Feeling Lonely... need prayer :)

[Star123]

Hi... I've been struggling with loneliness for quite awhile and was wondering if anyone could pray for me. I've been single for 4.5 years now... was in a bad relationship for 11.5 yrs prior... to an unsaved man. Then God freed me from that terrible marriage... but recently a friend of mine just told me that my exhusband has just got married again. And I'm feeling quite lonely lately and I don't know what to do about it.

I've prayed about getting a mate and I've even been very pacific about what I want in a christian man... asking God to find someone that I could spend the rest of my life with. My mother doesn't understand... she's set in her ways... but I'm still in my early 40's and not finished with my life yet. Please understand... I'm trying not to complain... or feel sorry for myself but I don't know what to do about this.

I believe God wants me to be happy and I've found peace with God again in my heart... but the loneliness is getting to me. Now and then I get down and depressed... but recently since I ran into this old friend of mine... the news of my exhusband finding someone recently... has knocked me for a loop. I know the bible says that it's not good to be alone... and I realize that it takes time to find someone... but these feeling of loniness and even depression are hitting me hard lately... and I don't know how to pray or what to do about it. What do you Ladies think? Please pray for me... I'm lonely and depressed about it... but not a despirate women.

Your sista in Christ Jesus...

[Char214]

Star, you are in my prayers I understand how you feel I just got out of a bad marriage too this year and I too get lonely. I've been on a few dates which keeps me busy but I usually find out very quickly if the man is for me or not and they're not ,so far, but the key is to not really let it get you down. Wake up every morning and thank God you're alive, thank him for getting you out of that bad marriage and say with confidence that you know he will send the right man for you, put into your mind that it will be a good day. If you wake up feeling depressed and defeated that's what you're going to get. I know what you are going through so I can relate but I decided I was going to get up and speak positive even if I really don't feel like it, you'll be suprised how much better the day will be.

[phat girl no more]

Hi my name is Nat. I hope and pray God send your mate. In the mean try to accept God has not given up on you,He wants to send you a God man. So please don't rush into a relationship just because your ex husband found someone. Spend time loving yourself first then the man will come. Send out postivie vibes. God bless.

[Star123]

Hi Ladies... good morning to you!!! Thanks for responding... I needed that!!!

Char... thanks for your needed encouragement and advice. I will heed it!!! From now on I'll try to say positive things to myself in the morning... whether I feel like it or not. thanks

phat girl no more... thanks for you support. You guys are so right... I need to love myself first. Will definately not rush into any relationship... no... but will do my best to rely on God and wait on him... his timing is perfect. Have to stay positive that he has someone for me... and not get down on myself. It's not worth it.

God Bless you...

[Determinedtolose]

Hi Tammy,
I'm sorry that you're feeling sad, but I know that the Lord cares about what your care about and He knows your heart.
I know that the Lord has the right person for you and in His time, He will bring him to you. I know that's easier said then done.
The thing that we can do at times like this is start doing things for other people. When we are focus more on others, rather than ourselves we start to feel a sense of worth, not that we aren't because God makes us worthy through Him. But the more positive we are, the better we feel, and it's not a works thing, but in the Lord it's rewarding.
In time I know the Lord will bring someone in your life. And you know He may want to remove some things in your life that may be in the way of a new relationship too. The feelings you had when you heard about your ex brought on something. When we are completely delivered, things like that cannot affect us.

I would just go to the Lord and ask Him what He wants you to do, because really it's all about Him and not us. He knows your heart and He knows that you feel lonely. We need to know who we are in Christ and know that no matter what, we will be content in Him no matter what He plans for our lives.
You are a strong women in the Lord and right now He is fulling all your needs, according to His riches in glory.
So don't forget who your are!!
You are a daughter of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, He will not forsake you!!!
Lift your hands up and Praise His Holy Name and He will give you the garment of praise!!! Don't let the enemy use this to control your feelings, you tell him that you are Gods' property and he can't control this part of your life, in Jesus' name!!! Amen!!!
I Love You Tammy!!!
Diana

[debkeversole]

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[Star123]

Originally Posted by Determinedtolose

Hi Tammy,
I'm sorry that you're feeling sad, but I know that the Lord cares about what your care about and He knows your heart.
I know that the Lord has the right person for you and in His time, He will bring him to you. I know that's easier said then done.
The thing that we can do at times like this is start doing things for other people. When we are focus more on others, rather than ourselves we start to feel a sense of worth, not that we aren't because God makes us worthy through Him. But the more positive we are, the better we feel, and it's not a works thing, but in the Lord it's rewarding.
In time I know the Lord will bring someone in your life. And you know He may want to remove some things in your life that may be in the way of a new relationship too. The feelings you had when you heard about your ex brought on something. When we are completely delivered, things like that cannot affect us.

I would just go to the Lord and ask Him what He wants you to do, because really it's all about Him and not us. He knows your heart and He knows that you feel lonely. We need to know who we are in Christ and know that no matter what, we will be content in Him no matter what He plans for our lives.
You are a strong women in the Lord and right now He is fulling all your needs, according to His riches in glory.
So don't forget who your are!!
You are a daughter of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, He will not forsake you!!!
Lift your hands up and Praise His Holy Name and He will give you the garment of praise!!! Don't let the enemy use this to control your feelings, you tell him that you are Gods' property and he can't control this part of your life, in Jesus' name!!! Amen!!!
I Love You Tammy!!!
Diana

Diana... your so sweet!!! your right that I need to remember who I am... and that I'm a child of the King of Glory... who has not forgotten me... nor forsaken me. He has heard my prayer and knows what is best for me... sometimes he holds back... because we're not quite ready for a serious relationship. And other times... he has something planned that is even better. The enemy just wants to use this... to keep me down and depressed. He uses the same tactics that he has used for generations... but this time... I command satan to take your hands off God's property now... in the mighty name of Jesus!!! amen.

Here's a few comforting verses that I came across...

The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. Psalm 34:17-19

But He knows the way that I take; when he has tested me, I shall come forth as gold. My foot has held fast to His steps; I have kept His ways and not turned aside. Job 23:10-11

Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him. James 1:12

You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for in Yah, the Lord, is everlasting strength. Isaiah 26:3-4

Those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31

The Lord is faithful, who will establish you and guard you from the evil one. 2 Thessalonians 3:3

God BLess you... good night. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

[Stormyskies]

The Lord knows your heart and knows the desires of your heart, so I believe He will send the right man into your life. In the mean time, stay close to Him and let Him guide you.

I would hate to be alone, too. Our neighbor just up the road from us lost his wife back in April. They had been married 60 years. Everytime I go by his house, I always think of him and feel so sorry for him. In fact, I just passed his house toinght on my way out to get something to eat, and I thought of him sitting home alone with no one to talk to. His wife, friend and partner, whom he shared and talked with every evening, was no longer sitting in that house with him...the same house they raised their children in. He's just there all by himself now. It breaks my heart. I feel so badly for him.

[Determinedtolose]

Originally Posted by Stormyskies

The Lord knows your heart and knows the desires of your heart, so I believe He will send the right man into your life. In the mean time, stay close to Him and let Him guide you.

I would hate to be alone, too. Our neighbor just up the road from us lost his wife back in April. They had been married 60 years. Everytime I go by his house, I always think of him and feel so sorry for him. In fact, I just passed his house toinght on my way out to get something to eat, and I thought of him sitting home alone with no one to talk to. His wife, friend and partner, whom he shared and talked with every evening, was no longer sitting in that house with him...the same house they raised their children in. He's just there all by himself now. It breaks my heart. I feel so badly for him.

Hi Stormyskies,
Maybe the Lord is speaking to your heart about your neighbor to talk to him, see if he needs anything. Even lead him to Lord and receive salvation!
Diana

[Determinedtolose]

Hi Tammy,
God Bless you, I knew you would see it! The scriptures you wrote out shows it.
The Lord loves you so much, He is so pleased with you heart and He wants only the best for you.
I just sense like He is saying, to be patient your time is near and He will bless you above and beyond what you could ever imagine and that He does have plans for you.
So Tammy don't give up, keep your eye on the prize. I know you will too!!
Gob Bless.
Love ya,
Diana

[Highfavored]

Hi Tammy,

Never feel alone for GOD is always their waiting to receive you.

[Highfavored]

THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT: PEACE
Being of a Pentecostal background, as many of you also are, I've heard the words "holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord" preached in many a sermon from my childhood up. I'd like to, however, expand the text to include all of that verse. "Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:" (Hebrews 14:12) And just for this writing, I want to stress the peace part, (simply because it tends to be overlooked) while not discounting the importance of the holiness part.
Peace and holiness are twins. I've often heard my Sunday School teacher, the late Edith Mahon, refer to "goodness and mercy" in Psalm 23 as if they were two people, two personalities or spirits if you will, traveling with the believer. Well, may I interject that peace and holiness are in that same way interconnected. In order to have either, you need both. I'd further say that if you'll follow peace and holiness, goodness and mercy will follow you. Follow peace. Follow peace and holiness. So what's the deal about following peace?
Peace will lead you places you probably wouldn't choose to go if you were charting the course. Example: Someone at work who has made your life less than pleasant has just messed up-badly. The flesh cries out for you to leap on this opportunity to cut that person down to size. It says, "Now's your chance to get ahead. Dig in the spur! It's your right-no, it's your duty, to point this out to the boss!" Oh, how easily we can convince ourselves we're doing the right thing when we want justification for our actions, but God knows our hidden motives. Peace will choose not to go there. Peace will keep quiet about the matter, and will stand on the promise that promotion comes from the Lord. Peace will declare that every tongue which rises up in accusation against us will be shown to be in the wrong. Peace will pass up a "golden opportunity" like this to achieve a greater end. No wonder the Bible says to follow peace! Chances are, if you're in a pickle, you just passed peace traveling in the northbound lane while you were headed south.
Peace is an investment whose returns are sometimes not seen immediately. It's the great law of sowing and reaping at work again. Ever hear it said, that the very person you treat badly will be the person you'll need to call on for help? It's so true. That guy who accidentally cut you off in traffic today (you know-the one you really gave a good "blessing out" to through the windshield of your car!) may be the very guy you'll have to flag down to help you change a flat tire tomorrow. Follow peace. Resolve that petty rivalry with a schoolmate before you graduate. A few years from now, she may be teaching your eight-year-old! And before you get in debt up to your eyeballs searching for fulfillment, pray about all those "must have this to be happy" prospects, and honestly ask yourself if the end result is peace. Be willing to say no if God says no-sometimes more is not better. Remember, if something's truly a blessing from Him, the Word says that there is no sorrow added with it. If it's not, you'd do well to cast your bread on other waters.
You have to want peace to have peace. I've often said that peace will not jump up and bite the seat of your pants! It won't force its way into your life. If you want peace, you have to chase it down, run after it, seek it with everything you have. You have to crave it. Ever notice that stink-stirrers can rarely breathe easily? If you don't want peace, it's not going to barge in unannounced. People often ask what the secret to Dana's and my happy marriage is. My answer is, in this order, that we love God, we love each other, and that we love peace. We've learned that nothing generates a loving, sweet atmosphere like striving for peace. It's a two-way street of course, but by determining to be kind and considerate to one another every day, we've lived nearly a decade together without a single fight. Believe it or not. That doesn't mean we see eye-to-eye on everything, but we each choose not to open the door to marital discord for the sake of being the one with the last word in. We're as blissful as two newlyweds. That, friends, is the payoff of peace.
Peace strikes through just about every phrase that begins with self and a hyphen. Now there's a doozy-where'd that come from? But it's true. If you think peace is just that cozy cabin by Lake Cares-Be-Gone, think again! How amazing, that peace is both an end as well as a means to an end! Sure, peace is that feeling of serenity and calm, of well-being and safety. It's restful and relaxing. But peace is also as much an action word as is love. Hmmm, peace actually follows love in the lineup of the fruit of the Spirit! It eradicates all notions of me-first. Peace favors putting others before self. Peace does what is right versus what feels right. And having done so, what do you then feel? Peace!
Is peace a wimpy, cop-out, beaten down, take-everybody's-junk kind of lifestyle? Is peace a weakling's way? Most assuredly not! Peace sometimes seems to be a paradox. We go to war to defend peace. Jesus' way of ushering in light was to drive out darkness vehemently. Peace is not for the cowardly. Peace isn't the wide path that leads to destruction; it's straight and narrow. It demands discipline and determination, courage and conviction; it shouts justice from the mountaintops and all the while whispers in a still small voice. It's the calm center of the hurricane, stable even though all around it is chaos.
So where does holiness come in? Having taken hold of peace, you suddenly find yourself also being led by that second, distinct entity. Remember, these two are joined at the hip. If you're striving to be a person of peace, you're without a doubt going to be more like the Prince of Peace. And hey, this Guy wrote the Book on holiness...

[brilliant100]

Continue to pray but also put action behind your prayers.

Get active doing things you enjoy besides going to church. God wants us to praise him AND enjoy a christian life.

If your not doing this, consider these things: Start exercising, get a massage, get a manicure, invite friends over for dinner/lunch, declutter your house or car, clean house (this always brings me peace of mind), get your hair done, help someone else, do yard work, buy fresh flowers for yourself weekly, get dressed every day like your going on a date (make up, perfume, you dont have to get really dressed up but wear nice comfortable clothes that make you feel attractive), encourage someone else, scap book some of those beatiful pictures youve been holding on too, take a class, try something new.

When I use to get lonely, I would invite someone out to go get a coffee, soda or dessert or anything to just get out the house. It does not have to cost al ot to be fun.

God will bless you............now is your time to prepare yourself mentally and physically for the blessing............you are in my prayers. Please let us know when God's blessing comes.

[fourbeaglesmom]

Hey Star, just to inject a bit of humour here, aren't you glad he's not your problem anymore? Someone else can deal with him, that's the good news!
Have you considered maybe getting a pet? I too am divorced but never feel lonely because I have pets to love and care for.
Just a thought. Hugs to you.

[Meekness29]

Hi... I've been struggling with loneliness for quite awhile and was wondering if anyone could pray for me. I've been single for 4.5 years now... was in a bad relationship for 11.5 yrs prior... to an unsaved man. Then God freed me from that terrible marriage...

Your situation sounds like my past.... been there too... Imma tell you like someone told me... GOD wants you to Himself right now He wants you to find PERFECT LOVE in Him... He can love us like no-one else can. Rest in His bossom and allow Him to give you what you need.

but recently a friend of mine just told me that my exhusband has just got married again. And I'm feeling quite lonely lately and I don't know what to do about it.

I was with my children's father for 7 years (we were never married). I supported him through med school and he chose to marry someone else. This hurt me to my soul. I didn't think I could EVER get over the fact that he didn't chose me (we have 2 beautiful children together). He was unsaved during our relationship (I was in Christ, which made us unequally yoked ).

I've prayed about getting a mate and I've even been very pacific about what I want in a christian man... asking God to find someone that I could spend the rest of my life with. My mother doesn't understand... she's set in her ways... but I'm still in my early 40's and not finished with my life yet. Please understand... I'm trying not to complain... or feel sorry for myself but I don't know what to do about this.

"Wait on the Lord... be of good courage and HE shall strengthen thine heart. Wait, I say on the Lord"

I say this b/c... I was sooo lonely for 3.5 years. I went out searching for a mate (in the world) and got hurt again. So, I decided to wait, and the Lord put a wonderful, saved, sanctified christian man in my life. I don't have to wonder if he is saved... b/c he bares the fruits of Christ. I know with ALL MY HEART that his walk with GOD is geniune. He has been in my world since the first day I accepted Christ in my life. It's funny, because I use to look at him as being "untouchable" because he is my spiritual parent's baby son. Anyways, we started dating, and he asked me to be his bride. We are getting married next June.

I believe God wants me to be happy and I've found peace with God again in my heart... but the loneliness is getting to me. Now and then I get down and depressed... but recently since I ran into this old friend of mine... the news of my exhusband finding someone recently... has knocked me for a loop. I know the bible says that it's not good to be alone... and I realize that it takes time to find someone... but these feeling of loniness and even depression are hitting me hard lately... and I don't know how to pray or what to do about it. What do you Ladies think? Please pray for me... I'm lonely and depressed about it... but not a despirate women.

Your sista in Christ Jesus...

"Weeping my endure for a night, but JOY cometh in the morning".

God knows your heart sweetie... and He knows what is best for you. Please don't fret. God has designed a perfect man for you. He prolly has some work to do "with you" first. And when He is through, He will make sure you and your husband cross paths. What GOD has done for others, He will do for you too. You are His beloved... His bride... He has NOT forgotten about you. Be still and wait on the Lord.

Be encouraged,

Your sista in Christ

[Determinedtolose]

Amen Meekness!!!! That's a Good Word for you Tammy!
God Bless,
Diana

[Stormyskies]

Originally Posted by Determinedtolose

Hi Stormyskies,
Maybe the Lord is speaking to your heart about your neighbor to talk to him, see if he needs anything. Even lead him to Lord and receive salvation!
Diana

My mom calls him once a week and her and my dad go out to dinner with him every now and then. He is a Christian...their whole family are wonderful Christian's. He raised 3 great, God loving children.

[Debralynn]

Originally Posted by brilliant100

Continue to pray but also put action behind your prayers.

Get active doing things you enjoy besides going to church. God wants us to praise him AND enjoy a christian life.

If your not doing this, consider these things: Start exercising, get a massage, get a manicure, invite friends over for dinner/lunch, declutter your house or car, clean house (this always brings me peace of mind), get your hair done, help someone else, do yard work, buy fresh flowers for yourself weekly, get dressed every day like your going on a date (make up, perfume, you dont have to get really dressed up but wear nice comfortable clothes that make you feel attractive), encourage someone else, scap book some of those beatiful pictures youve been holding on too, take a class, try something new.

When I use to get lonely, I would invite someone out to go get a coffee, soda or dessert or anything to just get out the house. It does not have to cost al ot to be fun.

God will bless you............now is your time to prepare yourself mentally and physically for the blessing............you are in my prayers. Please let us know when God's blessing comes.

I could not agree with you more.

I survived a similar situation, and had a very difficult time. I was quite shy and without much self esteem after all was said and done.

I made it a point to MAKE myself go out at least once a week and try to make new friends. It took time, but I made dear friends who are still with me now (10 years later) and now have a loving husband that I met as a result. (Not to mention 2 precious babies!)

I never forget that if God hadn't helped me survive my previous relationship, if God hadn't given me the strength to go out again and start anew, and if I didn't listen to Him, I wouldn't be blessed with the wonderful gifts I have now.

Search for new friendships outside your current circle, it is like a pebble dropped in a pond, you have no idea the ripples you will create and the connections you will make. You always have room in your heart for new friends, you may learn to love yourself more, and truly be ready when the Lord puts a new man into your life.

God Bless You!

[senorina]

I'm sorry you're feeling sad, that's a tough situation.




I think maybe checking out a Christian dating site might be kind of fun?

Hope you feel better.

[Star123]

Morning Ladies... Happy Sunday!!!

I'm feelin better... I'm still lonely but I do try to busy myself and I've been for a year at my nazarene church... and love it!!! I believe it's my ministry and the holy spirit is moving in our church... since we just got a new pastor. He is an answer to prayer and came all the way from the east coast of the atlantic ocean... and now is living here on the sunshine coast of British Columbia, Canada. This is a beautiful place... and I'm happy that I live in a free country.

I went to a lovely wedding at the church yesterday... and it reminded me how important it is to be close to God in a fresh new way. The young couple that got married are just starting there new life together in the Lord... and I know they will live for him. They have a good chance to live the life God wants them to live. Yes... I believe that God has someone for me and if I do get married again... it will be united with someone who loves me and loves the Lord like I do. Whatever God's plans are for me... he has me in his hands and is sustaining me... while I grow in him and his wonderful praises to the Lord of Lords and the King of Kings. Praise Him!!!

Ladies... thanks so much for your words of wisdom and support. I really appeciate your input and sharing... it lifts me up.

God Bless You...

[Determinedtolose]

Hi Tammy,
I'm so glad to hear you ar doing great! We may feel lonely, but we know that the Lord can always fill that void in our lives, and He will bring someone to you. And he will be more than what you expected! I sense that you have been faithful to the Lord, and He will be faithful to you too, He always is!

You just keep your faith up and know that He is always working in your life, His delay is not denial!

God Bless You Tammy! I am keeping you in my prayers, always!

Love,
Diana