LOL! Co-worker compared hcg to gastric bypass! "Too Extreme"

LilacBruze · 06-28-2011, 08:25 AM

So, they are doing the Biggest Loser contest at work and several of my co-workers have been complaining that they are not losing weight. Most everyone knows I am going hHCG but I chose to not participate in the contest.

Today I go to report to one of my co-workers how someone here won their Biggest Loser and people complained that she cheated. I was shocked to hear my co-worker agree and say that she considered HCG cheating and "as extreme as gastric bypass". I couldn't believe that she had this attitude, but I saw it coming yesterday when she made a sort of not nice comment to me about "the damage I'm doing to my body" since I chose to stretch out my round to 60 days.

I'm a little miffed at her right now. For all the talk I have heard about needing to change her lifestyle, her frustration over trying to lose weight, concerns over health issues if she doesn't lose weight, etc., I don't understand the judging of my choice and my adherence to protocol. ESPECIALLY when I have shared my journey with her, how great I feel, how my diabetes is practically gone, etc.

But I am not letting ANYONE rain on my parade!

Balance101 · 06-28-2011, 08:27 AM

She is clearly jealous of your loss.

BigBravesGirl · 06-28-2011, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Balance101

She is clearly jealous of your loss.

I was just going to say, jealousy is such a nasty beast.

And I'd love to have a talk with your co-worker about HCG vs GBP.

LilacBruze · 06-28-2011, 08:31 AM

I'm really glad I didn't participate! Then when I won it, I'd have THAT attitude to look forward to! Hmph!

LilacBruze · 06-28-2011, 08:53 AM

Well, after fuming about what she said for a while, I went up to her and told her that I thought what she said to me was ignorant, and that from now on I did not want to discuss dieting with her.

chicamala · 06-28-2011, 09:01 AM

It is not judging you, so much as it is justifying on her part....people like it when people are in the same boat as them...when someone jumps ship and tries to do better for themselves and is willing to work hard to get that better life, it makes others feel bad about themselves for not being able or willing to....the justifications begin!

BigBravesGirl · 06-28-2011, 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by chicamala

It is not judging you, so much as it is justifying on her part....people like it when people are in the same boat as them...when someone jumps ship and tries to do better for themselves and is willing to work hard to get that better life, it makes others feel bad about themselves for not being able or willing to....the justifications begin!

Very well put!

Sleepy · 06-28-2011, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by chicamala

It is not judging you, so much as it is justifying on her part....people like it when people are in the same boat as them...when someone jumps ship and tries to do better for themselves and is willing to work hard to get that better life, it makes others feel bad about themselves for not being able or willing to....the justifications begin!

amen!!

people are ignorant and jealous
be proud of yourself and what you are doing to have a better life

LJB · 06-28-2011, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Balance101

She is clearly jealous of your loss.

Yes.

Though I don't agree on HCG, if it helps you then by all means...keep up the good work!

Balance101 · 06-28-2011, 10:16 AM

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C'Marie · 06-28-2011, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by chicamala

It is not judging you, so much as it is justifying on her part....people like it when people are in the same boat as them...when someone jumps ship and tries to do better for themselves and is willing to work hard to get that better life, it makes others feel bad about themselves for not being able or willing to....the justifications begin!

I call it the "crab pot" syndrome. You know why they don't have to put lids on crab pots on boats after they are caught? Because if a crab starts to climb out, the others pull him/her back in. Yup.

I never understood that about human behavior. I was always and WILL ALWAYS be a cheerleader for anyone I see making positive changes, even if I am a little bit jealous myself.

shelbyla · 06-28-2011, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by LilacBruze

Well, after fuming about what she said for a while, I went up to her and told her that I thought what she said to me was ignorant, and that from now on I did not want to discuss dieting with her.

The NERVE of some people! Good for you! You GO girl!

Btw, Lilac, you've changed. You look much shorter and erm...furrier...

Sleepy · 06-28-2011, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Balance101

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your sig Sleepy!

Zeppelin

debkeversole · 06-28-2011, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by LilacBruze

Well, after fuming about what she said for a while, I went up to her and told her that I thought what she said to me was ignorant, and that from now on I did not want to discuss dieting with her.

LJB · 06-28-2011, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by LilacBruze

Well, after fuming about what she said for a while, I went up to her and told her that I thought what she said to me was ignorant, and that from now on I did not want to discuss dieting with her.

chicamala · 06-28-2011, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by LilacBruze

Well, after fuming about what she said for a while, I went up to her and told her that I thought what she said to me was ignorant, and that from now on I did not want to discuss dieting with her.

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Originally Posted by C'Marie

I call it the "crab pot" syndrome. You know why they don't have to put lids on crab pots on boats after they are caught? Because if a crab starts to climb out, the others pull him/her back in. Yup.

I never understood that about human behavior. I was always and WILL ALWAYS be a cheerleader for anyone I see making positive changes, even if I am a little bit jealous myself.

That is it! I am totally thrilled for people, and their exuberance ultimately ends up motivating me at some point!

Lildrew · 06-28-2011, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by chicamala

It is not judging you, so much as it is justifying on her part....people like it when people are in the same boat as them...when someone jumps ship and tries to do better for themselves and is willing to work hard to get that better life, it makes others feel bad about themselves for not being able or willing to....the justifications begin!

I agree! I have recently had close friends start to treat me differently and have made some snarky comments. I am SOOO not telling them about starting my HCG diet for now. Misery really does love company.

LilacBruze · 06-28-2011, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by chicamala

It is not judging you, so much as it is justifying on her part....people like it when people are in the same boat as them...when someone jumps ship and tries to do better for themselves and is willing to work hard to get that better life, it makes others feel bad about themselves for not being able or willing to....the justifications begin!

Agreed!

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Originally Posted by C'Marie

I call it the "crab pot" syndrome. You know why they don't have to put lids on crab pots on boats after they are caught? Because if a crab starts to climb out, the others pull him/her back in. Yup.

I never understood that about human behavior. I was always and WILL ALWAYS be a cheerleader for anyone I see making positive changes, even if I am a little bit jealous myself.

Agreed again!

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Originally Posted by shelbyla

The NERVE of some people! Good for you! You GO girl!

Btw, Lilac, you've changed. You look much shorter and erm...furrier...

But my mouth is just as big!

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Originally Posted by chicamala

That is it! I am totally thrilled for people, and their exuberance ultimately ends up motivating me at some point!

Me too! I am always happy for someone especially when it comes to bettering themselves and/or their life!

I guess what really hurt my feelings is that I have shared my journey with her and for her to say that to me clearly says to me that she was not listening. And I HATE when I am not listened to.

chicamala · 06-28-2011, 01:39 PM

We'll always listen to you!!! <3 <3

Buttercup · 06-28-2011, 05:29 PM

I guess, ignorance is NOT bliss in her case. She wants to do it, but she didn't read about it and educate herself enough to feel safe about doing it, so she is foisting her fears on you.

Knowledge is power. Good on you!

LilacBruze · 06-28-2011, 06:40 PM

I totally did not expect this from her. She is actually the person at work that I am closest to!

Believe it or not, support today came from the unlikeliest of people - my boss! When I told him today that it was VLCD53 for me (he had been on vacation and so was I), the first thing he said was that HCG was obviously working for me and that I was... get this... GLOWING! He actually used that word!

I told him how I felt great and how my diabetes was under control for the first time since being diagnosed 4 years ago. I told him what my co-worker said to me and he just shook his head and immediately said that she was jealous because she has been struggling with her own weight loss and it wasn't working for her. <-- to which I have always listened and been supportive and positive to her (a kindness she apparently couldn't continue to show me). He told me that he has seen how positive I have been and how dramatic the results have been and that I was indeed a success story!

Yay to my boss! I love him for today!

RedsSkinnyJeans · 06-29-2011, 04:39 AM

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Originally Posted by LilacBruze

and that I was... get this... GLOWING! He actually used that word!

Funny coincidence! One of the friends that started telling me about HCG two years ago - I often noticed that she was "glowing"! When I learned it was a hormone related to pregnancy, I wondered if that was it. But she often looked that way!

So cool your boss did the same thing!!!

Lilac, I feel like I'm talking to myself here, because I can be quite sensitive despite also being a "tough love" person. But, isn't there a CHANCE your co-worker did not have bad motives in what she told you? That it was just a matter of saying something thoughtless?

I'm just saying, sometimes, even though we listen, (or half listen), and have information, there is a whole psychological JOURNEY to be taken in order for us to change our belief systems. Is it possible she listened to you, but inside she still doesn't believe HCG is safe? Like maybe it's hurting your liver? I remember a year ago thinking: "Ok, I'm supposed to TRICK my body into thinking it's pregnant? That just doesn't sound healthy. I'm supposed to eat only 500 calories a day? That is so unhealthy!" But I didn't have all the information.

Of course, I would NEVER not support a friend...or say something unkind. That's just dumb and disloyal.

You are totally justified in feeling upset - but I'm just playing devil's advocate here, since at work, she is the one you are closest to.

I love it when I have a reaction just like you, and see it one way, and then my husband patiently takes my hand and walks me up to a different perspective and introduces me. I'm usually like: "Oh! I never thought of that!"

LilacBruze · 06-29-2011, 04:57 AM

Honestly, I would have given her the benefit of the doubt had she not made a snarky comment the day before about the "damage" I was doing to my body. Then the next day she made the "extreme" comment and compared what I was doing to gastric bypass and said she agreed that using hcg while doing The Biggest Loser was cheating.

See, I just don't get it. <None of it, lol> But I especially don't get the "cheating" comment and THAT is really where I saw the jealousy and lack of listening to me come into play.

She claims that she exercises for 3 hours a day while I have not exercised at all. I could say that I considered exercise to be cheating! Especially when she would use the exercise as a way to eat more food that she shouldn't have been eating!

Plus, when I approached her and told her she made an ignorant comment and that she hurt my feelings - had I really misunderstood her comment, she would have offered me more than the lame-o "That's fine" response that she gave me. She would have told me, "Girl you misunderstood" or something similar but nope. I didn't get that.

RedsSkinnyJeans · 06-29-2011, 05:41 AM

Ok. You're right :-)

:shake :

06-28-2011, 08:25 AM	#1
LilacBruze Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 1,595 Gallery: LilacBruze Stats: 290/172.6/160 WOE: hHCG Simeons Protocol	LOL! Co-worker compared hcg to gastric bypass! "Too Extreme" So, they are doing the Biggest Loser contest at work and several of my co-workers have been complaining that they are not losing weight. Most everyone knows I am going hHCG but I chose to not participate in the contest. Today I go to report to one of my co-workers how someone here won their Biggest Loser and people complained that she cheated. I was shocked to hear my co-worker agree and say that she considered HCG cheating and "as extreme as gastric bypass". I couldn't believe that she had this attitude, but I saw it coming yesterday when she made a sort of not nice comment to me about "the damage I'm doing to my body" since I chose to stretch out my round to 60 days. I'm a little miffed at her right now. For all the talk I have heard about needing to change her lifestyle, her frustration over trying to lose weight, concerns over health issues if she doesn't lose weight, etc., I don't understand the judging of my choice and my adherence to protocol. ESPECIALLY when I have shared my journey with her, how great I feel, how my diabetes is practically gone, etc. But I am not letting ANYONE rain on my parade! __________________ Total loss on 1st round of P2: 49.0 lbs Total loss on 2nd round of P2: 30.6 lbs

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06-28-2011, 08:27 AM	#2
Balance101 Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: CT girl in NC Posts: 1,010 Gallery: Balance101 WOE: hHcg Start Date: 10/1/12	She is clearly jealous of your loss.

06-28-2011, 08:31 AM	#4
LilacBruze Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 1,595 Gallery: LilacBruze Stats: 290/172.6/160 WOE: hHCG Simeons Protocol	I'm really glad I didn't participate! Then when I won it, I'd have THAT attitude to look forward to! Hmph!

06-28-2011, 08:53 AM	#5
LilacBruze Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 1,595 Gallery: LilacBruze Stats: 290/172.6/160 WOE: hHCG Simeons Protocol	Well, after fuming about what she said for a while, I went up to her and told her that I thought what she said to me was ignorant, and that from now on I did not want to discuss dieting with her.

06-28-2011, 09:01 AM	#6
chicamala Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Mesa, AZ Posts: 405 Gallery: chicamala Stats: 257/259.6/150 WOE: hHCG Start Date: 04/13/12	It is not judging you, so much as it is justifying on her part....people like it when people are in the same boat as them...when someone jumps ship and tries to do better for themselves and is willing to work hard to get that better life, it makes others feel bad about themselves for not being able or willing to....the justifications begin!

06-28-2011, 10:16 AM	#10
Balance101 Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: CT girl in NC Posts: 1,010 Gallery: Balance101 WOE: hHcg Start Date: 10/1/12	I your sig Sleepy! Zeppelin

06-28-2011, 01:39 PM	#19
chicamala Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Mesa, AZ Posts: 405 Gallery: chicamala Stats: 257/259.6/150 WOE: hHCG Start Date: 04/13/12	We'll always listen to you!!! <3 <3

06-28-2011, 05:29 PM	#20
Buttercup Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Medford, NY, USA Posts: 2,413 Gallery: Buttercup Stats: 175/168/135 WOE: Atkins OWL	I guess, ignorance is NOT bliss in her case. She wants to do it, but she didn't read about it and educate herself enough to feel safe about doing it, so she is foisting her fears on you. Knowledge is power. Good on you!

06-28-2011, 06:40 PM	#21
LilacBruze Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 1,595 Gallery: LilacBruze Stats: 290/172.6/160 WOE: hHCG Simeons Protocol	I totally did not expect this from her. She is actually the person at work that I am closest to! Believe it or not, support today came from the unlikeliest of people - my boss! When I told him today that it was VLCD53 for me (he had been on vacation and so was I), the first thing he said was that HCG was obviously working for me and that I was... get this... GLOWING! He actually used that word! I told him how I felt great and how my diabetes was under control for the first time since being diagnosed 4 years ago. I told him what my co-worker said to me and he just shook his head and immediately said that she was jealous because she has been struggling with her own weight loss and it wasn't working for her. <-- to which I have always listened and been supportive and positive to her (a kindness she apparently couldn't continue to show me). He told me that he has seen how positive I have been and how dramatic the results have been and that I was indeed a success story! Yay to my boss! I love him for today!

06-29-2011, 04:57 AM	#23
LilacBruze Major LCF Poster! Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 1,595 Gallery: LilacBruze Stats: 290/172.6/160 WOE: hHCG Simeons Protocol	Honestly, I would have given her the benefit of the doubt had she not made a snarky comment the day before about the "damage" I was doing to my body. Then the next day she made the "extreme" comment and compared what I was doing to gastric bypass and said she agreed that using hcg while doing The Biggest Loser was cheating. See, I just don't get it. <None of it, lol> But I especially don't get the "cheating" comment and THAT is really where I saw the jealousy and lack of listening to me come into play. She claims that she exercises for 3 hours a day while I have not exercised at all. I could say that I considered exercise to be cheating! Especially when she would use the exercise as a way to eat more food that she shouldn't have been eating! Plus, when I approached her and told her she made an ignorant comment and that she hurt my feelings - had I really misunderstood her comment, she would have offered me more than the lame-o "That's fine" response that she gave me. She would have told me, "Girl you misunderstood" or something similar but nope. I didn't get that.

06-29-2011, 05:41 AM	#24
RedsSkinnyJeans Major LCF Poster! Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 1,007 Gallery: RedsSkinnyJeans Stats: 170/144/140 Start Date: 4/1/11	Ok. You're right :-) :shake :