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Old 04-13-2013, 02:33 PM   #31
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Hi,
So sorry to hear how your well meaning friends contribute to your stress.
You see alot of that around here. It's that stupid food pyramid.
But sometimes it's more.
Our freinds can be very invested in us being how they need us to be.
Was your friend at work overweight herself? I have seen problems among friends when one starts to make significant improvements in weight. The other can be very threatened by this and will work to sabotage the other while sounding concerned.
Even if your friend is not overweight she can still want you to stay heavy.
You might be her "fat friend" the one she can point to in her mind. When her own troubles are grieving her she can think "At least I'm not like her".
If that's the case, then guess what?
It's her problem and you don't have to buy into it. You are allowed to be the person you want to be regardless of how others need to perceive you. Give yourself permission to be happy, healthy and thin. Eventually your friends will admire you for it.
I'm glad you posted here. LCF is the most supportive web environment I have ever seen.
Yes she was. I think it bothered her that I was losing and she wasn't. I am very upset to think that she was probably trying to sabotage me!! I thought this all along!! I think it is sad too. She was more than welcome to join me in on my journey. Or try something else but she chose to do this instead and that is what bothered me so much!!!

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Old 04-13-2013, 02:39 PM   #32
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If they were insisting you have a cigarette or joint with them or at least get it lit for them wouldn't that seem horrendous and be easy to refuse?

I don't see a lot of difference other than they 'think' they are right.
This is another thing that bothers me!! If this were the case there would have been more that would have seen what she was doing was wrong but since it was how I was eating and not this... then it was okay to some people. They just thought what she was doing was because she was concerned for me!! Maybe she was but I almost think she was trying to do whatever it was she could that kept me from succeeding!! I was sad because she was my friend and mad because she was my friend and should have supported me more!!
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Old 04-13-2013, 02:41 PM   #33
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IWILLDOIT, repeat after me...

It's none of your business.

Repeat as necessary.

This gave me the smile I needed today!!! Thanks!!
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Old 04-13-2013, 02:47 PM   #34
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Exactly. You sound like a nice person, but you need to reach down deep and pull out your inner b****. You just have to tell people to mind their own damn biz. You only get one life and it's short. Don't let others ruin a good thing!
Maybe you are right and I have been told by a few people I need to not let people run over and I need to learn how to say NO!! I think in the end I did.
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