For anyone needing encouragement...

divinemsm54 · 02-01-2013, 08:09 PM

I read and read some more of all my dear Juddd buds posts, and it seems we all need some bucking up on the down days that are more about mood than about calorie intake. So here are some thoughts to help at those moments when it's all just a bit too much and road's just too rocky...

No baby is born who doesn't deserve complete unconditional love...love that's not based on performance, or appearance, or the number on a scale. That includes the ones curled up in our own centers, like the tiniest of a set of russian nesting dolls. If you can't imagine loving who you are now, imagine loving that younger you; it's ever so much harder to beat up a baby in the ways we beat on and judge ourselves...

Loving ourselves doesn't mean we don't strive to achieve whatever our goals are; it means we can dependably rely on ourselves for support and encouragement as we try and try and try again. And also that we don't put off loving and approving of ourselves until after we've achieved what we set out to do. Because once you start down that road, you never, ever arrive at the happiness you thought you'd get. "I'll be happy when" ends up being you're never happy at all...or not for any longer than it takes for the temporary ceasefire in self-judgment to wear off...

So far I'm down 75 pounds. I am not one bit happier than I was when I started, and the only thing changed is that my knees are happier--a good thing, and the reason I started in the first place--and clothes shopping offers more variety. Losing weight won't make you a happy person, if you haven't figured out how to be happy already. Controlling what we eat doesn't mean we can control our knee-jerk emotional responses and habits of thinking. From the way losing weight is portrayed in the media, you'd think the heavens will open when you are thin, magically dousing you in loving partners, career success, and expensive clothes in exotic locations in which you cavort with said partners in a neverending mardi gras that is your new thin life. Is it any wonder we fall finto the "I'll be happy when..." trap, hook line and sinker?

Here's what I know: don't put off happiness; don't put off smiling at yourself in the mirror and inhabiting your flesh with peace and pride. Life's just too damn short....

--patty

gotitnow · 02-01-2013, 10:26 PM

This is wonderful advice Patty. Truthful and heartfelt! Congrats on your weight loss too, sweet budd.

Phyl

svenskamae · 02-01-2013, 10:35 PM

What a lovely post; thank you. I really like the image of our small selves, curled up inside us like the smallest of Russian nesting dolls, and deserving of our compassion and kindness, every day.

sunday · 02-02-2013, 06:25 AM

Thank you.

TryingJudd · 02-02-2013, 06:30 AM

So true! And so well said!

Alcestis · 02-02-2013, 06:42 AM

True and beautiful words. Thank you!

KeirasMom · 02-02-2013, 06:44 AM

Thank you Patty. That's a great reminder.

Cindy-lou · 02-02-2013, 07:22 AM

Thank You!!

LoCarbGal · 02-02-2013, 08:08 AM

Thanks Patty. You're so right. I'm going to focus on this.

Carly · 02-02-2013, 08:15 AM

Thank you Patty- very true words.

Yam-Yam · 02-02-2013, 11:14 AM

Joyjoy · 02-02-2013, 02:32 PM

Excellent. Perfect.

divinemsm54 · 02-03-2013, 07:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gotitnow

This is wonderful advice Patty. Truthful and heartfelt! Congrats on your weight loss too, sweet budd.

Phyl

Thank you Phyl! I'll take the congrats, it's been quite the rollercoaster....

And everyone who took the time to respond so kindly to my lobbed love-bomb, you are sooooo welcome! As is everyone who finds this and feels its message...

--patty

Trigger828 · 02-04-2013, 03:42 AM

great post to read. a mood lifter for sure!

02-01-2013, 08:09 PM	#1
divinemsm54 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 131 Gallery: divinemsm54 Stats: 254/173/150 WOE: JUDDD, mod. carb, HCG Start Date: 7/15/12	For anyone needing encouragement... I read and read some more of all my dear Juddd buds posts, and it seems we all need some bucking up on the down days that are more about mood than about calorie intake. So here are some thoughts to help at those moments when it's all just a bit too much and road's just too rocky... No baby is born who doesn't deserve complete unconditional love...love that's not based on performance, or appearance, or the number on a scale. That includes the ones curled up in our own centers, like the tiniest of a set of russian nesting dolls. If you can't imagine loving who you are now, imagine loving that younger you; it's ever so much harder to beat up a baby in the ways we beat on and judge ourselves... Loving ourselves doesn't mean we don't strive to achieve whatever our goals are; it means we can dependably rely on ourselves for support and encouragement as we try and try and try again. And also that we don't put off loving and approving of ourselves until after we've achieved what we set out to do. Because once you start down that road, you never, ever arrive at the happiness you thought you'd get. "I'll be happy when" ends up being you're never happy at all...or not for any longer than it takes for the temporary ceasefire in self-judgment to wear off... So far I'm down 75 pounds. I am not one bit happier than I was when I started, and the only thing changed is that my knees are happier--a good thing, and the reason I started in the first place--and clothes shopping offers more variety. Losing weight won't make you a happy person, if you haven't figured out how to be happy already. Controlling what we eat doesn't mean we can control our knee-jerk emotional responses and habits of thinking. From the way losing weight is portrayed in the media, you'd think the heavens will open when you are thin, magically dousing you in loving partners, career success, and expensive clothes in exotic locations in which you cavort with said partners in a neverending mardi gras that is your new thin life. Is it any wonder we fall finto the "I'll be happy when..." trap, hook line and sinker? Here's what I know: don't put off happiness; don't put off smiling at yourself in the mirror and inhabiting your flesh with peace and pride. Life's just too damn short.... --patty

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02-01-2013, 10:26 PM	#2
gotitnow Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 814 Gallery: gotitnow WOE: JUDDD	This is wonderful advice Patty. Truthful and heartfelt! Congrats on your weight loss too, sweet budd. Phyl

02-01-2013, 10:35 PM	#3
svenskamae Major LCF Poster! Join Date: May 2012 Location: Minneapolis Posts: 2,927 Gallery: svenskamae Stats: 235/178/135 5'3" WOE: Nutritional Ketosis/Primal/JUDDD Start Date: January 15, 2012	What a lovely post; thank you. I really like the image of our small selves, curled up inside us like the smallest of Russian nesting dolls, and deserving of our compassion and kindness, every day.

02-02-2013, 06:25 AM	#4
sunday Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Heartland- smack dab in the middle Posts: 4,509 Gallery: sunday Stats: 225/145/ ... WOE: Perfect Health Diet- 16hr Daily Fast Start Date: JUDDD - 2/01/12 Began at 200, Goal 130	Thank you.

02-02-2013, 06:30 AM	#5
TryingJudd Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 1,673 Gallery: TryingJudd Stats: Started Judd on 3.26.12 WOE: Judd Start Date: 3.26.12	So true! And so well said!

02-02-2013, 06:42 AM	#6
Alcestis Major LCF Poster! Join Date: May 2003 Location: New England Posts: 2,501 Gallery: Alcestis Stats: 16/10/8 5' 8" WOE: JUDDD 1850/600 Start Date: December 13th, 2011	True and beautiful words. Thank you!

02-02-2013, 06:44 AM	#7
KeirasMom Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Fresno, CA Posts: 7,308 Gallery: KeirasMom Stats: 277.6/155-159/165, 5'9", 40 y.o., Hypothyroid WOE: In Place of a Roadmap Start Date: Maintenance 1/23/13	Thank you Patty. That's a great reminder.

02-02-2013, 07:22 AM	#8
Cindy-lou Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: NB Canada Posts: 354 Gallery: Cindy-lou Stats: 257/234/170 WOE: JUDDD-01/31/13 Start Date: Nov 7 2012 LC	Thank You!!

02-02-2013, 08:08 AM	#9
LoCarbGal Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 2,830 Gallery: LoCarbGal Stats: 318.5/207.5/140 5'4" 46 yrs WOE: Atkins 1/27/12 - 54.5 lbs: JUDDD 9/4/12 - 56.5 lbs	Thanks Patty. You're so right. I'm going to focus on this.

02-02-2013, 08:15 AM	#10
Carly Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: New York Posts: 4,157 Gallery: Carly Stats: 199/123.2/126.8 5'2" 36yrs Size 20/4P WOE: 5:2 to maintain Start Date: 2/21/12- Low carb (199lbs) 3/28/12 JUDDD (189lbs)	Thank you Patty- very true words.

02-02-2013, 11:14 AM	#11
Yam-Yam Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Northern California Posts: 4,047 Gallery: Yam-Yam Stats: 230/191/183 @5'9"tall and 58 yrs. alive WOE: Dukan 8/1/11 and now JUDD (12/22/11) Start Date: 8/1/11

02-02-2013, 02:32 PM	#12
Joyjoy Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Canada Posts: 1,688 Gallery: Joyjoy Stats: 150?/134/136 5'8" 50 yo WOE: JUDDD Start Date: 4-19-12	Excellent. Perfect.

02-04-2013, 03:42 AM	#14
Trigger828 Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Oct 2012 Posts: 1,271 Gallery: Trigger828 Stats: 230 / 198.5 / 165 WOE: low carb my way! Start Date: Oct. 7, 2012	great post to read. a mood lifter for sure!