Crushed...and not eating - Page 3

Kissa · 01-09-2013, 04:19 PM

Just sending more support Vil. I am glad to hear that your foot is beginning to heal.

I agree with the advice to just accept the emotional roller coaster. You are not going crazy, you are healing. Slowly but surely. Some days it may not feel that way, but it is happening.

Luv2Eat · 01-09-2013, 04:51 PM

Vil, sounds like you're getting whacked from a couple of different angles. I think my reaction would be similar to yours. Hang in there, when your foot heals I predict you'll feel better.
When one door closes, another opens.

HomeWorkerMT · 01-09-2013, 05:08 PM

I am glad you are slowly improving.

Well, everyone here has been much nicer than I would concerning your ex.

In my opinion, if he calls again, he is trying to torment you. Men are sometimes weird like that. They may want to break up with you, but they don't want you moving on to someone else.

Your best chance for a "total recovery" is absolutely no contact of any kind.... no phone conversations, no e-mails, and no texts. If he tries to contact you, ignore him! I know that will be the most difficult thing you have ever done in your life, but believe me, it WILL get easier! I went through sort of a similar situation one time, and I thought my life would absolutely be over if I did not have this man in my life.......NOT! Funny thing, the more time elapsed, I realized it was really for the best. I can't say you will reach the point where you NEVER think of him again, but I think you CAN reach the point that it does not cause you heartache when you do.

I really hope you keep moving "upward"! Every time your mind drifts in that direction, immediately try to switch gears and do something else. Time heals all wounds of the heart!

Kismet311 · 01-09-2013, 05:17 PM

It's great to hear you are doing better! I have been through all of the situations that you went through although not all at the same time. I can imagine how difficult things are right now. You will get through this!

Carly · 01-09-2013, 05:51 PM

I agree that it is not out of the ordinary to be having some dramatic mood swings, but if you don't start to feel better little by little or start to feel much worse find someone you can talk with. Sometimes break ups really effect us and it can help to talk with a counselor. More

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Shari4 · 01-09-2013, 06:13 PM

I, too, am glad you stopped by to let us know how you are feeling! I agree with all that have said feelings are not good or bad......they just ARE! Feel them & move on to the next. I'm happy your foot is doing better. They never heal as quickly as we'd like!! Hang in there!

gotsomeold · 01-10-2013, 04:53 AM

What Shari said.

Flutter · 01-10-2013, 07:35 AM

Just sending more

and

your way. Thinking about you and hoping today is a better one. Just be for awhile sweetness...and remember, you are worthy of all the wonderful things this world has to offer!!!!

Flossyliz · 01-10-2013, 09:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Luna Loca

Vila

I would think your emotional swings are normal...you are healing. One thing I have found that decreases suffering is to accept when you are having a feeling. It's just a feeling, it doesn't mean anything. If you're sad today, it just means that you're sad. It's okay. It doesn't mean that you're crazy, or defective, or broken, or that you're going to feel like this forever. Go ahead and be sad. The feeling will change and then you'll feel something else for a while.

When I'm going through stuff, I like to think of a little kid. Little kids can have quite stormy emotions--but they have them, and then they move through them onto something else. And they don't question themselves about why they feel the way they do or what it means that they feel the way they do--why do we do that? They just feel the feelings and then move on to something else. I can learn a lot from that.

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The emotional rollercoaster is perfectly natural and healthy. Just let the feelings move through you and don't try to block them. Sending you Love and Hugs

LoCarbGal · 01-12-2013, 08:54 AM

Just checking in on you Vil. Hoping you're feeling the tiniest bit better each day. And hoping that foot feels a lot better each day!

Kissa · 01-12-2013, 09:01 AM

Indeed, I have been wondering how you are too. I am sure that once the foot has healed you will be able to work on your bruised heart.

I am glad you have good friends around you.

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01-09-2013, 04:19 PM	#61
Kissa Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: London UK Posts: 16,464 Gallery: Kissa Stats: 184/124/126 5'3" Age 65 WOE: JUDDD/5:2 Start Date: 2001 Atkins -50 2011 JUDDD - 10	Just sending more support Vil. I am glad to hear that your foot is beginning to heal. I agree with the advice to just accept the emotional roller coaster. You are not going crazy, you are healing. Slowly but surely. Some days it may not feel that way, but it is happening.

01-09-2013, 04:51 PM	#62
Luv2Eat Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 628 Gallery: Luv2Eat WOE: JUDDD dd 200 ud 1200 Start Date: Aug 2012	Vil, sounds like you're getting whacked from a couple of different angles. I think my reaction would be similar to yours. Hang in there, when your foot heals I predict you'll feel better. When one door closes, another opens.

01-09-2013, 05:08 PM	#63
HomeWorkerMT Junior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2012 Posts: 55 Gallery: HomeWorkerMT Stats: 163/158.8/140 WOE: WOE JUDDD Start Date: Sept. 28, 2012	I am glad you are slowly improving. Well, everyone here has been much nicer than I would concerning your ex. In my opinion, if he calls again, he is trying to torment you. Men are sometimes weird like that. They may want to break up with you, but they don't want you moving on to someone else. Your best chance for a "total recovery" is absolutely no contact of any kind.... no phone conversations, no e-mails, and no texts. If he tries to contact you, ignore him! I know that will be the most difficult thing you have ever done in your life, but believe me, it WILL get easier! I went through sort of a similar situation one time, and I thought my life would absolutely be over if I did not have this man in my life.......NOT! Funny thing, the more time elapsed, I realized it was really for the best. I can't say you will reach the point where you NEVER think of him again, but I think you CAN reach the point that it does not cause you heartache when you do. I really hope you keep moving "upward"! Every time your mind drifts in that direction, immediately try to switch gears and do something else. Time heals all wounds of the heart!

01-09-2013, 05:17 PM	#64
Kismet311 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: New York Posts: 893 Gallery: Kismet311 Stats: 161/131.8/125 WOE: TOPS/Juddd	It's great to hear you are doing better! I have been through all of the situations that you went through although not all at the same time. I can imagine how difficult things are right now. You will get through this!

01-09-2013, 05:51 PM	#65
Carly Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: New York Posts: 4,198 Gallery: Carly Stats: 199/123.2/126.8 5'2" 36yrs Size 20/4P WOE: 5:2 to maintain Start Date: 2/21/12- Low carb (199lbs) 3/28/12 JUDDD (189lbs)	I agree that it is not out of the ordinary to be having some dramatic mood swings, but if you don't start to feel better little by little or start to feel much worse find someone you can talk with. Sometimes break ups really effect us and it can help to talk with a counselor. More .

01-09-2013, 06:13 PM	#66
Shari4 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Somewhere in Texas Posts: 882 Gallery: Shari4 Stats: 200/140.4/140 63yrs WOE: JUDDD Start Date: Started JUDDD: 9/24/12 @181	I, too, am glad you stopped by to let us know how you are feeling! I agree with all that have said feelings are not good or bad......they just ARE! Feel them & move on to the next. I'm happy your foot is doing better. They never heal as quickly as we'd like!! Hang in there!

01-10-2013, 04:53 AM	#67
gotsomeold Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Asheville, NC / Marietta, Ga Posts: 3,287 Gallery: gotsomeold Stats: 175/127.6/GOAL at 128, size six fits! 5'4, 60yo WOE: JUDDD, PHD Start Date: LC/EFGT - 9/15/11, JUDDD - 1/1/12	What Shari said.

01-10-2013, 07:35 AM	#68
Flutter Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,430 Gallery: Flutter Stats: 190/144/135 5'4" 43yo WOE: SB/JUDDD Start Date: SB 2/05; JUDDD 11/12	Just sending more and your way. Thinking about you and hoping today is a better one. Just be for awhile sweetness...and remember, you are worthy of all the wonderful things this world has to offer!!!!

01-12-2013, 08:54 AM	#70
LoCarbGal Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 2,873 Gallery: LoCarbGal Stats: 318.5/207/140 5'4" 46 yrs WOE: Atkins 1/27/12 - 54.5 lbs: JUDDD 9/4/12 - 57 lbs	Just checking in on you Vil. Hoping you're feeling the tiniest bit better each day. And hoping that foot feels a lot better each day!

01-12-2013, 09:01 AM	#71
Kissa Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: London UK Posts: 16,464 Gallery: Kissa Stats: 184/124/126 5'3" Age 65 WOE: JUDDD/5:2 Start Date: 2001 Atkins -50 2011 JUDDD - 10	Indeed, I have been wondering how you are too. I am sure that once the foot has healed you will be able to work on your bruised heart. I am glad you have good friends around you.