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choconut68 · 12-09-2007, 12:49 PM

I'm eating everything in site.. I'm starting over tomorrow. Picked up a few groceries today to start with.. the cream cheese was on sale...

I've washed up my water bottles and will be using them instead of cokes sf etc.
I hoping to post back more because I think I stayed more accountable here.
Dec is always a hard month.. John comes home with goodies from work, yesterday was a tin filled with carmel corn.. yes I ate some.... then all the bakery things that are out this time of year.. makes it so hard to be good.

I'm dusting off the treadmill and turning the tv towards it so I can get some exercise in tomorrow... might watch the Today show and kill some time.

We go bowling tonight but not enough exercise in that.. I dont bowl good at all.. 107 was my highest score. And I dont do any fancy stride, I just walk and toss.

Lets make this a week of Do overs!~ I'm gonna change my stats for a new goal..
190/190/135 goal..... Maybe this will get me moving again... I shouldnt be happy just hovering at 190. I should be less then that by now. Ive only got till mid Feb 08 and that will be a total year of this WOE and I want to be at goal or at least half of goal...
Rambling here...

Have a great week ladies!
ME!~

jswalker1992 · 12-09-2007, 01:07 PM

You can't expect to be good all the time. I am finding December to be hard too. Next weekend is DH's birthday and a major Christmas party both of which promise to be HC times for me. So, I want to keep it nice and LC this week, realize that Friday, Saturday, and Sunday are gonna kill me. Start over again the following Monday.

I am up only .5 a pound today. My DH told me not to be too happy, yet; it will probably hit me tomorrow. Eh, he's probably right.

I would love to lose the last 10 (and a half) by the end of the year. But, if I don't, I don't. I absolutely do want to do what I can to lose it by the time we go and visit family in Texas mid-January.

I made this pumpkin pound cake today. Dottie's Pumpkin Pound Cake with Cream Cheese Layer It is really good. Not too sweet. I used Kevin's cookie/cake flour mix instead of all almond flour. It is tasty.

nursechic · 12-09-2007, 03:46 PM

I ended up having to start over today, also. Haven't gained weight so that's a good thing.

Ma Bailey · 12-09-2007, 07:13 PM

Count me in on the "Starting Over Plan". I need to get with it. We are supposed to have a few warm days around here so that might help. My Dh's chiropractor said that the reason it is so hard to lose weight during the winter months is because our bodies switch into eating to keep warm. I don't know if I go along with that...but I have to admit I CAN'T STOP EATING lately! I went to Krogers today and they had 4 bags of my favorite snack food on sale...I put them all in the cart and right before check out I put them all back

...I'M JUST NOT GOING TO DO IT ANYMORE! If I don't have the junk in the house I won't eat it...that simple.
OK girls...my big butt is out there for you all to kick...PLEASE, I need it

Good Luck to ya all...>^.,.^<

jswalker1992 · 12-09-2007, 08:54 PM

Ok. I am with you ladies. I had pizza for dinner. Dang, it was good!

Start over tomorrow.

choconut68 · 12-10-2007, 07:53 AM

I got a wake up call for myself. DD brought over some pics from the party. I know, I shouldnt say this about myself but I looked like a cow. I guess the way I feel is totally different from how pics turn out. I'm not going to let this get me down but make me more determined to get this fat off! NOW!

Ive ate my morning eggs and my slice of cheese. I get groceries at noon and Im getting salad stuff and will stop eating at 4pm. That has been my only saving method.
I'll try to post more pics of the party.
I'm ready to loose more if everyone else is...~

Hugs ya'll~

jswalker1992 · 12-10-2007, 08:47 AM

Sweetie, I think that is a great picture! But, you know what, pictures are one of the bigger motivators for me. I would look in a mirror and think that I don't look bad, but the pictures (especially the candid ones) showed different.

K. It is Monday morning. I weigh 161. I got 11 pounds to go. I am doing LC strict this week, cuz starting Friday night, it won't be a great weekend.

choconut68 · 12-11-2007, 06:14 AM

i can be hard on myself but I was just disappointed ... Ive never like having my picture taken.. I did go thru some old photos and had to tell myself this was better then 50lbs ago... good gobbly goo why are we so hard on ourselves!

I didnt do good yesterday. could have been worse. Im fillin up the ice jug and carrying it around today...
were gonna be in the 70's today...crazy!

more this evening...
thanks!

jswalker1992 · 12-11-2007, 12:37 PM

I didn't do bad yesterday, yet I am up a pound.

I do think that PMS has something to do with it. God, help us all.

choconut68 · 12-12-2007, 02:14 PM

I cant get a grip.
I wont repeat what Ive ate, dont want to stumble someone..
I'm trying again tomorrow and leaving the kitchen alone for the rest of the night. YUGH~

choconut68 · 12-14-2007, 03:44 PM

Okay so today wasnt so bad.
I ate salad, but used deli turkey.. which Im sure has some sugar in it..
dinner was chicken patties, but the pre-grilled, no bread. Found them in a huge 8lb bag and tossed in freezer. made some faux honey mustard. Just need to drink more water. Im enjoying some sugar plum spice tea.. gosh its so good!~

Little stressed. my 71yr old aunt is being hounded by investors to buy her house so they can bring it down and build office buildings. They've offered 350k but I say go for more... she is so confused and not sure what to do. She can always get a new house but she dont need this stress she's had enough. My heart just hurts for her..
more later!
hubby just walked in!

choconut68 · 12-15-2007, 11:07 AM

Today, Saturday, has been okay so far.
I ate apple/natural peanut butter. and for lunch I had some of those chicken thingies.

I tried apple moonshine for the first time last night. YUCK! It tasted like watered down vodka!~ If Im gonna drink something like that, I want to feel the burn! Told DH my cherry vodka was stronger than that.. so he's having one of his buddies ck the alcohol content or proof. I think he got taken! LOL! I swear we arent that redneck! LOL.

HOpe everyone has a good weekend,... I have the house to myself today and trying to pay over due bills online and clear away junk in the kitchen.
More later!!!

choconut68 · 12-17-2007, 05:26 AM

I'm still having problems getting it together. AFter all these months. I dont want to gain back what Ive worked hard on. I've only gained 3lbs over the last few weeks of cheats. I'm even trying to make the cheats healthier. We had hotdogs yesterday and I used flaxseed/whole wheat bread that had 6carbs. Tons of fiber etc... I dont need to get back into wheat products.
I dont know if its boredom, or just lack of will power or just plain carb cravings. I cant hide everything cus family eats too.
I read somewhere on this board that we are more likely to gain in winter because that's how our bodies are programed. to store fat for the winter.. that sucks, but it sure feels like my body has a mind of its own.

Sorry for rambling...
Ive not ate yet but hoping I can find something to start the day with and not start with junk!

Have a great week ladies.. more later!

jswalker1992 · 12-17-2007, 12:46 PM

Good Morning!

Ok, this last week has been hard and I have had eaten almost everything in site, HC, LC, and lots of it. What in the world is up?

Really, really bummed today. Found out that my DD17 and her BF of almost 7 months have recently become "intimate". DH and I sat down with her last night and calmly explained how much of an adult responsibilty this is, the whole birds/bees/babies/ and STD's talk. We told her that we are not mad, plenty disappointed and hurt over the whole deal. She is not on birth control; he has been using protection. I have told her that I fully expect that appointment to be made. I will take her to the appointment. I am really just so sad. DH and I were talking and we have both come to the conclusion that we are thankful her BF is a great guy. He clearly thinks the world of her. But, they are still so young. I keep thinking, I was pregnant at her age. That scares me. I did tell DD that her BF is still allowed over. They will not be alone. When they are here together they will not hang all over each other like giddy teenagers. If they are going to choose such an adult responsiblity, they are going to be adult in front of us. We deserve and expect them to show us all the respect in the world. They are not allowed to be in the house alone. They may be having sex, but it will not be in our house and we will not make it any easier for them. We are not being the cool parents by letting them stay together, we are being the rational, respectful parents that our kids deserve. I also told DD that I will be sitting her BF down and I will be talking with him. Told her that we like him, but they have broken a trust between us and it is going to take a long time and it is going to be even more difficult for them to earn it back. DD was quiet and had tears rolling down her face. She was visibly upset and embarrassed. I think that her dad and I went about it as well as we possibly could. Never raised our voices, never said anything mean, kept our cool, told her we love her and support her. We both told her that this is a very serious decision that she has made. If she needs to ever talk to us either together or just one of us, we are always going to be here for her. I don't know what else we could've done. I didn't want to have this conversation with her until she was 30. Now, I wonder, is it our place to let his parents know what is going on? I am really confused. Oh, also told DD that she and I would talk about this again on Thursday when she and I are spending the day together in Denver. I think that DH and I did handle this conversation with her well, because after the conversation was over and she calmed down, she began to talk with us again as she normally would have. Any suggestions? I really don't like this at all.

Sorry for the ramble.

choconut68 · 12-18-2007, 04:20 PM

Yes I would tell his parents. If they want to play adults they play by the adult rules Or abstain.
The other thing is, they need to be responsible if they are going to continue to have s&x, I wouldn't want them in a park car, just because of the horror stories we hear. But neither in your home. Ask where they plan on having this activity so that you know they wont be the next story on the 6oclock news. This is another part of being a responsible adult.
I have to commend you on remaining so cool. Our DD 's bf was told he'd be in jail if he did anything to her.

Stick to your guns hun!

Hugs!

choconut68 · 12-18-2007, 04:21 PM

Oh and I suck at this WOE!
Its got to be the winter air... YUCK
I just want to eat all day!

jswalker1992 · 12-18-2007, 07:04 PM

Ok, I know that I have been bad at eating right, but I am up to 168?! PMS is here too, so I know that is also an issue, it is just so annoying.

Latest update... I sat DD and BF down together. They came in together yesterday, DD had told him that I will want to talk to him. So, he walked in and I pointed to the couch. Then I let him sit there while I finished vacuuming and putting the vacuum away. Didn't say a word. I let him sweat. I gave him the same talk we gave DD the night before. I told him that I wasn't sure if I wanted to tell his parents or not; I still needed to get my head in the right place. He was scared out of his wits. I told the kids that I want them both to go and talk to a counselor at Planned Parenthood. Just so that they can talk to an adult that is absolutely neutral. I also told them both together that I do not condone a sexual relationship. Told them that it will not happen in my house or they will never see each other again. I asked BF if his parents knew what was going on. He said that they do not. I asked him what they would do if they found out. He says he thinks that they will at the very least kick his a**. He is afraid they won't let him see DD again or maybe even send him to live with his grandparents in GA. I told him that he should have thought of that before. He asked me if he can have until tomorrow to talk to them. He feels like he is the one that needs to man up and talk to them. I told him that I would give him that chance before I talk with them. I let him know that if I found out that as a parent, if I were out of the loop and the other parents knew I would be angry and hurt. I also told him that if he felt like he needed to talk that I would listen. Fun, fun, fun at the Walker house.

choconut68 · 12-19-2007, 09:32 AM

At least he hasnt left her holding the bag... ya know.. he hasnt ran away.
I know this has to be hard on you. I just have to say I'm thankful she is not pregnant. But of course we all know any birthcontrol isnt 100%. Stacy I truely feel for you.
I love the part where you have left him sitting, sweating it out... LOL!

I"m glad you are handling this, my mother just pushed things under the rug, toss bc pills at me and left me at that. I had a child at 16/17 yrs old and she was given up for adoption. Another one of my mothers quick fixes. So this really touches my heart. I'm behind you all the way. Stay on top of things and she will be fine. Youre a great mom.

Hugs woman!!! You really need them right now.

choconut68 · 12-21-2007, 07:42 AM

Wow did I get sick the other day. Had a bad flare of Fibro, and took oxycodone thinking it would ease the pain, but instead made me sick to my stomach. I have never been so sick in a long time... next time I'lljust take a TlyPM and zone out.

I bet I lost 5lbs over night... lol...

anyway.. hope everyone is doing fine...
I'm sure this weekend will be busy so I hope we all can meet back up here next wednesday.
We're going to see National Treasure tonight. I hope its good. DATE NIGHT! YEah!

choconut68 · 12-22-2007, 10:26 AM

I hate being onthe pc, did I tell you why?
We have a dead mouse in the wall, and it stinks! BAD! Its been like this for 4 days, Im ready to get a claw hammer and open the wall to clean it out... agh!

my rant for the weekend.. have a good one!

choconut68 · 12-26-2007, 10:41 AM

Yes just a bite or two can hurt me! Im back up to 200lbs! I cant believe in just a few days how it can pack back on...

Its gonna take twice as much work to get it back off. I've let myself get into candy etc .. holiday time is the worst!

I cant hold off and wait for the new year... I have to do this now.. or I will be back to where I started and I dont want to be back at 239!

more later!
ME

Rubyred025 · 12-29-2007, 07:25 AM

I know you missed me...boy i have been so busy. I haven't gained but i haven't lost either. I'm starting over once again, hubby going to join me this time and for new year we are joining a local gym...

Hope all are doing well. If you ever want to just IM me PM me and I will give you my IM.

TTYL

choconut68 · 12-29-2007, 02:46 PM

Good gosh thought you fell off the world....~ !!
Yes go for the gym if hubby is willing. I wish I could with my husband, the only exercise we are getting is tromping in the woods.
Ive gained 10lbs so back up to 200, if you want to join me in losing again.
All the holiday stuff was just too tempting... I want to be in a nice bathing suit by summer and it not be a size that ends with a W~!
Glad to see you post!

Hugs!

choconut68 · 12-30-2007, 11:56 AM

Just cking in... so far so good.
Scales said 192 but that from my stomach bothering me.. but I'll take it.
Done good so far not cheating.. drinking lots of SF walmart drinks/crystal lite stuff. and my sugar plum spice tea. I need to get more cus Im sure they wont stock the shelves till next year. I'm working on water, but with the cravings for sweets, the SF will jsut have to do.

EVeryone have a safe newyears eve..
I'm gonna toss on some comfy wool socks and pop in some dvd's and watch movies and zone out..

more later.

jswalker1992 · 12-30-2007, 07:37 PM

Hello Ladies!

Sorry that I have been MIA. Just got back from Texas and Oklahoma. My DH's grandpa died on Christmas, so we went down to Texas and then up to OK to visit my family. Just walked in the door an hour and a half ago.

The diet has been way out the window. Cookies, bread, candy, sugar, all of it has found me. I would bet I weigh AT LEAST ten pounds more than I did. I feel horrible and bloated. My clothes are getting tighter. Blech. I am gonna be real good tomorrow and make a big dinner on Tuesday, but I will be able to eat most of it, it won't all be LC but most of it will. Aside from this last week, I don't know what my problem has been. Shoot, even the kids are ready to change the way we are eating.

Exercise has been non-existant. Gonna change that. There is no reason I can't go to the gym without my DH or kids. I should be able to find a few days a week that I can take an hour (or more) to go workout a bit, don't ya think?

We are gonna try to head back down to TX towards mid-month. DH's parents will be renewing their vows. I would love to look and feel a little better than I do now.

Anyway, ladies, I am gonna run. I really have

12-09-2007, 12:49 PM	#571
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	I'm eating everything in site.. I'm starting over tomorrow. Picked up a few groceries today to start with.. the cream cheese was on sale... I've washed up my water bottles and will be using them instead of cokes sf etc. I hoping to post back more because I think I stayed more accountable here. Dec is always a hard month.. John comes home with goodies from work, yesterday was a tin filled with carmel corn.. yes I ate some.... then all the bakery things that are out this time of year.. makes it so hard to be good. I'm dusting off the treadmill and turning the tv towards it so I can get some exercise in tomorrow... might watch the Today show and kill some time. We go bowling tonight but not enough exercise in that.. I dont bowl good at all.. 107 was my highest score. And I dont do any fancy stride, I just walk and toss. Lets make this a week of Do overs!~ I'm gonna change my stats for a new goal.. 190/190/135 goal..... Maybe this will get me moving again... I shouldnt be happy just hovering at 190. I should be less then that by now. Ive only got till mid Feb 08 and that will be a total year of this WOE and I want to be at goal or at least half of goal... Rambling here... Have a great week ladies! ME!~ __________________ PaulaJean Go ahead, smile! 239/212 restart (dag!)/ goal 191/150 Food: LC 20 Exercise: whats that?

12-09-2007, 01:07 PM	#572
jswalker1992 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 2,324 Gallery: jswalker1992 Stats: 231/159/150 WOE: Low Carb/ Protein Power Start Date: January 1, 2007	You can't expect to be good all the time. I am finding December to be hard too. Next weekend is DH's birthday and a major Christmas party both of which promise to be HC times for me. So, I want to keep it nice and LC this week, realize that Friday, Saturday, and Sunday are gonna kill me. Start over again the following Monday. I am up only .5 a pound today. My DH told me not to be too happy, yet; it will probably hit me tomorrow. Eh, he's probably right. I would love to lose the last 10 (and a half) by the end of the year. But, if I don't, I don't. I absolutely do want to do what I can to lose it by the time we go and visit family in Texas mid-January. I made this pumpkin pound cake today. Dottie's Pumpkin Pound Cake with Cream Cheese Layer It is really good. Not too sweet. I used Kevin's cookie/cake flour mix instead of all almond flour. It is tasty. __________________ *Stacy* *If I gave you everything you wanted, when you wanted it, you'd get bored and forget what you wanted.* http://www.myspace.com/stacylwalker When will it ever end?

12-09-2007, 07:13 PM	#574
Ma Bailey MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Sevierville, TN Posts: 1,630 Gallery: Ma Bailey WOE: Atkins, with a dash of Fat Smash	Count me in on the "Starting Over Plan". I need to get with it. We are supposed to have a few warm days around here so that might help. My Dh's chiropractor said that the reason it is so hard to lose weight during the winter months is because our bodies switch into eating to keep warm. I don't know if I go along with that...but I have to admit I CAN'T STOP EATING lately! I went to Krogers today and they had 4 bags of my favorite snack food on sale...I put them all in the cart and right before check out I put them all back ...I'M JUST NOT GOING TO DO IT ANYMORE! If I don't have the junk in the house I won't eat it...that simple. OK girls...my big butt is out there for you all to kick...PLEASE, I need it Good Luck to ya all...>^.,.^< __________________ Mary Life's a dance we learn as we go. Sometimes we lead, sometimes we follow.

12-29-2007, 07:25 AM	#592
Rubyred025 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Malvern, PA Posts: 615 Gallery: Rubyred025 Stats: 245/229/135 WOE: Atkins Start Date: 2/26/07	Hi I know you missed me...boy i have been so busy. I haven't gained but i haven't lost either. I'm starting over once again, hubby going to join me this time and for new year we are joining a local gym... Hope all are doing well. If you ever want to just IM me PM me and I will give you my IM. TTYL

12-09-2007, 03:46 PM	#573
nursechic Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Gulfport, MS Posts: 153 Gallery: nursechic Stats: 233/228.5/175 (5'10") WOE: Low Carb (need to pick a plan!) Start Date: November 5, 2007	I ended up having to start over today, also. Haven't gained weight so that's a good thing.

12-09-2007, 08:54 PM	#575
jswalker1992 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 2,324 Gallery: jswalker1992 Stats: 231/159/150 WOE: Low Carb/ Protein Power Start Date: January 1, 2007	Ok. I am with you ladies. I had pizza for dinner. Dang, it was good! Start over tomorrow.

12-10-2007, 08:47 AM	#577
jswalker1992 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 2,324 Gallery: jswalker1992 Stats: 231/159/150 WOE: Low Carb/ Protein Power Start Date: January 1, 2007	Sweetie, I think that is a great picture! But, you know what, pictures are one of the bigger motivators for me. I would look in a mirror and think that I don't look bad, but the pictures (especially the candid ones) showed different. K. It is Monday morning. I weigh 161. I got 11 pounds to go. I am doing LC strict this week, cuz starting Friday night, it won't be a great weekend.

12-11-2007, 06:14 AM	#578
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	i can be hard on myself but I was just disappointed ... Ive never like having my picture taken.. I did go thru some old photos and had to tell myself this was better then 50lbs ago... good gobbly goo why are we so hard on ourselves! I didnt do good yesterday. could have been worse. Im fillin up the ice jug and carrying it around today... were gonna be in the 70's today...crazy! more this evening... thanks!

12-11-2007, 12:37 PM	#579
jswalker1992 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 2,324 Gallery: jswalker1992 Stats: 231/159/150 WOE: Low Carb/ Protein Power Start Date: January 1, 2007	I didn't do bad yesterday, yet I am up a pound. I do think that PMS has something to do with it. God, help us all.

12-12-2007, 02:14 PM	#580
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	I cant get a grip. I wont repeat what Ive ate, dont want to stumble someone.. I'm trying again tomorrow and leaving the kitchen alone for the rest of the night. YUGH~

12-14-2007, 03:44 PM	#581
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	Okay so today wasnt so bad. I ate salad, but used deli turkey.. which Im sure has some sugar in it.. dinner was chicken patties, but the pre-grilled, no bread. Found them in a huge 8lb bag and tossed in freezer. made some faux honey mustard. Just need to drink more water. Im enjoying some sugar plum spice tea.. gosh its so good!~ Little stressed. my 71yr old aunt is being hounded by investors to buy her house so they can bring it down and build office buildings. They've offered 350k but I say go for more... she is so confused and not sure what to do. She can always get a new house but she dont need this stress she's had enough. My heart just hurts for her.. more later! hubby just walked in!

12-15-2007, 11:07 AM	#582
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	Today, Saturday, has been okay so far. I ate apple/natural peanut butter. and for lunch I had some of those chicken thingies. I tried apple moonshine for the first time last night. YUCK! It tasted like watered down vodka!~ If Im gonna drink something like that, I want to feel the burn! Told DH my cherry vodka was stronger than that.. so he's having one of his buddies ck the alcohol content or proof. I think he got taken! LOL! I swear we arent that redneck! LOL. HOpe everyone has a good weekend,... I have the house to myself today and trying to pay over due bills online and clear away junk in the kitchen. More later!!!

12-17-2007, 05:26 AM	#583
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	I'm still having problems getting it together. AFter all these months. I dont want to gain back what Ive worked hard on. I've only gained 3lbs over the last few weeks of cheats. I'm even trying to make the cheats healthier. We had hotdogs yesterday and I used flaxseed/whole wheat bread that had 6carbs. Tons of fiber etc... I dont need to get back into wheat products. I dont know if its boredom, or just lack of will power or just plain carb cravings. I cant hide everything cus family eats too. I read somewhere on this board that we are more likely to gain in winter because that's how our bodies are programed. to store fat for the winter.. that sucks, but it sure feels like my body has a mind of its own. Sorry for rambling... Ive not ate yet but hoping I can find something to start the day with and not start with junk! Have a great week ladies.. more later!

12-17-2007, 12:46 PM	#584
jswalker1992 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 2,324 Gallery: jswalker1992 Stats: 231/159/150 WOE: Low Carb/ Protein Power Start Date: January 1, 2007	Good Morning! Ok, this last week has been hard and I have had eaten almost everything in site, HC, LC, and lots of it. What in the world is up? Really, really bummed today. Found out that my DD17 and her BF of almost 7 months have recently become "intimate". DH and I sat down with her last night and calmly explained how much of an adult responsibilty this is, the whole birds/bees/babies/ and STD's talk. We told her that we are not mad, plenty disappointed and hurt over the whole deal. She is not on birth control; he has been using protection. I have told her that I fully expect that appointment to be made. I will take her to the appointment. I am really just so sad. DH and I were talking and we have both come to the conclusion that we are thankful her BF is a great guy. He clearly thinks the world of her. But, they are still so young. I keep thinking, I was pregnant at her age. That scares me. I did tell DD that her BF is still allowed over. They will not be alone. When they are here together they will not hang all over each other like giddy teenagers. If they are going to choose such an adult responsiblity, they are going to be adult in front of us. We deserve and expect them to show us all the respect in the world. They are not allowed to be in the house alone. They may be having sex, but it will not be in our house and we will not make it any easier for them. We are not being the cool parents by letting them stay together, we are being the rational, respectful parents that our kids deserve. I also told DD that I will be sitting her BF down and I will be talking with him. Told her that we like him, but they have broken a trust between us and it is going to take a long time and it is going to be even more difficult for them to earn it back. DD was quiet and had tears rolling down her face. She was visibly upset and embarrassed. I think that her dad and I went about it as well as we possibly could. Never raised our voices, never said anything mean, kept our cool, told her we love her and support her. We both told her that this is a very serious decision that she has made. If she needs to ever talk to us either together or just one of us, we are always going to be here for her. I don't know what else we could've done. I didn't want to have this conversation with her until she was 30. Now, I wonder, is it our place to let his parents know what is going on? I am really confused. Oh, also told DD that she and I would talk about this again on Thursday when she and I are spending the day together in Denver. I think that DH and I did handle this conversation with her well, because after the conversation was over and she calmed down, she began to talk with us again as she normally would have. Any suggestions? I really don't like this at all. Sorry for the ramble.

12-18-2007, 04:20 PM	#585
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	Yes I would tell his parents. If they want to play adults they play by the adult rules Or abstain. The other thing is, they need to be responsible if they are going to continue to have s&x, I wouldn't want them in a park car, just because of the horror stories we hear. But neither in your home. Ask where they plan on having this activity so that you know they wont be the next story on the 6oclock news. This is another part of being a responsible adult. I have to commend you on remaining so cool. Our DD 's bf was told he'd be in jail if he did anything to her. Stick to your guns hun! Hugs!

12-18-2007, 04:21 PM	#586
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	Oh and I suck at this WOE! Its got to be the winter air... YUCK I just want to eat all day!

12-18-2007, 07:04 PM	#587
jswalker1992 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 2,324 Gallery: jswalker1992 Stats: 231/159/150 WOE: Low Carb/ Protein Power Start Date: January 1, 2007	Ok, I know that I have been bad at eating right, but I am up to 168?! PMS is here too, so I know that is also an issue, it is just so annoying. Latest update... I sat DD and BF down together. They came in together yesterday, DD had told him that I will want to talk to him. So, he walked in and I pointed to the couch. Then I let him sit there while I finished vacuuming and putting the vacuum away. Didn't say a word. I let him sweat. I gave him the same talk we gave DD the night before. I told him that I wasn't sure if I wanted to tell his parents or not; I still needed to get my head in the right place. He was scared out of his wits. I told the kids that I want them both to go and talk to a counselor at Planned Parenthood. Just so that they can talk to an adult that is absolutely neutral. I also told them both together that I do not condone a sexual relationship. Told them that it will not happen in my house or they will never see each other again. I asked BF if his parents knew what was going on. He said that they do not. I asked him what they would do if they found out. He says he thinks that they will at the very least kick his a**. He is afraid they won't let him see DD again or maybe even send him to live with his grandparents in GA. I told him that he should have thought of that before. He asked me if he can have until tomorrow to talk to them. He feels like he is the one that needs to man up and talk to them. I told him that I would give him that chance before I talk with them. I let him know that if I found out that as a parent, if I were out of the loop and the other parents knew I would be angry and hurt. I also told him that if he felt like he needed to talk that I would listen. Fun, fun, fun at the Walker house.

12-19-2007, 09:32 AM	#588
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	At least he hasnt left her holding the bag... ya know.. he hasnt ran away. I know this has to be hard on you. I just have to say I'm thankful she is not pregnant. But of course we all know any birthcontrol isnt 100%. Stacy I truely feel for you. I love the part where you have left him sitting, sweating it out... LOL! I"m glad you are handling this, my mother just pushed things under the rug, toss bc pills at me and left me at that. I had a child at 16/17 yrs old and she was given up for adoption. Another one of my mothers quick fixes. So this really touches my heart. I'm behind you all the way. Stay on top of things and she will be fine. Youre a great mom. Hugs woman!!! You really need them right now.

12-21-2007, 07:42 AM	#589
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	Wow did I get sick the other day. Had a bad flare of Fibro, and took oxycodone thinking it would ease the pain, but instead made me sick to my stomach. I have never been so sick in a long time... next time I'lljust take a TlyPM and zone out. I bet I lost 5lbs over night... lol... anyway.. hope everyone is doing fine... I'm sure this weekend will be busy so I hope we all can meet back up here next wednesday. We're going to see National Treasure tonight. I hope its good. DATE NIGHT! YEah!

12-22-2007, 10:26 AM	#590
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	I hate being onthe pc, did I tell you why? We have a dead mouse in the wall, and it stinks! BAD! Its been like this for 4 days, Im ready to get a claw hammer and open the wall to clean it out... agh! my rant for the weekend.. have a good one!

12-26-2007, 10:41 AM	#591
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	Yes just a bite or two can hurt me! Im back up to 200lbs! I cant believe in just a few days how it can pack back on... Its gonna take twice as much work to get it back off. I've let myself get into candy etc .. holiday time is the worst! I cant hold off and wait for the new year... I have to do this now.. or I will be back to where I started and I dont want to be back at 239! more later! ME

12-29-2007, 02:46 PM	#593
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	Good gosh thought you fell off the world....~ !! Yes go for the gym if hubby is willing. I wish I could with my husband, the only exercise we are getting is tromping in the woods. Ive gained 10lbs so back up to 200, if you want to join me in losing again. All the holiday stuff was just too tempting... I want to be in a nice bathing suit by summer and it not be a size that ends with a W~! Glad to see you post! Hugs!

12-30-2007, 11:56 AM	#594
choconut68 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: East Tennessee Ya'll Posts: 713 Blog Entries: 14 Gallery: choconut68 Stats: 239/191 /150 5'4" Start Date: Restart: Feb 15th	Just cking in... so far so good. Scales said 192 but that from my stomach bothering me.. but I'll take it. Done good so far not cheating.. drinking lots of SF walmart drinks/crystal lite stuff. and my sugar plum spice tea. I need to get more cus Im sure they wont stock the shelves till next year. I'm working on water, but with the cravings for sweets, the SF will jsut have to do. EVeryone have a safe newyears eve.. I'm gonna toss on some comfy wool socks and pop in some dvd's and watch movies and zone out.. more later.