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Sirtain 12-05-2013 06:29 AM

Trouble keeping my mouth shut
 
In my personal life, I have not been telling many people that I am JUDDDing. I haven't wanted to get into it, especially as I have failed at weight loss so often before.

But JUDDD is really working for me, and I find myself more inclined to suggest it to others now(after doing it for 9 months).

I'm trying not to, but the temptation is becoming strong.

My latest urges have been on the main LCF board. Is it considered impolite to recommend people try a different program? As in, "I'm doing Atkins, and it is so *insert difficulty." Are you supposed to just suggest tweaks within that program, or is it permissible to say,"Hey, try JUDDD!"

I'm not sure what the etiquette is.

LoriAS 12-05-2013 06:39 AM

Sirtain, in my opinion you can say whatever you want. Everyone is going to have a different opinion on this topic. I think you can only give advice on what you know. If JUDDD is working for you then say...this is what is working for me!

Great job, by the way!

LiterateGriffin 12-05-2013 06:54 AM

Personally?

I'm quite happy on Atkins, and if I posted about a problem, and you suggested I change plans to fix it... I'd ignore you and listen first to the others suggesting tweaks to the plan I'm on.

IF, however, I kept having that problem recur, and kept hearing the same suggestion offered (especially by multiple people), I might consider it.

That's just how I deal with advice, and suggestions to major change.

Honestly, one of the things I love about this forum is the breath and depth of knowledge.

If I post "I'm constipate", or "I'm not losing", or "My dog thinks I smell funny,now", I'll get a ton of DIFFERENT responses, from different perspectives. Most of them fairly well thought out, and many educating. Most with anecdotal evidence I can relate to. I get to look at the information provided, and choose that which seems best to ME, given my own knowledge and experience of my own journey.

The main board here is NOT, in my opinion, a place to keep your own experiences to yourself. Share them. Tell us how and why JUDDD has worked for you, why you feel it may work better for someone else than whatever they may be doing. It may be EXACTLY what someone needs to hear that day, to help them find what's going to work for THEM.

That's what this site is all about, isn't it? :up:

GME 12-05-2013 07:08 AM

Of course you can tell people what works for you and why you would recommend it.

Heck, I recommend JUDDD to people on the main board sometimes and I'm not even doing it. :laugh:

(I did follow JUDDD for about a year, but stalled for weeks and quit. Given where I have ended up I probably should have just ridden it out.)

KeirasMom 12-05-2013 07:34 AM

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Originally Posted by LiterateGriffin (Post 16706818)
Personally?

I'm quite happy on Atkins, and if I posted about a problem, and you suggested I change plans to fix it... I'd ignore you and listen first to the others suggesting tweaks to the plan I'm on.

IF, however, I kept having that problem recur, and kept hearing the same suggestion offered (especially by multiple people), I might consider it.

That's just how I deal with advice, and suggestions to major change.

Honestly, one of the things I love about this forum is the breath and depth of knowledge.

If I post "I'm constipate", or "I'm not losing", or "My dog thinks I smell funny,now", I'll get a ton of DIFFERENT responses, from different perspectives. Most of them fairly well thought out, and many educating. Most with anecdotal evidence I can relate to. I get to look at the information provided, and choose that which seems best to ME, given my own knowledge and experience of my own journey.

The main board here is NOT, in my opinion, a place to keep your own experiences to yourself. Share them. Tell us how and why JUDDD has worked for you, why you feel it may work better for someone else than whatever they may be doing. It may be EXACTLY what someone needs to hear that day, to help them find what's going to work for THEM.

That's what this site is all about, isn't it? :up:

:goodpost: I totally agree with all of this.

I visit the main board fairly regularly and I'm not low carb at all anymore. I find good suggestions there for other aspects of my WOE, and getting more protein, etc. I'm not shy about posting there, either, and I almost always preface it by saying that I'm no longer low carb and I follow JUDDD. I never actively try to convince somebody to switch plans, but I do sometimes offer advice about what has worked "for me" especially if the person is feeling very restricted following Atkins or whatever low carb plan they happen to be on. I don't feel it's my job to recruit for JUDDD, but it's great for people to hear other experiences. They can do with it what they want. :)

Slimming-up 12-05-2013 09:37 AM

I think it's all in the way it's presented.
Many people giving honest testimony to their positive experience with JUDDD will give the WOE more credibility, but it takes time before people pay attention to something new and different.

Just put it out there - who knows how many people read, and don't post - you might be helping someone and not even know it!

Seabreezes 12-05-2013 09:53 AM

I found JUDDD by reading a post by someone who was very successful on it and posted that on the main board. If I hadn't seen that post I would not have purchased the book and found this wonderful group of people.

LoriAS 12-05-2013 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Slimming-up (Post 16707072)
I think it's all in the way it's presented.
Many people giving honest testimony to their positive experience with JUDDD will give the WOE more credibility, but it takes time before people pay attention to something new and different.

Just put it out there - who knows how many people read, and don't post - you might be helping someone and not even know it!

:goodpost: I completely agree with this observation. When I stalled on LC, I tried JUDDD because of someone else's suggestion. I think that JUDDD helped me through a rough time and it could very well help someone else.

The main thing is (most) people who post on these boards know they are going to get a wide range of advice and everyone will pick and choose which advice they believe will work for them. It is important to use your voice, because you may say the one thing that speaks to them and helps them in the long run.

LC_pickle 12-05-2013 10:25 AM

It can be tricky! I've never been part of a community with such loosely-defined parameters, so it has been an educational ride for me :) Total carbs, net carbs, free sugar alcohols, no sugar alcohols, discounted sugar alcohols, BPC, IF, fat fasts, up days, down days, counting calories, ignoring calories, drink tons of water, drink when you're thirsty -- there are lots of subtle differences but there are also a lot of things in common, so if we all stuck to our own little niche, we'd miss out on a lot of valuable exchange.

In *any* advice-giving scenario where you want to keep the peace, I recommend this:

Being really eager and overly detailed up front can imply "Your program is not the best option for you, mine is! I know more about your situation than you do!", which can be a turn-off to people just getting started or people who have honestly done the research & already settled on the program they like best.

I like to tread lightly with vague factual statements like "You could try X (small tweak) or I read once that some folks have good luck with Y (small tweak), but if that doesn't seem to help, just remember there are lots of flavors of this WOE with subtle differences, and sometimes you have to try a few to find the one that's best for you"...or make it a dialog, instead of an advertisement or lecture. "I know I had X before, too, and Y seemed to help, some. Actually I ended up switching to a slightly different program called Z, and it hasn't been an issue since then. Have you considered a plan like Z?" then if someone comes back with "No, this is definitely how I want to do it, I just want to fix X problem" then I leave it alone and let other people with more relevant experience take over, but if they are curious, like "Other flavors? What do you mean?" then it's safe to expand on your personal favorite approach without coming across as a super cult-y kool-aid salesman ...you know the type!

Really, I've found that people, in general, are more open-minded about things if you can sneakily prompt them to ask for details, instead of over-selling. Just my take ;D It's why I tell people curious about my weight loss "Just cutting out sugar and processed foods helped, immensely! So that's mostly it." and half the time, people are like "Oh. Good for you!" and wander away, but the other half are like "Mostly? What else?" and then I get detailed about carbs and protein and fat and my insulin resistance. Then if they get bent out of shape and disagree strongly, I can be like "I'm just telling you what worked for me. You asked!" :D Sneaksy!

mafiamom 12-05-2013 11:54 AM

how ironic! i only found out about JUDDD from someone innocently posting about it in the atkins induction board. she asked about it, if anyone did it, said she heard it worked pretty well, and they politely told her to come to this board, as the atkins board was... for atkins. they weren't unhappy, but they did tell her to post about juddd on the juddd board.

i read her post, came on over and here i am 9 lbs later!

vanilla_latte 12-05-2013 12:11 PM

It's evident by the number of us that jump around looking for "the one" that so many are looking for help, pointers, tips, suggestions, etc. on how to get rid of the pounds. I see no harm at all in suggesting it on the main board, especially from those who have had great success with it. They can take your suggestion or not as ultimately it's up to them to research it. But since many have ended up here after it being mentioned, it sure can't hurt!

You know how many go 'rounds I've had with JUDDD with limited success. If I ever attain the success you're having, not to mention Dawn, Carly, Kissa, and other Super JB's, I'd be mentioning it a lot more on the main board. :D

Librarygirl 12-05-2013 03:15 PM

Yeah, I agree. If you're having great success, it's always good to share. :) Coming from me, it might not be as favorable...what, a year to lose 30 lbs? :D

KeirasMom 12-05-2013 03:43 PM

Yes, but Cindy, I would ever only lose 30 pounds at a time with Atkins before I'd throw in the towel and gain it all back. Your 30 pounds is STILL lost! :jumpjoy:

Seabreezes 12-05-2013 06:13 PM

I think the fact we can keep the weight off and still enjoy ourselves is the magic of JUDDD. A pound or two up is not ten or twenty!

You are doing great!

Yennie 12-05-2013 06:14 PM

I agree - share away. I've never posted about JUDDD to the main board but I don't go there very often. I have, however, suggested some members check out JUDDD when I've been reading their WL journals. Usually after struggling and expressing the EXACT same feelings I had when Atkins wasn't working for me anymore. I share with them that I was once in their exact same spot and what worked for me was JUDDD. I invite them to come read the boards, or ask me more specific questions.
I know from reading JUDDD boards that it does not work for everyone. So if someone says "there is no way I can do that" I don't argue with them. I suspect that most people who think they can't, actually can, but I'm not them, its not my body and who am I to tell them they're wrong about themselves. After all it is so mental if they think they will fail then they probably will. Then JUDDD gets a bad rap and they would be reluctant to try something again in the future that might turn out to be their savior.
That is *my* personal approach. As stated above I think its all in how its presented. Besides, people wouldn't be here if they weren't interested in learning. I think I've read most of the sub-boards - at least the "what's this about" stickies, just to learn. After all, that's how *I* found JUDDD. I would never have known if I hadn't gone looking for more knowledge! :)

LiterateGriffin 12-06-2013 03:44 AM

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Originally Posted by mafiamom (Post 16707240)
how ironic! i only found out about JUDDD from someone innocently posting about it in the atkins induction board. she asked about it, if anyone did it, said she heard it worked pretty well, and they politely told her to come to this board, as the atkins board was... for atkins. they weren't unhappy, but they did tell her to post about juddd on the juddd board.

i read her post, came on over and here i am 9 lbs later!

Um, I think I may remember this post. lol She had questions... and there was a place where knowledgeable people could answer them, so we sent her here. (Just like if someone came here with a bunch of Atkins Induction questions, you'd likely send her to "us" to get them answered.)

My knowledge of JUDDD is extremely limited. I wouldn't know about it AT ALL if folks didn't occasionally post about it on the main board. It's one of the many things I've learned of, since coming here (to LCF).

kjwalsh 12-06-2013 04:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Seabreezes (Post 16707091)
I found JUDDD by reading a post by someone who was very successful on it and posted that on the main board.

Me too! I've been successful with Atkins but stuck at 150 forEVER!! So I started JUDDD this week because someone suggested it to another poster and I liked another quote from that thread, "Heck, I can do anything for one day!!"

So far so good...:D

Librarygirl 12-06-2013 06:08 AM

:welcome: KJ!

kjwalsh 12-06-2013 06:33 AM

Thanks!

mafiamom 12-06-2013 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by LiterateGriffin (Post 16708067)
Um, I think I may remember this post. lol She had questions... and there was a place where knowledgeable people could answer them, so we sent her here. (Just like if someone came here with a bunch of Atkins Induction questions, you'd likely send her to "us" to get them answered.)

My knowledge of JUDDD is extremely limited. I wouldn't know about it AT ALL if folks didn't occasionally post about it on the main board. It's one of the many things I've learned of, since coming here (to LCF).

yep. it was the right thing to do. like i said, it wasn't done in a rude way at all, and if she hadn't of asked, i never would have found JUDDD! i think the main board is a great way to throw things out there to educate people :)

LolaGetz 12-06-2013 11:13 AM

I'm someone who thinks "the more info, the better". I'm happy with my current LC approach but I've learned so much from reading the comments of others and I've modified my plan as I've learned more from others. I'm one who doesn't believe JUDDD would be appropriate for me due to my particular weaknesses and vulnerabilities but one never knows what the future may bring. In our wider lives as we gain knowledge and understanding we change and adapt. Knowledge is power. I so appreciate all the wisdom and the information about various plans shared on this forum. I say, keep it coming; share what you've found works, share your tips and advice. I welcome it all, always. And I think others may as well.


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