Meat Me Rockin' Around the Stillman's HolidayTable for December!

[Yam-Yam]

Hi All!

The celebrations continue here and won't be over until after New Year's Day. I was so, so good eating wise until Christmas day. All my strong resolve flew out the window. Now the carb cravings are back in the wake of mashed potatoes, gravy, apple pies, cookies, and oh, oh, oh, the chocolates. They keep calling my name...

Scale is up 3 pounds from where it was last Friday. I will get the control back! We all will for sure.

Just wanted to pop in and stay connected. Enjoyed reading all the posts!

CC: You continue to inspire!

[CCGirl]

now on Dr. Oz, the ten minute miracle to weight loss..........such a quack..........

[CCGirl]

Yaaaaaaaaaammmm holidays are once a year, and one day there may not be as many smiling faces as this one. Treasure and cherish the moments, they will soon be gone.....

[becky123abc]

Originally Posted by CCGirl

Yaaaaaaaaaammmm holidays are once a year, and one day there may not be as many smiling faces as this one. Treasure and cherish the moments, they will soon be gone.....

Wonderful words of wisdom CC!

[Yam-Yam]

Cc: You got that right! I'm spending every possible moment with my grand kids. They are so amazing. I'm 57 years old but feel like I'm a kid. They have me going up and down the tall slides, climbing on play gyms and monkey bars and playing tag! I'm lots lighter than I was last year and all my workouts have made me pretty fit. So, I can keep up with them. Their smiling faces make my world.

[Yam-Yam]

Amazingly, today has been a good LC day so far. I'm preparing baked salmon for dinner. There will be corn bread and rice for everyone else, but I'm sticking with the protein today. Really crossing my fingers for a drop on the scale tomorrow. Even a pound or two will make me feel more hopeful and motivated.

[CCGirl]

Originally Posted by becky123abc

Wonderful words of wisdom CC!

Originally Posted by Yam-Yam

Cc: You got that right! I'm spending every possible moment with my grand kids. They are so amazing. I'm 57 years old but feel like I'm a kid. They have me going up and down the tall slides, climbing on play gyms and monkey bars and playing tag! I'm lots lighter than I was last year and all my workouts have made me pretty fit. So, I can keep up with them. Their smiling faces make my world.

what can I say? I guess Mrs. Claus has rubbed off on me.......andlife gets more precious as we get older and loved ones pass......

every one of my ebay aucions has the same closing line-

Life is too short not to have the vintage cool stuff, china, silver and glass that you love. Spoil your pets, kiss your kids, tell your signifigant other that you love them even in the moments that you don't. Call your Mom and Dad. I love you Mom!

[CCGirl]

was doing well until those three truffles jumped into my mouth I got himself a three foot long box of chocolates.......kill me now......and I usually don't like the stuff that much

[CCGirl]

this should warm you all up.........windy and gusts to 40MPH, tonight's low 9F.

[Yam-Yam]

Brrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!! Bundle up and hug someone warm!!

[Getting there!!!]

Ok I'm venting!! I can't stick being at home any longer. I know that sounds so bad, really I do. I feel guilty for saying it, let alone writing it. I just feel as though every time I'm home I get sucked back into my old life. I know it's the Holidays, but it's like there's so much junk food in the house. Everyone gets up really late and goes to bed late( ok I always go late but I get up early!) Breakfast takes an age. All everyone does is eat. And the TV is literally on from 7 til bed. I just can't seem to get to workout. I know I sound like a total cow. I've eaten so much crap in the last week. And peeps when I eat crap, I really eat it. And then I throw it up. I look like crap and feel like crap. I really really hate doing it. Believe me, there is nothing like it to make you feel pathetic. The only way I can control it is by being extremely rigid with what I eat. I really really tried today to go back to Stills, did well but then we were in a restaurant and there was literally nothing on the menu--I mean that--and everyone was all like oh but it's Xmas and you can well afford to eat, so I gave in and had a bagel. Then I felt like a failure--blah, blah. I know I'm getting like a bee. I know I'm starting to snap at everyone. But I'm seriously going crazy. My Mum is driving me nuts. And when I do eat it's like oh it's great you're eating, eat up! I feel everyone is watching and knowing that I'm eating rubbish. It's like they enjoy it when I eat. I seriously don't want to be reminded of what I've eaten. and all the weightloss shows are being advertised on TV and mags are full of diets. And I just feel guilty as hell.
Ok my pity party is over!! I'm sorry I just had to whinge. I was about to burst.

[Yam-Yam]

GT: Sweetie!!!! I know what you mean about how tough it is to be home. Last summer I went home to see my brother in hospital. I stayed a week and all we did was eat. After I left I started getting back to my good plan. Then my brother passed away and I went back for the funeral and stayed a week and a half. When I got back and finally stepped on the scale I had gained 10 pounds! I cried my eyes out for a whole day before I finally got my act together and jumped back on the wagon. Be of good cheer. Better days are ahead. You will be back in control of your environment. You know how to do this and you will. Don't spend another minute beating up on yourself. Go with the flow until you have your life back. We are all here to support you. You are our Bud!!

[nermo]

GT- sweety I know where you're coming from. Ever since I came back home to the U.S and actually living with DH I just can't keep on track. When I was living alone overseas I was doing so well. I am starting to think there's something else I am trying to fill in with the comfort of food. Stay strong GT , we're here for ya

[CCGirl]

OMG I had a feeling..........the sabotage ship of food and family would sail on someone........the smothering feeling of being surrounded........don't know what to say to make you feel better, I know your transformation has come at a great cost of relationships...

I can't help but wonder if you are the slimmest then there is some sinister motivation behind seemingly good intentions.....

[CCGirl]

on the flip side, my stepmonster said 'look how skinny she is' when I arrived in CT and my dad said 'she's lost a TON of weight'

which made me mad, like, crap it was only 35 pounds, geeeez...

at least my stepmonster's sister shot back 'she wasn't fat in the first place'........she last saw me about four years ago, I was about 180-185 then......

[CCGirl]

GT, people fear change. It makes them uncomfortable because they think they can't and abhor someone who did. It kills me how families can be so undermining and unsupportive when we need them.

[CCGirl]

waiting for it to 'warm' up a bit before turning out the horses...........it's stil 10F on the back porch..........

[CCGirl]

maybe it should be renamed a slim negative environment..........this excerpt is from a site where overweights discuss guilt and feelings in social situations........



Surviving the Holidays in a Fat-Negative Environment
metrofats:

Last weekend, MetroFats held a very successful skills share around body-shaming during holiday visits with family. We discussed the following questions:

• What about holiday gatherings is hard for you? Is it just about body size, or is there other stuff too? What kinds of thoughts and feelings do the holidays provoke?
•How do we cope with body-shaming in the moment?
•How do we evaluate whether to set boundaries around body-shaming with family members?
•What can we do to take care of ourselves before and after a stressful event where implicit or explicit body-shaming is likely to occur?

Here are some ideas that we came up with:

•An excellent place to start is the Spending the Holidays With Your Family Fatcast by the marvelous Lesley Kinzel and Marianne Kirby. Lesley and Marianne suggest having a buddy to vent to via text message (or venting on Twitter), taking some time to hide in the bathroom when things get to be too much, and deploying the abrupt subject change (i.e. “Have you gained/lost weight?” “Nope. How’s your cat?”)
• Get some perspective: your family is doing their best, even if their best is terrible. Karen recommends this essay by Anne Lamott.
• Eat often! A glucose-depleted brain is a brain that has a hard time coping, and if you’re eating often you don’t really need to worry about eating the perfect thing, because you’ll eat again soon anyway.
• Hanne Blank’s Big Big Love has an excellent chapter on setting boundaries with your family.
• Use the Fatosphere to bolster your body-positivity before and after stressful family events. Here are some places to start:
Adipositivity

The Museum of Fat Love

**** Yeah, Visible Belly Outlines

**** Yeah, Trans Fats

**** Yeah, Chubby Couples

Fat People of Color

Deathfatties

Also see the links to introductory fat acceptance resources on our website!

• Perhaps nothing is more crucial than self-care before and after stressful events (whether or not they are family-related and/or involve body-shaming)! Here’s a list of self-care resources we compiled:
Epic Self-Care Post

Meditation podcasts at Meditation Groups Led by Jude Rozhon
The Woman’s Comfort Book by Jennifer Louden

The Fat Nutritionist

If you have a resource to suggest for one of these lists, feel free to email it to us at metrofats [at] gmail.com. We wish happy holidays to those who celebrate and look forward to seeing everyone in 2012!

[CCGirl]

from the essay 'I wanted to love my mom because she did the best that she could do. But her best was terrible.'

Grace means suddenly you’re in a different universe than where you had been stuck, and there was absolutely no way for you to get there on your own. When it happens — when you stop hating — you really have to pinch yourself. Jesus said, “The point is not to hate and kill each other today.” Can you write that down, and put it by the phone?

Close.Anne Lamott is the bestselling author of seven novels, including "Blue Shoe," "Crooked Little Heart" and "Rosie," and five works of nonfiction including "Grace (Eventually)," "Bird By Bird" and "Operating Instructions." Her new novel, "Imperfect Birds," came out in paperback in April 2011. She’s the mother of one son, 22, and a grandson, 2

O Noraht, Noraht - Motherhood - Salon.com

[CCGirl]

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[Beth Sch]

Hi beautiful, Ladies!

LONG TIME NO SEE! Boy, do I have a ton to share. But first off,

GT!!!!!!!!! BLESS YOUR HEART! I feel your pain, ladybug. MY GOD, family are insane arn't they. I went home last Xmas and the first thing my mother said to me was, "You're TOO SKINNY!" Mind you, I hadn't seen her in almost 4 yrs and this is the first thing she utters from her warped mouth! SICK. She's a cool 50 over wt. as is everyone else in my fam.. More like 60-70 for some. It's so sad. THe food issue baffles me. Like it would be way better that I'm grossly overwt. so as to die right along side you all? Argh!

What I've learned in those horrible situations, is to go in a room and breathe. We have to slow ourselves down and collect who we really are and silence their insanity. Yes, food and festivities go along but we have a choice. I've learned my lesson this xmas as well! I need to make my own LC things and munch on those. I'll pray for you, sweet GT. Thank God for Stills, you'll be right as rain in 2 weeks! Hang tight!

Okay, so here's the skinny on me...

New Post

[Beth Sch]

This past summer, I was super-duper, quadruper skinny. To the point that everyone who saw me said, "ARE YOU SICK". lolol No lie! But, you know us, I still thought I needed to lose a bit more. I'll post pics. Anyway, since around Thanksgiving I loosed up, started nippling on the old stuffing, cookies, chocolates, etc. I didn't do too much damage but boy, did I learn a huge lesson. I think I have Celiac's Disease. Not having any wheat for almost 8 mo. then having it, my body EXPODED! NO LIE. I gained like 15 lbs of water in a week. Something went terribly wrong. It's almost back to normal but I am serious about NOT having Gluten ever again.

I was making cookies with my daughter and I ate maybe 3. Then the next day, I had a sliver of Peacan Pie. One thing about me, I NEVER go full on crazy with food, NEVER. I nibble and have a cookie or two, but that's it as I know how FREAKIN hard it is to get back to normal. All that said, I know I have a wheat alergy for sure.

So, I'm probably a few weeks away from getting back to "scary skinny" So I'll be cking in from time to time.

Miss you all. Is Al comin' back, how about Tanya, and the Doc. Miss them too.

All my love!

Beth

P.s. I have a Q. How many real eggs should I eat. I have always eaten only the whites, but can't stomach them anylonger. I know Dukan and Stills says unlimited, but....

[nermo]

Ok well has anyone done the leslie sanson walk away the pounds dvd. OMG I was sweating so hard and my heart was racing. It's a 5 mile workout but I only did 2 today. I wad exhausted but I'll do baby steps and work my way up. But it's an awesome workout, love it

[CCGirl]

{{{{{{{{{Beth}}}}}}}}} OMG

another testament why grain is soooooooo not good for us!

[CCGirl]

don't have any workout DVD's Nerm, I can just see me falling down the stairs in the dining room

used to love Gilads Bodies in Motion, on cable. I remember years ago he had his mom on the show now and then, and she was in her sixties.

tried the yoga show but they go so fast I can't keep up......

winter sucks I can't do my two mile walk. I remember one year I went out, got up the hill and down before realizing there was glare ice on the road. I had to take baby steps all the way back, it was hysterical.........

[Beth Sch]

Hey CC!

I'm trying to post pics and can't seem to figure it out... Argh.

Isn't it amazing how fast we lose on this diet. It blows my mind. Like in one day I feel way better. I've learned my lesson for sure. I'm just going to make all Gluten Free, LC goodies, there are a billion out there and delicious to boot!

Hugs to all.

[CCGirl]

Originally Posted by CCGirl

{{{{{{{{{Beth}}}}}}}}} OMG

another testament why grain is soooooooo not good for us!

The Definitive Guide to Grains | Mark's Daily Apple

[becky123abc]

Originally Posted by Beth Sch

Hey CC!

I'm trying to post pics and can't seem to figure it out... Argh.

Isn't it amazing how fast we lose on this diet. It blows my mind. Like in one day I feel way better. I've learned my lesson for sure. I'm just going to make all Gluten Free, LC goodies, there are a billion out there and delicious to boot!

Hugs to all.

"Like"

[Getting there!!!]

Actually got about 2 hrs to myself!!! Did Insanity and Callan. Feel so much better ( calmer!) .

[Getting there!!!]

Nermo--my Mum was talking about that walking DVD. She likes a walk but in the Winter it's too wet here!!!