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annec75 01-15-2014 04:40 AM

losing To Live
 
Hello Everyone,

My name is Anne and I am a 38 year old married mom of 2 teens one with special needs, I am also severely overweight. I did not grow up overweight, this is all things that happened after I got married, I don't have any medical reason to be heavy, this is something that I chose to do to myself, I let this happen noone made me.

Like I said I am 38 years old, and my body is failing me all because of the bad choices I made, I am on 2 blood pressure meds, a fluid pill, anti-depressents, and 2 prescription meds for pain because of the weight that I pack around. I am basically dying little by little, and I don't want to die.

I want to be alive to take care of my family, I want to be able to get out there and do things without being in pain all the time, being made fun of. A couple of Halloween's ago my dads family had a get together at a local cabin,and all the kids dressed up and some of the adults did to and the kids trick or treated around the cabins, well it was dark outside with only a few outdoor lights burning one of my aunts had dressed up as a fat balorina and starting walking toward a group of men that my husband was in talking and one of my uncles said haa haa looking Anne dressed up as a balorina, when it was not me. This is no kind of life and I want to change it.

After talking with my dr, we have both decided that weight loss surgery is my only option, and with the insurance that I have makes it almost impossible for you to be able get the insurance company to pay for it. I have to be on a dr. supervised diet for a year. Well that is not the bad thing I have to loose 30 pounds on my own within a year. Now each month when I go to the dr, as long as I am losing or staying the same all is good, if I go 11 months and put on one pound I have to start back at the beginning for another year. My dr has to be the one to decide what diet I am to be on, and she has chosen low carbing for me. She said that is the best choice with the best chances of not regaining any weight as long as I stick to it. Also she has told me to cut out all pop regular and diet and that I think is the hardest thing for me, because I am very badly addicted to Diet Mountain Dew. But I can and will do this, I have to if I want to live.

Anne

Aitch 01-15-2014 04:56 AM

Hi Anne. You will get a lot of support here. Join a group or two. I found that has really helped.
It sounds as if you are at the point where you are ready to make a big life change. Well done. Once you get to this point you are really on your way. When you see the weight dropping you will feel so much better and your energy will rocket.
It's good to see you here. Post often and make lots of new friends. Good luck, be kind to yourself. :)

Mimosa23 01-15-2014 05:17 AM

Hi Anne,

:welcome:

I think you made a great step in the right direction. These boards here are so nice, definitely the best and friendliest Low Carb support forum out there.

I look forward to getting to know you better!

xx Chloe.

gotsomeold 01-15-2014 05:48 AM

GOOD for your doctor for recognizing an eating plan the is healthy and gets wonderful results!

GREAT for you for recognizing dying a little bit at a time is a horrible way to live (and for choosing a doctor who seems to be very willing to work with you)!

Please do a lot of reading about LC eating/living. And please ask a lot of questions.

Hugs, you really can get to a place where you feel like you are living every day.

snowdancer79 01-15-2014 05:49 AM

Welcome Anne! I've been a part of this website for many years. There are so many helpful, knowledable people here who can help you succeed. If you are committed to LC diet, you've found the right place:)

clackley 01-15-2014 07:36 AM

WHY WE GET FAT.... written by Gary Taubes. Please, please read it!!!:hugs:

SmurfetteOnPaleo 01-15-2014 07:38 AM

:welcome: Anne!! You are definitely not alone. I found this board because I didn't know where to turn; you guys are the only ones who know my true weight lol!

One pound at a time. We're making healthy choices. It's not unlike any other addict who must quit smoking or another drug. Every day is a series of choices. Some days will be more successful than others, but you CAN do this!!

rotay60 01-15-2014 08:34 AM

Welcome! Glad you are here.

Mistizoom 01-15-2014 09:49 AM

It's wonderful your doctor has recommended a low carb diet for you. If you stick with it you may find you don't need WLS in a year!

Mom2AandE 01-15-2014 09:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by clackley (Post 16757727)
WHY WE GET FAT.... written by Gary Taubes. Please, please read it!!!:hugs:

I was going to say the same thing. This is a must read to help you understand why you want to be on LC. If you stick with LC you may not even need surgery.

This is a great forum for support so please don't be afraid to post. I recommend you read and educate yourself as best you can on the Low Carb/Ketogenic way of eating (WOE) so that you can avoid surgery, lower your meds and live a healthy, happy life.

GO4IT 01-15-2014 10:47 AM

:welcome:

I am more of a lurker here but started my LC journey in Sept of 2013.
Same situation as you with kids and having some medical issues finally staring me in the face forcing my hand to finally commit to some kind of program.

After starting the LC woe my body responded very well and I have lost about 45 pounds since beginning. I feel fantastic with a lot of energy and my health improved. That is my experience with the LC way of eating. I am sending you wishes for success and hoping this will work for you as well. :)

This forum is great for support if you need it, ideas to get you past those days you were not perfect ( me ;) ), and when you need some questions answered.

got2getmoving 01-15-2014 11:45 AM

Welcome Anne! I have been on and off (more off) low carb for many years, and have found that it has helped not only with weight loss but also my mental health. I feel so much better when I am consistent with low-moderate carbs. I have not been to the doctor lately, but am aware that I probably have some health issues going on. I have restarted once again - Day 4. I have not had diet pepsi or chocolate in those four days, which is really good for me. I passed the vending machine the last few days and had my money out, but kept thinking if I want to be around for my children (almost 13 and 8) and my husband, I really need to get my act together.

I look forward to tracking your success, and like others have said - you might find that surgery will not be necessary in 11 months.
Fonda

snowangel9 01-15-2014 01:19 PM

:welcome: Anne! It's great that your Dr. recommended low carb. From what I understand, it would be similar to how'd you eat after surgery. If you educate yourself, and truly make this a lifestyle change I'd bet you, you won't need or want surgery.

Wheat Belly by Dr. Davis is another good one to read. You are not alone. You can do this! :hugs: Be kind to yourself, this is a journey, not a race.

Aquarius 01-16-2014 10:49 AM

Welcome, Anne! I am glad you have decided to go low carb. If you are like most people you will soon see benefits above and beyond weight loss.

Quote:

WHY WE GET FAT.... written by Gary Taubes. Please, please read it!!!
I third this recommendation. It is a true eye-opener.

rubidoux 01-16-2014 01:39 PM

I think you will be very successful. :) I started, I think, a million times but it wasn't until I got to feeling like it sounds like you do that I started and continued. And I have no doubt that you will feel so much better about your life and yourself.

Btw, I think personal responsibility is all well and good, but you did not choose to do this to yourself. Nobody would ever do that. I agree that you need to read Why We Get Fat. It will make you feel a lot better about that aspect of things and give you a great understanding of why low carb works and how to do it.

Hugs and best of luck to you!

MtherGoos 01-16-2014 02:36 PM

Hi Anne! Oh Sweetie, I feel your pain. I really really do. I can't even tell you how many things I missed out on while my kids were growing up because I was too embarrassed to participate, or sometimes to even leave the house. Or when I did go, I was always conscious of the fact that I was the fattest mom there. I hated it.

I'm definitely here to tell you that you CAN do this. You can. And we're all here with you for support. I can tell you that coming here for support makes all the difference. If I'm feeling like I want to cheat, or cave and eat something I shouldn't, I'll come here and read and post and read and post some more. It helps to keep your head in the game and keep you on track.

And, as has already been said, if you stick to the plan, and change your way of eating, in a year you won't need weight loss surgery. A year ago, I was 300 pounds, always in pain from carrying all that weight around, and unhappy. Now, 120 pounds later, I'm so much happier and pain free.

Amber_Baby 01-16-2014 02:39 PM

Lovely to 'meet' you Anne... so happy to hear that your Doctor has advised you well. You can so do this, of course it is important to be around for your family but right at the heart of it, you gotta do this for yourself. 30 pounds in a year is very achievable and you may even find that you do a whole lot better than that... maybe you won't even need the surgery. Either way, post often - there is so much love, advice and support here. Why We Get Fat is a good place to start and I never think it hurts to read the Atkins book. Very best of luck, you can do this. :)

Sunny_1 01-16-2014 03:45 PM

Anne, I am so glad your doctor recommended low carb, and that you found these forums.

I am back on low carb, too, because I would die otherwise. The difference in my health the short time I have been back is phenomenal. The great thing is you should start to see big improvements in your health in a very short time.

I am so glad you are here! Welcome, and wishing you ALL the best!

Big Stevie 01-16-2014 05:22 PM

Anne welcome aboard. Great to hear that you have a doctor who believes in low carb dieting. That is awesome! You are very fortunate. This will work for you. I would argue with your doctor and your assumption that the "only way you can lose is with weight loss surgery". There are plenty of people on this forum who have lost 100 pounds or more without surgery. I think you can do it too. Get the Atkins book and just stick to the Induction List of Foods and you will lose. The first week is tough, but it goes by quickly. Once you break the sugar cycle, your cravings will go away. Trust in the diet.

This diet will also allow you to get off those meds. It did for me and many others here.

This is your solution! I look forward to watching you progress and get your life back. YOU CAN DO THIS!

Dirty Harriet 01-16-2014 05:59 PM

Welcome, Anne
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by annec75 (Post 16757537)
Hello Everyone,

My name is Anne and I am a 38 year old married mom of 2 teens one with special needs, I am also severely overweight. I did not grow up overweight, this is all things that happened after I got married, I don't have any medical reason to be heavy, this is something that I chose to do to myself, I let this happen noone made me.

Like I said I am 38 years old, and my body is failing me all because of the bad choices I made, I am on 2 blood pressure meds, a fluid pill, anti-depressents, and 2 prescription meds for pain because of the weight that I pack around. I am basically dying little by little, and I don't want to die.

I want to be alive to take care of my family, I want to be able to get out there and do things without being in pain all the time, being made fun of. A couple of Halloween's ago my dads family had a get together at a local cabin,and all the kids dressed up and some of the adults did to and the kids trick or treated around the cabins, well it was dark outside with only a few outdoor lights burning one of my aunts had dressed up as a fat balorina and starting walking toward a group of men that my husband was in talking and one of my uncles said haa haa looking Anne dressed up as a balorina, when it was not me. This is no kind of life and I want to change it.

After talking with my dr, we have both decided that weight loss surgery is my only option, and with the insurance that I have makes it almost impossible for you to be able get the insurance company to pay for it. I have to be on a dr. supervised diet for a year. Well that is not the bad thing I have to loose 30 pounds on my own within a year. Now each month when I go to the dr, as long as I am losing or staying the same all is good, if I go 11 months and put on one pound I have to start back at the beginning for another year. My dr has to be the one to decide what diet I am to be on, and she has chosen low carbing for me. She said that is the best choice with the best chances of not regaining any weight as long as I stick to it. Also she has told me to cut out all pop regular and diet and that I think is the hardest thing for me, because I am very badly addicted to Diet Mountain Dew. But I can and will do this, I have to if I want to live.

Anne



You can do this; If I can, you can. You will succeed because NO ONE HERE will allow you to fail!! :shake::high5::jumpjoy::welcome::clap: congrats on taking the first step.
I remarked to my BFF, "I wonder why, at times, do I keep getting up and taking a beating in this boxing ring of life??!" Her reply: "because that's what champions do!!" :sing:
NEVER give up. Weight loss surgery can help; but you STILL have to follow the SAME diet for life, as WLS is only a tool.....
Imagine: relatives who haven't seen you in 3-4 years, and they see you in a beautiful formal gown at a social event & wonder who the gorgeous woman is....they ask you if they have met you before, as you look vaguely familiar.....then you tell them "it's the new & improved version of mself" and watch their jaws drop. TRUST ME, that moment is worth ALL of the sacrifices you will encounter.
It's like peeling an onion, a lot of tears, frustration, AND victories. It will teach you patience, humility, and a realization that you are NOT alone. Look around you! Nearly all of us are overweight!! Do not allow saboteurs in your life....I had to let go of a 12 yr friendship because she couldn't handle my change....it is what it is.....a true friend has your best interests at heart. That's why you are HERE!!!!
Hugs to our new friend here at LCF. Check out netrition and the recipe board...it's great!!

dasiey 01-16-2014 06:01 PM

Welcome to lc. It works

Blue Skies 01-16-2014 06:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mistizoom (Post 16758006)
It's wonderful your doctor has recommended a low carb diet for you. If you stick with it you may find you don't need WLS in a year!

Quote:

Originally Posted by clackley (Post 16757727)
WHY WE GET FAT.... written by Gary Taubes.
Please, please read it!!!:hugs:

Hi Anne. And welcome. Your post really touched me. Such honesty and hope.
And your hopes are not misplaced. Guess what? There are many on this site who started where you are, and have turned their life around. You won't feel alone here, and you will see that you can do it! It's SO POSSIBLE.

The posters I quoted here both say things I really believe. Yes, others here have done LC from your weight and lost what they needed too w/out WLS, although if that's what you need then let's get you there.

And yes, PLEASE read "Why we get Fat." It will educate and motivate you to stick w/low carb.

Mimosa23 01-17-2014 12:36 AM

Hi Anne,

I thought I'd check in and see how you were doing...


Come check in for an update, we are all rooting for you!

xxx Chloe.

Emily-D 01-20-2014 09:16 AM

Welcome!

Low-carb is the only thing that ever worked for me. The first few weeks were the hardest, but then it becomes a way of life.

I follow the 1992 version of Dr Atkins' New Diet Revolution. You can find it at most thrift stores for only a dollar or so. It's a great guideline and is inspiring and reassuring.

And as so many others have said, you must read Why We Get Fat.

Stick with this. It works.

kadoatie 01-20-2014 09:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by clackley (Post 16757727)
WHY WE GET FAT.... written by Gary Taubes. Please, please read it!!!:hugs:

:goodpost:

Welcome Anne!! This forum has been so helpful to me over the years, and is filled with wonderful people with so much great advice and experience to share. :hugs: You can do it!

Mimosa23 01-22-2014 03:40 AM

How are things going for you, Anne?

Come check in and let us know!

xx

sbarr 01-22-2014 07:55 AM

Great introduction - and very heartfelt. Brought tears to my eyes. Welcome - this is a great group of folks, you sound fortunate to have a LC friendly doctor. I look forward to hearing about your journey.

:high5:

Avicenna 01-23-2014 05:05 AM

I think you are being too hard on yourself. 300+ pounds is not something you just "do to yourself", it is a sign of a broken metabolism (perhaps exacerbated by stress or pregnancy)

However...the good news is that LC eating seems that it CAN help people cure (or manage) metabolic issues with their bodies. :)

You might check out the book The Diet Cure as a means of SUPPLEMENTING (not REPLACING) the LC plan. It recommends amino acid/vitamin/other supplements as a means of managing cravings or other issues associated with brain chemistry (including depression - you mention being on an anti-depressant - and addiction to artificial sweeteners/diet drinks) and explains how these things are associated with putting on excess weight. It might, at the very least, help you get extra energy, reduce food cravings, or get another perspective about what might have caused the upwards weight spiral.

Anyway, I hope LC works out for you...and who knows, it may work out so well that you decide not to have the weight loss surgery after all!

sbarr 01-23-2014 10:09 AM

Anne, how are you doing?


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