struggling w/anxiety and depression

Smythe · 01-19-2008, 05:43 AM

Hi everyone-
I'm not sure if this is the proper place to post this as I am not a religious woman. I have been in a real battel since October with my anxiety disorder...which leads to symptoms of depression. I bit the bullet and went (back) on meds and things evened out a bit. However, I do continue to have periods of anxiety and depression evn tho I'm on the meds. BTW, hate the meds. They interfer w/ weight loss and sex drive which is a real bummer.
My problem at this point is I am isolating myself and not living life. I'm getting thru the day at work, but then all I can do is come home and veg. I avoid friends and I don't go out with my husband. I'm embarrassed about regaining wt which happened before I finally went on meds (I tend to medicate w/food) and now since on the meds...I can't seem to get it off. I went from my goal size 4 back up to a 10. I hate that my lack of self control is visiable on my body. I feel bad for my DH because I'm no fun anymore. He wanted to go to the movies last night...I couldn't face the mall....running into someone who hasn't seen me since I regained the wt...the noise, the crowds...I'm too tired to face all that so we came home from dinner at 7pm and I passed out by 9. I had to talk myself down from a full blown anxiety attack (thabkfully I avoided it but thoughts of leaving here so my DH could have a better life crept in.

. Anyway, any advice from fellow suffers would be greatly appreciated.

fatpam · 01-19-2008, 10:55 AM

I know, it's very frustrating.

I did not go to any Christmas parties last month and I know it really upset my husband. I just could not face people I haven't seen in a year because I felt so fat and frumpy. Is there a different med you could try? My husband thinks I look "fine". I don't know if men understand how much our weight affects our self esteem. I'm sorry you're going through this. You are not alone!

Dreamer37 · 01-19-2008, 06:02 PM

I dont know how much help I can be. I just want to say you are not alone. I have struggled my whole life with anxiety and depression. Up until about 7 months ago. I started reading Become a Better You by Joel Osteen. It has changed my life completely!!! I highly recommend it! I very rarely if ever have depression now and the anxiety is very low. I still do have anxiety but not nearly as bad as it was. I know this doesnt sound like much help. I dont take meds and was just determined to deal with this on my own. The book really is awesome!!! I hope you get to feeling better soon.
Nikki

Pcola Girl · 01-22-2008, 10:56 AM

'The light of God surrounds us.
The love of God enfolds us.
The power of God protects us.
The presence of God watches over us.
Wherever we are God is and all is well.'
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Will keep you in my prayers..Hope you have a great day.

Pcola Girl · 01-26-2008, 06:49 PM

Smythe, just checking in to see how you are doing. I am here for ya anytime.

Smythe · 01-28-2008, 03:44 AM

hanging in there. Thanks for checking

Luv2Knit · 01-28-2008, 07:41 AM

It is mind over matter. I've been off of my anti-D's since Aug. (my choice) It's tough, I weigh more than I ever have and it takes a lot to leave the house. I can control the anxiety it seems with very low carb food and lots of protein/fat. You got to go with your husband and fake it if you have too...there are others that are counting on you and love you. Do you think maybe hubby was trying to get you out of the house for your own good?

I could care less right now what other's think of me...it's my frame of mind right now and hasn't always been that way and hope it will go away, but if I isolate and think poorly of myself and others...then I am feeding that wolf. I try not to be mean to people, it's my problem not theirs.

Watch your diet, get a hobby, think of hubby and loved ones...don't feed the isolation.

Pcola Girl · 01-29-2008, 10:58 AM

Smythe, thinking of you today. Keeping you in my prayers.
If there is anything I can help you with be sure to let me know ok.
Just put it all in Gods hands and let Him take care of all your problems and depression. When you do you always come out on top.
GOD BLESS YA.

Meekness29 · 02-15-2008, 09:04 AM

I will pray for you. Depression/anxiety aint no joke. Trust me, I know first hand. If it wasn't for the Lord, I would be in a crazy home right now. The Lord continues to keep me in my right mind. I thank God for Jesus.

Be encouraged

wifezilla · 02-15-2008, 09:08 AM

You are either on the wrong meds or at the wrong dosage. Have you considered cognative behavior therapy? It is the type of therapy that gives you different coping skills, not the "tell me about your childhood" kind of therapy. I highly recommend it.

Other factors to consider....

Vitamin D deficiency?
Do you take a fish oil supplement?
Is your depression seasonal?
Have you had a complete thyroid check up? (TSH, free T3 AND free T4?)

Jayelgee · 02-15-2008, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Smythe

Hi everyone-
I'm not sure if this is the proper place to post this as I am not a religious woman. I have been in a real battel since October with my anxiety disorder...which leads to symptoms of depression. I bit the bullet and went (back) on meds and things evened out a bit. However, I do continue to have periods of anxiety and depression evn tho I'm on the meds. BTW, hate the meds. They interfer w/ weight loss and sex drive which is a real bummer.
My problem at this point is I am isolating myself and not living life. I'm getting thru the day at work, but then all I can do is come home and veg. I avoid friends and I don't go out with my husband. I'm embarrassed about regaining wt which happened before I finally went on meds (I tend to medicate w/food) and now since on the meds...I can't seem to get it off. I went from my goal size 4 back up to a 10. I hate that my lack of self control is visiable on my body. I feel bad for my DH because I'm no fun anymore. He wanted to go to the movies last night...I couldn't face the mall....running into someone who hasn't seen me since I regained the wt...the noise, the crowds...I'm too tired to face all that so we came home from dinner at 7pm and I passed out by 9. I had to talk myself down from a full blown anxiety attack (thabkfully I avoided it but thoughts of leaving here so my DH could have a better life crept in.

. Anyway, any advice from fellow suffers would be greatly appreciated.

I know how you feel. This is one of my photos on myspace and I think it pretty much sums up my feelings...

Zoloft was awesome for a while, even though it destroyed my sex drive. Then I started having panic attacks and I stopped taking Zoloft because it was part of the problem.

5-htp is helping a little bit. Some days I'm happy and other days it's just like my photo.

I just want to be normal

Meekness29 · 02-15-2008, 10:08 AM

Jen, be encouraged, honey

I know exactly how you feel. I ask the Lord to free me from myself everyday!

sancie · 03-11-2008, 10:20 PM

This has helped me alot.
Welcome to the Midwest Center for Stress and Anxiety
I hope it will help you too.

01-19-2008, 05:43 AM	#1
Smythe MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: New York Posts: 2,727 Gallery: Smythe Stats: here we go again 10/8/4-6 WOE: Atkins Start Date: August 2004 Goal Nov 2005 reinducting 1/2008	struggling w/anxiety and depression Hi everyone- I'm not sure if this is the proper place to post this as I am not a religious woman. I have been in a real battel since October with my anxiety disorder...which leads to symptoms of depression. I bit the bullet and went (back) on meds and things evened out a bit. However, I do continue to have periods of anxiety and depression evn tho I'm on the meds. BTW, hate the meds. They interfer w/ weight loss and sex drive which is a real bummer. My problem at this point is I am isolating myself and not living life. I'm getting thru the day at work, but then all I can do is come home and veg. I avoid friends and I don't go out with my husband. I'm embarrassed about regaining wt which happened before I finally went on meds (I tend to medicate w/food) and now since on the meds...I can't seem to get it off. I went from my goal size 4 back up to a 10. I hate that my lack of self control is visiable on my body. I feel bad for my DH because I'm no fun anymore. He wanted to go to the movies last night...I couldn't face the mall....running into someone who hasn't seen me since I regained the wt...the noise, the crowds...I'm too tired to face all that so we came home from dinner at 7pm and I passed out by 9. I had to talk myself down from a full blown anxiety attack (thabkfully I avoided it but thoughts of leaving here so my DH could have a better life crept in.. Anyway, any advice from fellow suffers would be greatly appreciated. __________________ Life's too short to argue with strangers

01-28-2008, 07:41 AM	#7
Luv2Knit Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 648 Gallery: Luv2Knit Stats: 234/219/175 WOE: lc Start Date: Restart 10/08	It is mind over matter. I've been off of my anti-D's since Aug. (my choice) It's tough, I weigh more than I ever have and it takes a lot to leave the house. I can control the anxiety it seems with very low carb food and lots of protein/fat. You got to go with your husband and fake it if you have too...there are others that are counting on you and love you. Do you think maybe hubby was trying to get you out of the house for your own good? I could care less right now what other's think of me...it's my frame of mind right now and hasn't always been that way and hope it will go away, but if I isolate and think poorly of myself and others...then I am feeding that wolf. I try not to be mean to people, it's my problem not theirs. Watch your diet, get a hobby, think of hubby and loved ones...don't feed the isolation. __________________ Darlene

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01-19-2008, 10:55 AM	#2
fatpam Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 110 Gallery: fatpam Stats: 172/139/125 WOE: 1300 calories daily	I know, it's very frustrating. I did not go to any Christmas parties last month and I know it really upset my husband. I just could not face people I haven't seen in a year because I felt so fat and frumpy. Is there a different med you could try? My husband thinks I look "fine". I don't know if men understand how much our weight affects our self esteem. I'm sorry you're going through this. You are not alone!

01-19-2008, 06:02 PM	#3
Dreamer37 Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Montana Posts: 5,332 Gallery: Dreamer37 Stats: 187/169/130 Start Date: october 26th restarted 1/29/08	I dont know how much help I can be. I just want to say you are not alone. I have struggled my whole life with anxiety and depression. Up until about 7 months ago. I started reading Become a Better You by Joel Osteen. It has changed my life completely!!! I highly recommend it! I very rarely if ever have depression now and the anxiety is very low. I still do have anxiety but not nearly as bad as it was. I know this doesnt sound like much help. I dont take meds and was just determined to deal with this on my own. The book really is awesome!!! I hope you get to feeling better soon. Nikki

01-22-2008, 10:56 AM	#4
Pcola Girl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Pensacola, Florida Posts: 3,295 Gallery: Pcola Girl Stats: Start-325 Today-225 Goal 160 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Sarted Nov. 2000---Restarted New January 2008	'The light of God surrounds us. The love of God enfolds us. The power of God protects us. The presence of God watches over us. Wherever we are God is and all is well.' ---------------------------------------------- Will keep you in my prayers..Hope you have a great day.

01-26-2008, 06:49 PM	#5
Pcola Girl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Pensacola, Florida Posts: 3,295 Gallery: Pcola Girl Stats: Start-325 Today-225 Goal 160 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Sarted Nov. 2000---Restarted New January 2008	Smythe, just checking in to see how you are doing. I am here for ya anytime.

01-28-2008, 03:44 AM	#6
Smythe MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: New York Posts: 2,727 Gallery: Smythe Stats: here we go again 10/8/4-6 WOE: Atkins Start Date: August 2004 Goal Nov 2005 reinducting 1/2008	hanging in there. Thanks for checking

01-29-2008, 10:58 AM	#8
Pcola Girl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Pensacola, Florida Posts: 3,295 Gallery: Pcola Girl Stats: Start-325 Today-225 Goal 160 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Sarted Nov. 2000---Restarted New January 2008	Smythe, thinking of you today. Keeping you in my prayers. If there is anything I can help you with be sure to let me know ok. Just put it all in Gods hands and let Him take care of all your problems and depression. When you do you always come out on top. GOD BLESS YA.

02-15-2008, 09:04 AM	#9
Meekness29 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 12,788 Blog Entries: 3 Gallery: Meekness29 WOE: Atkins By The Book Start Date: Reboot: 1.1.2008	I will pray for you. Depression/anxiety aint no joke. Trust me, I know first hand. If it wasn't for the Lord, I would be in a crazy home right now. The Lord continues to keep me in my right mind. I thank God for Jesus. Be encouraged

02-15-2008, 09:08 AM	#10
wifezilla Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Near Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 5,476 Gallery: wifezilla Stats: 250/207/190 WOE: Read em all. Doing it my way. Start Date: May 2007	You are either on the wrong meds or at the wrong dosage. Have you considered cognative behavior therapy? It is the type of therapy that gives you different coping skills, not the "tell me about your childhood" kind of therapy. I highly recommend it. Other factors to consider.... Vitamin D deficiency? Do you take a fish oil supplement? Is your depression seasonal? Have you had a complete thyroid check up? (TSH, free T3 AND free T4?)

02-15-2008, 10:08 AM	#12
Meekness29 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 12,788 Blog Entries: 3 Gallery: Meekness29 WOE: Atkins By The Book Start Date: Reboot: 1.1.2008	Jen, be encouraged, honey I know exactly how you feel. I ask the Lord to free me from myself everyday!

03-11-2008, 10:20 PM	#13
sancie Junior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: washington Posts: 26 Gallery: sancie Stats: 275/235/130 WOE: atkins Start Date: June 2006	This has helped me alot. Welcome to the Midwest Center for Stress and Anxiety I hope it will help you too.