don't know how to cope with this, i don't know what to do... For my first pregnancy, i was on the pill... Yeah, i am a statistic, .1% of woman can get pregnant on the pill. This time, i was counting the days, did nothing during ovulation, and use protection every time...

Sorry to ramble, i am jsut VERY confused right now. I adore my 1 y old baby, but another one right now?? I was on my way to achieve my dream, my goal... Now what?

So ignore all my other post about why i don't lose, i knew i was doing good. Thanks all for listenong.

Caryl_Lou · 10-15-2003, 07:26 AM

Just keep plugging away. You can't think clearly until the shock wears off. I, too, am one of the 1% and my pill baby is 27 next month.

kbgardengirl · 10-15-2003, 07:28 AM

Congratulations! I know you are frustrated right now but you will adjust to this new one inside you before you know it. Probably when the little one gives you a swift kick in the belly. You cannot follow the Atkins induction phase while you are pregnant but you can still do locarb at the maintenance level. You can start over once the baby is born. You will have your hands full but it's amazing how one can adjust. I had 4 children in 8 years and none of them were "planned" but each have been a blessing to me and I now have 11 grandchildren.

Yaylocarber · 10-15-2003, 07:33 AM

One thing that is amazing is that lowcarb actually can help fertility in women who are having problems producing eggs or have PCOS. Lowcarb actually gets the credit for my adorable grandson and my next grandchild in progress. Although you are in shock right now, congratulations anyway!

anniegirly · 10-15-2003, 07:36 AM

Congratulations! and Hugssssss

I imagine you feel totally overwhelmed about this unplanned pregnancy...I am actually a statistic, and so is my brother...my mom was on IUD when she got pregnant of both of us. She always tells me we were a blessing, no matter in what circumstances we arrived.

I can't be thankful enough for her decision to have me.

I guess induction will have to wait for a little while

God bless,

Annie

DixieDreamer · 10-15-2003, 07:47 AM

{{hugs}} It will be okay... and CONGRATULATIONS to you! I know you are in shock at the moment... but this really is a gift.

abbymommy · 10-15-2003, 08:06 AM

Congrats!

Pregnant women can safely do the Maintenance Atkins diet, which has high enough carbs to avoid ketosis and weight loss.

I am preg with #3 and eat a high-carb dinner every night, but try to stick to healthy whole foods. That way I don't have to worry about checking for ketones or counting carbs or anything.

There is a Pregnancy thread on the Maintain Board that is pretty active. Come join us!

becky123abc · 10-15-2003, 08:14 AM

I got pregnant twice while low carbing! Congratulations! next year at this time you can jump back on the wagon...right now, take good care of yourself. I hope you have a healthy, feeling good - kind of pregnancy!

coffeeaddict · 10-15-2003, 08:19 AM

Okay, I'll be realistic--the next two years are probably going to be tough but think of how quickly you will be over the baby years!! I personally am not the mom who prefers the cute little babies--I prefer them walking and talking--so I understand your stress!!! my oldest was 27 months when my second was born and having two in diapers and needing so much from me was really hard but my "baby" turned 2 in August and it's so nice to see them play together because they are so close in age. I have many friends whose oldest is the same age as my now 4 year old and they have just started having their seconds and though I envy the extra time they had with their oldest, I too am THRILLED that I have the big kids and had them so close together. But the next two years will be tough and it sounds like you know that. My husband and I mentally prepared for the tough times and have worked through it just fine--but it was work at times!! I hope you can soon find the positive in this though I understand your panic.

Linda1960 · 10-15-2003, 08:21 AM

Congratulations..........and count your blessings! You really have been blessed with another little life! You take care of yourself, and eat healthy for you and the baby.....and then we look forward to you re-inducting next year and joining us again on the weight-loss trail!

Something tells me I will still be here for the long haul....as I am a slow loser, so we can work on it together!

Take care of yourself, and congratulations!

getthin · 10-15-2003, 08:38 AM

WOW!! I know how you feel. My last 2 are 16 months apart and it wasn't sooo bad. I guess the worst thing was gaining weight(wasn't lowcarbing then) and buying diapers for 2. Now could not imagine NOT having them. They are a blast and so funny. Its amazing how kids can really make you laugh and smile. Take care of yourself and maybe after the shock you will feel a lot better.

I have to say...you did scare me a little. My youngest is 13 months now and I did not get my tubes tied. Then I wasn't sure if I wanted more. Now I am sure that I don't and wish I would have tied them. I am not currently taking bc but we are using protection. I count my days religiously hoping not to become pregnant again. So after I read your post (we are both doing the same method on bc) I got a little freaked. I am hoping my dh will get fixed considering his would be a lot less expensive.

Hope everything works out well for you.

bitrswt99 · 10-15-2003, 08:43 AM

I know it's a shock at the moment... but a big CONGRATULATIONS to you!! I'm a mommy of a 15 month old, so I know it's tough! You'll get through just fine

Happy 9 months!!

keelysmom2000 · 10-15-2003, 08:43 AM

First of all...CONGRATULATIONS!!! I also have a baby who is about to turn 12 months (on Friday)...and if I found out I was pregnant right now, I think the first thing I would be is shocked too! Especially if we weren't trying

But after you get over the initial shock, remember what a true blessing it is! Your going to have a baby! You can always lose the weight and make goal after this little one is born. HUGS to you!! I think there is a pregnancy thread on the challenge board...and if you are worried about the weight gain...I think you are allowed to follow Atkins maintenance with a few adjustments...check with your doctor...

again...congrats

cathlaur · 10-15-2003, 08:59 AM

You will be fine trust me. I got pregnant when my first was 9 months old. We had planned that so it was not a shock. I now have 2 girls 17 months apart though 2 years apart in school. I did not really find it to bad. Now it is awesome. They are 8 and 10 and such a fun age.

Good luck

Katie

coffeeaddict · 10-15-2003, 09:02 AM

just a side note to getthin, I have an IUD and love it!!!! It was a simple office procedure, lasts for 10 years, provides better "statistical" protection than the pill, has no hormones which I could NOT handle with the pill, and is mindless. It is the greatest thing even, imo. Neither my husband or I wanted to do anything permanent and this was the perfect solution for us. I was 30 when I got it, it will have to be replaced when I'm 40 and when that's done so should the need for it! LOL! AND if I do decide to have a 3rd, I just have them take it out and I'm set. This is NOT your mothers IUD if you are thinking of the risks that were there back then--it's very safe. Just my 2 cents . . .

Chard · 10-15-2003, 09:59 AM

I too have an IUD and love it. When we were planning our life and children, we decided how many and when we wanted them to be born. I had the IUD taken out when I was ready to get pregnant and put back in after. All I have to do is have it checked yearly. Children are a blessing, even if you don't see it initially, even people in less than idea situations can give them wonderful lives. Don't worry about the money, it will come in time. When you think about it, they are really not all that expensive. I wish you the best.

woodswoman · 10-15-2003, 10:10 AM

Congratulations!!

You'll get by just fine, you know, things always work out somehow. It's good to have your kids that close together - studies show they get along better than kids who are 3 or more years apart. You've probably saved yourself having to listen to thousands of arguments.

Two kids are easier than one anyway because they keep each other busy.

peach pie junkie · 10-15-2003, 10:25 AM

Congratulations! I've been trying to get pregnant for two years and am now shot up full of hormones getting ready to do my first IVF so you won't get a lot of "sympathy" from me.

Enjoy having a healthy, positive pregnancy knowing that you CAN and WILL control your eating. You'll reach your goals, just go to shift those priorities for a while. Hope to join you in forced maintenance soon!

valg · 10-15-2003, 10:32 AM

Congratulations. I know you're in shock right now, but things will work out for your family!

I think the 1% figure has got to be off. I used to volunteer at a crisis pregnancy center and I saw first hand MANY positive pregnancy results of women on the pill.

My second child was conceived at a time of month I thought was impossible to conceive. Only like 3 days or so before I was due for TOM (I was always very regular), I got pregnant. We were trying at that moment, but I was stunned it happened, I really thought it would be the next month that there would be an actual chance for conception.

getthin · 10-15-2003, 10:38 AM

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just a side note to getthin, I have an IUD and love it!!!! It was a simple office procedure, lasts for 10 years, provides better "statistical" protection than the pill, has no hormones which I could NOT handle with the pill, and is mindless. It is the greatest thing even, imo. Neither my husband or I wanted to do anything permanent and this was the perfect solution for us. I was 30 when I got it, it will have to be replaced when I'm 40 and when that's done so should the need for it! LOL! AND if I do decide to have a 3rd, I just have them take it out and I'm set. This is NOT your mothers IUD if you are thinking of the risks that were there back then--it's very safe. Just my 2 cents . . .

I will definitely look into that. I would like not having to worry about it because now we really have to be extremely careful.

Did the procedure hurt at all? I will do some research on the internet.

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Two kids are easier than one anyway because they keep each other busy.

This is so true!!!!!!! It can really help when you need a break.

gettingstrength · 10-15-2003, 10:47 AM

{{{ HUGS }}} to you

genifire6 · 10-15-2003, 10:51 AM

thank you to all for your encouragments. I feel awful for htose who can't have baby, but i can't be happy for myself. This is a big thing in my life, and this is hard too. A part of me want this baby so much, for all the reasons you guys said. And to get it over with (my 1st pregnancy was not easy...) But when we talked about it last night, my dh told me that he was not happy about this. He said if i keep the baby, he will be there, he will love him... but he didn't want any more kids. That is why we were using protection in the first place. So i am stuck with my values, and his happiness. I know i shouldn't take that under consideration, but knowing he doesn't want another child makes me feel horrible. He has a 8 year old daughter, and our son (12 months). I don't know what to do, what to think. I couldn't read all of the replies as i couln't stop crying. I am a very very confused person. And i feel so bad and ashame this is my reaction to something that should be wonderful, especially knowing that some of you are trying to cenceive but can't. I'm sorry if this hurt someone, that is not my intention.

getthin · 10-15-2003, 10:57 AM

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But when we talked about it last night, my dh told me that he was not happy about this. He said if i keep the baby, he will be there, he will love him... but he didn't want any more kids. That is why we were using protection in the first place. So i am stuck with my values, and his happiness. I know i shouldn't take that under consideration, but knowing he doesn't want another child makes me feel horrible. He has a 8 year old daughter, and our son (12 months). I don't know what to do, what to think. I couldn't read all of the replies as i couln't stop crying. I am a very very confused person.

((((((((((((((((((TONS OF HUGS))))))))))))))))))))) This is an extremely tough situation. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I would not know what to do. For me---I don't believe in abortion but on the other hands you have the happiness of your marriage to think about. I am so sorry hon. I pray you and your dh will make the best decision whatever it may be. (((((HUGS))))

Sharon · 10-15-2003, 10:59 AM

What a great reason for not losing. Congrats on your blessing. Children are so wonderful.

peach pie junkie · 10-15-2003, 11:00 AM

Everything hurts me right now so don't think you said anything inappropriate in my case.

I completely understand where you're coming from but life happens and our goals have to evolve with it (including this WOL). Strangely, I have some idea how you feel.........you are not supposed to have a baby at this point in your plan and I am supposed to in my plan.

The only encouragement I can offer is this -- this WOL has made me a stronger, healthier person, more equipped to deal emotionally with what comes my way. It will do the same for you. You've proven yourself determined enough to succeed with weight loss. You can get through anything!

I wish you all the best and I hope I didn't come off wrong before. If so, it was the Lupron talking!

Brooklynite · 10-15-2003, 11:07 AM

i know how you feel...i got pregnant while on the depo-provera shot! My babe is almost 6 months old now...i can only imagine how stressful it seems to you now, but you'll manage! We have friends that had "2 under 2" and they are doing just fine...despite a few bumps in the road.

Now the part about low-carbing making us more fertile....that has got me SCARED!

Congratulations to you and lots of luck!

abbymommy · 10-15-2003, 11:11 AM

I am so sorry that you are feeling confused and upset about this.

dh will most likely come around and as your pregnancy continues he will grow to love this tiny baby like it deserves to be loved and welcomed. You will too.

I have two kids that are 18 months apart, and it is wonderful. My youngest is 14 months, and I am almost 2 months pregnant with #3. Next summer I will have 3 kids under the age of 4, but somehow we will manage.

Please don't make any rash decisions that you might regret. Dh's feelings of shock and surprise may change into excitement and love. But your values and beliefs about right and wrong don't change like feelings do.

I will be praying for you and your family! Keep us updated

genifire6 · 10-15-2003, 11:32 AM

peach pie:
I know this must be frustrating for you to read, what is happenning to me should of have happenned to you. The first thing i said in my prayor last night was that this is unfair. So many people wants to be able to at least have one child. We have our little Anthony, and we are so grateful for that. But this is enough for us. My DH works full time, and is a volonteer firefighter. I am a social worker, working for the children's aid society... So i remember so many evenings being alone with a crying baby, or a sick baby, and wishing he could be here with me... But that was his commitment too and it was keeping him busy a lot. I just know that for our situation, it is hard. We were very happy with Anthony and Brooke (every weekend) and even if i truly believe that everything happens for a reason, i can't see that now... I am still very confused, and appreciate that i am not being juged, so far. This is a very hard decision that i have to make, and i need to think about it more. I just can't make my mind. I am right in the middle right now and this is scary. Thanks to you all, especially the prayers. I need them badly right now!!

10-15-2003, 07:22 AM	#1
genifire6 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Ottawa, Ontario Posts: 639 Gallery: genifire6 Stats: 231/220/159.5 WOE: Low Carb	ignore my questions I have been posting so many times about how come i don't lose, what do i do wrong, blablablabla!!! I found what was causing my weight lost to stop... I am PREGNANT. I was in shocked yesterday night, i kept saying no sign of TOM yet, i feel bloated... Yeah ok. I am too fertile. This is unreal. This is too much for me to deal with right now. My baby is turning 12 months on the 21 of this month... We don't always find it easy, and we are just going a bit better financialy... So I don't know how to cope with this, i don't know what to do... For my first pregnancy, i was on the pill... Yeah, i am a statistic, .1% of woman can get pregnant on the pill. This time, i was counting the days, did nothing during ovulation, and use protection every time... Sorry to ramble, i am jsut VERY confused right now. I adore my 1 y old baby, but another one right now?? I was on my way to achieve my dream, my goal... Now what? So ignore all my other post about why i don't lose, i knew i was doing good. Thanks all for listenong.

10-15-2003, 08:38 AM	#11
getthin Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Florida Posts: 491 Gallery: getthin	WOW!! I know how you feel. My last 2 are 16 months apart and it wasn't sooo bad. I guess the worst thing was gaining weight(wasn't lowcarbing then) and buying diapers for 2. Now could not imagine NOT having them. They are a blast and so funny. Its amazing how kids can really make you laugh and smile. Take care of yourself and maybe after the shock you will feel a lot better. I have to say...you did scare me a little. My youngest is 13 months now and I did not get my tubes tied. Then I wasn't sure if I wanted more. Now I am sure that I don't and wish I would have tied them. I am not currently taking bc but we are using protection. I count my days religiously hoping not to become pregnant again. So after I read your post (we are both doing the same method on bc) I got a little freaked. I am hoping my dh will get fixed considering his would be a lot less expensive. Hope everything works out well for you. __________________ 202/157/NOT SURE 45 lb LOSER !!!

10-15-2003, 08:43 AM	#13
keelysmom2000 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 1,388 Gallery: keelysmom2000 Stats: 245/245/150 WOE: Atkins Start Date: September 2008	First of all...CONGRATULATIONS!!! I also have a baby who is about to turn 12 months (on Friday)...and if I found out I was pregnant right now, I think the first thing I would be is shocked too! Especially if we weren't trying But after you get over the initial shock, remember what a true blessing it is! Your going to have a baby! You can always lose the weight and make goal after this little one is born. HUGS to you!! I think there is a pregnancy thread on the challenge board...and if you are worried about the weight gain...I think you are allowed to follow Atkins maintenance with a few adjustments...check with your doctor... again...congrats __________________ SAHM to 2 beautiful fairies and one crazy monkey boy!!

10-15-2003, 08:59 AM	#14
cathlaur Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Ontario Canada Posts: 3,870 Gallery: cathlaur Stats: 220/203.5/175 5"10 WOE: Atkins. Start Date: Oct 2002 Restarted May 9, 2008	Congrats You will be fine trust me. I got pregnant when my first was 9 months old. We had planned that so it was not a shock. I now have 2 girls 17 months apart though 2 years apart in school. I did not really find it to bad. Now it is awesome. They are 8 and 10 and such a fun age. Good luck Katie

10-15-2003, 09:59 AM	#16
Chard Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Corona, CA Posts: 405 Gallery: Chard Stats: 156/133/125 Start Date: Sept. 19, 2003	I too have an IUD and love it. When we were planning our life and children, we decided how many and when we wanted them to be born. I had the IUD taken out when I was ready to get pregnant and put back in after. All I have to do is have it checked yearly. Children are a blessing, even if you don't see it initially, even people in less than idea situations can give them wonderful lives. Don't worry about the money, it will come in time. When you think about it, they are really not all that expensive. I wish you the best. __________________ Restarted 9/15/03 5'3"

10-15-2003, 07:26 AM	#2
Caryl_Lou Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Hampshire, England Posts: 644 Gallery: Caryl_Lou Stats: 261/231/154 WOE: low carb Start Date: Restarted 21 Jan 06	Just keep plugging away. You can't think clearly until the shock wears off. I, too, am one of the 1% and my pill baby is 27 next month.

10-15-2003, 07:28 AM	#3
kbgardengirl MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,216 Gallery: kbgardengirl Stats: 190/139/140 WOE: Dr Atkins New Diet Revolution 1992- all the way Start Date: 5/26/2003 (reached goal Jan.5, 04)	Congratulations! I know you are frustrated right now but you will adjust to this new one inside you before you know it. Probably when the little one gives you a swift kick in the belly. You cannot follow the Atkins induction phase while you are pregnant but you can still do locarb at the maintenance level. You can start over once the baby is born. You will have your hands full but it's amazing how one can adjust. I had 4 children in 8 years and none of them were "planned" but each have been a blessing to me and I now have 11 grandchildren. __________________ Karen height - 5' 3.5" Age - 61

10-15-2003, 07:33 AM	#4
Yaylocarber MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Texas Posts: 2,752 Gallery: Yaylocarber	One thing that is amazing is that lowcarb actually can help fertility in women who are having problems producing eggs or have PCOS. Lowcarb actually gets the credit for my adorable grandson and my next grandchild in progress. Although you are in shock right now, congratulations anyway!

10-15-2003, 07:36 AM	#5
anniegirly Junior LCF Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 26 Gallery: anniegirly	Congratulations! and Hugssssss I imagine you feel totally overwhelmed about this unplanned pregnancy...I am actually a statistic, and so is my brother...my mom was on IUD when she got pregnant of both of us. She always tells me we were a blessing, no matter in what circumstances we arrived. I can't be thankful enough for her decision to have me. I guess induction will have to wait for a little while God bless, Annie

10-15-2003, 07:47 AM	#6
DixieDreamer Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Olympic Peninsula - Washington State Posts: 5,305 Gallery: DixieDreamer Stats: 180/140/140 WOE: Atkins Maintenance Start Date: July 28, 2002	{{hugs}} It will be okay... and CONGRATULATIONS to you! I know you are in shock at the moment... but this really is a gift.

10-15-2003, 08:06 AM	#7
abbymommy Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: wedded and motherly bliss Posts: 534 Gallery: abbymommy Stats: size 12 after baby/size 6 WOE: healthy sometimes low-carb Start Date: 1997	Congrats! Pregnant women can safely do the Maintenance Atkins diet, which has high enough carbs to avoid ketosis and weight loss. I am preg with #3 and eat a high-carb dinner every night, but try to stick to healthy whole foods. That way I don't have to worry about checking for ketones or counting carbs or anything. There is a Pregnancy thread on the Maintain Board that is pretty active. Come join us!

10-15-2003, 08:14 AM	#8
becky123abc Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 715 Gallery: becky123abc Stats: 197.5/187/150	I got pregnant twice while low carbing! Congratulations! next year at this time you can jump back on the wagon...right now, take good care of yourself. I hope you have a healthy, feeling good - kind of pregnancy!

10-15-2003, 08:19 AM	#9
coffeeaddict MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Orlando, FL Posts: 1,212 Gallery: coffeeaddict Stats: 68/0/0 Start Date: 1999	Okay, I'll be realistic--the next two years are probably going to be tough but think of how quickly you will be over the baby years!! I personally am not the mom who prefers the cute little babies--I prefer them walking and talking--so I understand your stress!!! my oldest was 27 months when my second was born and having two in diapers and needing so much from me was really hard but my "baby" turned 2 in August and it's so nice to see them play together because they are so close in age. I have many friends whose oldest is the same age as my now 4 year old and they have just started having their seconds and though I envy the extra time they had with their oldest, I too am THRILLED that I have the big kids and had them so close together. But the next two years will be tough and it sounds like you know that. My husband and I mentally prepared for the tough times and have worked through it just fine--but it was work at times!! I hope you can soon find the positive in this though I understand your panic.

10-15-2003, 08:21 AM	#10
Linda1960 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Buffalo, New York Posts: 639 Gallery: Linda1960 Stats: 246/206.4/145 WOE: Atkins Start Date: June 2003/Restarted: March 2007 @ 235 lbs.	Congratulations..........and count your blessings! You really have been blessed with another little life! You take care of yourself, and eat healthy for you and the baby.....and then we look forward to you re-inducting next year and joining us again on the weight-loss trail! Something tells me I will still be here for the long haul....as I am a slow loser, so we can work on it together! Take care of yourself, and congratulations!

10-15-2003, 08:43 AM	#12
bitrswt99 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: SC (just transplanted from VA) Posts: 1,059 Gallery: bitrswt99	I know it's a shock at the moment... but a big CONGRATULATIONS to you!! I'm a mommy of a 15 month old, so I know it's tough! You'll get through just fine Happy 9 months!!

10-15-2003, 09:02 AM	#15
coffeeaddict MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Orlando, FL Posts: 1,212 Gallery: coffeeaddict Stats: 68/0/0 Start Date: 1999	just a side note to getthin, I have an IUD and love it!!!! It was a simple office procedure, lasts for 10 years, provides better "statistical" protection than the pill, has no hormones which I could NOT handle with the pill, and is mindless. It is the greatest thing even, imo. Neither my husband or I wanted to do anything permanent and this was the perfect solution for us. I was 30 when I got it, it will have to be replaced when I'm 40 and when that's done so should the need for it! LOL! AND if I do decide to have a 3rd, I just have them take it out and I'm set. This is NOT your mothers IUD if you are thinking of the risks that were there back then--it's very safe. Just my 2 cents . . .

10-15-2003, 10:10 AM	#17
woodswoman MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 2,859 Gallery: woodswoman Stats: 157/120/125 WOE: Atkins Start Date: 4/21/03	Congratulations!! You'll get by just fine, you know, things always work out somehow. It's good to have your kids that close together - studies show they get along better than kids who are 3 or more years apart. You've probably saved yourself having to listen to thousands of arguments. Two kids are easier than one anyway because they keep each other busy.

10-15-2003, 10:25 AM	#18
peach pie junkie Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 191 Gallery: peach pie junkie Stats: 176/168/145 (14/12/10) BF% 40/38/24 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Restarted 4/12/04 (lost 35 pounds 5/03-11/03)	Congratulations! I've been trying to get pregnant for two years and am now shot up full of hormones getting ready to do my first IVF so you won't get a lot of "sympathy" from me. Enjoy having a healthy, positive pregnancy knowing that you CAN and WILL control your eating. You'll reach your goals, just go to shift those priorities for a while. Hope to join you in forced maintenance soon!

10-15-2003, 10:32 AM	#19
valg MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Wash. state Posts: 2,123 Gallery: valg	Congratulations. I know you're in shock right now, but things will work out for your family! I think the 1% figure has got to be off. I used to volunteer at a crisis pregnancy center and I saw first hand MANY positive pregnancy results of women on the pill. My second child was conceived at a time of month I thought was impossible to conceive. Only like 3 days or so before I was due for TOM (I was always very regular), I got pregnant. We were trying at that moment, but I was stunned it happened, I really thought it would be the next month that there would be an actual chance for conception. __________________ South Beach started Feb. 25. Stats 163 / 154 / 125 week 1, phase 1, 7 pounds lost week 2, phase 1, 2 pounds lost week 1 phase 2, up 1 pound week 3 phase 3, down 1 pound

10-15-2003, 10:47 AM	#21
gettingstrength Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Tennessee Posts: 9,523 Gallery: gettingstrength Stats: 184 / 170 / ? WOE: atkins Start Date: 6 / 1 / 2002	{{{ HUGS }}} to you

10-15-2003, 10:51 AM	#22
genifire6 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Ottawa, Ontario Posts: 639 Gallery: genifire6 Stats: 231/220/159.5 WOE: Low Carb	thank you to all for your encouragments. I feel awful for htose who can't have baby, but i can't be happy for myself. This is a big thing in my life, and this is hard too. A part of me want this baby so much, for all the reasons you guys said. And to get it over with (my 1st pregnancy was not easy...) But when we talked about it last night, my dh told me that he was not happy about this. He said if i keep the baby, he will be there, he will love him... but he didn't want any more kids. That is why we were using protection in the first place. So i am stuck with my values, and his happiness. I know i shouldn't take that under consideration, but knowing he doesn't want another child makes me feel horrible. He has a 8 year old daughter, and our son (12 months). I don't know what to do, what to think. I couldn't read all of the replies as i couln't stop crying. I am a very very confused person. And i feel so bad and ashame this is my reaction to something that should be wonderful, especially knowing that some of you are trying to cenceive but can't. I'm sorry if this hurt someone, that is not my intention.

10-15-2003, 10:59 AM	#24
Sharon Come join us on the Game Board Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: retired now - I ski 40+ days annually and do marathons. 1st TIME GRANDMOTHER 6/18/07 Posts: 100,733 Gallery: Sharon Stats: 156/124/135 5'6" 63 y/o - GO UCLA - BEAT USC WOE: Atkins - low sodium and fresh food - STAY POSITIVE Start Date: 4/5/03 -------- McCAIN/PALIN in 2008	What a great reason for not losing. Congrats on your blessing. Children are so wonderful.

10-15-2003, 11:00 AM	#25
peach pie junkie Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 191 Gallery: peach pie junkie Stats: 176/168/145 (14/12/10) BF% 40/38/24 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Restarted 4/12/04 (lost 35 pounds 5/03-11/03)	Everything hurts me right now so don't think you said anything inappropriate in my case. I completely understand where you're coming from but life happens and our goals have to evolve with it (including this WOL). Strangely, I have some idea how you feel.........you are not supposed to have a baby at this point in your plan and I am supposed to in my plan. The only encouragement I can offer is this -- this WOL has made me a stronger, healthier person, more equipped to deal emotionally with what comes my way. It will do the same for you. You've proven yourself determined enough to succeed with weight loss. You can get through anything! I wish you all the best and I hope I didn't come off wrong before. If so, it was the Lupron talking!

10-15-2003, 11:07 AM	#26
Brooklynite Junior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Brooklyn, NY Posts: 50 Gallery: Brooklynite	i know how you feel...i got pregnant while on the depo-provera shot! My babe is almost 6 months old now...i can only imagine how stressful it seems to you now, but you'll manage! We have friends that had "2 under 2" and they are doing just fine...despite a few bumps in the road. Now the part about low-carbing making us more fertile....that has got me SCARED! Congratulations to you and lots of luck!

10-15-2003, 11:11 AM	#27
abbymommy Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: wedded and motherly bliss Posts: 534 Gallery: abbymommy Stats: size 12 after baby/size 6 WOE: healthy sometimes low-carb Start Date: 1997	I am so sorry that you are feeling confused and upset about this. dh will most likely come around and as your pregnancy continues he will grow to love this tiny baby like it deserves to be loved and welcomed. You will too. I have two kids that are 18 months apart, and it is wonderful. My youngest is 14 months, and I am almost 2 months pregnant with #3. Next summer I will have 3 kids under the age of 4, but somehow we will manage. Please don't make any rash decisions that you might regret. Dh's feelings of shock and surprise may change into excitement and love. But your values and beliefs about right and wrong don't change like feelings do. I will be praying for you and your family! Keep us updated __________________ 5 foot 5.5 inches stay at home homeschooling mom of a 6 year old daughter, 5 year old son, and 3 year old daughter and 1 year old son! Click for me!

10-15-2003, 11:32 AM	#28
genifire6 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Ottawa, Ontario Posts: 639 Gallery: genifire6 Stats: 231/220/159.5 WOE: Low Carb	peach pie: I know this must be frustrating for you to read, what is happenning to me should of have happenned to you. The first thing i said in my prayor last night was that this is unfair. So many people wants to be able to at least have one child. We have our little Anthony, and we are so grateful for that. But this is enough for us. My DH works full time, and is a volonteer firefighter. I am a social worker, working for the children's aid society... So i remember so many evenings being alone with a crying baby, or a sick baby, and wishing he could be here with me... But that was his commitment too and it was keeping him busy a lot. I just know that for our situation, it is hard. We were very happy with Anthony and Brooke (every weekend) and even if i truly believe that everything happens for a reason, i can't see that now... I am still very confused, and appreciate that i am not being juged, so far. This is a very hard decision that i have to make, and i need to think about it more. I just can't make my mind. I am right in the middle right now and this is scary. Thanks to you all, especially the prayers. I need them badly right now!!