It's so hard :(

biscuit tin · 03-18-2008, 03:08 AM

I fell off again and I'm actually back to my start weight again. I can't seem to put myself into this any more. I've started again this morning, but right now I seem to be starting over every couple of days. I know you have to be in the right mindset but this is getting tiresome. I don't know what to do now. I came on yesterday, so my sugar cravings where at an all time high, and considering I ate rubbish all weekend I think that just heightened the cravings. I've had a cheese omellette this morning and started over, but the evenings seem to be my struggle as do being around my boyfriend whos habits differ greatly. Has anyone got any advice they can give me? I'm having such a struggle at the moment and what with Easter holidays coming up, and invite after invite to go to social occassions, I don't know how I'm going to cope

Dani
xxx

cokids · 03-18-2008, 09:43 AM

Ya, tell your boyfriend that his eating is poisoning you! My husband was awful this way as well and I shamed him into realizing that the food he loved was poison to me and his eating it in front of me was very unkind! It was like smoking in front of a smoker trying to quit...not very nice!!

Beth

cokids · 03-18-2008, 09:44 AM

Oh, and I must tell you that now he asks if he can eat cookies or ice cream as he sits with me. Sometimes I say, 'Sure,' and other times I say, "No!" just depends on my mood and appetite on that particular evening. He's good about it.

Beth

ACT II · 03-18-2008, 10:20 AM

I agree with Beth... your boyfriend's way of eating is poisoning you. Just let him know that. If he is a "keeper", he'll support the fact that you want to live and long and healthy life of feelin' good and lookin' fine!

It definitely helps if everyone is on board with the Beach. My family had no choice. I went through the cupboards, fridge, even the freezer and EVERYTHING that wasn't South Beach friendly went out the door. We simply do not have the food in the house, so there is nothing to be tempted by. The only difference was the kids got to eat P2 friendly foods right away while I was doing P1. I tell you... I noticed a difference with everyone in the house. My son has already lost over 20 lbs (he still has a ways to go) and although my daughter hasn't lost any weight (she didn't have any excess weight to start with) she went through an insane sugar with-drawl which told me I was on the right track.

Maybe your boyfriend will even feel better if he jumps on board himself!?!

South Beach is the easiest way I have every found to lose weight. I never feel hungry and I never feel deprived. And I think one of the main reasons I never feel deprived is that I kicked the cravings in P1. It is hard to start, hard to wrap your mind around sticking to P1... but you can do it!

It is only 14 days out of the rest of your life, and if you approach it just one day at a time it won't seem like such an insurmountable hurdle. Just make sure you stick to it faithfully (no alcohol! LOL) and you'll be able to get rid of those cravings that are making you backslide...

Don't beat yourself up about the struggle you are going through right now. We all go through struggles sometimes... Pat yourself on the back for the weight you lost before, remember how good it felt to shed those pounds and (to steal a slogan from Nike), JUST DO IT!

We are all here for you with tons and tons of love, support, encouragement, empathy and even recipes to keep you going. Good luck!

mlmagic · 03-18-2008, 10:56 AM

I too so understand, so agree with act II...have been trying to stay on ph 1 for 2 weeks now...I finally decided to go through the house and do the "clean sweep" I sat down and talked to my family seriously and told them I really NEEDED their support, once I did that, they were fine. Before that, I had been "white-knuckling" through all the days, glancing into my pantry and trying to keep from eating everything in sight!! HORRIFIC cravings! I know from doing SB for 2 years that getting started is the hardest part, after about 5 days LOTS of water and NO cheating, you get a breakthrough...To be honest...for me, it was sheer will and the decision I made for myself at times, no matter what I wanted to put in my mouth, I just walked away and stayed on ph 1. You may need to get really serious with your boyfriend/family and ask him to hide that crap where you don't even see it and he will have to eat in elsewhere...even in the bathroom with the door closed if need be...

Get the SB holidays cookbook and do the Easter dinner, it's lovely and all planned out for you, it saved my butt a few times during the holidays...The first few days/week are SO critical to success on ph 1. I lost 50 # last year and I know if I can do it, with my LOVE for "gooodies", anyone can!! Get serious, make a plan and follow-thru!

There is no better feeling on earth than achieving for YOURSELF what you set out to do...Good luck!!

cowboymom · 03-18-2008, 11:58 AM

See now I look at this differently.

This is where I believe you do the best you can and if what you can do is 50% OP then that's what you do. For me (ME) if I make it too big of a deal in my head then I stress myself out about it too much and then I really end up in the ditch.

I don't expect everyone around me to change how they eat to suit me, nobody is force feeding me. It's extremely helpful for me if I don't have to have those foods around but I'm not going to become a SB Nazi telling everyone else how they have to eat around me. After all, I DO have the strength to say no, I don't always USE that strength and aye, there's the rub. Why would you not? Everyone is strong enough, you are too biscuit, but you have to want it! How can you make yourself want to do that enough to overcome temptations?

Biscuit, you can have that boyfriend and go out for dinners and do all those things and be OP! You know that, you've felt it before and you know that eating well is as easy or as difficult as your mind and emotions let it be. I honestly think what would be the best for you to do is think about your mental game, if you're whiteknuckled all the time and any deviation from your white knuckle routine knocks you down then something isn't working.

He's a good guy, right? He's good to you? Makes you feel good about yourself? Are you just living large right now and life is so fun who wants to be deprived? then eat the OP things you like and have a dang beer and call it a day! When you feel powerful again you'll ease up on the beer, you'll choose the low carb drink instead, you'll skip the fried food for something steamed, when you feel GOOD. I'm here to tell you you can drink alcohol wisely and lose weight at the same time. You might get kicked out of the SB Club but you can do it if that's what your lifestyle is! Do your best and don't flog yourself b/c that FLOGGING is what is really messing you up, nothing else. If you flog yourself for "failing" it will drive you right to the bad food choices that you're trying to fight, you'll drive yourself nuts. Do your best, meal by meal, enjoy your boy and Easter and feel good about yourself and don't make it all such a big deal and I bet you'll feel like eating really well again soon and off you'll go. When you feel good about yourself and powerful and motivated is when you'll stick closer to the program. What can you do to feel GOOD, POWERFUL and MOTIVATED? Do THAT! It's OK, this is life! You do your best but don't beat yourself up, it's counterproductive! Sometimes a human being's best isn't perfect! LOL Take another run at it, no worries!

lilymo · 03-18-2008, 01:01 PM

I feel for you biscuit as I am having the same on again off again struggles... but I have to agree with Cowboymom also. I feel overwhelmed at work some days since people I work with bring in goodies and always at holidays- if it's not candy corn, jelly beans etc. then it's baked goods. Drives me crazy. But an alcohic still has to be around alcohol sometimes at wedding receptions etc. so we have to make the choice not to indulge!

mlmagic · 03-18-2008, 01:50 PM

I agree with the other views as well. Different things work for different people. All I know for me, is that I am an emotional eater and for the first few weeks, it is soooo helpful to have those "bad" trigger foods OUT of my house. If you are fortunate enough to have a supportive family/ boyfreind... then it works best, but if not...then you still CAN do it as the other's have said. After all, SB is not a diet, but a healthy way of eating and choosing the "right " foods as a lifestyle.We all for the rest of our lives will be around food we should stay away from, But for a while...I do ask for my family's support. Not an order, just support, they are always willing...

I have always also seen my family get more involved in eating healthier when Mom is on track...we women are the cooks, etc. in our homes, (most situations) Whatever works for you biscuit, you have seen us all do it in different ways, just don't quit! The only way to fail is to completly quit trying!!

rose1 · 03-18-2008, 04:31 PM

I can see both points of view. At home, we buy nothing off plan. I have asked Dh to not leave his cashews out; while they are not off plan, I find myself dipping into them over and over. For quite a while, I didn't go out to eat because it was so much easier to deal with temptations if the temptations weren't there.

Our tiny little community has very little choices for restaurants-- fast food, which I don't have a problem with, and a wonderful Mexican resaurant. What's the point of going to a Mexican restaurant and getting a salad? So I stayed away until I could go and not eat chips and not eat rice. Dh went at lunch if he wanted to.

It helps tremendously to stay away from temptation until you are well underway, but if you can't....... Could you have nice dinners at home? Is your boyfriend supportive at all or does he coerce you to eat off plan? Is he waving doughnuts under your nose, or does he just eat whatever he wants and lets you go your own way? You cango out and still stay on plan. Eat what you can and let him eat what he wants. If he is tempting you constantly, then I see that as a control issue, but if he has a "live and let live" attitude, then fine.

On the other hand, if what you are eating isn't good for you, if it makes you feel bad, then you need to address that. Like smoking. I can't be around smoke. Period. That's all there is to it. I can't eat sugary stuff. Period. And if someone who was supposed to love me kept pushing it, he would be unkind to say the least. And it doesn't have to be all or nothing. You're not a bad person for eating a cookie or having a drink. And you don't have to start over from scratch. Just continue on. The thing is, if you are off plan, more than you are on, then you are going to have to make some adjustments in your own head and come to an understand of what you can cope with.

Sort of rambling here

LindseyLu · 03-20-2008, 09:03 AM

Im having major cravings, im on the 4th day of phase 1...Please HELP! What is there that stops the cravings? I have tried low fat chedder cheese....getting sick of it..is there anything else I can do? Cracker Barrell Bisquits are calling my name!! AHHH!

mlmagic · 03-20-2008, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by LindseyLu

Im having major cravings, im on the 4th day of phase 1...Please HELP! What is there that stops the cravings? I have tried low fat chedder cheese....getting sick of it..is there anything else I can do? Cracker Barrell Bisquits are calling my name!! AHHH!

Push through it!

Eat a handfull of nuts and a bottle of water, that usually will help me. after the first week, it's better

I know how you feel. I had to stay on PH I for 3 weeks, cause I just kept struggling, but once I got through week 1, the cravings went away.

LindseyLu · 03-20-2008, 11:37 AM

Oh that is good to hear for sure! Thanks mlmagic! Thank you so much for the encouragement! Im planning on staying on phase 1 for 3 weeks as well or until I lose about 15 lbs. I haven't messed up yet and won't, I am trying to stay focused this time around. I am soo thankful for this blog, I didn't have it before when I was on it. Thank you all!

Current weight: 180
Goal weight: 140

Doitforyou4 · 03-20-2008, 07:28 PM

Lindsey becareful, dont expect to lose 15 lbs on phase 1 alone. It can be a let down and make you quit if you dont reach it. Just be happy if you lose any, which you will! Its very exciting seeing the numbers move. But if you deprive yourself of fruits and grains too long you will end up overdoing it when you do move into phase 2 and have to start all over again. good luck!! def post all your menus in the thread! this board has helped me soo much !

I'm Brittney by the way

LindseyLu · 03-21-2008, 07:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Doitforyou4

Lindsey becareful, dont expect to lose 15 lbs on phase 1 alone. It can be a let down and make you quit if you dont reach it. Just be happy if you lose any, which you will! Its very exciting seeing the numbers move. But if you deprive yourself of fruits and grains too long you will end up overdoing it when you do move into phase 2 and have to start all over again. good luck!! def post all your menus in the thread! this board has helped me soo much !

I'm Brittney by the way

Thanks for the info Britt! Nice to meet you too! All of you guys are so great, I never thought kind of place existed..its a great help!

jlieb62 · 03-22-2008, 06:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Doitforyou4

Lindsey be careful, dont expect to lose 15 lbs on phase 1 alone... if you deprive yourself of fruits and grains too long you will end up overdoing it when you do move into phase 2 and have to start all over again.

I couldn't agree more. To be honest, I really didn't lose any weight to speak of on Phase I but once I moved to Phase II it started coming off at a good pace. I think my body just needs the fruits and grains to be happy. I think folks sometimes put too much emphasis on weightloss for the first two weeks. If Phase I breaks your sugar cravings and gets you eating right, even if you haven't lost a single pound, it has served it's purpose.

xamier · 03-22-2008, 07:01 AM

How about spending a few days journaling. Try to figure out what triggers the eating off plan. You are probably using food to deal with..........something or thinking of food as part of a fun time. (for example, can't watch a movie without pop corn)

Once you figure out your triggers, ask your BF nicely if he wouldn't mind helping you out by (what ever you need him to do for a few weeks). Get plenty of legal foods in the house and don't worry about overeating for the 1st few weeks while you get into Ketosis.

Just keep your carbs under control. Some people never have to worry about amounts/calories and some do, but the first few weeks isn't when you worry. Get into ketosis, get your cravings under control and then worry about the rest.
Good luck.

biscuit tin · 03-25-2008, 06:28 AM

Hey guys! Thanks for all your responses!

I had an ok week. Being easter, I cheated the once and had a roast dinner and rhubarb crumble on Sunday...I've taken a slightly relaxed approach to phase 1 I guess, but I am 4lbs down from what I was when I wrote this post.

I explained a few things to my boyfriend. How it was getting me down etc. Well, to my surprise he went home and he cleared out his cupboards completely of any temptations. And yesterday night I went to see him as he offered to cook me dinner, and he'd been on a south beach recipe site and made me this lovely meal that was completely Phase 1 friendly!

He's taken on a more "no carb" attitude too as he wants to loose some weight now. We've got a little competition going on now, with goals and even a prize at the end!

I'm not religously on Phase 1, but I am eating in more of a Phase 1 fashion, which seems to be working. I'm building myself back in and I'll do the phase strictly in the next week or so. But at the moment, I'm not worrying about it as much!

Thanks for all your support and advice. This really is the best SB forum on the net!!!

Thanks again xxxx

Radmom413 · 03-25-2008, 06:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Doitforyou4

Lindsey becareful, dont expect to lose 15 lbs on phase 1 alone. It can be a let down and make you quit if you dont reach it. Just be happy if you lose any, which you will! Its very exciting seeing the numbers move. But if you deprive yourself of fruits and grains too long you will end up overdoing it when you do move into phase 2 and have to start all over again. good luck!!

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Originally Posted by jlieb62

I think folks sometimes put too much emphasis on weightloss for the first two weeks. If Phase I breaks your sugar cravings and gets you eating right, even if you haven't lost a single pound, it has served it's purpose.

I agree with Britt and Jim. I considered P1 a detoxing period and if I lost weight along with everything else, great. I just plain felt better and not so bloated while doing P1 and that, to me was enough.

I also agree with Jim about people putting too much emphasis on losing weight AND large amounts in P1 - for reasons stated above. AND I also think people either want to stay on P1 too long and are afraid to move into P2 because they won't lose or continue to lose. The most and steadiest weight loss occurs in P2. This is a great program and one to eat with for LIFE!!!

Push through P1 - drink lots of water.....you can do it Lindsay!!!!

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Originally Posted by biscuit tin

I explained a few things to my boyfriend. How it was getting me down etc. Well, to my surprise he went home and he cleared out his cupboards completely of any temptations. And yesterday night I went to see him as he offered to cook me dinner, and he'd been on a south beach recipe site and made me this lovely meal that was completely Phase 1 friendly!

He's taken on a more "no carb" attitude too as he wants to loose some weight now. We've got a little competition going on now, with goals and even a prize at the end!

Biscuit Tin - that is AWESOME!!! I think you and DBF are in for some great changes ahead!!!!

tinatina · 03-25-2008, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by biscuit tin

Hey guys! Thanks for all your responses!
I had an ok week. Being easter, I cheated the once and had a roast dinner and rhubarb crumble on Sunday...I've taken a slightly relaxed approach to phase 1 I guess, but I am 4lbs down from what I was when I wrote this post.
I explained a few things to my boyfriend. How it was getting me down etc. Well, to my surprise he went home and he cleared out his cupboards completely of any temptations. And yesterday night I went to see him as he offered to cook me dinner, and he'd been on a south beach recipe site and made me this lovely meal that was completely Phase 1 friendly!
He's taken on a more "no carb" attitude too as he wants to loose some weight now. We've got a little competition going on now, with goals and even a prize at the end!
I'm not religously on Phase 1, but I am eating in more of a Phase 1 fashion, which seems to be working. I'm building myself back in and I'll do the phase strictly in the next week or so. But at the moment, I'm not worrying about it as much!
Thanks for all your support and advice. This really is the best SB forum on the net!!!
Thanks again xxxx

Yay, good for you and your boyfriend!

debkeversole · 03-25-2008, 08:08 AM

hang in there! i am starting over too! just get right back up and go at it again!

biscuit tin · 03-25-2008, 10:46 AM

Thanks guys

I really appreciate your support! xxxxxxxxx

LindseyLu · 03-25-2008, 11:37 AM

Thanks for the all of the encouragement guys!

I weighed in monday morning and I have lost 7 lbs on the first 7 days! Im excited and very motivated to move forward with the last week and then move on to ph2.

Oh by the way..is Crystal light ok to drink on phase1?

Couldn't do it without you guys!

Radmom413 · 03-25-2008, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by LindseyLu

Oh by the way..is Crystal light ok to drink on phase1?

It is Lindsey!!! But try to get a good amount of plain ole water in too!

jlieb62 · 03-26-2008, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Radmom413

I also think people either want to stay on P1 too long and are afraid to move into P2 because they won't lose or continue to lose. The most and steadiest weight loss occurs in P2.

BINGO!

I lost my 33 pounds in Phase 2... NOT Phase 1.

Of course everyone should do a strict Phase 1 by the book to break their bad sugar habits, but please don't rely on it for a huge weightloss up front. I lost nothing on Phase 1 and will never return to it. When I find myself stalled in Phase 2 I take a good hard look at portion control/calories. South Beach provides an excellent framework for healthy eating, but that doesn't mean you get to be gluttonous. Willpower and the desire to lose weight will always be a factor regardless of which plan you follow.

Best of luck to you!

Jim

03-18-2008, 03:08 AM	#1
biscuit tin Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Spitalfields, London Posts: 67 Gallery: biscuit tin Stats: 138/126/119 (7lbs to go!) WOE: South Beach Start Date: 07/01/08	It's so hard :( I fell off again and I'm actually back to my start weight again. I can't seem to put myself into this any more. I've started again this morning, but right now I seem to be starting over every couple of days. I know you have to be in the right mindset but this is getting tiresome. I don't know what to do now. I came on yesterday, so my sugar cravings where at an all time high, and considering I ate rubbish all weekend I think that just heightened the cravings. I've had a cheese omellette this morning and started over, but the evenings seem to be my struggle as do being around my boyfriend whos habits differ greatly. Has anyone got any advice they can give me? I'm having such a struggle at the moment and what with Easter holidays coming up, and invite after invite to go to social occassions, I don't know how I'm going to cope Dani xxx

03-18-2008, 10:20 AM	#4
ACT II Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: British Columbia, Canada Posts: 98 Gallery: ACT II Stats: 258/238/145 WOE: South Beach Start Date: January 2008	I agree with Beth... your boyfriend's way of eating is poisoning you. Just let him know that. If he is a "keeper", he'll support the fact that you want to live and long and healthy life of feelin' good and lookin' fine! It definitely helps if everyone is on board with the Beach. My family had no choice. I went through the cupboards, fridge, even the freezer and EVERYTHING that wasn't South Beach friendly went out the door. We simply do not have the food in the house, so there is nothing to be tempted by. The only difference was the kids got to eat P2 friendly foods right away while I was doing P1. I tell you... I noticed a difference with everyone in the house. My son has already lost over 20 lbs (he still has a ways to go) and although my daughter hasn't lost any weight (she didn't have any excess weight to start with) she went through an insane sugar with-drawl which told me I was on the right track. Maybe your boyfriend will even feel better if he jumps on board himself!?! South Beach is the easiest way I have every found to lose weight. I never feel hungry and I never feel deprived. And I think one of the main reasons I never feel deprived is that I kicked the cravings in P1. It is hard to start, hard to wrap your mind around sticking to P1... but you can do it! It is only 14 days out of the rest of your life, and if you approach it just one day at a time it won't seem like such an insurmountable hurdle. Just make sure you stick to it faithfully (*no alcohol!* LOL) and you'll be able to get rid of those cravings that are making you backslide... Don't beat yourself up about the struggle you are going through right now. We all go through struggles sometimes... Pat yourself on the back for the weight you lost before, remember how good it felt to shed those pounds and (to steal a slogan from Nike), JUST DO IT! We are all here for you with tons and tons of love, support, encouragement, empathy and even recipes to keep you going. Good luck! __________________ Shana Goal: Fit & Fabulous @ 40! I CAN DO IT! 250's Gone 4ever! Bye-Bye 240's! 239 237 236 235 234 233 232 231 230 229...

03-18-2008, 10:56 AM	#5
mlmagic Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Pacific Northwest Posts: 391 Gallery: mlmagic Stats: Goal...THIS YEAR! 160...(5'8) WOE: SBD/organic Start Date: 2004/off&on never quit!	I too so understand, so agree with act II...have been trying to stay on ph 1 for 2 weeks now...I finally decided to go through the house and do the "clean sweep" I sat down and talked to my family seriously and told them I really NEEDED their support, once I did that, they were fine. Before that, I had been "white-knuckling" through all the days, glancing into my pantry and trying to keep from eating everything in sight!! HORRIFIC cravings! I know from doing SB for 2 years that getting started is the hardest part, after about 5 days LOTS of water and NO cheating, you get a breakthrough...To be honest...for me, it was sheer will and the decision I made for myself at times, no matter what I wanted to put in my mouth, I just walked away and stayed on ph 1. You may need to get really serious with your boyfriend/family and ask him to hide that crap where you don't even see it and he will have to eat in elsewhere...even in the bathroom with the door closed if need be... Get the SB holidays cookbook and do the Easter dinner, it's lovely and all planned out for you, it saved my butt a few times during the holidays...The first few days/week are SO critical to success on ph 1. I lost 50 # last year and I know if I can do it, with my LOVE for "gooodies", anyone can!! Get serious, make a plan and follow-thru! There is no better feeling on earth than achieving for YOURSELF what you set out to do...Good luck!! __________________ ~Lysa I can do all things through Christ who strengthen's me...

03-18-2008, 11:58 AM	#6
cowboymom Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: out west Posts: 737 Gallery: cowboymom	See now I look at this differently. This is where I believe you do the best you can and if what you can do is 50% OP then that's what you do. For me (ME) if I make it too big of a deal in my head then I stress myself out about it too much and then I really end up in the ditch. I don't expect everyone around me to change how they eat to suit me, nobody is force feeding me. It's extremely helpful for me if I don't have to have those foods around but I'm not going to become a SB Nazi telling everyone else how they have to eat around me. After all, I DO have the strength to say no, I don't always USE that strength and aye, there's the rub. Why would you not? Everyone is strong enough, you are too biscuit, but you have to want it! How can you make yourself want to do that enough to overcome temptations? Biscuit, you can have that boyfriend and go out for dinners and do all those things and be OP! You know that, you've felt it before and you know that eating well is as easy or as difficult as your mind and emotions let it be. I honestly think what would be the best for you to do is think about your mental game, if you're whiteknuckled all the time and any deviation from your white knuckle routine knocks you down then something isn't working. He's a good guy, right? He's good to you? Makes you feel good about yourself? Are you just living large right now and life is so fun who wants to be deprived? then eat the OP things you like and have a dang beer and call it a day! When you feel powerful again you'll ease up on the beer, you'll choose the low carb drink instead, you'll skip the fried food for something steamed, when you feel GOOD. I'm here to tell you you can drink alcohol wisely and lose weight at the same time. You might get kicked out of the SB Club but you can do it if that's what your lifestyle is! Do your best and don't flog yourself b/c that FLOGGING is what is really messing you up, nothing else. If you flog yourself for "failing" it will drive you right to the bad food choices that you're trying to fight, you'll drive yourself nuts. Do your best, meal by meal, enjoy your boy and Easter and feel good about yourself and don't make it all such a big deal and I bet you'll feel like eating really well again soon and off you'll go. When you feel good about yourself and powerful and motivated is when you'll stick closer to the program. What can you do to feel GOOD, POWERFUL and MOTIVATED? Do THAT! It's OK, this is life! You do your best but don't beat yourself up, it's counterproductive! Sometimes a human being's best isn't perfect! LOL Take another run at it, no worries! __________________ "Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." Thomas Edison

03-18-2008, 04:31 PM	#9
rose1 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Tennessee Posts: 10,744 Gallery: rose1 WOE: Vegetarian version of SB Start Date: June, 2005	I can see both points of view. At home, we buy nothing off plan. I have asked Dh to not leave his cashews out; while they are not off plan, I find myself dipping into them over and over. For quite a while, I didn't go out to eat because it was so much easier to deal with temptations if the temptations weren't there. Our tiny little community has very little choices for restaurants-- fast food, which I don't have a problem with, and a wonderful Mexican resaurant. What's the point of going to a Mexican restaurant and getting a salad? So I stayed away until I could go and not eat chips and not eat rice. Dh went at lunch if he wanted to. It helps tremendously to stay away from temptation until you are well underway, but if you can't....... Could you have nice dinners at home? Is your boyfriend supportive at all or does he coerce you to eat off plan? Is he waving doughnuts under your nose, or does he just eat whatever he wants and lets you go your own way? You cango out and still stay on plan. Eat what you can and let him eat what he wants. If he is tempting you constantly, then I see that as a control issue, but if he has a "live and let live" attitude, then fine. On the other hand, if what you are eating isn't good for you, if it makes you feel bad, then you need to address that. Like smoking. I can't be around smoke. Period. That's all there is to it. I can't eat sugary stuff. Period. And if someone who was supposed to love me kept pushing it, he would be unkind to say the least. And it doesn't have to be all or nothing. You're not a bad person for eating a cookie or having a drink. And you don't have to start over from scratch. Just continue on. The thing is, if you are off plan, more than you are on, then you are going to have to make some adjustments in your own head and come to an understand of what you can cope with. Sort of rambling here __________________ One of the SNARK Sisters - hitting goals right and left! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ If you're Knitting, you're not Eating! ~~~Proud Knitter For~~*~ The Ships Project- Supporting America's Troops Deployed in the War on Terror- One stitch at a time! http://www.theshipsproject.com

03-18-2008, 09:43 AM	#2
cokids Junior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Boothbay, Maine Posts: 16 Gallery: cokids Stats: 183/180/150 WOE: South Beach modified (counting calories) Start Date: Feb. 27, 2008	Ya, tell your boyfriend that his eating is poisoning you! My husband was awful this way as well and I shamed him into realizing that the food he loved was poison to me and his eating it in front of me was very unkind! It was like smoking in front of a smoker trying to quit...not very nice!! Beth

03-18-2008, 09:44 AM	#3
cokids Junior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Boothbay, Maine Posts: 16 Gallery: cokids Stats: 183/180/150 WOE: South Beach modified (counting calories) Start Date: Feb. 27, 2008	Oh, and I must tell you that now he asks if he can eat cookies or ice cream as he sits with me. Sometimes I say, 'Sure,' and other times I say, "No!" just depends on my mood and appetite on that particular evening. He's good about it. Beth

03-18-2008, 01:01 PM	#7
lilymo MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Maine Posts: 1,948 Gallery: lilymo Stats: 222/207/140 5'2" WOE: South Beach Start Date: Once again, this time 8/08	I feel for you biscuit as I am having the same on again off again struggles... but I have to agree with Cowboymom also. I feel overwhelmed at work some days since people I work with bring in goodies and always at holidays- if it's not candy corn, jelly beans etc. then it's baked goods. Drives me crazy. But an alcohic still has to be around alcohol sometimes at wedding receptions etc. so we have to make the choice not to indulge!

03-18-2008, 01:50 PM	#8
mlmagic Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Pacific Northwest Posts: 391 Gallery: mlmagic Stats: Goal...THIS YEAR! 160...(5'8) WOE: SBD/organic Start Date: 2004/off&on never quit!	I agree with the other views as well. Different things work for different people. All I know for me, is that I am an emotional eater and for the first few weeks, it is soooo helpful to have those "bad" trigger foods OUT of my house. If you are fortunate enough to have a supportive family/ boyfreind... then it works best, but if not...then you still CAN do it as the other's have said. After all, SB is not a diet, but a healthy way of eating and choosing the "right " foods as a lifestyle.We all for the rest of our lives will be around food we should stay away from, But for a while...I do ask for my family's support. Not an order, just support, they are always willing... I have always also seen my family get more involved in eating healthier when Mom is on track...we women are the cooks, etc. in our homes, (most situations) Whatever works for you biscuit, you have seen us all do it in different ways, just don't quit! The only way to fail is to completly quit trying!!

03-20-2008, 09:03 AM	#10
LindseyLu Junior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Florida - beach capital! Posts: 33 Gallery: LindseyLu Stats: 180/163/140 WOE: South Beach here I come! Start Date: 3/17/07	Cravings Im having major cravings, im on the 4th day of phase 1...Please HELP! What is there that stops the cravings? I have tried low fat chedder cheese....getting sick of it..is there anything else I can do? Cracker Barrell Bisquits are calling my name!! AHHH!

03-20-2008, 11:37 AM	#12
LindseyLu Junior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Florida - beach capital! Posts: 33 Gallery: LindseyLu Stats: 180/163/140 WOE: South Beach here I come! Start Date: 3/17/07	Oh that is good to hear for sure! Thanks mlmagic! Thank you so much for the encouragement! Im planning on staying on phase 1 for 3 weeks as well or until I lose about 15 lbs. I haven't messed up yet and won't, I am trying to stay focused this time around. I am soo thankful for this blog, I didn't have it before when I was on it. Thank you all! Current weight: 180 Goal weight: 140

03-20-2008, 07:28 PM	#13
Doitforyou4 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 480 Gallery: Doitforyou4 Stats: In shape... it feels great WOE: South Beach Baby!! Start Date: Nov. 5, 2007	Lindsey becareful, dont expect to lose 15 lbs on phase 1 alone. It can be a let down and make you quit if you dont reach it. Just be happy if you lose any, which you will! Its very exciting seeing the numbers move. But if you deprive yourself of fruits and grains too long you will end up overdoing it when you do move into phase 2 and have to start all over again. good luck!! def post all your menus in the thread! this board has helped me soo much ! I'm Brittney by the way

03-22-2008, 07:01 AM	#16
xamier Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Citronelle, Alabama Posts: 693 Gallery: xamier Stats: 125 5'2"tall WOE: Atkins Maintenance Start Date: 6/17/03	How about spending a few days journaling. Try to figure out what triggers the eating off plan. You are probably using food to deal with..........something or thinking of food as part of a fun time. (for example, can't watch a movie without pop corn) Once you figure out your triggers, ask your BF nicely if he wouldn't mind helping you out by (what ever you need him to do for a few weeks). Get plenty of legal foods in the house and don't worry about overeating for the 1st few weeks while you get into Ketosis. Just keep your carbs under control. Some people never have to worry about amounts/calories and some do, but the first few weeks isn't when you worry. Get into ketosis, get your cravings under control and then worry about the rest. Good luck. __________________ Betty Morgan (Winston Free State) Citronelle, Alabama, USA

03-25-2008, 06:28 AM	#17
biscuit tin Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Spitalfields, London Posts: 67 Gallery: biscuit tin Stats: 138/126/119 (7lbs to go!) WOE: South Beach Start Date: 07/01/08	Hey guys! Thanks for all your responses! I had an ok week. Being easter, I cheated the once and had a roast dinner and rhubarb crumble on Sunday...I've taken a slightly relaxed approach to phase 1 I guess, but I am 4lbs down from what I was when I wrote this post. I explained a few things to my boyfriend. How it was getting me down etc. Well, to my surprise he went home and he cleared out his cupboards completely of any temptations. And yesterday night I went to see him as he offered to cook me dinner, and he'd been on a south beach recipe site and made me this lovely meal that was completely Phase 1 friendly! He's taken on a more "no carb" attitude too as he wants to loose some weight now. We've got a little competition going on now, with goals and even a prize at the end! I'm not religously on Phase 1, but I am eating in more of a Phase 1 fashion, which seems to be working. I'm building myself back in and I'll do the phase strictly in the next week or so. But at the moment, I'm not worrying about it as much! Thanks for all your support and advice. This really is the best SB forum on the net!!! Thanks again xxxx

03-25-2008, 08:08 AM	#20
debkeversole Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: southern ky Posts: 8,744 Gallery: debkeversole Stats: 370/333/199 WOE: curves challenge Start Date: jan 2006	hang in there! i am starting over too! just get right back up and go at it again!

03-25-2008, 10:46 AM	#21
biscuit tin Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Spitalfields, London Posts: 67 Gallery: biscuit tin Stats: 138/126/119 (7lbs to go!) WOE: South Beach Start Date: 07/01/08	Thanks guys I really appreciate your support! xxxxxxxxx

03-25-2008, 11:37 AM	#22
LindseyLu Junior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Florida - beach capital! Posts: 33 Gallery: LindseyLu Stats: 180/163/140 WOE: South Beach here I come! Start Date: 3/17/07	Thanks for the all of the encouragement guys! I weighed in monday morning and I have lost 7 lbs on the first 7 days! Im excited and very motivated to move forward with the last week and then move on to ph2. Oh by the way..is Crystal light ok to drink on phase1? Couldn't do it without you guys!