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divinemsm54 02-01-2013 09:09 PM

For anyone needing encouragement...
I read and read some more of all my dear Juddd buds posts, and it seems we all need some bucking up on the down days that are more about mood than about calorie intake. So here are some thoughts to help at those moments when it's all just a bit too much and road's just too rocky...

No baby is born who doesn't deserve complete unconditional love...love that's not based on performance, or appearance, or the number on a scale. That includes the ones curled up in our own centers, like the tiniest of a set of russian nesting dolls. If you can't imagine loving who you are now, imagine loving that younger you; it's ever so much harder to beat up a baby in the ways we beat on and judge ourselves...

Loving ourselves doesn't mean we don't strive to achieve whatever our goals are; it means we can dependably rely on ourselves for support and encouragement as we try and try and try again. And also that we don't put off loving and approving of ourselves until after we've achieved what we set out to do. Because once you start down that road, you never, ever arrive at the happiness you thought you'd get. "I'll be happy when" ends up being you're never happy at all...or not for any longer than it takes for the temporary ceasefire in self-judgment to wear off...

So far I'm down 75 pounds. I am not one bit happier than I was when I started, and the only thing changed is that my knees are happier--a good thing, and the reason I started in the first place--and clothes shopping offers more variety. Losing weight won't make you a happy person, if you haven't figured out how to be happy already. Controlling what we eat doesn't mean we can control our knee-jerk emotional responses and habits of thinking. From the way losing weight is portrayed in the media, you'd think the heavens will open when you are thin, magically dousing you in loving partners, career success, and expensive clothes in exotic locations in which you cavort with said partners in a neverending mardi gras that is your new thin life. Is it any wonder we fall finto the "I'll be happy when..." trap, hook line and sinker?

Here's what I know: don't put off happiness; don't put off smiling at yourself in the mirror and inhabiting your flesh with peace and pride. Life's just too damn short....


gotitnow 02-01-2013 11:26 PM

This is wonderful advice Patty. Truthful and heartfelt! Congrats on your weight loss too, sweet budd.:hugs:


svenskamae 02-01-2013 11:35 PM

What a lovely post; thank you. I really like the image of our small selves, curled up inside us like the smallest of Russian nesting dolls, and deserving of our compassion and kindness, every day.

sunday 02-02-2013 07:25 AM

Thank you. :) :love:

TryingJudd 02-02-2013 07:30 AM

So true! And so well said!

Alcestis 02-02-2013 07:42 AM

True and beautiful words. Thank you! :love:

KeirasMom 02-02-2013 07:44 AM

Thank you Patty. That's a great reminder.

Cindy-lou 02-02-2013 08:22 AM


Thank You!! :heart:

LoCarbGal 02-02-2013 09:08 AM

Thanks Patty. You're so right. I'm going to focus on this.

Carly 02-02-2013 09:15 AM

Thank you Patty- very true words.

Yam-Yam 02-02-2013 12:14 PM


Joyjoy 02-02-2013 03:32 PM

Excellent. Perfect. :):heart:

divinemsm54 02-03-2013 08:38 PM


Originally Posted by gotitnow (Post 16234898)
This is wonderful advice Patty. Truthful and heartfelt! Congrats on your weight loss too, sweet budd.:hugs:


Thank you Phyl! I'll take the congrats, it's been quite the rollercoaster....

And everyone who took the time to respond so kindly to my lobbed love-bomb, you are sooooo welcome! As is everyone who finds this and feels its message...


Trigger828 02-04-2013 04:42 AM

great post to read. a mood lifter for sure!

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