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mafiamom 11-03-2013 01:48 PM

talk me off the ledge :-)
 
Had two UD in a row so today is a major DD. REALLY trying to make this DD count so just coffee and water so far today....... And now I'm staring at two steaming hot cheesy pizzas. Really?????? (Damn men and football Sunday)

Um help.......

LoCarbGal 11-03-2013 02:14 PM

Oh no! Not pizza! :lol:

First of all, you don't need to worry about not having ANYTHING at all this DD. In fact, it may backfire on you. Maybe have some protein to keep your stomach busy and your metabolism firing. Grab a piece or two of that pizza and stick it in the fridge for lunch tomorrow! YOU CAN DO IT! :clap:

mafiamom 11-03-2013 02:37 PM

Tell me if this happens to you. I can pretty much with stand food on DD until I eat. I eat and bam..... Juices are flowing stomach is gurgling and hunger kicks in. I am afraid to eat. Afraid that it will get something started that will make me either not have will power to stop, or I do have the power but I'm so hungry I want to cry.

I have this block or fear or something. I have been stuck in the 130's for TWO years (from 161). I am so close to the 120's I can taste it ( bad analogy!!). I haven't been this close in a long time. I have tried many different WOE to get there, to no avail. I am so afraid this will fail too. Ugh. It sounds so petty. So many of you wonderful gorgeous women are working so hard to lose a lot of weight and here I am *****ing about 129. If I were one of you all, i'd tell me to shut the hell up, lol! But we also know that everyone's journey is personal and a matter of perspective. 120 for me is a healthy weight. It feels like it's never gonna happen.

Ack!!! Sorry for the long rambling pity party! The smell of pizza does that to me :-)

LoCarbGal 11-03-2013 02:54 PM

Oh yes, for sure! That's why I put off eating as long as I can most DDs. Because if I'm going to have a successful DD and I do eat too early, it's going to be a rough one. I don't know why eating makes me more hungry, but it always has. I'd like to know more about that.

No, I don't :doh: at you for wanting to lose just a few pounds - not at all! When I first started losing, I found I couldn't relate at all with those who were close to their goal numbers. I thought "I would KILL to be where they are." But as I get closer and closer to my goal, I'm still going through exactly the same struggles as I did back then. EXCEPT the losses have slowed and are making me work harder (mentally) to get there. We do each have our special, personal goals, our struggles, our hangups. Yours are just as valid as anyone's!

That said, DO try to be thankful you're where you are! I have to remind myself of that all the time. To think back to the me 100 pounds ago that would have been ecstatic to be where I am now. You are soooo close to your goal, and you WILL get there. JUDDD is magic that way. It just may take longer than the timetable you have in your head. Darnit!

mafiamom 11-03-2013 03:10 PM

It's true. I think of me at 161, basically as round as I was tall :-) and I am very thankful. I think it is the life insurance guy that came and said..... 131... at your height that's gonna make you hard to insure.

I wanted to kick him in the whoziewhatsits.

LoCarbGal 11-03-2013 03:14 PM

And absolutely ridiculous. Those charts are so arbitrary (and I come from the insurance industry).

Flutter 11-03-2013 04:05 PM

He said at 131 you'd be hard to insure? You're flipping kidding me, RIGHT? That's insane!!!

At any rate, yes, I know it's maddening and I know you want 120, but I CAN tell you that although I think similarly, I haven't found I look any different at my lower goal than I did at my higher one. <shrug> Sometimes we just need to look at being HEALTHY and letting Juddd dictate where our body should healthily be. Do you know what I mean? You WILL get lower, but it may take your body a bit longer to adjust to your cognitive goal. I do know it sucks! I find that once I hit a certain number, my body has a harder time maintaining or going any lower. It's harder work to stay there...and sometimes, FOR ME, it's not worth that. I'm still trying to figure out what scale number that will be. I totally empathize!

As for the pizza...I don't resist pizza nights. I just simply CAN'T. We have them every Friday night and if that is my DD, I fast all day and allow myself 2 pieces of regular pizza, *4* pieces of thin crust. I have managed to lose all my weight doing this, and better yet, I don't feel deprived and start regaining this way. Just be kind to yourself girl! You're going to get to where you want to be. enjoy the ride!!! (I know you want to kick me! Sorry!!)

mafiamom 11-03-2013 04:19 PM

No kicking!! I totally agree with everything you said :-)

I like your pizza day way of thinking!

Carly 11-03-2013 04:49 PM

:hugs::hugs::hugs:
This is the way I look at it... there will never be a pizza shortage (not here in NY anyway). If it's my DD and I really want to stick to my rotation I remind myself that I can have pizza another time.

I am the same way about not eating until I'm ready to unleash the hungry monster. I don't think I could eat pizza on a DD and stop with 300 calories worth of it.

I am 5'2" also and have been down to 121, but can only maintain that with 200 calorie DDs EOD. I want to live my life and not be constantly saying no to even a Starbuck's Latte EOD so I choose to maintain around 124ish and do 5:2.

The fact is I didn't like my body at 121 and I was going to have to lose a lot more or have plastic surgery to remove loads of loose skin so I opt for enjoying my life and the journey and not quite loving what I look like without clothing on, but being fine with how I look dressed (DW is not complaining so I guess I should shut my trap :hyst:)

Flutter 11-03-2013 04:52 PM

Yep & double, triple YEP to all of Carly's above. I suspect I am going to stay put myself at this point. One indulgent night at my 123# low had me up 5# for a week. I suspect I may be sticking in the upper 120s for maintenance. I'm not ruling anything lower out yet, but if this is where my body's happy at this point, so be it! I know better than to restrict too much at this point. I risk getting angry and regaining all my weight again. So not worth it for a few vanity pounds! (for me!)

mafiamom 11-03-2013 04:55 PM

While my goal is 120, I would be perfectly happy to consistently being in the 120's - counting bounces.

200 calorie DD.... Yikes!!!! That's sucky LOL!!

Flutter 11-03-2013 04:58 PM

As long as I don't eat, it's not that bad, really! A skinny latte takes the edge off if I'm ridiculously grumpy, cold & hungry. (usually around 2pm, for me!) 190 cals & I'm golden!

Carly 11-03-2013 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Flutter (Post 16669450)
Yep & double, triple YEP to all of Carly's above. I suspect I am going to stay put myself at this point. One indulgent night at my 123# low had me up 5# for a week. I suspect I may be sticking in the upper 120s for maintenance. I'm not ruling anything lower out yet, but if this is where my body's happy at this point, so be it! I know better than to restrict too much at this point. I risk getting angry and regaining all my weight again. So not worth it for a few vanity pounds! (for me!)

Yup, yup, yup. I have no doubt that I could get below 115 and I may or may not like what I see, but juddd has been an enjoyable way to lose weight and I don't want to get angry and resentful at this point. My health and well being is so greatly improved. To nitpick over a few vanity pounds that annoy no one but me is not the battle that I want to engage in at this point.

I see it all the time on here. Ladies that are 5'7" trying to get to and maintain 125 and they never seem to stick around. I think they get exhausted and give up. I'm in this for the long haul.

mafiamom 11-03-2013 05:06 PM

Lol!!! If I were 5'7" I'd be golden! ;)

Flutter 11-03-2013 05:06 PM

Preach it sista!!! I'm completely with you!!! Although I would love to see 118 (it's just b/c I fondly remember it as my wedding weight...helloooo! I was 21!), I recognize it is just a head game. I'm not going to feel any happier there than I do now. I don't feel any different now than I did at my original goal of 135! It's all good now. Nice feeling to have, isn't it? Yay us!!! :heart: It's taken a lot of mental work to get to this place. I finally have some peace now. Ahhhhh. Priceless!

Flutter 11-03-2013 05:08 PM

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Originally Posted by mafiamom (Post 16669473)
Lol!!! If I were 5'7" I'd be golden! ;)

:hyst: Seriously, girl, I don't mean to negate what you're going through, but DO be kind to you. You look fabulous RIGHT NOW! Just be wary of any resentment building inside while you're trying to get to that elusive lower number. OK? Backsliding is NO FUN. Boy have I been on that ride a few times.

mafiamom 11-03-2013 05:28 PM

Ugh so have I. Hence why I've been in the 130's for 2 years. I keep seeing the same 10 numbers fluctuating. I finally feel like I have a chance this time around.

Flutter 11-03-2013 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by mafiamom (Post 16669512)
Ugh so have I. Hence why I've been in the 130's for 2 years. I keep seeing the same 10 numbers fluctuating. I finally feel like I have a chance this time around.

You have more than a "chance"! Juddd can absolutely get you there!

BTW, don't put that 2 years of maintenance down girl, that's some impressive stuff! I've only been here (maintenance) 4 months now. I've never been able to maintain a loss before. 2 years is excellent!

shirlc 11-04-2013 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by mafiamom (Post 16669350)
I think it is the life insurance guy that came and said..... 131... at your height that's gonna make you hard to insure.

This really had me lol...how ridiculous!!!


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