Need prayers for marriage...

Hanosaurus · 01-31-2008, 04:15 PM

Hi,

Need some prayers here. My hubby of almost 19 years is unsure if he wants to stay married or get a divorce. This has hit me like a ton of bricks. We have a 5 year old daughter.

This came out of the blue one day right before xmas. I was shocked. Any how there is no affair going on that I know of and I cannot find any evidence of one. Evidently he's got resentment issues against me for not being on the same page with certain things etc. etc. I have been working on issues to make him happier as he says he is more hopeful now but still unsure.

I have been a loyal wife. I do not nag, or drink, or run around, or cheat, or do drugs. I am a good mom. Now how in the world does something like this happen?

anniemo · 01-31-2008, 04:23 PM

i'm so sorry. my thoughts are with you. my parents went through something like this a few years ago and my mother wondered the same thing.

jlhinbrisvegas · 01-31-2008, 04:28 PM

I am so sorry. I know this must be such a difficult time for you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

lkim · 01-31-2008, 04:29 PM

You got em. This just happened to my sister after 3 kids and 21 years. I am sorry

Songwriter · 01-31-2008, 04:52 PM

Hanosaurus, what were your ages when you married?

ValR · 01-31-2008, 06:15 PM

Praying for you.

Purrgirl · 01-31-2008, 07:05 PM

Would you and your husband consider counseling? I would hate for your marriage to end if it could be worked out. Especially since you have a daughter.

Pcola Girl · 02-01-2008, 12:25 PM

There are a lot of men especially those who marry real young, that when they get a certain age they feel like they need to be free and do the things that they have missed out on in their life. Usually this hits around when they turn 39 or 40 yrs. old. They tend to forget the hurt they are causing others and only think of themselves at this time, but if you can just baby him more and maybe talk to him about the problem or even go to counseling this phase usually passes.
If there is another woman this usually passes to and He will come running back home to you and his family.
Men get to feeling they are tired down and this is their way of feeling free from stress and burdens of family life.

I am not trying to sound harsh or anything but I have seen it happen many times. Almost 100% of the time they will come back home.
Be patient ok and I wish you the best of luck with your marriage.

Meekness29 · 02-15-2008, 09:02 AM

Interceding in prayer on your behalf

xamier · 02-25-2008, 05:00 AM

Umm:
Am I the only one who is angry at the man? He is jerking you around and doesn’t seem to care how you or your child feels. Pander to him; try to make him feel better about things, what about him taking part of the responsibility for the problem. Since when is a marriage about everyone uniting to keep a man happy?

It is hard, but do you really want to spend the rest of your life with the threat of, maybe I’ll leave, every time you disagree or do anything he doesn’t approve? I’m not suggesting that you throw it all away, but at least get angry and demand that he do his part to improve things.

Good luck to you. I hope your life gets better, whatever you decide to do.

01-31-2008, 04:15 PM	#1
Hanosaurus Junior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: PA Posts: 40 Gallery: Hanosaurus WOE: Combo Atkins/South Beach Start Date: on and off since 2003	Need prayers for marriage... Hi, Need some prayers here. My hubby of almost 19 years is unsure if he wants to stay married or get a divorce. This has hit me like a ton of bricks. We have a 5 year old daughter. This came out of the blue one day right before xmas. I was shocked. Any how there is no affair going on that I know of and I cannot find any evidence of one. Evidently he's got resentment issues against me for not being on the same page with certain things etc. etc. I have been working on issues to make him happier as he says he is more hopeful now but still unsure. I have been a loyal wife. I do not nag, or drink, or run around, or cheat, or do drugs. I am a good mom. Now how in the world does something like this happen?

02-01-2008, 12:25 PM	#8
Pcola Girl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Pensacola, Florida Posts: 3,295 Gallery: Pcola Girl Stats: Start-325 Today-225 Goal 160 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Sarted Nov. 2000---Restarted New January 2008	There are a lot of men especially those who marry real young, that when they get a certain age they feel like they need to be free and do the things that they have missed out on in their life. Usually this hits around when they turn 39 or 40 yrs. old. They tend to forget the hurt they are causing others and only think of themselves at this time, but if you can just baby him more and maybe talk to him about the problem or even go to counseling this phase usually passes. If there is another woman this usually passes to and He will come running back home to you and his family. Men get to feeling they are tired down and this is their way of feeling free from stress and burdens of family life. I am not trying to sound harsh or anything but I have seen it happen many times. Almost 100% of the time they will come back home. Be patient ok and I wish you the best of luck with your marriage. __________________ Mary

02-25-2008, 05:00 AM	#10
xamier Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Citronelle, Alabama Posts: 693 Gallery: xamier Stats: 125 5'2"tall WOE: Atkins Maintenance Start Date: 6/17/03	Umm: Am I the only one who is angry at the man? He is jerking you around and doesn’t seem to care how you or your child feels. Pander to him; try to make him feel better about things, what about him taking part of the responsibility for the problem. Since when is a marriage about everyone uniting to keep a man happy? It is hard, but do you really want to spend the rest of your life with the threat of, maybe I’ll leave, every time you disagree or do anything he doesn’t approve? I’m not suggesting that you throw it all away, but at least get angry and demand that he do his part to improve things. Good luck to you. I hope your life gets better, whatever you decide to do. __________________ Betty Morgan (Winston Free State) Citronelle, Alabama, USA

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01-31-2008, 04:23 PM	#2
anniemo MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: brooklyn, ny Posts: 1,363 Gallery: anniemo WOE: whole organic lc	i'm so sorry. my thoughts are with you. my parents went through something like this a few years ago and my mother wondered the same thing.

01-31-2008, 04:28 PM	#3
jlhinbrisvegas Junior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 31 Gallery: jlhinbrisvegas Stats: 243/215.8/135 WOE: Atkins '72 Start Date: re-started November 9, 2007	I am so sorry. I know this must be such a difficult time for you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

01-31-2008, 04:29 PM	#4
lkim Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: PMMG, California Chapter Posts: 6,173 Gallery: lkim WOE: Atkins Start Date: September 2000	You got em. This just happened to my sister after 3 kids and 21 years. I am sorry

01-31-2008, 04:52 PM	#5
Songwriter Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Louisiana Posts: 165 Gallery: Songwriter Stats: 218/215/199 (male) WOE: Protein Power	Hanosaurus, what were your ages when you married?

01-31-2008, 06:15 PM	#6
ValR Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 343 Gallery: ValR Stats: 153/151.4/140	Praying for you.

01-31-2008, 07:05 PM	#7
Purrgirl Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Michigan Posts: 5,301 Gallery: Purrgirl Stats: 146/128 5'6	Would you and your husband consider counseling? I would hate for your marriage to end if it could be worked out. Especially since you have a daughter.

02-15-2008, 09:02 AM	#9
Meekness29 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 12,788 Blog Entries: 3 Gallery: Meekness29 WOE: Atkins By The Book Start Date: Reboot: 1.1.2008	Interceding in prayer on your behalf