I Feel Like A Failure!

task78 · 04-30-2007, 06:01 AM

Well, here I am, trying to decide if I should do this for the 100th time! The past few weeks I have thought about Atkins and even Kimkins for the fast results (vacation in 9 weeks!) So I try a few days, get discouraged and then FAIL miserably. SB is one I have been able to stick to longer than most, I really like the variety. The thing is now here I am having went to the grocery this weekend (swearing I would just eat whatever I want in moderation!) so there is a lot of non SB friendly foods around thinking I really need to do something! Why do I keep doing this to myself? Anyone else out there who struggles constantly to eat the right way? The only good thing is that I am exercising daily. Should I just forget about this week and start fresh next once we have ate all the bad foods this week? Any advice/support or words of wisdom would be appreciated, don't be afraid to just be mean and tell me to suck it up and stick to the plan either! I do really want to lose the weight, I just wish it didn't have to be so hard.

amadeus4313 · 04-30-2007, 06:39 AM

Task,
I can really relate to your post. I think that whatever plan you choose, you should just start. There are always going to be the "wrong" foods around. Take it from one who has "last suppered" her way for 20 years - the foods being there are the excuse to keep from doing what you need to do. I wasted so much time waiting for the "right" time to start - it never comes. It's ALWAYS the right time to start. I work in a school so that's where I take the food I can't eat. (and it is now to the point where I CANT eat it for health reasons.) If you can't bear to throw it all out at once, dispose of it a little each day. The fact is that we need to learn to live in the presence of this stuff and not eat it. Even if it isn't in our homes, it is in other places. We have to learn to co-exist with it. I wish I had figured all of this out long ago. Don't be like me and keep putting it off - the "ideal" time never really comes because in truth, we don't want it to come. The real truth is that the "ideal" time is right now, with the next bite.

This past weekend I ran my very first race. I was the heaviest person there. Withing 30 seconds of the start, just about everyone was blocks ahead of me. 4 months ago I committed to the race vowing that I was going to lose weight. It didn't happen. I would slip and then binge - vowing that I would start fresh the next day. I actually weighed 5 pounds more than when I first committed to the race. The race was held at the school where I work. I planned to not do the race, swearing that "next year I'll be in shape." I did very little running this past month. I really had no business entering that race. But you know what - I wanted to be able to wear the t-shirt that I had already paid for. I knew if I wore it without running the race, I would feel like a fraud. I finally decided that I didn't care what people thought, I was going out there and doing it. As I ran the course with no one in sight except a little girl who was struggling to come in before me, I realized it didn't matter that I was the last except for a group of walkers behind me. As I rounded the second mile, a former student ran up and gave me a big "hi 5" and told me he was proud of me. I ran the whole race, improved a minute and a half over my usual time, felt great, placed 92 out of 108 and am planning to run again next year. The point of this whole long post is that if I had backed out the way I had planned to, because the time wasn't right, I would be sitting here kicking myself. Several people called to ask how I did. I didn't have to admit defeat. I ran that race and I am proud of myself. It took me 39:21 minutes to run that race. A small investment of time for a great feeling of pride in myself!

Task,
go for it. give that food away. Don't wait another minute. Pick your plan (they're all good), stick with it, and post your progress here. I'll be watching for it!

Mary

2bdancing · 04-30-2007, 06:59 AM

The only thing I can advise is nothing like starting today. Getting rid of the ugly stuff and start. I have been working on losing 10 #'s for several months. I was on Atkins and exercising and nothing was happening. I started looking at SB two weeks ago and started full force Sunday. I piddled with it last week but did not realize that I was not totally committed because of the illegal foods I was eating. I am with you on the wanting to and not being totally commited. Hang in there. If you completed the race you can definatley do this and lose the weight you need to. I like being accountable and hope this works. Keep us posted on your decision and how you do it. Thanks for sharing your feelings and know that you are not alone.

Neesie 2x · 04-30-2007, 07:02 AM

Task,
I can relate too. I'm one of those people who have to start things on a Monday -weird huh? If you're like that too, guess what - it is MONDAY! So start fresh today.
It would be nice to pack up all that "avoidable" food and bring it to a food drive or shelter. I don't know where you live, but I'm sure there's someone who would be very gratefull to have whatever you give. That way you won't be throwing out the food and you'll feel really good about it afterward.
Just remember we've all been there and we're all here to help! Check in here everyday or every hour if you can and read the posts, that's how I keep on track.

Have a great day!
Neesie
Have a great

JillianDC · 04-30-2007, 02:42 PM

Task: I'm not going to be mean, but I am going to be straight with you. If you really want to lose the weight -- I mean really want to -- then make up your mind to do it and DO IT! For years, I was a procrastinator and always had an excuse for starting tomorrow or putting it off and I always failed. This January, I made up my mind and told myself I had to start immediately and I was not allowed to fail. No options anymore. Just stick to plan. Eat right and exercise. And you know what? Once I started, it was a little difficult, but once I pushed through, it got easier and soon became automatic. Not I'm here 4 months later, 25 lbs and lots of inches lighter, and feeling so much better about myself. Don't wait another day, another minute. START NOW. If you can't resist the illegal foods in your house, get rid of them. There are plenty of legal foods you can eat and lose weight.

Believe me, it's more mental than physical. Are you mentally ready to do this? If so, you can succeed! We'll all be here to help you.

And remember, whatever you do, as long as you stick with it, you WILL be looking better in 9 weeks for your vacation. But also remember that this is a journey for your life, not just for a short-term goal!

I wish you all the best!

LowCarbRachel · 04-30-2007, 03:22 PM

Task, you are not a failure--you just need to decide how much you want this for yourself and that you are worth it. And then it's just a matter of persistence and time and accepting that this is a journey that you're taking because you deserve it. For me, it's like a vacation from feeling frumpy, feeling anxious, feeling exhausted, feeling tired, and not being able to sleep.

I love the South Beach Diet for all of those reasons and more. I can see that
it's not going to be a fast weight loss program, but I'm willing to put the time and effort into it, to really work it, wholeheartedly. But I had to get to the point where I was ready.

jandanoj · 04-30-2007, 05:34 PM

I can relate also. I used to tell people that I still needed to lose the 65 pounds I gained when I was pregnant with my daughter. I think I have played that one out since my daughter will be 30 in January!!

As the other poster said, there is never a "right" time; any time is right when you are ready! Good luck! If I can do this, anyone can!!

Jan

task78 · 05-02-2007, 05:58 PM

Thank you for all of the encouraging responses. You are all right, I just have to comit myself to the plan and be patient. I know it is healthy and I know it works. I still need to get to the grocery to stock up on SB friendly foods. I will do this and start ASAP!

Canadianjanie · 05-27-2007, 02:12 PM

Task for certain U are not a failure...It's been a major struggle for me as well. I weigh close to the same as u and in 11 months i have only lost about 30 lbs depending on my water weight..I was cheat free (with the exception of eating too many calories perhaps for 10 of those months).. sister we have to be here like this for one another....I am almost 48 with a few medical issues so i am not very active physically...It's sunday today and monday tomorrow..hang in there sister

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04-30-2007, 06:01 AM	#1
task78 Junior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 24 Gallery: task78 Stats: 227/221/160? WOE: Healthy Start Date: 5/4/07	I Feel Like A Failure! Well, here I am, trying to decide if I should do this for the 100th time! The past few weeks I have thought about Atkins and even Kimkins for the fast results (vacation in 9 weeks!) So I try a few days, get discouraged and then FAIL miserably. SB is one I have been able to stick to longer than most, I really like the variety. The thing is now here I am having went to the grocery this weekend (swearing I would just eat whatever I want in moderation!) so there is a lot of non SB friendly foods around thinking I really need to do something! Why do I keep doing this to myself? Anyone else out there who struggles constantly to eat the right way? The only good thing is that I am exercising daily. Should I just forget about this week and start fresh next once we have ate all the bad foods this week? Any advice/support or words of wisdom would be appreciated, don't be afraid to just be mean and tell me to suck it up and stick to the plan either! I do really want to lose the weight, I just wish it didn't have to be so hard.

04-30-2007, 06:39 AM	#2
amadeus4313 Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Beautiful mid-Michigan Posts: 3,141 Blog Entries: 2 Gallery: amadeus4313	Task, I can really relate to your post. I think that whatever plan you choose, you should just start. There are always going to be the "wrong" foods around. Take it from one who has "last suppered" her way for 20 years - the foods being there are the excuse to keep from doing what you need to do. I wasted so much time waiting for the "right" time to start - it never comes. It's ALWAYS the right time to start. I work in a school so that's where I take the food I can't eat. (and it is now to the point where I CANT eat it for health reasons.) If you can't bear to throw it all out at once, dispose of it a little each day. The fact is that we need to learn to live in the presence of this stuff and not eat it. Even if it isn't in our homes, it is in other places. We have to learn to co-exist with it. I wish I had figured all of this out long ago. Don't be like me and keep putting it off - the "ideal" time never really comes because in truth, we don't want it to come. The real truth is that the "ideal" time is right now, with the next bite. This past weekend I ran my very first race. I was the heaviest person there. Withing 30 seconds of the start, just about everyone was blocks ahead of me. 4 months ago I committed to the race vowing that I was going to lose weight. It didn't happen. I would slip and then binge - vowing that I would start fresh the next day. I actually weighed 5 pounds more than when I first committed to the race. The race was held at the school where I work. I planned to not do the race, swearing that "next year I'll be in shape." I did very little running this past month. I really had no business entering that race. But you know what - I wanted to be able to wear the t-shirt that I had already paid for. I knew if I wore it without running the race, I would feel like a fraud. I finally decided that I didn't care what people thought, I was going out there and doing it. As I ran the course with no one in sight except a little girl who was struggling to come in before me, I realized it didn't matter that I was the last except for a group of walkers behind me. As I rounded the second mile, a former student ran up and gave me a big "hi 5" and told me he was proud of me. I ran the whole race, improved a minute and a half over my usual time, felt great, placed 92 out of 108 and am planning to run again next year. The point of this whole long post is that if I had backed out the way I had planned to, because the time wasn't right, I would be sitting here kicking myself. Several people called to ask how I did. I didn't have to admit defeat. I ran that race and I am proud of myself. It took me 39:21 minutes to run that race. A small investment of time for a great feeling of pride in myself! Task, go for it. give that food away. Don't wait another minute. Pick your plan (they're all good), stick with it, and post your progress here. I'll be watching for it! Mary __________________ My Blog: Musings from the Sugar Bush

04-30-2007, 07:02 AM	#4
Neesie 2x Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Maine Posts: 866 Gallery: Neesie 2x Stats: 186/144/134 WOE: South Beach Start Date: January 2, 2007	Task, I can relate too. I'm one of those people who have to start things on a Monday -weird huh? If you're like that too, guess what - it is MONDAY! So start fresh today. It would be nice to pack up all that "avoidable" food and bring it to a food drive or shelter. I don't know where you live, but I'm sure there's someone who would be very gratefull to have whatever you give. That way you won't be throwing out the food and you'll feel really good about it afterward. Just remember we've all been there and we're all here to help! Check in here everyday or every hour if you can and read the posts, that's how I keep on track. Have a great day! Neesie Have a great __________________ Holiday Goals: Maintain Not Gain! Workout at the gym 3-4 times a week Eat as clean as possible

04-30-2007, 02:42 PM	#5
JillianDC Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 933 Gallery: JillianDC Stats: 190/138/135 WOE: LC/Exercise Start Date: January 2, 2007	Task: I'm not going to be mean, but I am going to be straight with you. If you really want to lose the weight -- I mean really want to -- then make up your mind to do it and DO IT! For years, I was a procrastinator and always had an excuse for starting tomorrow or putting it off and I always failed. This January, I made up my mind and told myself I had to start immediately and I was not allowed to fail. No options anymore. Just stick to plan. Eat right and exercise. And you know what? Once I started, it was a little difficult, but once I pushed through, it got easier and soon became automatic. Not I'm here 4 months later, 25 lbs and lots of inches lighter, and feeling so much better about myself. Don't wait another day, another minute. START NOW. If you can't resist the illegal foods in your house, get rid of them. There are plenty of legal foods you can eat and lose weight. Believe me, it's more mental than physical. Are you mentally ready to do this? If so, you can succeed! We'll all be here to help you. And remember, whatever you do, as long as you stick with it, you WILL be looking better in 9 weeks for your vacation. But also remember that this is a journey for your life, not just for a short-term goal! I wish you all the best! __________________ 1/2/07: 190 lbs 8/20/07: 150 lbs -- made initial goal! 1/28/08: 140 lbs -- made 2nd goal! FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION! I will not give up on myself! Proud member of Allies Exercising Around the World/November Challenge

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04-30-2007, 06:59 AM	#3
2bdancing Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 991 Gallery: 2bdancing Stats: 150/124/120 5'4.5" medium frame WOE: Modified Atkins/Mainly SB Start Date: February 2001 restart February 2006	The only thing I can advise is nothing like starting today. Getting rid of the ugly stuff and start. I have been working on losing 10 #'s for several months. I was on Atkins and exercising and nothing was happening. I started looking at SB two weeks ago and started full force Sunday. I piddled with it last week but did not realize that I was not totally committed because of the illegal foods I was eating. I am with you on the wanting to and not being totally commited. Hang in there. If you completed the race you can definatley do this and lose the weight you need to. I like being accountable and hope this works. Keep us posted on your decision and how you do it. Thanks for sharing your feelings and know that you are not alone.

04-30-2007, 03:22 PM	#6
LowCarbRachel Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Salt Lake Area Posts: 11,963 Gallery: LowCarbRachel Stats: size 4/6 (maintaining) WOE: eating healthy foods	Task, you are not a failure--you just need to decide how much you want this for yourself and that you are worth it. And then it's just a matter of persistence and time and accepting that this is a journey that you're taking because you deserve it. For me, it's like a vacation from feeling frumpy, feeling anxious, feeling exhausted, feeling tired, and not being able to sleep. I love the South Beach Diet for all of those reasons and more. I can see that it's not going to be a fast weight loss program, but I'm willing to put the time and effort into it, to really work it, wholeheartedly. But I had to get to the point where I was ready.

04-30-2007, 05:34 PM	#7
jandanoj Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 234 Gallery: jandanoj WOE: South Beach Start Date: Tuesday, April 10, 2007	I can relate also. I used to tell people that I still needed to lose the 65 pounds I gained when I was pregnant with my daughter. I think I have played that one out since my daughter will be 30 in January!! As the other poster said, there is never a "right" time; any time is right when you are ready! Good luck! If I can do this, anyone can!! Jan

05-02-2007, 05:58 PM	#8
task78 Junior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 24 Gallery: task78 Stats: 227/221/160? WOE: Healthy Start Date: 5/4/07	Thank you for all of the encouraging responses. You are all right, I just have to comit myself to the plan and be patient. I know it is healthy and I know it works. I still need to get to the grocery to stock up on SB friendly foods. I will do this and start ASAP!

05-27-2007, 02:12 PM	#9
Canadianjanie Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 353 Gallery: Canadianjanie Stats: 225/220/160ish WOE: Atkins Induction Start Date: restart again august 27/08	Task for certain U are not a failure...It's been a major struggle for me as well. I weigh close to the same as u and in 11 months i have only lost about 30 lbs depending on my water weight..I was cheat free (with the exception of eating too many calories perhaps for 10 of those months).. sister we have to be here like this for one another....I am almost 48 with a few medical issues so i am not very active physically...It's sunday today and monday tomorrow..hang in there sister ...