Judgement

JennyJ · 08-21-2007, 08:37 PM

It's one of the ugliest words I know, yet I see it every day and I myself am guilty of it. Nobody is perfect. Nobody. We all just do the best we can to lead a happy, healthier life. Some of us eat too much, some don't eat at all; some spend money they don't have and others are way too frugal for their own good; some are religious, some are not; some smoke and others don't; some have an education and others do not. My point is, regardless of the differences in each and every one of us, it is okay and I for one want to embrace it. We may not always agree with each other and I'm glad; if we did, what a boring site this would be! I think almost every one of us here has felt judged at some point in our lives where our weight is concerned, but it does not stop there. All of us come here for support and guidance and many of us let our guard down and share quite a bit of ourselves with total strangers, sometimes more than we anticipated. This is where I have seen the judgement commencing. I know of one instance just recently where I judged Coal and that has been bothering me and I wanted to say I'm sorry to her and bring this subject to light. If you see a glimpse of yourself in what I have written, maybe you too will think a bit longer before hitting that send key. Acceptance is a beautiful thing. Please don't flame me. Just something that's been on my mind.

~Jen~

Beth1121 · 08-22-2007, 06:57 AM

I don't think anyone will flame you. If anything, I think you will hear a lot of "Amens." I think this is a well-timed reflection and post. Thank you for posting it.

Doug_H · 08-22-2007, 07:15 AM

Amen, I couldn't resist that

Doug

Doug_H · 08-22-2007, 07:17 AM

Seriously, that is very true and well said.

Doug

sallyk · 08-22-2007, 07:44 AM

Good post.

Determinedtolose · 08-22-2007, 08:07 AM

Hi Jenny!
Not many will confess what you just did, this shows your true character and for that I commend you!!!
God Bless You,
Diana

Zenngrl · 08-22-2007, 08:39 AM

I think it is human nature to judge others. *hugs*

sallyk · 08-22-2007, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Zenngrl

I think it is human nature to judge others. *hugs*

I agree. You try so hard to be above it, but no matter what, you find you are doing it about something or another. Yep, just makes us human.

ny_shelly · 08-22-2007, 06:04 PM

It's one of my worst qualities and one that I pray about and ask forgiveness for constantly. I find that I am more judgemental when I am dissatisfied with myself. It's something I work on a lot and am only partially successful at. I find that a lot of times when I am judgemental GOD whams me with something and I learn a lesson.

It's interesting that there is a fine line between being judgemental and just disagreeing with how someone does something. You can disagree with the way a person does something but still respect the person's point of view and the person. I think you are judgemental when you don't like what someone does and think less of that person because of it, label them, or regard yourself as being better.

sallyk · 08-22-2007, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by ny_shelly

It's one of my worst qualities and one that I pray about and ask forgiveness for constantly. I find that I am more judgemental when I am dissatisfied with myself. It's something I work on a lot and am only partially successful at. I find that a lot of times when I am judgemental GOD whams me with something and I learn a lesson.

It's interesting that there is a fine line between being judgemental and just disagreeing with how someone does something. You can disagree with the way a person does something but still respect the person's point of view and the person. I think you are judgemental when you don't like what someone does and think less of that person because of it, label them, or regard yourself as being better.

Wonderfully put.

Ntombi · 08-22-2007, 06:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ny_shelly

It's one of my worst qualities and one that I pray about and ask forgiveness for constantly. I find that I am more judgemental when I am dissatisfied with myself. It's something I work on a lot and am only partially successful at. I find that a lot of times when I am judgemental GOD whams me with something and I learn a lesson.

It's interesting that there is a fine line between being judgemental and just disagreeing with how someone does something. You can disagree with the way a person does something but still respect the person's point of view and the person. I think you are judgemental when you don't like what someone does and think less of that person because of it, label them, or regard yourself as being better.

Perfectly said.

We all have failings, and I believe one of the most important parts of life is to constantly strive to be better human beings.

Thanks, Jenny.

08-21-2007, 08:37 PM	#1
JennyJ MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California Posts: 2,413 Blog Entries: 2 Gallery: JennyJ Stats: 154.5/138.5/135 ~ 5'7" ~ 39 yo WOE: Atkins Start Date: July 29, 2006	Judgement It's one of the ugliest words I know, yet I see it every day and I myself am guilty of it. Nobody is perfect. Nobody. We all just do the best we can to lead a happy, healthier life. Some of us eat too much, some don't eat at all; some spend money they don't have and others are way too frugal for their own good; some are religious, some are not; some smoke and others don't; some have an education and others do not. My point is, regardless of the differences in each and every one of us, it is okay and I for one want to embrace it. We may not always agree with each other and I'm glad; if we did, what a boring site this would be! I think almost every one of us here has felt judged at some point in our lives where our weight is concerned, but it does not stop there. All of us come here for support and guidance and many of us let our guard down and share quite a bit of ourselves with total strangers, sometimes more than we anticipated. This is where I have seen the judgement commencing. I know of one instance just recently where I judged Coal and that has been bothering me and I wanted to say I'm sorry to her and bring this subject to light. If you see a glimpse of yourself in what I have written, maybe you too will think a bit longer before hitting that send key. Acceptance is a beautiful thing. Please don't flame me. Just something that's been on my mind. ~Jen~ __________________ ~Jennifer~

08-22-2007, 06:04 PM	#9
ny_shelly MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Rochester, NY but originally from Pittsburgh Posts: 2,023 Gallery: ny_shelly Stats: 328/313.4/135 ~ BMI 53/50.6/21 ~ 5'6" WOE: Atkins DANDR --> Greysheet Start Date: 4/21/08 - past doesn't matter	It's one of my worst qualities and one that I pray about and ask forgiveness for constantly. I find that I am more judgemental when I am dissatisfied with myself. It's something I work on a lot and am only partially successful at. I find that a lot of times when I am judgemental GOD whams me with something and I learn a lesson. It's interesting that there is a fine line between being judgemental and just disagreeing with how someone does something. You can disagree with the way a person does something but still respect the person's point of view and the person. I think you are judgemental when you don't like what someone does and think less of that person because of it, label them, or regard yourself as being better. __________________ Summer Goal (June 20): 303.0 25 24 22 20 18 16 15 14 12 10 8 6 4 2 I DON'T EAT BETWEEN MEALS NO MATTER WHAT 14 lbs until Twoterville: 299 60 lbs until low weight in 2006: 253 63 lbs until Midville: 250 85 lbs until 100 LBS LOST: 228 114 lbs until Onederland: 199 BUT ABSTINENCE COMES ONE DAY AT A TIME

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08-22-2007, 06:57 AM	#2
Beth1121 aka fuelmanswife Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: The Peach State Posts: 2,725 Gallery: Beth1121 WOE: Basic LC Start Date: Which time?	I don't think anyone will flame you. If anything, I think you will hear a lot of "Amens." I think this is a well-timed reflection and post. Thank you for posting it.

08-22-2007, 07:15 AM	#3
Doug_H Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Needles, CA Posts: 5,443 Gallery: Doug_H Stats: 265/214/under 205 WOE: Keepin' it simple Start Date: Oct 99	Amen, I couldn't resist that Doug

08-22-2007, 07:17 AM	#4
Doug_H Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Needles, CA Posts: 5,443 Gallery: Doug_H Stats: 265/214/under 205 WOE: Keepin' it simple Start Date: Oct 99	Seriously, that is very true and well said. Doug

08-22-2007, 07:44 AM	#5
sallyk Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: GA Posts: 924 Gallery: sallyk Stats: Down 40. WOE: Low carb Start Date: Which time? 7/1/06 when I realized I had to.	Good post.

08-22-2007, 08:07 AM	#6
Determinedtolose Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Glendale, AZ Posts: 10,097 Gallery: Determinedtolose Stats: 243/197/160 or 150 WOE: Atkins/ mod Fat, mod pro, low carb/Stillmans Start Date: Start: 4/07. 5lbs by 12/2008, 150/160 by 4/09	Hi Jenny! Not many will confess what you just did, this shows your true character and for that I commend you!!! God Bless You, Diana

08-22-2007, 08:39 AM	#7
Zenngrl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Ohio Posts: 4,125 Gallery: Zenngrl Stats: Nunya :O) WOE: Low Carb, my way!	I think it is human nature to judge others. hugs