Is anyone afraid to NOT be fat?

Zenngrl · 07-31-2007, 12:19 PM

I hope this is the right place to post this.

I've been doing some soul searching and I have realized a lot of what is holding me back from reaching my goals is the fear of not being fat anymore. I see being fluffy as being protected and I tend to use it as an excuse why this and that happens or doesn't happen. And I am scared that when I DO lose the weight it won't change a damn thing in my life.

Anyone else sorta feel the same?

Tish437 · 07-31-2007, 12:42 PM

Yes. Several years ago, when I went on Atkins for the first time, I lost all my extra weight quickly. I hadn't weighed myself the whole time, and one day when I was changing clothes I thought, hmmm, I feel smaller. I looked down and saw this fabulous body with no fat, no cellulite, etc., and it scared me to death. I gained back all the weight, and I think it was the shock and fear that did it. Now I'm doing it again, and this time I'm prepared.

Pcola Girl · 07-31-2007, 12:45 PM

I think we sometimes hide behind our fat because maybe of some pain in our life that we do not want others to see. I think I did this for many years. Its sort as if we are protecting ourseves.

Determinedtolose · 07-31-2007, 01:01 PM

I feel that when I do lose the weight I want, will I be able to handle how I look? Will it be a shock to see myself thin? It's weird.
I've been heavy because I never did anything to lose weight. And when I did it never lasted.
But now with different medical histories on one side of my family, I need to lose weight. I just have to get used to the fact I will one day be thin.
So there's no freaking out now for me!

Diana

Zenngrl · 07-31-2007, 01:22 PM

I think there may be several reasons that I am sheilding myself. I just wish I could push them aside easily and prevail. But, it's hard for me to unsheild myself, physically or emotionally.

Denise85 · 08-01-2007, 12:37 AM

Yes. Sometimes I feel if I make my goal then I'll have nothing left. My whole life I've been trying to lose weight. I've been very overweight since I was 2. It's like it's my identity. I feel if I reach that goal then what else is there to me?

Tish437 · 08-01-2007, 11:12 AM

Denise, how about a fabulous new wardrobe? With all the trimmings?

Midnight Blue · 08-01-2007, 04:35 PM

There is a lot of truth in this for me too. I have never in my memory been what I would call a normal weight or thin. I don't really know what it feels like. When I lost over 100 pounds on Atkins I was thrilled, but still not at my goal.

I started out at 300 pounds. My biggest fear was gaining it back, so of course I did. Not all of it, but 50 to 60 pounds I have put back on. I am miserable with it and still want to know what it feels like to be thin, just once. I think fear and other emotional issues -- unresolved -- play a big part in my hanging on to the weight. It's exhausting.

Determinedtolose · 08-01-2007, 07:10 PM

Also for me, it's just in order to lose weight we have to work at it. If it was easy, I would have been thin along time ago!
But it's definately a work to lose weight.
I want to lose weight, so really all my excuses are what's keeping me from my goal.
Anything is possible for us!
Diana

CurveControl · 08-02-2007, 07:46 AM

Kinda. It is safe to feel invisible.

Zenngrl · 08-07-2007, 09:26 AM

I've been doing a lot of self searching this past week, I turned 30 and after watching a show on PBS by Dr. Wayne Dyer I began to "get it" for once in my life, fully get it. I always knew deep down that it didn't matter what I looked like since my true self had nothing to do with how much the scale said I weighed.

And this has been said before many places and is very trite and cliche, but I will say it again just to solidify it for myself.

In order for me to lose this weight (emotional weight and real) I need to accept myself and love myself for my being inside and not who or what I think I am or what or who others perceive me as. As it has no bearing on the true me.

07-31-2007, 12:19 PM	#1
Zenngrl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Ohio Posts: 4,125 Gallery: Zenngrl Stats: Nunya :O) WOE: Low Carb, my way!	Is anyone afraid to NOT be fat? I hope this is the right place to post this. I've been doing some soul searching and I have realized a lot of what is holding me back from reaching my goals is the fear of not being fat anymore. I see being fluffy as being protected and I tend to use it as an excuse why this and that happens or doesn't happen. And I am scared that when I DO lose the weight it won't change a damn thing in my life. Anyone else sorta feel the same?

08-01-2007, 04:35 PM	#8
Midnight Blue Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 5,351 Gallery: Midnight Blue WOE: Moderate carbs	There is a lot of truth in this for me too. I have never in my memory been what I would call a normal weight or thin. I don't really know what it feels like. When I lost over 100 pounds on Atkins I was thrilled, but still not at my goal. I started out at 300 pounds. My biggest fear was gaining it back, so of course I did. Not all of it, but 50 to 60 pounds I have put back on. I am miserable with it and still want to know what it feels like to be thin, just once. I think fear and other emotional issues -- unresolved -- play a big part in my hanging on to the weight. It's exhausting. __________________ Christal

08-07-2007, 09:26 AM	#11
Zenngrl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Ohio Posts: 4,125 Gallery: Zenngrl Stats: Nunya :O) WOE: Low Carb, my way!	I've been doing a lot of self searching this past week, I turned 30 and after watching a show on PBS by Dr. Wayne Dyer I began to "get it" for once in my life, fully get it. I always knew deep down that it didn't matter what I looked like since my true self had nothing to do with how much the scale said I weighed. And this has been said before many places and is very trite and cliche, but I will say it again just to solidify it for myself. In order for me to lose this weight (emotional weight and real) I need to accept myself and love myself for my being inside and not who or what I think I am or what or who others perceive me as. As it has no bearing on the true me. __________________ Do or do not; there is no try.Yoda (!) Allow me to explain the contamination process. Pine cones go in here, party liquors comes out here and proceed to here...[points to mouth]...Fights begin, finger prints are took, days is lost, bail is made, court dates are ignored, cycle is repeated www.taoteching.org

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07-31-2007, 12:42 PM	#2
Tish437 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 150 Gallery: Tish437	Yes. Several years ago, when I went on Atkins for the first time, I lost all my extra weight quickly. I hadn't weighed myself the whole time, and one day when I was changing clothes I thought, hmmm, I feel smaller. I looked down and saw this fabulous body with no fat, no cellulite, etc., and it scared me to death. I gained back all the weight, and I think it was the shock and fear that did it. Now I'm doing it again, and this time I'm prepared.

07-31-2007, 12:45 PM	#3
Pcola Girl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Pensacola, Florida Posts: 3,295 Gallery: Pcola Girl Stats: Start-325 Today-225 Goal 160 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Sarted Nov. 2000---Restarted New January 2008	I think we sometimes hide behind our fat because maybe of some pain in our life that we do not want others to see. I think I did this for many years. Its sort as if we are protecting ourseves.

07-31-2007, 01:01 PM	#4
Determinedtolose Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Glendale, AZ Posts: 10,104 Gallery: Determinedtolose Stats: 243/197/160 or 150 WOE: Atkins/ mod Fat, mod pro, low carb/Stillmans Start Date: Start: 4/07. 5lbs by 12/2008, 150/160 by 4/09	I feel that when I do lose the weight I want, will I be able to handle how I look? Will it be a shock to see myself thin? It's weird. I've been heavy because I never did anything to lose weight. And when I did it never lasted. But now with different medical histories on one side of my family, I need to lose weight. I just have to get used to the fact I will one day be thin. So there's no freaking out now for me! Diana

07-31-2007, 01:22 PM	#5
Zenngrl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Ohio Posts: 4,125 Gallery: Zenngrl Stats: Nunya :O) WOE: Low Carb, my way!	I think there may be several reasons that I am sheilding myself. I just wish I could push them aside easily and prevail. But, it's hard for me to unsheild myself, physically or emotionally.

08-01-2007, 12:37 AM	#6
Denise85 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Chicago burbs Posts: 21,978 Blog Entries: 11 Gallery: Denise85 Stats: 261/141/140-5'5" WOE: Dietician's plan	Yes. Sometimes I feel if I make my goal then I'll have nothing left. My whole life I've been trying to lose weight. I've been very overweight since I was 2. It's like it's my identity. I feel if I reach that goal then what else is there to me?

08-01-2007, 11:12 AM	#7
Tish437 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 150 Gallery: Tish437	Denise, how about a fabulous new wardrobe? With all the trimmings?

08-01-2007, 07:10 PM	#9
Determinedtolose Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Glendale, AZ Posts: 10,104 Gallery: Determinedtolose Stats: 243/197/160 or 150 WOE: Atkins/ mod Fat, mod pro, low carb/Stillmans Start Date: Start: 4/07. 5lbs by 12/2008, 150/160 by 4/09	Also for me, it's just in order to lose weight we have to work at it. If it was easy, I would have been thin along time ago! But it's definately a work to lose weight. I want to lose weight, so really all my excuses are what's keeping me from my goal. Anything is possible for us! Diana

08-02-2007, 07:46 AM	#10
CurveControl Formerlychubchick Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 42,465 Blog Entries: 8 Gallery: CurveControl Stats: 200/ 186.0 /135 WOE: moderate carb, 30-60 grams Start Date: 3/25/08 sigh	Kinda. It is safe to feel invisible.