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lose4me · 02-08-2006, 10:12 AM

I have been feeling down for the last few days real down. Alot things that never get me upset have gotten me upset.

I feel discouraged right now and I am thinking too much.... It is almost the TOM for me and that does not help me any but it will start soon I know.... Also I lost my Mom to heart problems two years ago and I sometimes feel that loss more days than others.

I promised myself that I would take the time this year to get healthy for me and start better care of me. So far I have been doing great and have had a few cheat days but managed to pick myself up and get right back on track. I am afraid at times that I will go back on my old track and fail. Every diet I started before I gave up and did not care anymore especially when I had stall in weight loss. I do not want to do that again I really need to take better care of me for me. I do not want to throw a pity party for me or anything just right now I feel real down. I know it will go away when TOM arrives but for now I feel discouraged by my moodiness.....

Well I wrote alot lately and so far I have not gone off plan and that is main goal this time to prevent a cheat day for me. It felt good to vent the way I am feeling though as I said I do want to throw a pity party or anything.

Take Care,
Jean

Yankee Belle · 02-08-2006, 12:30 PM

Jean, it's not a pity party to express how you're feeling, hon. That's what this board is all about. We're supposed to come here and support each other...and that doesn't always mean with a "Way to Go!" when you've lost a pound or two. Sometimes it means listening to whatever it is that's troubling you and just letting you know that you're not alone...and that someone cares.

Dieting is hard. I know that we're supposed to look at it as a "way of life"...and hopefully it WILL become that for us...but until then, it is dieting...and it's hard! Adding stress or depression or any negative feelings to the mix only makes it harder and unfortunately, those feelings in life are unavoidable. So there WILL be times that you need to just let it out. Please feel free to do so here! No one will think you're having a pity party. Almost all of us have had to share our "down" moments with each other.
I'm also afraid of losing my way with this eating plan and failing. We just have to take it one day at a time and constantly remind ourselves that we're worth the effort it takes. And think about it...if we don't stick to plan now, in a year we'll be in the exact same place (or maybe even worse off) and STILL wanting to do this. So we may as well go ahead with it now, right?

It's better than piling on yet another year of regret. (I'm talking to myself too)

You can do this. It's just going to take determination and will of steel. It's easy to do when you're feeling grand and cheerful. It's times like this that are tough. Just hang in there and don't worry about tomorrow. Just get through today. You might be surprised and find that tomorrow is a whole lot easier!

I hope you feel better soon.

BeyondClueless · 02-08-2006, 12:46 PM

Jean

I am sorry you are still feeling the loss of your mom.
All you can do is take it one day at a time, eventually the diet part will become a way of life.

redqueen · 02-08-2006, 04:42 PM

Jean, I struggle this time of year too! My father passed away in January 3 years ago, and my mother last March. Her birthday was Feb. 19th, so I understand your having a difficult time!

My advice is to take good care of yourself (stay on track with your diet) as a way of honoring of your mother! It is a way you can show you are grateful that she gave you life and that you cherish it and her memory.

You just come here as often as you need for support. Dieting is tough business without the emotional upsets. We'll help you all we can!

Chris

lose4me · 02-08-2006, 06:13 PM

Thank you so much for all your support and encouragement I am trying to remember to exercise while all this is going on it is supposed to help with everything. Which it did today I feel better since I took a walk and got outside. I am going to try to make the walking a regular plan I will just put the three year old in stroller and just keep walking.

Thanks again for the encouragement and support. I really appericate it.

Take Care,
Jean

justmarvi · 02-08-2006, 09:01 PM

I know your sadness. Glad your day got better.

02-08-2006, 10:12 AM	#1
lose4me Junior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: The Boonies Posts: 36 Gallery: lose4me Stats: 195/190/125 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: Jan 2006	Need Support I have been feeling down for the last few days real down. Alot things that never get me upset have gotten me upset. I feel discouraged right now and I am thinking too much.... It is almost the TOM for me and that does not help me any but it will start soon I know.... Also I lost my Mom to heart problems two years ago and I sometimes feel that loss more days than others. I promised myself that I would take the time this year to get healthy for me and start better care of me. So far I have been doing great and have had a few cheat days but managed to pick myself up and get right back on track. I am afraid at times that I will go back on my old track and fail. Every diet I started before I gave up and did not care anymore especially when I had stall in weight loss. I do not want to do that again I really need to take better care of me for me. I do not want to throw a pity party for me or anything just right now I feel real down. I know it will go away when TOM arrives but for now I feel discouraged by my moodiness..... Well I wrote alot lately and so far I have not gone off plan and that is main goal this time to prevent a cheat day for me. It felt good to vent the way I am feeling though as I said I do want to throw a pity party or anything. Take Care, Jean __________________ "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference "I can do all things through Him who strengthens me." Phillipians 4:13 My Goals (New to this) Learn to eat right Drink Water Everyday All day Talk to God Everday Exercise everyday Walking counts too.... Spend Quality Time with my girlies Remind myself everyday I am doing this for ME!!!!!

02-08-2006, 12:30 PM	#2
Yankee Belle Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Mobile, AL Posts: 619 Gallery: Yankee Belle Stats: 293/275/170 Height 5'10" WOE: My Way Start Date: January 2, 2006	Jean, it's not a pity party to express how you're feeling, hon. That's what this board is all about. We're supposed to come here and support each other...and that doesn't always mean with a "Way to Go!" when you've lost a pound or two. Sometimes it means listening to whatever it is that's troubling you and just letting you know that you're not alone...and that someone cares. Dieting is hard. I know that we're supposed to look at it as a "way of life"...and hopefully it WILL become that for us...but until then, it is dieting...and it's hard! Adding stress or depression or any negative feelings to the mix only makes it harder and unfortunately, those feelings in life are unavoidable. So there WILL be times that you need to just let it out. Please feel free to do so here! No one will think you're having a pity party. Almost all of us have had to share our "down" moments with each other. I'm also afraid of losing my way with this eating plan and failing. We just have to take it one day at a time and constantly remind ourselves that we're worth the effort it takes. And think about it...if we don't stick to plan now, in a year we'll be in the exact same place (or maybe even worse off) and STILL wanting to do this. So we may as well go ahead with it now, right? It's better than piling on yet another year of regret. (I'm talking to myself too) You can do this. It's just going to take determination and will of steel. It's easy to do when you're feeling grand and cheerful. It's times like this that are tough. Just hang in there and don't worry about tomorrow. Just get through today. You might be surprised and find that tomorrow is a whole lot easier! I hope you feel better soon. __________________ Theresa 1/2/06---293 1/24/06--280 1/7/06---285 2/2/06---275 1/13/06--283 Honesty with myself will be the key to my success!! Miles walked since January 23, 2006: 25.8

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02-08-2006, 12:46 PM	#3
BeyondClueless Bratty Tart Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 13,799 Gallery: BeyondClueless	Jean I am sorry you are still feeling the loss of your mom. All you can do is take it one day at a time, eventually the diet part will become a way of life.

02-08-2006, 04:42 PM	#4
redqueen Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Newcastle, CA Posts: 764 Gallery: redqueen Stats: 260/260/170 WOE: South Beach - Phase 1 Start Date: 11/30/08	Jean, I struggle this time of year too! My father passed away in January 3 years ago, and my mother last March. Her birthday was Feb. 19th, so I understand your having a difficult time! My advice is to take good care of yourself (stay on track with your diet) as a way of honoring of your mother! It is a way you can show you are grateful that she gave you life and that you cherish it and her memory. You just come here as often as you need for support. Dieting is tough business without the emotional upsets. We'll help you all we can! Chris

02-08-2006, 06:13 PM	#5
lose4me Junior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: The Boonies Posts: 36 Gallery: lose4me Stats: 195/190/125 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: Jan 2006	Thank you so much for all your support and encouragement I am trying to remember to exercise while all this is going on it is supposed to help with everything. Which it did today I feel better since I took a walk and got outside. I am going to try to make the walking a regular plan I will just put the three year old in stroller and just keep walking. Thanks again for the encouragement and support. I really appericate it. Take Care, Jean

02-08-2006, 09:01 PM	#6
justmarvi Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 3,218 Gallery: justmarvi	I know your sadness. Glad your day got better.