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AndyBFK 04-16-2013 04:21 PM

Need some advice! (What did I do!)
 
DD today and I think the lack of calories has made me loose my mind. Actually I have a lot going on and I'm getting ready to leave for a mini vacation and a work trip and packing and hosting a lot of marketing events for work....etc... Anyways, I just wasn't thinking and went over my calories for this DD. im technically a few days out of my first two weeks so I should even be under the 500 mark by now but I didn't even keep it to 500 today. I just wasn't thinking about what I was putting in my mouth and without realizing it, I hit about 675 for the day. Here's what I just realized I did-

B: just coffee
L: here's where it all went wrong- 4 steamed spinach/tofu dumplings (theBEST on earth!!!) and a big cup of wonton soup. I'm guessing at least 300 calories. I thought I could just sip on the broth and eat one or two dumplings- yeah right.
S: protein shake 110
Second snack cause I forgot all about the shake!: Wendy's small chili and 4 saltines. 220
D: well that was dinner but I do have a salad if I want it, and based on the ravenousness today, im sure im gonna end up diving into it. 50 calories?

So what do I do? Forgive myself and move on to my UD tomorrow? If I do should I tweak my UD calories at all (like cut back based on how far I went over). Do I say forget it, and make this a MD or even an UD (although my UD calories are 2600 im sure i could get there) What to do? I KNOW your going to tell me that JUDDD is forgiving :) I'm just still used to the rigidity of LC eating and so afraid I screwed all my hard work up. I'm on vacation for my birthday for 4 days this weekend and already coming to terms with the fact that I'm throwing caution to the wind and enjoying myself then. So because of that I really really really wanted to do be so so good this week. Ugh, I'm having some major self loathing over this.

KeirasMom 04-16-2013 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by AndyBFK (Post 16377389)
DD today and I think the lack of calories has made me loose my mind. Actually I have a lot going on and I'm getting ready to leave for a mini vacation and a work trip and packing and hosting a lot of marketing events for work....etc... Anyways, I just wasn't thinking and went over my calories for this DD. im technically a few days out of my first two weeks so I should even be under the 500 mark by now but I didn't even keep it to 500 today. I just wasn't thinking about what I was putting in my mouth and without realizing it, I hit about 675 for the day. Here's what I just realized I did-

B: just coffee
L: here's where it all went wrong- 4 steamed spinach/tofu dumplings (theBEST on earth!!!) and a big cup of wonton soup. I'm guessing at least 300 calories. I thought I could just sip on the broth and eat one or two dumplings- yeah right.
S: protein shake 110
Second snack cause I forgot all about the shake!: Wendy's small chili and 4 saltines. 220
D: well that was dinner but I do have a salad if I want it, and based on the ravenousness today, im sure im gonna end up diving into it. 50 calories?

So what do I do? Forgive myself and move on to my UD tomorrow? If I do should I tweak my UD calories at all (like cut back based on how far I went over). Do I say forget it, and make this a MD or even an UD (although my UD calories are 2600 im sure i could get there) What to do? I KNOW your going to tell me that JUDDD is forgiving :) I'm just still used to the rigidity of LC eating and so afraid I screwed all my hard work up. I'm on vacation for my birthday for 4 days this weekend and already coming to terms with the fact that I'm throwing caution to the wind and enjoying myself then. So because of that I really really really wanted to do be so so good this week. Ugh, I'm having some major self loathing over this.

675 calories is still, most likely, within your DD ranges per the calculator. No biggie. Regular rotations to commence. :shake: JUDDD forgives, and you haven't even given it anything to forgive!!

Librarygirl 04-16-2013 04:29 PM

It's perfectly fine. You are still well-within WLM (weight-loss-mode). I've had many DDs that were in the range you ate today. Don't even worry about it, and stick to your rotations if you can. :)

gotsomeold 04-16-2013 04:29 PM

Yep

I am going to tell you JUDDD is forgiving, 675 is not even in the running for the DD oopsie of the week award, and you should just take a deep breath, repeat "This is real life, things happen and the world does not end" a few times.

You did not scream, "Too late! I might as well eat the pantry!" You brought it all back under control very gracefully.

Isn't is amazing? There is every chance this will have absolutely no effect on how much you lose this week - you will probably lose at the same rate you were before.

JUDDD forgives much more than this (as you will find and learn to trust in time).

Just don't overeat DDs on a weekly basis.

Yennie 04-16-2013 04:29 PM

Yah, what Dawn said. Wouldn't worry about it and carry on as you have been. JUDDD is forgiving. :)

tofucheez 04-16-2013 04:30 PM

Really, truly, and seriously........no biggie! So be nice to yourself :)

mom23kids 04-16-2013 04:30 PM

Not a biggie, just move on :)

angie1 04-16-2013 04:32 PM

Yes 675 is perfectly fine!!! I sometimes had DD that were close to 800 and still lost ! :) no need to worry . You are doing great!

Carly 04-16-2013 04:32 PM

What they all said! JUDDD is forgiving!

LoCarbGal 04-16-2013 04:46 PM

Yep, it's unanimous! You did NOT screw up. You did NOT blow it. Just move on to UD from here and enjoy it!

Have good safe trips too!

TryingJudd 04-16-2013 05:53 PM

As it has been well said --- no biggie. DDs range. Some are lower (great!), some are higher (we all have those days)! You are still doing great things for yourself. Congratulations on not throwing in the towel.

JMBM 04-16-2013 06:40 PM

Yep, been there done that! And as mentioned already JUDDD forgives. More so than any other diet I've tried!:up:

Beeb 04-16-2013 06:49 PM

http://www.lowcarbfriends.com/bbs/ju...e-happens.html :hugs:

Shelly_S 04-16-2013 07:12 PM

I concur with everyone else here. I had a few days that made it to the 600-800 range, a few MD's and a couple of UUAD's in the past month and then stayed on track the rest of the time and I lost 11 lbs. This diet is super forgiving! I also wrote out my "Standard DD Menu" and stick to it as much as possible because I know how easy it is to munch a little extra if something is too good on a DD.

AndyBFK 04-16-2013 07:44 PM

Geeze, THANK YOU ALL for talking me off the ledge!!! :) :) :) JUDDD has been life changing for me (can I say that after just 16 days) and, other than a meltdown of eating today, I feel like I get it, my body gets it, and it's working! But I realize it's going to take me probably a whole lot longer for my brain to get it. I also realized, that despite all of the positive weight loss I'm seeing (and will see), I still have a whole lot of emotional crapola I have to deal with that will probably be a whole lot harder to change than the weight. I'm sitting back now and reading this and realizing how totally self-loathing and guilty I felt writing this. I'll be honest, it was a total moment of feeling like a complete failure and then beating up myself over it. I am sure this is a pattern of mine. I'm a perfectionist. And the second I "mess up" or veer off track a little, I completely tear myself apart over it. I know that I put way too much pressure on myself. And when it happens, it almost always leads to me completely falling off the cliff. If I can take anything positive from this, it's that I held it together, and as bad as I felt, I didn't allow myself to completely go on a binge after it (which I surely did MULTIPLE times when I ate too many carbs on a LC Atkins induction day).

AndyBFK 04-16-2013 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by gotsomeold (Post 16377407)

You did not scream, "Too late! I might as well eat the pantry!" You brought it all back under control very gracefully.

Thank you Nancy. I actually started to cry a little bit when I read this (on an airplane no less!) I didn't realize this until you pointed it out to me. And for me, this is a really, really, really big moment. Definitely a NSV for me! That's why this board is so great. Not only did I have a place to completely freak out (without any judgment) sometimes you just need someone else's perspective to realize how far your coming and how well you're actually doing.

kh155 04-16-2013 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Shelly_S (Post 16377713)
I concur with everyone else here. I had a few days that made it to the 600-800 range, a few MD's and a couple of UUAD's in the past month and then stayed on track the rest of the time and I lost 11 lbs. This diet is super forgiving! I also wrote out my "Standard DD Menu" and stick to it as much as possible because I know how easy it is to munch a little extra if something is too good on a DD.

Pardon the threadjack AndyBFK but I just have to know ...
Shelly, would you mind sharing your standard DD menu? You've been so successful so far and I'd love to know what's keeping you on track on the DD.

gotsomeold 04-17-2013 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by AndyBFK (Post 16377761)
Thank you Nancy. I actually started to cry a little bit when I read this (on an airplane no less!) I didn't realize this until you pointed it out to me. And for me, this is a really, really, really big moment. Definitely a NSV for me! That's why this board is so great. Not only did I have a place to completely freak out (without any judgment) sometimes you just need someone else's perspective to realize how far your coming and how well you're actually doing.

Yeppers. That is a huge NSV!

The dieting lifestyle instills so much guilt, so much stress, it is just not healthy. Learning to let go is hard. I encourage you to watch for those feelings and train yourself to push them away when they come.

For example: the time will come when you face a major eating opportunity on a DD. A wedding, an award event, something extra special that pops up giving you no time to change your rotation. Think about it. You can DD at a party, you really can. But, if you decide you really want to eat on that DD give yourself permission to do so.

Really. You are not cheating. You are making a conscious decision to eat over your DD calories...and have a really good time while you do so.
No guilt. No anguish. No. Big. Deal.

Oh, eat low cal or fast before the big meal if you can. And only eat the things that taste really really good...and savor them, enjoy them. Have a good time.

The next day is UD. Eat your normal UD calories. Support returning to the rotation.

And, when the next DD comes around make it a normal, low DD.

No shame. No recriminations. After all, you gave yourself permission.

Uh ... Don't do that weekly ;) or UDaily :D and it really will be alright.

Shelly_S 04-17-2013 08:10 AM

Apologies for the threadjack, AndyBFK, but here is my "Standard Down Day Menu" for Karen. I eat small amounts every hour or two once my BP coffee has worn off around 2ish and that seems to work for me:

Bulletproof Coffee (1-2 8 oz cups regular or decaf) 5
1 tsp unsalted grassfed KerryGold butter 33
1 tsp Unrefined Coconut oil 40

1/2 cup of soup (black bean, split pea, or tomato sauce) etc. 75

1/3 cup of blueberries 27
1/3 cup of homemade Fat free yogurt 28

4-6 cups of greens (spinach, chard, cabbage, etc) 40
Package of Shiritaki noodles 0
1 LC garlic and herb cheese wedge 35
Protein of some sort or some sauce or 1 tsp oil 40

1 C of Better Than bouillion chicken broth with ACV 15

Bedtime snack
1 tsp MCT oil 33
1 tsp raw local honey 20
1 tsp unsweetened cocoa powder 5
Mix in a cup with a few drops of water. If I have a few calories left over I will add a tsp of chopped pecans to this for 25 cals.


Total is 396 for the day.

My breakdown for the day is something like 55% fat, 15% protein, 30% carbs. The fat seems to keep me more satisfied. I try to do organic and "bulletproof" when I can (I have a very, very tiny apartment patio garden where I grow some greens), and I eat the local raw honey before bed because it helps me with allergies and also helps me sleep. Plus, it's tasty!

I hope that helps!

kh155 04-17-2013 02:11 PM

Again, apologies to AndyBFK for the threadjack.
I hope you're feeling better today and that you feel more settled in to JUDDD. :console:
I believe that there are people here that actually used a higher number on DD than 500 to start with and still lost so there's no doubt that you'll be more than fine.
I hope you'll overcome your feelings of self-loathing around food. That breaks my heart that you feel that way. :cry:

_______
Thank you, Shelly! That helps a bunch. :)

AndyBFK 04-17-2013 05:55 PM

Oh my gosh, no apologies at all! I was actually going to ask the same question, so thanks Shelly for posting that for us!!! I have to incorporate more protein into my DD cals or I'll go into a blood sugar crash, but, I like the idea of making a real plan and sticking to it. I always come here and post what I've eaten on my DD, but, its usually after the fact. I think tomorrow, I will start with a written plan and stick to it all day.


Yes, thank you, it's a better day today! I'm actually happy with figuring out these feelings. I mean, it sucks that I have such an unhealthy emotional relationship to food, but that's what got me to 300+ lbs. I think so much of losing weight is dealing with all that emotional junk too. This is really the first time in my life I've been able to explore all of that. I do a lot of journaling, which is helping me get to the root of my eating issues, and I'm sure some of that comes out here in these boards. It's all part of the journey I guess!

Librarygirl 04-17-2013 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Shelly_S (Post 16378564)
Apologies for the threadjack, AndyBFK, but here is my "Standard Down Day Menu" for Karen. I eat small amounts every hour or two once my BP coffee has worn off around 2ish and that seems to work for me:

Bulletproof Coffee (1-2 8 oz cups regular or decaf) 5
1 tsp unsalted grassfed KerryGold butter 33
1 tsp Unrefined Coconut oil 40

1/2 cup of soup (black bean, split pea, or tomato sauce) etc. 75

1/3 cup of blueberries 27
1/3 cup of homemade Fat free yogurt 28

4-6 cups of greens (spinach, chard, cabbage, etc) 40
Package of Shiritaki noodles 0
1 LC garlic and herb cheese wedge 35
Protein of some sort or some sauce or 1 tsp oil 40

1 C of Better Than bouillion chicken broth with ACV 15

Bedtime snack
1 tsp MCT oil 33
1 tsp raw local honey 20
1 tsp unsweetened cocoa powder 5
Mix in a cup with a few drops of water. If I have a few calories left over I will add a tsp of chopped pecans to this for 25 cals.


Total is 396 for the day.

My breakdown for the day is something like 55% fat, 15% protein, 30% carbs. The fat seems to keep me more satisfied. I try to do organic and "bulletproof" when I can (I have a very, very tiny apartment patio garden where I grow some greens), and I eat the local raw honey before bed because it helps me with allergies and also helps me sleep. Plus, it's tasty!


I hope that helps!

That sounds delicious!! I see you're in Atlanta, so did you know that Aldi's has their own version of LC cheese at 25 cals? Also, Bi-Lo has their own version too at 30 cals. :) I'm going to do the BPC tomorrow. I can wing the rest of the day now, and don't need to plan as much as I did in the beginning.

Kissa 04-18-2013 05:22 AM

Andy, I am late but just wanted to add to the support. You did fine! A real NSV not to just give up and give in.


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