||02-09-2013 08:57 AM
Sometimes you gotta put YOU ahead of the family...
I've been pretty proud of myself the past month or so. Not because I've been totally compliant with my carbs, or even lost much weight. In fact, for the last half of 2012, I'd gotten kinda kinda lazy and complacent after reaching goal and have paid the price with weight gain and just not feeling so good. But recently I've re-committed to ME, physically and emotionally.
During that lax period, I stayed away from LC Friends, because I felt ashamed and hypocritical. But toward the end of December, I clicked on the Main LC Lobby, started reading again, bit the bullet, and began - cautiously - posting and regaining wisdom again.
So back to my title: so many of us put our families wants/needs ahead of our own. Those of us nurturers do this constantly and without thinking, often at the detriment of our own needs/health. I decided in January (not really a resolution, more a re-dedication to my health) that I need to do what's best for me food-wise, and in the long run, best for the family too. I've been cooking up a storm and trying out a lot of new LC recipes. So I cook something rather exotic to my family's tastes, and I love it, but them not so much. So what? They're not starving. 95% of the time the food I prepare, always LC for the main/meat portion of the meal, is food they have learned to enjoy, even without the mixed in carbs, breading, etc. I always prepare a carb side for the husband and teenagers (potatoes, pasta or rice) and always include at least one vegetable, but often two, carby and lower carb. For Super Bowl Sunday we had no guests over, just the 4 of us, but I cooked up a huge appetizer feast. Our habit in the past has been to have fun, appetizer-y meals for Super Bowl or when we're watching a special TV event. I made amazing jalapeno poppers, cauliflower breadsticks, spinach stuffed mushrooms, chicken tenders baked in hot wing sauce, fresh veggies with Ranch and guacamole (didn't make that, though), topped off with amazingly good mini cheesecakes. I also supplemented for the others some non-LC frozen honey BBQ wings and fried cheese sticks. Everyone was happy, liked some stuff but not others, but there was A LOT OF FOOD! I happily ate the leftovers for the next few days.
The other night, I made a new recipe, Thai Chicken Skewers with Spicy Peanut Sauce. I couldn't stop eating it, but the rest of the family was kinda so-so to them. But so what! I have to consider what they want/need all the time, yes, but ALSO what I want/need. I can have my LC meals and can slightly modify for them, but I refuse to cook separate meals. They need to see that I can stick to something for myself that is good for me physically and emotionally. I want my kids to someday remember that their mom took care of herself - not at their expense - but found a balance between family and herself.
I'm still struggling, but feeling better every day and slowly dropping the extra pounds I’d gained after making goal last summer. Any new way of eating that is out of the norm is not always an easy route to follow. But it's been 2 years now for me LC, and I know this way of eating is healthiest for my body and makes me feel best emotionally and physically. Additionally, I’ve decided to not feel guilty about giving myself chunks of “me” time when I find a spare moment, instead of feeling I have to always be doing something for the family’s welfare.
For those of you out there who truly want to adopt a LC lifestyle but think they can't while also trying to raise and feed a family, think again. It can be done, and if the family *****es and moans a bit, tell them to suck it up! They are fed (quite well) and can't always have what they want, but sometimes it isn't always just about them. Sound selfish? It's not. It's the best gift we can give our families - they get to keep us around happy and healthy (plus learning a bit of self-sacrifice and tolerance along the way - I hope)!