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jeaniem · 06-09-2012, 06:33 PM

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jeaniem · 07-05-2012, 12:27 PM

Haven't been here in a while. Not making much progress. I need a job and have yet to find one. I can't stand not having a weekday routine!! I am overwhelmed lately by all the different opinions on what one needs to do lose weight. I would love to get back to that place I was in about a year and a half ago- highly motivated and 6 months binge free!

jeaniem · 07-08-2012, 06:31 PM

binge
binge some more
get eating under control
lose weight fast
loss stops or slows
no weight change or increase
kid myself that it doesn't bother me for a while
get discouraged with no scale change
Binge

Pattern. Now to recognize it and halt it.

jeaniem · 07-12-2012, 05:48 PM

It was getting bad, spending about $12 a day binging day after day, that was just extra food I bought not counting the cost of the the groceries I already had in the house and of course heartburn meds on top of that. I couldn't concentrate and wanted to be alone all the time just so that I could shop and eat! Not working has been sort of a blessing in that I feel guilty wasting money that I not earning right now. I also started thinking about how DH works out and tries to eat well so that he can remain healthy while I am jeopardizing my health and our future together by binging. Of course we can only prevent so much, but I don't want to decrease the odds of us growing older together or become a burden to him because I didn't take care of myself.

jeaniem · 07-21-2012, 05:50 PM

Doing well. 13 days binge free. Have had a couple of urges to binge, but tell myself I don't want to go there and then have to deal with the repercussions. I have to be strong and loyal to my health.

jeaniem · 07-22-2012, 06:11 PM

Wow $168 saved by not binging for 14 days!!

steady · 07-23-2012, 02:08 PM

Great idea Jeanie-That has to be the most encouraging item to count!

jeaniem · 07-26-2012, 12:55 PM

Staying on plan but I feel sooo down. Lump in my throat on the verge of tears all the time and I am not really sure why. Bizarre thoughts of running away from home.

steady · 07-26-2012, 01:05 PM

Awww, I know that feeling...had a few rough days myself. Are you still taking your meds. for depression? I will say try to ride it out and just get around people, maybe a little shopping or a walk in a park? Even if you feel like doing nothing and wallowing...just realize it is a temporary state, and that tomorrow can be a better day.

jeaniem · 07-26-2012, 01:31 PM

Taking my wellbutrin. The issues I have with low mood and low self esteem have been resurfacing. I thought I was done with all that.

steady · 07-26-2012, 03:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jeaniem

Taking my wellbutrin. The issues I have with low mood and low self esteem have been resurfacing. I thought I was done with all that.

Good you are taking your meds. Again, I think we all feel like that a few times, again don't let it drag you down, and just have faith you will feel better soon. I just opened up a good book and don't feel so bad about loafing around, since I am enjoying and feels just a little bit more productive than sitting watching tv or surfing on the computer.

jeaniem · 07-30-2012, 06:35 PM

22 days binge free! Clothes are getting loose. I will not end this summer without going shopping for smaller size clothing.

jeaniem · 08-03-2012, 09:05 AM

Doing okay 25 days binge free, but am concerned about my mood. LC helps my mood for a while and then I end up feeling depressed. I need to find the right combo of foods that keep me on a more even keel emotionally.

steady · 08-03-2012, 11:30 AM

I know this is a sin to say on this site, but you just might need more carbs. I know if I am under 40 for a few days...I get that dark cloud. I would treat carbs like medicine, maybe have a small potato before bed...just pop it in your mouth, chew, swallow, brush and go to bed...don't give yourself time to wander around the kitchen and get into trouble.

jeaniem · 08-03-2012, 04:08 PM

Maybe a few carbs would help? I am waking during the night feeling panicky too. I love my DH more than anything (happily married 28 yrs), and I actually asked him today if he would be happier living alone, he said no but I am so moody and down on myself I know I am no fun to be around.

steady · 08-03-2012, 04:45 PM

Yeah...My DH said the same thing as your DH in 2008, when I was at my lowest weight and hard core VLCing and walking around deeply depressed. That is when I realized how much my obsession with diet/weight was making both of us miserable. I realized I had to eat right but not obsess, and one way was to set a template for a what I each day and do the best I can to eat that while not compromising the enjoyable moments in life. If DH really wants to eat or do something together that is not very carb friendly like eat ice cream, popcorn, or pizza...I go with him have a diet coke or salad, and share a bite of his treat. Truthfully, these moments are rare now, since he tries to eat "more low carbish". I shared my lc woe with him...now we seek out places that we both enjoy and even if I eat salads.

Realize you are conquering a huge hurdle in your woe. Does your Dh know about you previous binge history? I know when I let Dh know...it was Huge in terms of him understanding why I was so moody when I was white knuckling to get over it. He really helped me when I was struggling and that was good for both of us.

No pressure, but it is your responsibility to find the right balance in your diet so that you both feel good.

jeaniem · 08-03-2012, 04:59 PM

He knows I overeat sugar, but is of the mindset that it is simply a choice. When he gains a few pounds he takes full responsibility, cuts back on the food and loses the pounds. It is that simple to him, unlike me. I hate myself for upsetting him today, he is trying to sleep now so he can work night shift, but I can tell he is awake. Tomorrow I will just fake it best as I can and try to act happy.

steady · 08-04-2012, 12:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jeaniem

He knows I overeat sugar, but is of the mindset that it is simply a choice. When he gains a few pounds he takes full responsibility, cuts back on the food and loses the pounds. It is that simple to him, unlike me. I hate myself for upsetting him today, he is trying to sleep now so he can work night shift, but I can tell he is awake. Tomorrow I will just fake it best as I can and try to act happy.

Don't act, just be. Go with the flow...no pressure, no diet...just be sensible about choices.Enjoy yourself first, then put everything like diet into place.

jeaniem · 08-04-2012, 02:26 PM

Steady
Do you ever feel rage? Like you just want to walk through the house and start smashing things! I feel guilty because I know my life could be much worse and I should be thankful for all the good things in my life.

steady · 08-05-2012, 12:22 AM

Yes! All of 2008! I flew off the handle with everything...it never diffused only abated at times, but always on the verge of flying off the handle. I just was completely dissatisfied and felt like I was constantly battleing something or someone, yet later, I realized most of it was self-imposed or something not that important. I just asked myself what I was really angry at, could I/ do I want to change it or not, or could I just let it go or did it really matter. Then I focused and used my anger more constructively and also more conservatively.

Also just because you feel angry doesn't mean you have the right to vent the anger... some times you need to self-sooth rather than fuel the angry feeling with more angry thoughts. It is easy to be angry and feel rage it is hard to just enjoy the mundane and little things and put the angering situations into perspective. Not that I had a "gratitude" journal, but I really kept saying to myself that "It isn't so bad" eventually I started to see things "are not so bad". Later it became things are really great, so much so, that the bad things don't seem so bad. Don't get me wrong, I do had bad/mad/sad days, phases and attitudes about certain things, but I don't let it spead to everything.

I am not trying to ask you to not feel what you feel, but make sure your feelings are constructive towards making you happy, making it "right", or just deciding if it is worth expending anymore feelings towards.

Why are you feeling rage? Dig deep. No, "just cause"...is it the constant vigilance to not binge? ...that would be very valid, but imagine what it will be like when binging is no longer your pattern. Be angry at the destruction of binging not the struggle and effort needed to conquer it. Focus that anger on NOT letting it defeat you....you got 20+ days under your belt going another 10 or more is much easier than having to start at day 1 again. Be mad at past behavior of falling into the same pattern over and over again not the effort needed to get out.

Also about your DH way of thinking, which is an admirable quality of men. They isolate the problem and do what it takes to fix it, and they don't let their emotions about the situation derail them only drive them to their resolution or they make "peace" with it and move on. Women approach it differently...with the idea that difficulty and anger will fuel determination to achieve goals. However, being angry is exhausting and leaving us feeling weak, defeated, and back to square one.

Again find the source of your rage. Decide what it will take to not feel that way. It may require confrontation with someone, it may require you let it go, it may require an attitude adjustment, or it may require you to channel the energy into something more positive for you. What ever you do, don't spend your time fueling angry thoughts...it is a waste of energy and gets you nowhere you want to be in your life.

jeaniem · 08-05-2012, 09:16 AM

Thank you so much for your post Steady. You are very wise and I am your senior!

I think of you almost every day when my mind is thinking about the binge. My old standby a pint or two of starbucks coffee ice cream, bags of cookies, and always a small bag of chocolate covered peanuts is becoming albeit ever so slowly less appealing. Your right every time I say "no" helps me to realize that I do have some control.

jeaniem · 08-06-2012, 02:06 PM

28 days binge free!!! I can't believe it!!!

gello5440 · 08-06-2012, 05:50 PM

Yay Jeanie!

tobelowcarber · 08-07-2012, 11:43 AM

FANTASTIC !!!!!! Way to go Jeanie!!!!!

jeaniem · 08-07-2012, 11:49 AM

Thanks gello5440 and Marika! I miscounted today marks 1 month binge free. It is early in the day, but somehow I just know it will be a successful binge free day.

steady · 08-07-2012, 01:03 PM

One month! Already?!?!!? Look at Jeanie. So proud of you!

jeaniem · 08-07-2012, 04:18 PM

Thanks Steady and a lot of my success has hinged on this thread and your great advice.

jeaniem · 08-11-2012, 08:03 AM

Yes!!! Saw the 130's today for the first time in months!!

jeaniem · 08-11-2012, 09:20 AM

My old so called comfort foods now need to be thought of as dis-comfort foods.

steady · 08-11-2012, 09:48 AM

Yes, so true... Thinking about some of my old favorite, I almost feel sick just thinking about eating them.

07-08-2012, 06:31 PM	#123
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	binge binge some more get eating under control lose weight fast loss stops or slows no weight change or increase kid myself that it doesn't bother me for a while get discouraged with no scale change Binge Pattern. Now to recognize it and halt it. Last edited by jeaniem; 07-08-2012 at 06:32 PM..

07-12-2012, 05:48 PM	#124
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	It was getting bad, spending about $12 a day binging day after day, that was just extra food I bought not counting the cost of the the groceries I already had in the house and of course heartburn meds on top of that. I couldn't concentrate and wanted to be alone all the time just so that I could shop and eat! Not working has been sort of a blessing in that I feel guilty wasting money that I not earning right now. I also started thinking about how DH works out and tries to eat well so that he can remain healthy while I am jeopardizing my health and our future together by binging. Of course we can only prevent so much, but I don't want to decrease the odds of us growing older together or become a burden to him because I didn't take care of myself. Last edited by jeaniem; 07-12-2012 at 05:50 PM..

07-26-2012, 01:05 PM	#129
steady Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 3,424 Gallery: steady Stats: 110/95 5'2 WOE: ATKINS Start Date: Feb 2007	Awww, I know that feeling...had a few rough days myself. Are you still taking your meds. for depression? I will say try to ride it out and just get around people, maybe a little shopping or a walk in a park? Even if you feel like doing nothing and wallowing...just realize it is a temporary state, and that tomorrow can be a better day. Last edited by steady; 07-26-2012 at 01:06 PM..

08-03-2012, 04:45 PM	#136
steady Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 3,424 Gallery: steady Stats: 110/95 5'2 WOE: ATKINS Start Date: Feb 2007	Yeah...My DH said the same thing as your DH in 2008, when I was at my lowest weight and hard core VLCing and walking around deeply depressed. That is when I realized how much my obsession with diet/weight was making both of us miserable. I realized I had to eat right but not obsess, and one way was to set a template for a what I each day and do the best I can to eat that while not compromising the enjoyable moments in life. If DH really wants to eat or do something together that is not very carb friendly like eat ice cream, popcorn, or pizza...I go with him have a diet coke or salad, and share a bite of his treat. Truthfully, these moments are rare now, since he tries to eat "more low carbish". I shared my lc woe with him...now we seek out places that we both enjoy and even if I eat salads. Realize you are conquering a huge hurdle in your woe. Does your Dh know about you previous binge history? I know when I let Dh know...it was Huge in terms of him understanding why I was so moody when I was white knuckling to get over it. He really helped me when I was struggling and that was good for both of us. No pressure, but it is your responsibility to find the right balance in your diet so that you both feel good. Last edited by steady; 08-03-2012 at 04:48 PM..

08-03-2012, 04:59 PM	#137
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	He knows I overeat sugar, but is of the mindset that it is simply a choice. When he gains a few pounds he takes full responsibility, cuts back on the food and loses the pounds. It is that simple to him, unlike me. I hate myself for upsetting him today, he is trying to sleep now so he can work night shift, but I can tell he is awake. Tomorrow I will just fake it best as I can and try to act happy. Last edited by jeaniem; 08-03-2012 at 05:00 PM..

07-05-2012, 12:27 PM	#122
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Haven't been here in a while. Not making much progress. I need a job and have yet to find one. I can't stand not having a weekday routine!! I am overwhelmed lately by all the different opinions on what one needs to do lose weight. I would love to get back to that place I was in about a year and a half ago- highly motivated and 6 months binge free!

07-21-2012, 05:50 PM	#125
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Doing well. 13 days binge free. Have had a couple of urges to binge, but tell myself I don't want to go there and then have to deal with the repercussions. I have to be strong and loyal to my health.

07-22-2012, 06:11 PM	#126
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Wow $168 saved by not binging for 14 days!!

07-23-2012, 02:08 PM	#127
steady Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 3,424 Gallery: steady Stats: 110/95 5'2 WOE: ATKINS Start Date: Feb 2007	Great idea Jeanie-That has to be the most encouraging item to count!

07-26-2012, 12:55 PM	#128
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Staying on plan but I feel sooo down. Lump in my throat on the verge of tears all the time and I am not really sure why. Bizarre thoughts of running away from home.

07-26-2012, 01:31 PM	#130
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Taking my wellbutrin. The issues I have with low mood and low self esteem have been resurfacing. I thought I was done with all that.

07-30-2012, 06:35 PM	#132
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	22 days binge free! Clothes are getting loose. I will not end this summer without going shopping for smaller size clothing.

08-03-2012, 09:05 AM	#133
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Doing okay 25 days binge free, but am concerned about my mood. LC helps my mood for a while and then I end up feeling depressed. I need to find the right combo of foods that keep me on a more even keel emotionally.

08-03-2012, 11:30 AM	#134
steady Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 3,424 Gallery: steady Stats: 110/95 5'2 WOE: ATKINS Start Date: Feb 2007	I know this is a sin to say on this site, but you just might need more carbs. I know if I am under 40 for a few days...I get that dark cloud. I would treat carbs like medicine, maybe have a small potato before bed...just pop it in your mouth, chew, swallow, brush and go to bed...don't give yourself time to wander around the kitchen and get into trouble.

08-03-2012, 04:08 PM	#135
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Maybe a few carbs would help? I am waking during the night feeling panicky too. I love my DH more than anything (happily married 28 yrs), and I actually asked him today if he would be happier living alone, he said no but I am so moody and down on myself I know I am no fun to be around.

08-04-2012, 02:26 PM	#139
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Steady Do you ever feel rage? Like you just want to walk through the house and start smashing things! I feel guilty because I know my life could be much worse and I should be thankful for all the good things in my life.

08-05-2012, 12:22 AM	#140
steady Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 3,424 Gallery: steady Stats: 110/95 5'2 WOE: ATKINS Start Date: Feb 2007	Yes! All of 2008! I flew off the handle with everything...it never diffused only abated at times, but always on the verge of flying off the handle. I just was completely dissatisfied and felt like I was constantly battleing something or someone, yet later, I realized most of it was self-imposed or something not that important. I just asked myself what I was really angry at, could I/ do I want to change it or not, or could I just let it go or did it really matter. Then I focused and used my anger more constructively and also more conservatively. Also just because you feel angry doesn't mean you have the right to vent the anger... some times you need to self-sooth rather than fuel the angry feeling with more angry thoughts. It is easy to be angry and feel rage it is hard to just enjoy the mundane and little things and put the angering situations into perspective. Not that I had a "gratitude" journal, but I really kept saying to myself that "It isn't so bad" eventually I started to see things "are not so bad". Later it became things are really great, so much so, that the bad things don't seem so bad. Don't get me wrong, I do had bad/mad/sad days, phases and attitudes about certain things, but I don't let it spead to everything. I am not trying to ask you to not feel what you feel, but make sure your feelings are constructive towards making you happy, making it "right", or just deciding if it is worth expending anymore feelings towards. Why are you feeling rage? Dig deep. No, "just cause"...is it the constant vigilance to not binge? ...that would be very valid, but imagine what it will be like when binging is no longer your pattern. Be angry at the destruction of binging not the struggle and effort needed to conquer it. Focus that anger on NOT letting it defeat you....you got 20+ days under your belt going another 10 or more is much easier than having to start at day 1 again. Be mad at past behavior of falling into the same pattern over and over again not the effort needed to get out. Also about your DH way of thinking, which is an admirable quality of men. They isolate the problem and do what it takes to fix it, and they don't let their emotions about the situation derail them only drive them to their resolution or they make "peace" with it and move on. Women approach it differently...with the idea that difficulty and anger will fuel determination to achieve goals. However, being angry is exhausting and leaving us feeling weak, defeated, and back to square one. Again find the source of your rage. Decide what it will take to not feel that way. It may require confrontation with someone, it may require you let it go, it may require an attitude adjustment, or it may require you to channel the energy into something more positive for you. What ever you do, don't spend your time fueling angry thoughts...it is a waste of energy and gets you nowhere you want to be in your life.

08-05-2012, 09:16 AM	#141
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Thank you so much for your post Steady. You are very wise and I am your senior! I think of you almost every day when my mind is thinking about the binge. My old standby a pint or two of starbucks coffee ice cream, bags of cookies, and always a small bag of chocolate covered peanuts is becoming albeit ever so slowly less appealing. Your right every time I say "no" helps me to realize that I do have some control.

08-06-2012, 02:06 PM	#142
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	28 days binge free!!! I can't believe it!!!

08-06-2012, 05:50 PM	#143
gello5440 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Ohio Posts: 698 Gallery: gello5440 WOE: Low Carb - Atkins Start Date: October 2010	Yay Jeanie!

08-07-2012, 11:43 AM	#144
tobelowcarber Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 1,792 Gallery: tobelowcarber Stats: 136/127.4/115-120 WOE: JUDDD/MUDDD	FANTASTIC !!!!!! Way to go Jeanie!!!!!

08-07-2012, 11:49 AM	#145
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Thanks gello5440 and Marika! I miscounted today marks 1 month binge free. It is early in the day, but somehow I just know it will be a successful binge free day.

08-07-2012, 01:03 PM	#146
steady Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 3,424 Gallery: steady Stats: 110/95 5'2 WOE: ATKINS Start Date: Feb 2007	One month! Already?!?!!? Look at Jeanie. So proud of you!

08-07-2012, 04:18 PM	#147
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Thanks Steady and a lot of my success has hinged on this thread and your great advice.

08-11-2012, 08:03 AM	#148
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	Yes!!! Saw the 130's today for the first time in months!!

08-11-2012, 09:20 AM	#149
jeaniem Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 6,150 Gallery: jeaniem Stats: 166 /149/? 5'1.5 WOE: lc-ish	My old so called comfort foods now need to be thought of as dis-comfort foods.

08-11-2012, 09:48 AM	#150
steady Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 3,424 Gallery: steady Stats: 110/95 5'2 WOE: ATKINS Start Date: Feb 2007	Yes, so true... Thinking about some of my old favorite, I almost feel sick just thinking about eating them.

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