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elphie124 08-08-2013 07:58 AM

I screwed up.....
 
So, I binged last night. Badly. Thousands of calories. I am not looking for sympathy or even a kick in the pants (I am just ready to forgive myself and move on). What I do need is advice on what to do next! My gut instinct is to somehow quickly correct this by doing a couple DDs in a row or maybe making my next UD much lower in calories than usual. Or maybe try not to eat today (or less than a usual DD)? I don't know. Common sense tells me just to continue normal rotations but I can't help wanting to fix this. Ugh. What would you do?

grammyw/kitties 08-08-2013 08:16 AM

Maybe some of the sr JUDDers have a different idea but I would just get back on the wagon. We all make mistakes and there is no help to be found in beating yourself up! You will be alright just a minor setback. Try to understand why this happened so it might not be repeated but don't dwell on it the stress isn't worth it. You are doing well and this is an oops that we all have..we are works in progress:console: Today is a NEW DAY:jumpjoy::jumpjoy::jumpjoy:

deedee 08-08-2013 08:18 AM

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I don't know. Common sense tells me just to continue normal rotations but I can't help wanting to fix this. Ugh. What would you do?
Listen to your common sense. This is a long journey and even after you get to maintenance, you're still going to be on that journey. There's no reason to go crazy over one day's screw-up. And your normal rotations will get you back into the routine, and the routine is what keeps us going. That's just my two cents though I think most people will say the same thing.

Flutter 08-08-2013 08:26 AM

DO NOT DO DDs IN A ROW!!! Hun, just be gentle with yourself! You didn't screw up, you just had a hard day. Big deal!!! Just do a normal DD today and a normal UD tomorrow. Move along, it will be just fine! :heart: Seriously, don't beat yourself up and do NOT try to "punish" yourself or "make up for it". You're fine!!!

jacquelinejolie 08-08-2013 08:27 AM

Elphie, I haven't binged personally (yet), but from what I've read on here and my natural instinct would be to just stick to your numbers - and your rotation - going forward. The past is the past and the only way to move on is to begin as you mean to go on on a go forward basis.

I had an urge the other day to try to undo the *last year!* or so of weight gain through a quick PSMF / VLCD type of diet and then come back to JUDDD once I was at 150 or so. But I think part of why I've regained lost weight over and over again the last 12 years or so has been this desire for a quick fix and not learning how to stick with something over the very very long haul. It always ends badly and something rebounds - leading to feeling like it's a punitive diet, diet fatigue (and the accompanying aversion to any type of diet at all), all those things.

Hopefully someone more knowledgeable can chime in. :hugs:

b_lou_who 08-08-2013 08:30 AM

My only recommendation is not to turn IF into a punishment/reward system.
The rotations do work.
One odd day shouldn't turn you against yourself.
This is the one factor that has sold me on IF as lifestyle. Tomorrow is always a new day.

I am ruthless with myself in evaluating WHY I do things. Hormones? Stress? Emotions?
I like to dig in and determine why I changed my day, and a binge sets alarms ringing in my head. If I fed emotions I want to find a new solution. If feeding stress I know I need to prominently place a stress reliever in my path that won't be about food (this one is the easiest for me- I love a bath, some yoga, a good book with a pot of tea, or the minutiae focus of painting my nails).

Sounds like you have good sense. Follow it.

Charski 08-08-2013 08:36 AM

I'm with everyone else - just proceed forward as if yesterday was a normal UP day. You'll be OK! :hugs:

Quit thinking of it as "screwing up" and just own up to you made some choices to eat things you normally wouldn't have, and now you're on a down day, and making appropriate choices for today.

Librarygirl 08-08-2013 08:44 AM

Everyone's given you good advice, Elphie. Just stick with rotations. You had a UUAD (Up Up and Away Day), and that's why the word was invented. :D

calichris 08-08-2013 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by elphie124 (Post 16550970)
(I am just ready to forgive myself and move on). . . . Common sense tells me just to continue normal rotations but I can't help wanting to fix this. Ugh. What would you do?

I would do just what you said ... forgive yourself, move on, continue normal rotations. It happens to just about all of us and usually doesn't even affect your progress that much! :up: I've even heard people experience a UUAD triggering a whoosh sometimes shortly afterwards.

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Originally Posted by Flutter (Post 16551018)
DO NOT DO DDs IN A ROW!!! Hun, just be gentle with yourself! You didn't screw up, you just had a hard day. Big deal!!! Just do a normal DD today and a normal UD tomorrow. Move along, it will be just fine! :heart: Seriously, don't beat yourself up and do NOT try to "punish" yourself or "make up for it". You're fine!!!

:goodpost: I agree with Melinda!

elphie124 08-08-2013 08:57 AM

Thanks everyone. I have had a chance to take a zillion deep breaths and get my common sense back on track. I really needed the reinforcement you've given me! I know what I should do but it's SO hard not to listen to that stupid voice telling me I need to somehow make up for this. I think I might eat less on this DD by default (I am simply not hungry after eating so much yesterday) but I will honor my hunger (within my normal DD calories) and am going to commit to sticking to normal rotations.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Now to figure out how to not let this happen again. I think the cause was a cross between TOM cravings and self sabotage. For some reason when I see a low number on the scale I want to EAT. I know I need to get this under control.

KeirasMom 08-08-2013 09:01 AM

Normal rotations will take care of it. I agree with everyone else. Do NOT turn this WOE into a system of rewards and punishments, or it will never "feel" right and natural to you. Part of the beauty of JUDDD is how it helps us regulate our relationship with food. If you turn food into something other than enjoyable fuel, you won't experience this very important benefit, IMHO.

ETA: You posted while I was composing my response. I'm glad you're feeling better now and common sense is winning!

Goner 08-08-2013 09:56 AM

I'm glad you decided to just get back on normal rotations. It will be best in the long run. Sometimes it helps to know why you do something, and some times IMO, we just spin our wheels trying to figure out why. I understand self sabotague though - and I too can eat more when I see a low number - although I don't know why I do it, at least when I am aware I do it, I can try to change the behavior without knowing why.

Good luck. And try not to dwell on the stinkin' thinking but love yourself instead.

Paula 67 08-08-2013 10:23 AM

I binged too elphie. Unfortunately it was my DD. Even so, today is an UD as planned. Thanks for being brave enough to post. You got some good answers.

Kissa 08-08-2013 10:29 AM

Here am I late to the party again. You have heard and followed the great advice this board is famous for.

Just move forward and put it behind you. I promise you everyone here has done the same thing at one time or another.

LoCarbGal 08-08-2013 12:23 PM

Great advice so far, and I'm so glad you are doing what you already knew was right. Sticking with rotations is a wonderful relief. And yes, we've all gone out of control at some point, so don't feel bad. Look around at all the losses the JBs have had, and know that if we have gone out of control and still been successful, then so will you!

Dottie 08-08-2013 01:45 PM

We've all had an UUAA day lol - Up Up And Away:)

elphie124 08-08-2013 02:02 PM

Today has been much better! It's a relief to have a down day after that debauchery. It's also a relief to know I can eat normally tomorrow. I appreciate all of your wise words!

Librarygirl 08-08-2013 06:07 PM

I think I've gone over 3000 a few times. I've only just started tracking all my UD calories.:o I would start tracking and see that I was going to go way over and just stop counting. What I don't acknowledge didn't happen.:o:laugh: Plenty of people regularly had UUADs (Adi comes to mind) and still got to their goal weight. Good thing to keep in mind for all of us.:up:

Barbo 08-08-2013 09:39 PM

Elphie,
I admire you for coming forth to admit that you just went off plan.
The minute you asked for help it was forthcoming. It's so great to have
this kind of support. Wonderful that you knew what to do all along.

Have a great day today and tomorrow.

elphie124 08-09-2013 06:41 AM

The scale definitely showed it. After my last DD I weighed 134.8. I didn't weigh in after binge day but I weighed in this morning after a good DD yesterday: 138.4. I know much of that is bloat, but it's a dang good reminder for next time.

I do want to address the UUAD thing. To me, that's a good way to describe a UD that gets away from you and you go over calories, whether intentional or not. But I can't candy coat what happened on Wednesday. It was not an UUAD. It was a binge. I ate without control and gorged myself until I felt sick and then kept going. It's something I've struggled with my whole life and feel ashamed about. It's nice to talk about it here because I don't really discuss it with those in my "real life".

Thanks again for all of your kind words. This is definitely something I'm working on.

Librarygirl 08-09-2013 06:58 AM

It's good that you recognize what happened, elphie, and are trying to address it. There are some others here that struggle with binge issues as well. There is a book that some are reading that has been said to be very helpful. I think it's called "Mind Over Binge", but I could be wrong.

I went up to about 2600 yesterday, so it was a UUAD for me. The funny thing was that I wasn't hungry when I got home from work but cooked dinner anyway because bf was hungry. I ate then later ate dessert that I didn't need and too many high calorie cocktails, lol. Thankfully, it didn't go any further than what it did. Onward and downward is the motto here.:hugs:

elphie124 08-09-2013 07:07 AM

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There is a book that some are reading that has been said to be very helpful. I think it's called "Mind Over Binge", but I could be wrong.
Thanks! I think it's "Brain over Binge". I've heard of that before and am going to see if the library has it. If not, it's probably worth the buy!


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