Weight Loss and Relationships

godsbeloved79 · 08-15-2007, 11:11 AM

Your thoughts?

Have you gained more friendships, lost some, or which ones have improved since losing weight?

I'll go first: It seems that since losing weight, my marriage is better. I feel more comfortable around DH, when in the past I felt pretty ashamed of my body. I feeling sexier day after day. Exercising truly does a body good

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I'm more outgoing, so I chat with more people, when before I would kind of stick to myself and I created a shell in my bedroom and stayed there most of the time. Now me and kids go out more, I'm able to dress cuter, so I'm always wanting to get dress and go go go !

2big4mysize · 08-15-2007, 11:13 AM

isn't it wonderful when we take responsibility for our eating so many other aspects of our lives change and negative things seem to go away.

luckylychee · 08-15-2007, 11:15 AM

I think it's great that your weight loss has brought you a better relationship with your husband and everyone around.

I havn't lost enough weight to make that much of a difference yet. OH, but I must say, I am willing to go out with DH a lot more. Before losing some weight I felt like a cow, I had about two outfits that I feel comfortable in, which I used to wear over and over and it was just too depressing. Now I put on my sassy clothes, throw on some heels and I think that makes him happier as well.

godsbeloved79 · 08-15-2007, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by 2big4mysize

isn't it wonderful when we take responsibility for our eating so many other aspects of our lives change and negative things seem to go away.

Yep

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sugarless4life · 08-15-2007, 11:24 AM

GOOD FOR YOU, LYN!!!

I am definitely happier, less stressed and thrilled to feel so great ! I've lost a few friends along with the weight (they simply COULD NOT accept the new me) ... but I've made lots of new friends who are very encouraging and supportive, not only of my eating choices, but also of my commitment to running!!!

I love Atkins and all it has done for me, and there's NO WAY I would ever go back to the bonafide couch potato I used to be!

Betty

godsbeloved79 · 08-15-2007, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by luckylychee

I think it's great that your weight loss has brought you a better relationship with your husband and everyone around.

I havn't lost enough weight to make that much of a difference yet. OH, but I must say, I am willing to go out with DH a lot more. Before losing some weight I felt like a cow, I had about two outfits that I feel comfortable in, which I used to wear over and over and it was just too depressing. Now I put on my sassy clothes, throw on some heels and I think that makes him happier as well.

Thanks ! What a cutie you have in your avatar

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I know what you mean about those 2 favorite outfits

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now I have a closet FULL of clothing to wear and I can't stop shopping.

godsbeloved79 · 08-15-2007, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by sugarless4life

GOOD FOR YOU, LYN!!!

I am definitely happier, less stressed and thrilled to feel so great ! I've lost a few friends along with the weight (they simply COULD NOT accept the new me) ... but I've made lots of new friends who are very encouraging and supportive, not only of my eating choices, but also of my commitment to running!!!

I love Atkins and all it has done for me, and there's NO WAY I would ever go back to the bonafide couch potato I used to be!

Betty

Thanks Betty !

I know what you mean, and one day soon.......I'll be happy to say here is the "new" me; take it or leave it

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You are such an inspiration to me, keep on running my friend !

Bronwyn · 08-15-2007, 11:37 AM

I know this is a thread hijack, but I'm glad to see 2big4mysize and sugarless4life here on this board! I remember you both from another Low Carb board but lost track when I left that site and found my home here.

Good to see you both (and you too, godsbeloved)

godsbeloved79 · 08-15-2007, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Bronwyn

I know this is a thread hijack, but I'm glad to see 2big4mysize and sugarless4life here on this board! I remember you both from another Low Carb board but lost track when I left that site and found my home here.

Good to see you both (and you too, godsbeloved)

Nice to be among such caring people

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MindyK · 08-15-2007, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by godsbeloved79

Your thoughts?

Have you gained more friendships, lost some, or which ones have improved since losing weight?

I'll go first: It seems that since losing weight, my marriage is better. I feel more comfortable around DH, when in the past I felt pretty ashamed of my body. I feeling sexier day after day. Exercising truly does a body good

.

I'm more outgoing, so I chat with more people, when before I would kind of stick to myself and I created a shell in my bedroom and stayed there most of the time. Now me and kids go out more, I'm able to dress cuter, so I'm always wanting to get dress and go go go !

I have lost a friend. She had lost some weight (via not low carb) back in the winter - had quite a lot to lose, but I encouraged her constantly... I went back on LC and started losing again - around the time she started gaining her weight back... all of a sudden, she completely withdrew from me - and I thought we were best friends. I asked her if I had done anything - she never had an answer, so this is the only thing I can think of...

I love her and miss her - but I'm not putting weight back on to please her. If I lose her friendship over that, it's just going to have to be lost. I am almost 40 years old and don't have time for such foolishness. I never flaunted my loss in front of her or made any kind of deal out of it.

godsbeloved79 · 08-15-2007, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by MindyK

I have lost a friend. She had lost some weight (via not low carb) back in the winter - had quite a lot to lose, but I encouraged her constantly... I went back on LC and started losing again - around the time she started gaining her weight back... all of a sudden, she completely withdrew from me - and I thought we were best friends. I asked her if I had done anything - she never had an answer, so this is the only thing I can think of...

I love her and miss her - but I'm not putting weight back on to please her. If I lose her friendship over that, it's just going to have to be lost. I am almost 40 years old and don't have time for such foolishness. I never flaunted my loss in front of her or made any kind of deal out of it.

It's so sad that people are the way that they are.

To sum it up, it seems that this friend was "jealous" of you. Her loss, as I trust that you were a good friend to her.

LindaFaye · 08-15-2007, 12:24 PM

My husband is my big support but I did lose my best friend of 18 years ?
Are maybe in the long run she was not the friend that I thought she was because true friendship know matter what you weight comes from the heart.
Linda

Susie Q · 08-15-2007, 12:36 PM

Im definately happier in many ways, I love being grabbed by my husband...and hate to say it ...but people really really do have more respect for you when youre not overweight. Im proud of you , you're doing great!

godsbeloved79 · 08-15-2007, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Susie Q

Im definately happier in many ways, I love being grabbed by my husband...and hate to say it ...but people really really do have more respect for you when youre not overweight. Im proud of you , you're doing great!

WTG to you Susie ! and thanks for your support.

godsbeloved79 · 08-15-2007, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by LindaFaye

My husband is my big support but I did lose my best friend of 18 years ?
Are maybe in the long run she was not the friend that I thought she was because true friendship know matter what you weight comes from the heart.
Linda

My DH is a great supporter too. I think when we lose friends like that, it wasn't meant to be

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kbetz0419 · 08-15-2007, 04:17 PM

I think I am more comfortable with DH and out in public.

MindyK · 08-16-2007, 05:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by godsbeloved79

It's so sad that people are the way that they are.

To sum it up, it seems that this friend was "jealous" of you. Her loss, as I trust that you were a good friend to her.

That's the only thing I can honestly come up with. She just out of the blue started turning her eyes away from me at church and stopped speaking. When I made her speak, she was visibly uncomfortable (and this was after I had asked if there was a problem). She had car trouble one Sunday and I offered to help - she adamantly said that she was fine and didn't need my helf (I observed her accepting help from someone else a few minutes later).

MindyK · 08-16-2007, 05:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LindaFaye

My husband is my big support but I did lose my best friend of 18 years ?
Are maybe in the long run she was not the friend that I thought she was because true friendship know matter what you weight comes from the heart.
Linda

That's the conclusion I came to with my friend - and we had confided many things to each other and been there for each other many times...

godsbeloved79 · 08-16-2007, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by MindyK

That's the only thing I can honestly come up with. She just out of the blue started turning her eyes away from me at church and stopped speaking. When I made her speak, she was visibly uncomfortable (and this was after I had asked if there was a problem). She had car trouble one Sunday and I offered to help - she adamantly said that she was fine and didn't need my helf (I observed her accepting help from someone else a few minutes later).

Scratching my head

, why are people they way they are?

godsbeloved79 · 08-20-2007, 11:48 AM

Highfavored · 08-22-2007, 07:01 AM

I can say that since my weight loss I did not loose friends but I notice since I have been concentrating on my relationship with GOD I have lost friends. I realize that I am on a journey with GOD and somepeople can go with me and some people can't.

brilliant100 · 08-22-2007, 07:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Highfavored

I can say that since my weight loss I did not loose friends but I notice since I have been concentrating on my relationship with GOD I have lost friends. I realize that I am on a journey with GOD and somepeople can go with me and some people can't.

This is powerful. This week in bible study the pastor said the 'world hated Jesus and will hate you if you seek him'. I am a baby christian but this is very important to understand. In the past I never knew why people attacked me when they found out I was trying to change my life for Jesus. Now I understand better.............when you are attacked for doing something Jesus would approve of............you are on the right path.

brilliant100 · 08-22-2007, 07:59 AM

My weightloss helped me see who was really a friend and loved me. I had one friend that could not deal with guys paying attention to me and not her because the entire time she knew me, she got all the play.

When I got close to goal, she started spreading rumers that I was 'starving' myself. Basically, that I had a eating disorder. It was a complete lie and I confonted her. Today, she is no longer apart of my life..........................and life is still good.

She is not a bad person but I cant have someone in my corner that does not truely support me.

I believe people are sent into your life for a season.......could be a year, 10 years or one day. Enjoy them and let them leave when it becomes clear the season is over.

Highfavored · 08-22-2007, 08:02 AM

brilliant100 this is true. Everyone can't go where you go. I have family members who I had to distance myself from but it does not mean I do not love them. It just mean that we are on two different paths and it is okay.

godsbeloved79 · 08-22-2007, 08:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Highfavored

I can say that since my weight loss I did not loose friends but I notice since I have been concentrating on my relationship with GOD I have lost friends. I realize that I am on a journey with GOD and some people can go with me and some people can't.

Very true post.

In life we have to realize that some people come into our lives for a season.

At times it is hard to understand, but God's ways are not ours.

godsbeloved79 · 08-22-2007, 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by brilliant100

Now I understand better.............when you are attacked for doing something Jesus would approve of............you are on the right path.

AMEN

. HE was persecuted, so will we.

BUT he said "that the battle doesn't belong to us".

08-15-2007, 11:11 AM	#1
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08-15-2007, 11:15 AM	#3
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08-20-2007, 11:48 AM	#20
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08-22-2007, 07:59 AM	#23
brilliant100 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Western, USA Posts: 2,444 Gallery: brilliant100 Stats: 266/194/169 WOE: Atkins/M&E Feast, Lower fat & Lower calorie Start Date: restarted 6/1/05 M/E, back on the wagon 8-21-07	My weightloss helped me see who was really a friend and loved me. I had one friend that could not deal with guys paying attention to me and not her because the entire time she knew me, she got all the play. When I got close to goal, she started spreading rumers that I was 'starving' myself. Basically, that I had a eating disorder. It was a complete lie and I confonted her. Today, she is no longer apart of my life..........................and life is still good. She is not a bad person but I cant have someone in my corner that does not truely support me. I believe people are sent into your life for a season.......could be a year, 10 years or one day. Enjoy them and let them leave when it becomes clear the season is over. __________________ 8-21-07 'Jumpin back on the wagon' 194 169 goal by 9-22 Anniversay

08-15-2007, 11:13 AM	#2
2big4mysize Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 5,104 Gallery: 2big4mysize Stats: 313 to current goalie 169-173 WOE: Atkins 2002 Start Date: june 1 2002	isn't it wonderful when we take responsibility for our eating so many other aspects of our lives change and negative things seem to go away.

08-15-2007, 11:24 AM	#5
sugarless4life Atkins Ambassador Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 9,967 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: sugarless4life Stats: 5'3 / 101 pounds / 53 yo /maintaining for 6 years WOE: Lost it with Atkins / RUNNING to keep it off! Start Date: January 19, 2002 - 7 YEARS ON ATKINS	GOOD FOR YOU, LYN!!! I am definitely happier, less stressed and thrilled to feel so great ! I've lost a few friends along with the weight (they simply COULD NOT accept the new me) ... but I've made lots of new friends who are very encouraging and supportive, not only of my eating choices, but also of my commitment to running!!! I love Atkins and all it has done for me, and there's NO WAY I would ever go back to the bonafide couch potato I used to be! Betty

08-15-2007, 11:37 AM	#8
Bronwyn Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 520 Gallery: Bronwyn	I know this is a thread hijack, but I'm glad to see 2big4mysize and sugarless4life here on this board! I remember you both from another Low Carb board but lost track when I left that site and found my home here. Good to see you both (and you too, godsbeloved)

08-15-2007, 12:24 PM	#12
LindaFaye Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Greenwood,SC Posts: 836 Gallery: LindaFaye	My husband is my big support but I did lose my best friend of 18 years ? Are maybe in the long run she was not the friend that I thought she was because true friendship know matter what you weight comes from the heart. Linda

08-15-2007, 12:36 PM	#13
Susie Q Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 789 Gallery: Susie Q Stats: 165/140/135 WOE: Atkins by the Book	Im definately happier in many ways, I love being grabbed by my husband...and hate to say it ...but people really really do have more respect for you when youre not overweight. Im proud of you , you're doing great!

08-15-2007, 04:17 PM	#16
kbetz0419 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: moveing to wonderland ASAP Posts: 1,529 Gallery: kbetz0419 Stats: 5"7 -(310)280/280/170 WOE: LC foods and lots of water. No chemicals Start Date: Restart January,5,2008	I think I am more comfortable with DH and out in public.

08-22-2007, 07:01 AM	#21
Highfavored Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Maryland Posts: 103 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: Highfavored WOE: Lowcarbs Start Date: 03/05/2008	I can say that since my weight loss I did not loose friends but I notice since I have been concentrating on my relationship with GOD I have lost friends. I realize that I am on a journey with GOD and somepeople can go with me and some people can't.

08-22-2007, 08:02 AM	#24
Highfavored Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Maryland Posts: 103 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: Highfavored WOE: Lowcarbs Start Date: 03/05/2008	brilliant100 this is true. Everyone can't go where you go. I have family members who I had to distance myself from but it does not mean I do not love them. It just mean that we are on two different paths and it is okay.