Originally Posted by avid
So sorry to hear how your well meaning friends contribute to your stress.
You see alot of that around here. It's that stupid food pyramid.
But sometimes it's more.
Our freinds can be very invested in us being how they need us to be.
Was your friend at work overweight herself? I have seen problems among friends when one starts to make significant improvements in weight. The other can be very threatened by this and will work to sabotage the other while sounding concerned.
Even if your friend is not overweight she can still want you to stay heavy.
You might be her "fat friend" the one she can point to in her mind. When her own troubles are grieving her she can think "At least I'm not like her".
If that's the case, then guess what?
It's her problem and you don't have to buy into it. You are allowed to be the person you want to be regardless of how others need to perceive you. Give yourself permission to be happy, healthy and thin. Eventually your friends will admire you for it.
I'm glad you posted here. LCF is the most supportive web environment I have ever seen.
Yes she was. I think it bothered her that I was losing and she wasn't. I am very upset to think that she was probably trying to sabotage me!! I thought this all along!! I think it is sad too. She was more than welcome to join me in on my journey. Or try something else but she chose to do this instead and that is what bothered me so much!!!