an excercise quandry... need advice

armypiglet · 05-26-2005, 02:39 PM

how in the world can i fix this mess i've made? a bit of background... my son is almost three (that's him with me in my picture to the left there). he is, shall we say, well loved! i hate to say spoiled because he is far from a brat, but he is a toddler and behaves accordingly, which means he is the monkey that is 24-7 on my back! sometimes that is ok with me, i'd rather have him there, with me, safely, than anywhere else in the world! BUT, in order for me to have some ME time, i managed to switch my body clock to wake up early, i shoot for 5:45 am, to do my work-outs alone in the still quiet of the morning. it's a time i TRULY cherish!!! however - my very smart for his own good son has somehow managed to also stir in the wee hours right along with me these days... and if he's up, im not excercising! not because i don't want to but because HE doesn't want me to! he is at the age where ONLY 100% attention will do, and merely tolerates when i am on the phone or making dinner or doing chores. but the excercise thing is a no-go with him, he HATES when i do. he actually had a full blown temper tantrum while i was trying to do yoga this morning (ever try to do relaxing and wonderful yoga in a hurricane??) - believe me, my little man is a GREAT kid! he is really fun, and smart, and funny, and very well behaved except with this. i don't know what to do, i haven't have but a handful of really decent work outs in probably 3 weeks! or more! i don't know if can get up any earlier than i already do, it's so hard as it is... any advice or sympathy even (LOL) will be MUCH appreciated!
thanks!
~jackie~

Barb aka BC · 05-26-2005, 02:41 PM

Aww. No advice, but plenty of sympathy. I used to swear that my kids hated for me to work out! Now that my babes are both in school I only work out then. Summer will be a challenge!

armypiglet · 05-26-2005, 02:44 PM

let me add that this mess i've made, that i forgot to add, includes the fact that my son sleeps in my room, so that is probably how he figured out when i wake up. he IS in his own bed, just in my room... we are "attachment" parents LOL now we can't get "unattached"!!! he's only 3 though, a baby really! and i adore being his mom, i just really need that ME time back again!!!

rola51 · 05-26-2005, 10:11 PM

When I have to, I do my workouts at home...but I noticed that the instant I would start working out, DD who is 3 would want to be doing the exact same thing. It just got hard, because she would get in my way.

I realized in order for me to truly get my workout time in, I had to workout outside of the house. Is there any way for you to do that? If it's not possible or affordable, is there any way you can do it in the evenings after he goes to bed? Or since you're in the same bed, do you go to sleep at the same time?

Yesterday I was able to take DD to the stadium with me. She hung out on the bleachers while I ran the stairs and did other leg work. Before, I would take her in the jogger and just get my exercise in that way. It's really only been recently that i've been able to get this great workout time in the evenings (at the gym).

Hope you figure out something, because I know how important it is to get those workouts in, and like you said...you like that time for just YOU.

PaminKY · 05-27-2005, 05:30 AM

I can't relate to having a child that doesn't like me to exercise but I did have a Chihuahua that didn't like it. Everytime I got on the floor for stomach exercise he wouldn't stop until he got on my stomach and would lay there and try to stick his tongue in my mouth (yuck!), he was pretty fast too. Of course my solution was to put him outside or in another room but I guess you can't do that with your son.

I agree with the other posters, you need some YOU time so if it is affordable go to a gym. You said he is three, does he still take naps?

Pam

armypiglet · 05-27-2005, 08:46 AM

i think i had a lightbulb moment this morning! for the last few weeks my husband has gotten up in the middle of the night and can't get back to sleep and ends up going to watch tv to fall asleep to in our guest room. then when i get up gavin has been alone in the room and he must have figured that out and that is why he's been waking up so early. last night i asked chris to stay in the room (because i don't like to be alone either, i am afraid of the dark

) and he said he would try... he did, and this morning when i got up i just put gavin in bed with chris.. they both fell back to sleep until i was done with a HOUR workout until 7:00 am! YAY!!! so now i just need to be able to get my husband to not wander to the guest room anymore... poor guy he sleeps awful... thanks for all your advice and for listening

i do really enjoy working out outside but the weather has been so horrible around here i havent' had the chance... but i have the jogger stroller ready and waiting!
~jackie~

Denise85 · 05-27-2005, 11:57 AM

I also have a three year old (and a 1 week old) and I joined Lifetime Fitness. They have an amazing daycare center and the security is great. You can keep them there for 2 hours straight if you want. I know there's no way dd would allow me to work out at home. Can you join a gym where they have a daycare?

stephanie34 · 05-27-2005, 02:09 PM

HI Jackie- I can totally relate to you. my son is now almost 7 and my daughter almost 10 the picture of them on the upper left is old but they are still so cute. What I wanted to say is my son is and was the same as your boy and I feel the same about mind as yours, he slept with his sister since he was 2 and a half and just 5 months ago had to start sleeping in his own bed well he ended up with us most of the time and now I have put my foot down he has way to much control over me and I understand the boy is only 3 but you need to lay down some ground rules I wish I woulda done it before. you need to tell him mommy needs to workout and he has to stay in bed till you come get him. and you have to stick with it it may take a couple of days even tears and fits but stick to your guns and let him know workouts are very important to you and it makes you a better mommy. That is my suggestion just be strong and lay down the momma law it will work just dont cave to the tears they are just fake tears to get you to do what he wants you to do..

tree0164 · 05-28-2005, 08:16 AM

I have 3 yr old twins-one listens and one doesn't. On the days that I can't workout before they get up, I do Walk away the pounds. They like to march around with me. Ocassionally one of them will want to be picked up and I use him as a weight. LOL

armypiglet · 05-31-2005, 09:08 AM

i am making progress

not only has the weather finally let up (so we can use the jogger stroller again), but i have been sticking to my guns and putting him back into bed when he comes to me in the middle of the night. he has been sleeping better as a result! even if that's not why... i don't care! im just going to stick to it, he'll get the hint... he's a smart boy, too smart for his own good (that is, smarter than me sometimes HAHA) - its nice to know im not the only one out there with these problems though. im so tired of hearing "you have to MAKE time" when it's not always so cut and dry! sometimes you need a little help trying to figure out HOW to do that in the first place! you have all helped me a great deal

thank you so much!
~jackie~

05-26-2005, 02:39 PM	#1
armypiglet Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: SE Pennsylvania Posts: 98 Gallery: armypiglet Stats: Atkins switcheroo to SB / WW WOE: South Beach (little WW) Start Date: 2/5/05	an excercise quandry... need advice how in the world can i fix this mess i've made? a bit of background... my son is almost three (that's him with me in my picture to the left there). he is, shall we say, well loved! i hate to say spoiled because he is far from a brat, but he is a toddler and behaves accordingly, which means he is the monkey that is 24-7 on my back! sometimes that is ok with me, i'd rather have him there, with me, safely, than anywhere else in the world! BUT, in order for me to have some ME time, i managed to switch my body clock to wake up early, i shoot for 5:45 am, to do my work-outs alone in the still quiet of the morning. it's a time i TRULY cherish!!! however - my very smart for his own good son has somehow managed to also stir in the wee hours right along with me these days... and if he's up, im not excercising! not because i don't want to but because HE doesn't want me to! he is at the age where ONLY 100% attention will do, and merely tolerates when i am on the phone or making dinner or doing chores. but the excercise thing is a no-go with him, he HATES when i do. he actually had a full blown temper tantrum while i was trying to do yoga this morning (ever try to do relaxing and wonderful yoga in a hurricane??) - believe me, my little man is a GREAT kid! he is really fun, and smart, and funny, and very well behaved except with this. i don't know what to do, i haven't have but a handful of really decent work outs in probably 3 weeks! or more! i don't know if can get up any earlier than i already do, it's so hard as it is... any advice or sympathy even (LOL) will be MUCH appreciated! thanks! ~jackie~ __________________ "I AM MY OWN HERO!"

05-26-2005, 10:11 PM	#4
rola51 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 1,766 Gallery: rola51 Stats: 184/160/135 5'1 WOE: moderate carbs, lower fat Start Date: July 2004	When I have to, I do my workouts at home...but I noticed that the instant I would start working out, DD who is 3 would want to be doing the exact same thing. It just got hard, because she would get in my way. I realized in order for me to truly get my workout time in, I had to workout outside of the house. Is there any way for you to do that? If it's not possible or affordable, is there any way you can do it in the evenings after he goes to bed? Or since you're in the same bed, do you go to sleep at the same time? Yesterday I was able to take DD to the stadium with me. She hung out on the bleachers while I ran the stairs and did other leg work. Before, I would take her in the jogger and just get my exercise in that way. It's really only been recently that i've been able to get this great workout time in the evenings (at the gym). Hope you figure out something, because I know how important it is to get those workouts in, and like you said...you like that time for just YOU. __________________ SLIMMER BY FALL CHALLENGE!!

05-27-2005, 02:09 PM	#8
stephanie34 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: San Marcos, CA Posts: 2,608 Gallery: stephanie34 Stats: 230/188/148 WOE: glycemic load Start Date: 10-13-08	HI Jackie- I can totally relate to you. my son is now almost 7 and my daughter almost 10 the picture of them on the upper left is old but they are still so cute. What I wanted to say is my son is and was the same as your boy and I feel the same about mind as yours, he slept with his sister since he was 2 and a half and just 5 months ago had to start sleeping in his own bed well he ended up with us most of the time and now I have put my foot down he has way to much control over me and I understand the boy is only 3 but you need to lay down some ground rules I wish I woulda done it before. you need to tell him mommy needs to workout and he has to stay in bed till you come get him. and you have to stick with it it may take a couple of days even tears and fits but stick to your guns and let him know workouts are very important to you and it makes you a better mommy. That is my suggestion just be strong and lay down the momma law it will work just dont cave to the tears they are just fake tears to get you to do what he wants you to do.. __________________ Exercise is a must. Drink that water. Run Forest Run. Dream: 100 mile ultra, 24 hour, ultra trail run. Upcoming marathons. Carlsbad Jan 25th, 09 the picture of my kids are great but they are 13 and 10 now. The picture is WAY old.. and I am not computer savy. LOL

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05-26-2005, 02:41 PM	#2
Barb aka BC Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Back in BC baby! Posts: 6,786 Gallery: Barb aka BC	Aww. No advice, but plenty of sympathy. I used to swear that my kids hated for me to work out! Now that my babes are both in school I only work out then. Summer will be a challenge!

05-26-2005, 02:44 PM	#3
armypiglet Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: SE Pennsylvania Posts: 98 Gallery: armypiglet Stats: Atkins switcheroo to SB / WW WOE: South Beach (little WW) Start Date: 2/5/05	let me add that this mess i've made, that i forgot to add, includes the fact that my son sleeps in my room, so that is probably how he figured out when i wake up. he IS in his own bed, just in my room... we are "attachment" parents LOL now we can't get "unattached"!!! he's only 3 though, a baby really! and i adore being his mom, i just really need that ME time back again!!!

05-27-2005, 05:30 AM	#5
PaminKY MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,659 Gallery: PaminKY	I can't relate to having a child that doesn't like me to exercise but I did have a Chihuahua that didn't like it. Everytime I got on the floor for stomach exercise he wouldn't stop until he got on my stomach and would lay there and try to stick his tongue in my mouth (yuck!), he was pretty fast too. Of course my solution was to put him outside or in another room but I guess you can't do that with your son. I agree with the other posters, you need some YOU time so if it is affordable go to a gym. You said he is three, does he still take naps? Pam

05-27-2005, 08:46 AM	#6
armypiglet Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: SE Pennsylvania Posts: 98 Gallery: armypiglet Stats: Atkins switcheroo to SB / WW WOE: South Beach (little WW) Start Date: 2/5/05	i think i had a lightbulb moment this morning! for the last few weeks my husband has gotten up in the middle of the night and can't get back to sleep and ends up going to watch tv to fall asleep to in our guest room. then when i get up gavin has been alone in the room and he must have figured that out and that is why he's been waking up so early. last night i asked chris to stay in the room (because i don't like to be alone either, i am afraid of the dark ) and he said he would try... he did, and this morning when i got up i just put gavin in bed with chris.. they both fell back to sleep until i was done with a HOUR workout until 7:00 am! YAY!!! so now i just need to be able to get my husband to not wander to the guest room anymore... poor guy he sleeps awful... thanks for all your advice and for listening i do really enjoy working out outside but the weather has been so horrible around here i havent' had the chance... but i have the jogger stroller ready and waiting! ~jackie~

05-27-2005, 11:57 AM	#7
Denise85 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Chicago burbs Posts: 21,921 Blog Entries: 11 Gallery: Denise85 Stats: 261/148/140-5'5" WOE: Dietician's plan	I also have a three year old (and a 1 week old) and I joined Lifetime Fitness. They have an amazing daycare center and the security is great. You can keep them there for 2 hours straight if you want. I know there's no way dd would allow me to work out at home. Can you join a gym where they have a daycare?

05-28-2005, 08:16 AM	#9
tree0164 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 71 Gallery: tree0164	I have 3 yr old twins-one listens and one doesn't. On the days that I can't workout before they get up, I do Walk away the pounds. They like to march around with me. Ocassionally one of them will want to be picked up and I use him as a weight. LOL

05-31-2005, 09:08 AM	#10
armypiglet Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: SE Pennsylvania Posts: 98 Gallery: armypiglet Stats: Atkins switcheroo to SB / WW WOE: South Beach (little WW) Start Date: 2/5/05	i am making progress not only has the weather finally let up (so we can use the jogger stroller again), but i have been sticking to my guns and putting him back into bed when he comes to me in the middle of the night. he has been sleeping better as a result! even if that's not why... i don't care! im just going to stick to it, he'll get the hint... he's a smart boy, too smart for his own good (that is, smarter than me sometimes HAHA) - its nice to know im not the only one out there with these problems though. im so tired of hearing "you have to MAKE time" when it's not always so cut and dry! sometimes you need a little help trying to figure out HOW to do that in the first place! you have all helped me a great deal thank you so much! ~jackie~