I'm so stressed out about my weight

[karenb]

Back in 2000 I lost around 80#'s and kept it off for 3-4 years, until I learned my older and only sibling was terminally ill and then I packed it all back on. I kept thinking after she was gone and I'd recovered from my loss I'd be able to get back on board. She's been gone over 18 months and my weight is still up there. I just can't control eating. I started cutting after my sister died and now I feel like doing it again.

[MarblesLongGone]

Is this adversely affecting your quality of life?
Is this worsening your health, and your risk for diseases?
Is this what she would want for you?

[wifezilla]

Hi Karen,

There is more going on than just your weight...though I am sure that isn't helping. Your stress and anxiety need to be addressed first and foremost. Can you get in touch with a therapist?

You CAN start eliminating refined sugars, flour, rice, etc... from your diet regardless. If Atkins induction sounds too difficult right now, a plan like "Natural Health & Weight Loss" might be a better idea.

Basically it is less than 60g of carbs a day, fresh veggies, as little processed food as possible. No induction phase.

Carbs can add to stress and anxiety...and going through the loss of an only sibling had to be very difficult.

Don't feel embarrassed to ask for help...either here concerning diet or a professional with your issues and problems with cutting.

[karenb]

Yes, I do have a very good therapist I can get ahold of. I'll try to call and get an appointment tomorrow hopefully later this week. I hadn't thought of calling her, thanks for the suggestion.

[wifezilla]

You had a rough stretch. Nothing wrong with getting a little help

You can start low carb at any time. No pressure. Just take things one thing at a time and don't be so hard on yourself (I know...easier said than done...LOL)

[Zer]

Originally Posted by karenb

Back in 2000 I lost around 80#'s and kept it off for 3-4 years, until I learned my older and only sibling was terminally ill and then I packed it all back on. I kept thinking after she was gone and I'd recovered from my loss I'd be able to get back on board. She's been gone over 18 months and my weight is still up there. I just can't control eating. I started cutting after my sister died and now I feel like doing it again.

Good work, coming here and writing about your feelings. There's good support at LCFriends for all sorts of miseries. Do keep writing, as you work your program(s) for healing. Part of the work is dietary, and LC seems to reduce confusion in my own thinking. Hope you can work a LC plan that clears some of the fog in your own thinking.

I'll be thinking of you as I work my own LC program and grow myself up too.

[wifezilla]

There are a couple of supplements that might help the process too.....omega 3 fatty acids (fish oil) and vitamin D3. Google them and see if you think they might be beneficial.

[Bhambabe]

I also hope you get some help . I will say for you .

[4gotn1]

Karen, I wish you the best of luck and will say a prayer for you as well!

I agree "marbles" is this what your sister would want for you? NO ...she would not. Please remember that when you have the urge to cut.

Like eating when stressed/hurt the physical pain of cutting is not only just a temporary delay of the emotional pain but adds to it by adding the guilt of over eating or cutting....kwim?

Please keep us posted as to what the therapist says and BEST of luck to you!

[karenb]

I'mnot good at having people around all the time. I've been on disability for years for depression. A few weeks ago DH had 3 of his 'hunting buddies stay for a week! I know them all and like them but it was really stressful to have people around ALL THE TIME! Also DH and I hadn't talked about how we'd feed the guys. My cooking stills have really gone downhill sincd DH eats breakfast and lunch at work and just snacks in the evenning. I used to be such a good cook but I'm really out of practice. Then one guy who has a bad knee sat on and broke his cane on the way here. DH found a cane for him. Then another guy came down with gout. I borrowed my step father's cane from my Mom (he's been gone for years)

Plus a few weeks ago I tried on several bras and could see all those fat rolls on my back. No wonder I seldom look in mirrors. And a big fat belly in front!

[Zer]

Next time DH throws open the house to visitors, tie an apron on him! Imagine, having guests for a week like that! Good thing you found us. Lots of room to shriek and carry on here, when life - or a loved one - throws us a curveball!

What are your plans for your meals today? Got any ideas?

Sometimes just cutting out white stuff is a good way to manage a LC day. It's a basic principle, to work out ways to manage without the carby white stuff.

[4gotn1]

ITA w/ Zer! Having them down knowing how you feel was bad enough but then to expect you take care of them......UH uh, no way!

Have you checked out the eggcreams thread? They really fill you up and low/no carbs and then you could have a more carb sensible dinner. Trust me these shakes REALLY fill you up~!

[karenb]

I think part of the problem is I'm still mad at my sister. She got really burned a coupe of times in college and built fence around her and didn't let many people in. When I annunced I was getting married the gate was shut on me. There was good times and bad times and it seemed it was always on her terms. The fact that I moved 800 miles away didn't help. Then she got this 'orphan disease' and we were told at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester that she would die, they couldn't say when, just that it was fatal. The doctor explained that the viens in your head are like supple tubes and her's would sort of look like a string of pearls. with part of her brain shutting down. The last thing she said to me was 'I shouldn't be here', meaning she shouldn't be in the nursing home but out enjoying her retirement. We moved her from Iowa down to here so she could be near me and we knew Mom would move down to. She only wanted to see us, or us to see her once a week. There were times I just couldn't face her. I feel like there was so much left to say and discuss but there wasn't time

And to top it off I have fibromyalgia for years and sometime I'm just so weak, sore and tired.

[karenb]

I didn't realize how angry I was at my sister until I typed that yesterday! I never confronted her when she was alive then when she got sick she got so ill so fast I just couldn't. I feel better now that I've gotten that off my chest.

[Zer]

Originally Posted by karenb

I didn't realize how angry I was at my sister until I typed that yesterday! I never confronted her when she was alive then when she got sick she got so ill so fast I just couldn't. I feel better now that I've gotten that off my chest.

It's true. Writing things out is therapeutic. So glad that you've laid to rest your unexpressed anger at your sister. Hope you can find good memories, now that your ire has been expressed and is vented, gone.

When I lose a knot of conflict in my gut or my head, I feel as if I've freed up all sorts of space and energy that I can put to other use. I hope you find this too.

[Star123]

Kareb,

I will keep you in my prayers. I've been feeling down abit about my weight too, but know that God is there for me whenever I need him. All I need to do is call on Him and He will hear me. You can do the same, my friend. He will give you the strength to carry on no matter what you're going through at the moment, because He loves and cares about you.

Life can be hard at times, and I don't know why He takes the ones we love to heaven, but He has his reasons.[I've been there myself, I know!!!]But, inspite of it all we can find the strength to carry on and face life's challenges head on, because we are not alone. The God of the universe is big enough to handle anything we face. The scriptures say, "Is anything too hard for God?" The answer is No way!!! He is able to turn something tragic into something remarkable, and make it into something worth living and fighting for. God has a purpose, a plan and a future for his children and cares enough, and loves us enough with unconditional love for us that lasts for an eternity.

Why don't you give him a call, He might just answer you back in a way you've never dreamed of before. He cares that much for you. He really does!!! He's waiting for you to pick up that phone. Won't you give God a chance? He won't turn you away, but wants your heart. Is that too much to ask? He will never leave you, or forsake you and that's a promise that He will keep forever.

"The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged." Deuteronomy 31:8 NIV.

"I lift up my eyes to the hills--
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord,
the Maker of heaven and earth.

He will not let your foot slip--
he who watches over you will not slumber;
indeed, he who watches over Israel
will neither slumber nor sleep.

The Lord watches over you--
the Lord is your shade at your right hand;
the sun will not harm you by day,
nor the moon by night.

The Lord will keep you from all harm--
he will watch over your life;
the Lord will watch over your coming and going
both now and forevermore." Psalm 121 NIV.

God BLess,

[CarbyCurse]

Originally Posted by karenb

I didn't realize how angry I was at my sister until I typed that yesterday! I never confronted her when she was alive then when she got sick she got so ill so fast I just couldn't. I feel better now that I've gotten that off my chest.

Funny how things can sneak up on you.