MVM SUNDAY

[zip2play]

Good morning everyone,

Weight stuck again at 205 AGAIN (but I'm full of soggy psyllium).
Well I earned the NO LOSS yesterday because I found the cashews Bob had squirreled away...he's like a kid! I worked backwards and determined that from my weight loss and the time it took to lose it, and knowing that 3500 calories is contained in a pound of fat, that my MAINTENANCE CALORIES while working out are 2,973 calories/day. That's at least 300 calories higher than MAINTENANCE just sitting on my asp...hiss!

My sixty day average calories has been 2215 calories and has remained pretty faithful the whole 2 months with only a couple really sinful days.
I'll keep grinding to below 200# and then reconnoiter how I look and feel. So far, it's better muscularity than when I took the weight down with Atkins while doing nothing but lollygagging and eating brie and cream!

Today we're seeing a matinee everybody's liked called THE PARIS LETTER with 5 good actors including John Glover (Love Valor Compassion (movie) and SMALLVILLE on TV) and Ron Rifkin. Dinner undetermined...maybe sushi.

DENNIS THE MENACE, Good call Ginny, is shaping up as a MAJOR HURRICANE. That sudden perfect formation that I spotted at noon yesterday was spot-on.
(I think I caught it before the Weather Channel pundits.) It's going to be a DOOZY for the South where it looks like it might linger for over a week. We will get it mid-week but for the next couple days we are going into HOT AND HUMID, yecch. As soon as the temp hits 75 and the pancakes are done it's OFF with the fan and seal the joint. I think the judicious use of the big fan, a 20 inch "breeze box" that I fitted with a round shield and a higher power motor (ala TOOL TIME,) is what kept the electric bill down last month. Lots of switching around but it paid off.

Linda, you have that problem with DH too don't you? The way he keeps bringing home surprise Mercedes' and vacations to Paris must be infuriating!

Liz,
I have your answer...go to Catrier's and buy a 90 karat diamond neclace and charge it on American Express. When he goes through the roof just say, "I didn't know we were consulting one another about these purchases."

Time for more coffee, Sunday Pancakes and the Health Boards!

A good day to you all!

[eculmone]

Originally Posted by zip2play

Liz,
I have your answer...go to Catrier's and buy a 90 karat diamond neclace and charge it on American Express. When he goes through the roof just say, "I didn't know we were consulting one another about these purchases."

[Loretta V]

HI to all

Liz, I had a fellow like that for 30 years. He would buy things like "baseball cards" for $2000. He was a financial drain and the worse thing about it is that both names are on the credit cards and you automatically become responsible. Protect your self in the mean time and get your name off of them. Not sure what kind of advice to give you other than that. They are compulvise spenders. Hang in there.

Zip you must have a very large notebook to record all of your calore information. Do you have a "program" to do that for you? That is a lot of figuring. I don't even want to bother with figuring out my gas mileage.

Thanks Ginny for you advice. DH had to vent this morning. IN the past week we have already gone thru over 12 rolls of toilet paper. I know that sounds funny but what on earth is she doing with the tp????? DH blew this am because she did not put a new roll on the roller. He announced to me "I am going to vent" and he did and I let him go at it. She is not showing any appreciation what so ever. Probably not able to do that.

Linda thanks for that idea but I don't think Dh will spend more money for that, besides the tv you have to pay more for satellite use of 2 tvs monthly.
I did mention moving the tv into her room but he does not want to make her too comfortable. (old Slovak instead of Greek here).

Shawnee I have your July bloomers on my desktop. Such a beautiful sight to see when my computer boots up. I have my computer set up now for "guests" and when the company comes I can let them have access to the web without getting into my own settings. My son helped me with that one.

HAPPY BITHDAY ELLA!!!!!

Hi Barb and Susun and any lurkers out there.

Rain is on the way for us next week.



Some Caladiums at the front door.

[SuSUN]

Hi Gang!

A quickie today, off to DD's soon for the Birthday Bash for the Little One!

Her Birthday is really tomorrow but DD says she remembers the delivery at Sunday.

Off to experience my First GBaby's Birthday Bash.

I am planning to stay legal! Wish me Luck!

SuSUN

[shawneesioux]

Hi Y'all

Sorry I've been MIA a tad...either I have NO LIFE, or TOO MUCH LIFE !

Friday's Tea with Kaci's MIL was kinda sweet...MIL, in deference to me, made Cheesy Bisquits with WWheat, and left out the Soy milk she usually uses. Still carby, but I ate one and enjoyed it Blueberries and raspberries too.

Saturday's family picnic went very well; the rains didn't show up, weather was nice and mellow. It was a good therapy time for some of us.

Last night, we went across the Columbia to OR where the small town there on the river has its annual carnival and fireworks...these fireworks are OK with me, they are launched from a barge on the river.

Today I feel my age, plus

I have been so disappointed re the lingering cool weather /rains/Tomato thing that I'd stopped really checking their progress...LOL, when Jacki was here, SHE pointed out to me that I actually have two half-dollar-sized ones!

Hi Liz...sorry you're having these additional stresses/ worries re your DH's spending habits Sure hope you are feeling better

LOL, Zip...guess you showed HIM who the REAL kid is!

Well I earned the NO LOSS yesterday because I found the cashews Bob had squirreled away...he's like a kid!

Loretta...I'll just say it: I was worried that your DH would just ignore M.'s behavior, and let you bear the brunt of the responsibilities re her..and was also nervous that she might cause problems between you and DH. (guess I was remembering too much of my DH and his Mom's situation)..
Hell, its his house, he's entitiled to Rant...in fact, it just might move things along to a faster resolution.
Glad ya like the Posies, and they give ya a lift.
Man, I get real panicky when anyone other than Kaci gets near my 'puter...
THANKS for the pretty Caladiums shot...a nice "WELCOME" at your door.

SuSUN, have a wonderful time, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY to lil Miss Ella.

Geez, gotta go

HEY to Everyone, be back later..have a GOOD Sunday, Y'all

Shawnee

[eculmone]

Loretta, those flowers look so inviting at your front door. Did you stay with your 30 year pita?

I'm afraid, it's not like that. My name is not on any of "his" cards. I have no idea how much money "he" makes. He has NEVER included me in "that" cus I'm too stupid don't cha know? I've been called "trailer trash" in the past. I come from nothing and he has "everything". I should feel blessed. I've tried to make this house a home, but lately it feels "sterile". My side of the bed & my corner of the couch are really all I feel comfortable in "my" house. It's not really my home anymore.

I'm sorry, but I'm dealing with my imortality lately and it seems to only piss him off. I feel in my heart he is a "little" man. I had believed it was so different and I know he is really just an insecure man, but he has gone from being a kind and gentle man to a critical judgemental self serving looser. He has to have all this a/v equipment; cars; artwork; whatever...But he is missing a heart. I don't see it anymore. I know he tries to not be like his parents, but it's in his blood. Now, he cherishes them. They r his EVERYTHING. His toys r his EVERYTHING. I am his pita. I really don't want to play this game. When he shines on you, you really do feel special, but it is so rare anymore. I'm not sure we can weather this storm and I'll be damned, no matter how sick I am. I do not want him in my life feeling like he's lost out cus he got stuck with a loser like me.

Anyhow, I blew today after church and right in front of my 7 year old. What lesson am I teaching her if I don't stand up for disrespect!? After the screaming was over my dd says "I agree with mommy" So what does that tell you? And yet all he could do was be incredulous at how much of a loser "I" am. He never gets it, yet my 7 year old does? Hmmmm

So, the grass is not always greener on the other side. I'd rather live in a "trailer" as he so elegantly puts it and be kind in spirit then to live in this $500,000 Museum and be empty in spirit. I believe in my heart, I'm a true survivor. Just wish dh were truly a dh.

Luv Liz

[shawneesioux]

Dear, dear, dear Liz

So sorry, it does seem to happen...that when YOU are down and having problems, an insecure mate (no matter the gender) will take that opportunity to build him/herself up at YOUR expense...their sense of "power" is so damned misplaced, and you are an easy target/prey. The "kick her while she's down" syndrome. (generally, these kind of "look at me, see ALL I have..and you are dirt"...well, they usually don't have the balls to treat other people like that, knowing no one else would put up with it) I sure agree, to have one's self-respect and spirit squashed, is a damned high price to pay...
No advice, just to you ....and give yourself a pat on the back that you have given your young daughter some good values...Too often, young children are blind to mentally unhealthy characteristics (your Dh's), if the so-called "powerful" parent "buys" their affection.
Blessings to you and DD.

Loretta, I've been thinking...(look out, I might get dangerous) ...but it seems to me that the excessive Toilet Paper thing is not the real issue here, its merely the catalyst for the real issues that's bugging your DH: your comfy, quiet lives have been flipped a 180...and probably other issues that your DH and M. have had for years are resurfacing.

[Jewels]

Liz, how terrible he is treating you. You don't have to take it. I sure wouldn't...listen to me..Ha, me who just learned after 40 years to let go of my DD. You need to be respected and if he can't give it to you then what? Can you live by yourself now with the MS?

Loretta, good for your DH. He may be the answer to getting her placed somewhere else. You tell him he deserves his house and rules. No, don't make it TOO comfy for her.

TAke care guy's. Will send you an email.

[Jewels]

Shawnee, I keep forgetting to tell you I have your "pot of posies" on my wallpaper too. So beautiful!! Thanks..

[eculmone]

Wow Shawnee you r so wise. You hit the nail on the head!!! I just knew in my heart this is not right, yet you put in words what I could not. Or rather what I was afraid to put into words. I truly didn't/don't want to believe it. But your sooooo right. No one could truly believe Flo could ever be this man. He is just so kind to so many others, yet he has no problem kicking me when I'm down. The problem is I'M NO ONE TO MESS WITH! My motto "That which does not kill me makes me stronger" are truly the words I live by. I have a spirit that is a survivor spirit. He has truly met his match with me. I would never let someone like him kill my spirit and I "think" it enfuriates the h e l l out of him. I do believe he loves me, but he knows not what he does. It's instinct. His father did it to his mother & so on & so on... I think deep down he is angry that his mother allowed this mistreatment of herself so instead of marrying his mother syndrome. He ended up marrying his father (me) stubborn as an ox, but with a heart of gold. Julie, I know for sure I would be just fine on my own, in fact, probably better off, but I'm in this situation until the bitter end. I hope it won't end bitter, but I do hope he eventually can SEE what he is doing is wrong. I'm hoping his 7 yo dd can help him to see.

Today we got the sad sad news that our 11 yo neighbour died last night. OMG it is just so tragic. Some mommy will not be tucking in her little girl ever again. It just breaks my heart. They put her to bed and her mom went in cus she heard her dd gasping for breath. They called 911 and she was blue. Her last words to her mom were "Mommy, my ears are cold". WTH????? I don't see the sense in this? They are conducting an autopsy tomorrow. May God truly have mercy on this family.

I hope to report much happier news in the future.

God Bless you all
Night

[LoveMontana]

Finally getting here.

Been running with my mom today and had a ball a the Uki festival. Then we took a ride to Chenango Valley State park and hung around in the woods.

Roger, what did you do, sniff those cashews out?

Crank up that air conditioner cause it's going to be a HOT miserable week.

Loretta, Oh I see. Didn't realize that you had to pay extra for each room connected to satellite. YIKES!! Even though our cable runs around $45 for basic ( no HBO or Fancy stuff) at least we can hook up as many sets as we want.

Can't say as I blame your DH for not wanting to make her any more comfortable.
Gee how the heck did she end up at your place anyway?
Can't you just take her to a crisis unit at a hospital and say she needs help?

Those flowers by your door look lovely. LOL I took pictures of mine, but now have to get them loaded, cropped and posted. Maybe later.

Liz, Liz, Liz. As my dear ol dad used to say, "you can't be a doormat if you refuse to lie down." I took h is advice finally. Mine got a boot in the ass and an order from the sheriff to vacate the premises.
I'm not saying you should do that, but do something because you sure don't need to live the remainder of your years with some SOB who doesn't think of you as any thing more than a piece of property not worthy of any respect.
Sorry for the hard nose rant but my generation of women fought tooth and nail to get us out of the dark ages.

Hi ya Julie.

Shawnee, how nice of Kaci's MIL to try to accommodate your woe.
It sounds like you had an exceptionally fun weekend. Glad you enjoyed it.

Susan, hope the BD party was a blast!!

Ginny, gosh looks like you are going to get soaked from Dennis the Menace. Stay dry if ya can.

Yeah, yeah I'll post pictures of the tables when I get them loaded, cropped etc.

[OrchidCactus]

Hey gang,

A pretty lazy Sunday for us here. All we've done is take off trash, watch the hurricane and I've been helping DH in the gh and also box up plants to ship. Kinda nice to have a quiet weekend.

Loretta, back a while ago, I noticed my mom going through an excessive amount of tp, and she kept a stash of paper towels (folded) in her suitcase and purse. Drove me NUTS because I was always having to replace rolls of paper products. I eventually figured out she was using the paper towels as pads for mild incontinence. Once I got her the proper product to use (and told her what they were for), the tp and paper towel usage went way down. Might be something to consider. Now she fills her purse with the pads, so it still makes me nuts.

Liz, to you! If you really think you'd be better off on your own, then you need to do it. I can't imagine a court system would not give you custody of your DD, and your DH would be responsible to pay child support. Being happy will help you physically as well, less stress for you is a major advantage. Think about it, and if you feel that's the way to go, then do it.

Linda, we've got rain already and are supposed to get it much of the week. About time to check back in with the weather channel and see what path Dennis the Menace has decided to take!

Julie, have fun!

Susan, I'm sure you enjoyed your day!

Shawnee, glad your reunion went well and y'all stayed dry

Zip, LOL on the warp speed fan. So far this year we haven't used the a/c, and that's the way I like it!

Off to help with the last box........

[zip2play]

Started thread on the wrong day!