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Librarygirl 02-14-2013 04:33 PM

Do you ever have moments of pure FRIGHT that you will never lose weight
 
successfully, OR you will gain back everything you've lost? I totally do. Most of the time I am upbeat and positive about taking control (finally), and determined to be successful this time. However, sometimes I have these thoughts. They go like this: "You have been fat for so long, you will never be slim again. You're too old to be slim again. If you do manage to lose 30 lbs or more, you'll definitely gain it back. Who cares if you're fat, you're almost 50 anyway." That last one is a killer. I don't believe any of it when I'm rational, but they still creep in when I'm vulnerable, or after one of my UUADs (like today).

This is not another negative thread, bashing myself or asking you to bash yourself. I think it's good to share our thoughts and fears, and I'm just sharing mine. I promise I always share my joyous thoughts as well!

DeborahL 02-14-2013 04:57 PM

Not so much gaining it back, but yes to being unable to lose it. It's irrational at this point, but I've never claimed to be the most rational person... or the most patient.:o

Librarygirl 02-14-2013 05:08 PM

Well you've done so well deborah. It looks like you've lost 12 lbs in less than a month!! How wonderful!:clap:

Carly 02-14-2013 05:11 PM

Yes, I worry that I will gain it back. I think that is only normal. It may actually, be good- a healthy "fear" that keeps me on my toes and on rotations even though I called goal. I worry, but I'm not paralyzed. I have tools, JUDDD, but I make certain I utilize that tool or I'm sure my fear would become fact eventually.

DeborahL 02-14-2013 05:29 PM

Yes, it has gone well so far, LG. My fear stems from how I might react if it stops going so well. Really need a plan I can stick with when patience is required. :)

Let's just adopt Carly's wonderful attitude of "healthy fear"!

Librarygirl 02-14-2013 05:35 PM

Agreed. I think you're right, Carly, it's good to stay on our toes and not get complacent for long. There in lies the path we've already taken. This road is the way to longevity and happiness!

Flutter 02-14-2013 06:31 PM

Ummm yea, alot. I never worry that I'll not be able to lose the weight, only because I have many times before. My inner thoughts are "I don't know why you're bothering. Sure you're great at losing weight, but you ALWAYS gain ALL of it back anyways. Why bother?" Yep, that'd be because it's true. I always have. Phoey! :(

I think the biggest worry there stems from my inner therapist. The one that adds to the above with, "obviously there's a reason you keep doing this to yourself. Have you figured that out yet? 'Cause if not, it's just gonna happen again!"

This is why I started JUDDD, though. I agreed with my inner demon thinking that I indeed WOULD self sabotage and throw in the towel after getting close to goal again...IF I lost again on a plan that I felt restricted and frustrated with. I read about so many people happily maintaining here that it was able to shut down those negative thoughts and I jumped in within a day or so of hearing about it. Went from "no way am I doing this to myself again" to "wow, I might actually be able to STAY thin this time!"

Ask me again at the 8 month mark, LG. I always freak out and back slide back then. (it's gonna be different, it's gonna be different, it's gonna be different!)

HUGS friends!

Luna Loca 02-14-2013 06:48 PM

I don't worry that I'll gain it back. I know how to control it now.

And I totally get the "you've been overweight so long" thing. I haven't been this size/weight since my oldest was born, and he's turning 30 this year.

You CAN do it! It IS possible! I am living proof!! Not that I'm so great or anything, I just know it for you because I have experienced it myself.

:heart:

KeirasMom 02-14-2013 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Luna Loca (Post 16260072)
I don't worry that I'll gain it back. I know how to control it now.

And I totally get the "you've been overweight so long" thing. I haven't been this size/weight since my oldest was born, and he's turning 30 this year.

You CAN do it! It IS possible! I am living proof!! Not that I'm so great or anything, I just know it for you because I have experienced it myself.

:heart:

This exactly. JUDDD has alleviated my fears.

hot-in-texas 02-14-2013 07:57 PM

Not moments of pure fight, I have in the past about other things though. For my weight, I get pessimistic thoughts that i will get too comfortable and lazy about it as my weight just creeps back up.

LoCarbGal 02-14-2013 09:27 PM

I think I'm feeling more confident about it all since finding JUDDD, but I won't say those things don't cross my mind. I lost almost 100 pounds 10 years ago, and gained it all back plus almost another 100. So I have a history. But like I said, I'm counting on JUDDD to keep me in control. I know I could gain back 10 or even 20 pounds at some point, but I really do feel that knowing how the rotations make all the difference, that I won't let it get beyond that.

svenskamae 02-14-2013 09:55 PM

Yes, I worry about that a lot. I have years of trying to lose weight unsuccessfully in my past history, and a recent history of things working for a while and then no longer working. I am currently in a stall, despite doing lowcarb, limited protein, eating very clean, and JUDDD simultaneously; my next attempt will be a potato hack, but I have such problems with my body resisting weight loss that stalling longterm is a constant worry for me.

I am trying to focus on the health benefits of what I am doing and appreciating how much better I feel at 50 pounds smaller than I was, but I do wonder whether I'll ever get to anywhere near my goal weight. But any weight that I do lose makes me feel better, and I expect to make some more progress if I keep trying, including continuing with JUDDD.

Yennie 02-14-2013 11:03 PM

Every. Single. Day!!
I've gained & lost the same 50# since freshman year college. Tack on 20 more post baby & here we are.
There are a few things that are different this time around. Im beginning to separate emotion from food, especially guilt. I've got tools for success, both mental & physical - well, working on the mental part.
And, I'll be honest, being here at LCF is a large part of why I believe I will be successful this time. Had a rotten DD today, rather, it started out rough. But just thinking about the stories Ive read here, the knowledge I've gained & the support, got me through & I actually ended up with one of my best DDs, diet/eating-wise. I was slammed at work so didn't have time to jump on the boards today but just thinking about it helped a lot.
So, yes, I'm terrified. That I wont lose, that I'll give up before hitting goal, that I'll gain it all back. Despite that, I know *WE* can all do it!!!!!

Sammyann 02-15-2013 04:30 AM

I didn't have any fears while I was in weight loss mode but now that I'm in maintanence I'm an anxious mess. It shocks me too because I was so calm about losing weight. I wasn't in a hurry. I didn't care if I only lost 1 lbs a week. The bounces were no problem.

Not now. I'm freaked that every bounce means I'm gaining it all back. I hate this feeling. Logically I know I have the tools to maintain and that I am doing just that. I hope with a little more time I'll get a grip and relax.

Librarygirl 02-15-2013 04:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Flutter (Post 16260045)
Ummm yea, alot. I never worry that I'll not be able to lose the weight, only because I have many times before. My inner thoughts are "I don't know why you're bothering. Sure you're great at losing weight, but you ALWAYS gain ALL of it back anyways. Why bother?" Yep, that'd be because it's true. I always have. Phoey! :(

I think the biggest worry there stems from my inner therapist. The one that adds to the above with, "obviously there's a reason you keep doing this to yourself. Have you figured that out yet? 'Cause if not, it's just gonna happen again!"

This is why I started JUDDD, though. I agreed with my inner demon thinking that I indeed WOULD self sabotage and throw in the towel after getting close to goal again...IF I lost again on a plan that I felt restricted and frustrated with. I read about so many people happily maintaining here that it was able to shut down those negative thoughts and I jumped in within a day or so of hearing about it. Went from "no way am I doing this to myself again" to "wow, I might actually be able to STAY thin this time!"

Ask me again at the 8 month mark, LG. I always freak out and back slide back then. (it's gonna be different, it's gonna be different, it's gonna be different!)


HUGS friends!

You've done better than I have, Flutter. I've never lost more than 15 lbs on any weight loss plan, and each time I've gained it all back and more. Plus, I have never stuck to any plan longer than 3 months. So ask me at the 5 month mark. :) We WILL do this!:high5:

ETA: I have to say that this board, LCF, and you JB's are the number ONE reason I am excited (still) about losing weight and that it will work. Without your support and my daily posting/reading, I could not do it. Thank heavens this is FREE and I don't have to drive to a meeting place and pay to sit and weigh in front of strangers.

gotsomeold 02-15-2013 04:49 AM

During the first six months of weight loss - all the time.

During the next six months of weight loss - less and less as I realized the things I was learning about myself were all good and working.

After six months of maintenance - never. I do however always remember that complacency leads to disaster and I am going to spend the rest of my life living JUDDD's lessons.

mom23kids 02-15-2013 06:55 AM

Right now I'm scared to transition into maint. because i won't have a goal to work towards anymore and i'm afraid i'll start to get lazy-regain. I've decided to keep hanging out in this forum, even after hitting goal, for the accountability factor :)

deedee 02-15-2013 07:14 AM

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Not so much gaining it back, but yes to being unable to lose it. It's irrational at this point, but I've never claimed to be the most rational person... or the most patient
This is me. Even though I've already lost almost 70 pounds, I constantly think I'll get stuck wherever I am. Or that I'll lose a few more pounds but never be able to actually be thin.

Librarygirl 02-15-2013 07:25 AM

^^^That describes my fears exactly, dee. It's been so long since I was "effortlessly" slim (I didn't know it THEN), it seems like a fairy tale now.

Saxy1971 02-15-2013 07:45 AM

I'm going through that "You'll never lose the weight" phase right now. I've been losing and gaining the same 5 pounds for weeks. Although, this week I started fresh and have been good.....and staying off the scale for a while until I feel comfortable to look at the number again.

jaymar 02-15-2013 09:03 AM

This is a great question, because I do have that fear, at times...what happens to me is that Ill do good for a while...then..I stall...I have to say tho, in looking back, I usually see something that I did that may account for the stall...it's been hard for me to believe, but even tho I do kinda low carb...if I get any gluten in my system, it seems to stop me..and of course other things do too...I had to stop the ptero because of headaches..but do take the resveratrol faithfully now.
when my head tells me to give up...usually after a day or so, I will think..oh well...time to get back into rotations...that's the way I keep hanging in..I do feel like I learn something about my body when I do start looking at things.. ...whoa..what's happening..what have I done now?...I keep coming back here and reading..and am never failed to be inspired from someone.

route66 02-15-2013 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Sammyann (Post 16260387)
I'm freaked that every bounce means I'm gaining it all back.

^^^THIS!!^^^

I decided to take a WLM break and as long as I am under 145, I'm good. Or so I thought. Today...145.0 - freakout. Should I do a DD, should I restrict, should I UUAD...what will the scale say tomorrow or the next day? The future tripping is killing me mentally!!

Thanks LG for starting this thread - lots of good stuff here!!

sunday 02-15-2013 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by svenskamae (Post 16260253)
Yes, I worry about that a lot. I have years of trying to lose weight unsuccessfully in my past history, and a recent history of things working for a while and then no longer working. I am currently in a stall, despite doing lowcarb, limited protein, eating very clean, and JUDDD simultaneously; my next attempt will be a potato hack, but I have such problems with my body resisting weight loss that stalling longterm is a constant worry for me.

I am trying to focus on the health benefits of what I am doing and appreciating how much better I feel at 50 pounds smaller than I was, but I do wonder whether I'll ever get to anywhere near my goal weight. But any weight that I do lose makes me feel better, and I expect to make some more progress if I keep trying, including continuing with JUDDD.

Sven, Every time you post, it is like I see myself speaking. Exactly. I believe we are long lost twins. I stall so much, that I expect it. I have this stubborn streak that I don't want to lower my cals, so I stick with clean eating. It is very relieving to know that I am not the only person who goes through this. I do know that for the 1st time since I regained the weight, (2 years) that I feel a peace about my health. If I can continue to make strides I truly believe just like Nancy, that my weight will go to where I should be.

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Originally Posted by Yennie (Post 16260277)
Every. Single. Day!!
And, I'll be honest, being here at LCF is a large part of why I believe I will be successful this time. !

I have learned so much from reading what has worked for others. I can't imagine trying to do this on my own.

As far as fear, I used to have that fear and it was very real. JUDDD is what convinced me that I needed to relax. I can visualize goal, because I see so many that have done this. :aprayer:

mojocat 02-15-2013 10:33 AM

Oh yea I was scared especially after HCG. The weight loss was so fast and spectacular that I feared I would gain it all back without it. I hit the lowest weight I could even remember.

Thanks to JUDDD though I don't feel that way as its giving me the tools to maintain and lose more. It's so good to experience hunger and then actually enjoy food. I just wish Dr J was around as it would be good to find more of the science of long term maintenance. He mentioned another doctor he worked with from memory; has anyone tried to contact him? Ugh doing this from my phone

JMBM 02-18-2013 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Librarygirl (Post 16259896)
successfully, OR you will gain back everything you've lost? I totally do. Most of the time I am upbeat and positive about taking control (finally), and determined to be successful this time. However, sometimes I have these thoughts. They go like this: "You have been fat for so long, you will never be slim again. You're too old to be slim again. If you do manage to lose 30 lbs or more, you'll definitely gain it back. Who cares if you're fat, you're almost 50 anyway." That last one is a killer. I don't believe any of it when I'm rational, but they still creep in when I'm vulnerable, or after one of my UUADs (like today).

This is not another negative thread, bashing myself or asking you to bash yourself. I think it's good to share our thoughts and fears, and I'm just sharing mine. I promise I always share my joyous thoughts as well!

Oh yeah. I've heard it. Mine says, "yeah you've lost it, but it won't be permanent." But that's my cue to say you know what self it can be permanent if you be diligent. Sometimes it is healthy to "talk to yourself". lol:laugh:


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