Need Prayer and advice!

Determinedtolose · 07-25-2007, 07:31 AM

I need prayer for a situation regarding my Niece and her boyfriend. She is 16 years old and has been seeing her boyfriend for about 2 years now.
I'm very concerned about her situation because on Monday I spoke with her and she told me she had broke up with her BF. I guess she did this before the weekend, and she was telling me how afterwards, her ex-BF had come to her house late at night, she told him to leave, which he did.
She got on the computer after that, and he figured she would be on it, then she see's him on the computer trying to talk to her, again she tells him to leave her alone.
So Saturday she goes to the movie with a girlfriend of hers along with two guy friends. She held hands with this new guy and the word got out to her ex. So he calls her up and said to her, how she is already holding hands with another guy. It's funny as she was telling about this, her guy friends were even discouraging her from getting back with her ex, because they know how he is.
As she was telling me this, I told her that it was a good idea that she did break up with him because her ex doesn't seem right.
Her ex does not have a good home life, he doesn't get along with his dad. His parents are divorced, and when he was with my niece, he spent all his time her my sisters house with my niece.

Then yesterday, my other sister called my niece to ask her about her situation, and my niece tells my sister that she got back with her ex because he was getting sick from not eating and he had to be taken to the hospital! I guess my niece thought that was "cool" or something.

I know what her ex is doing and I told my niece before that he is dependant on her and that there is something wrong with that.
She doesn't see it and I don't want anything to happen to her.

Also, my niece is not saved, and her mom, my sister, accepted the Lord when she was pregnant with her, but she is not in a relationship with the Lord. I don't think my sister see's what is going on because she is in a relationship of her own.

My prayer is for the ex and his family to come to salvation and to be restored as a family, and for my niece to receive the Lord and for my sister to rededicate her life to the Lord.
My niece is too young to have a boyfriend who is like this.

I just ask for your prayers and maybe some Godly advice that I can say or do.
Thank you so much!
Diana

Determinedtolose · 07-26-2007, 11:35 AM

No need to respond, the Lord has answered my prayers.
Thanks anyway!
Diana

CurveControl · 07-26-2007, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Determinedtolose

No need to respond, the Lord has answered my prayers.
Thanks anyway!
Diana

And quickly too!

I will pray anyway!

Determinedtolose · 07-26-2007, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by CurveControl

And quickly too!

I will pray anyway!

Thank You CurveControl, I really appreciate that! You're the first to respond.
God Bless You!
Diana

Star123 · 07-27-2007, 07:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Determinedtolose

No need to respond, the Lord has answered my prayers.
Thanks anyway!
Diana

Diana... I will keep for your neice and her siduation. Things can come up and she needs strength in the Lord... sounds like there is more going on in her life. May God be with you and your niece... blessing you both in all that you do and keeping you safe, amen.

God BLess...

Nanny2Kara · 07-27-2007, 07:37 AM

Thats such a hard age. My daughter is 17, and no matter what I say when it comes to boys, I know nothing in her opinion. I would say keep the lines of communication open and let her know you are there for her, for anything, at anytime.

Determinedtolose · 07-27-2007, 07:57 AM

Thanks, for all your replies, prayers and support! That means alot to me!!

The reason I was saying that my prayers were answered is because, yesterday I picked her up from home to go to my Mom's house. She works in a store at a nearby mall, so she wanted to get ready at the house.
She told me how she broke it off with her ex for good and that she was just friends with him now.
She said that when she broke with him, after he became sick and went to the hospital, that the Dr. prescribed him sleeping pills and depression pills!
I couldn't believe that, that would be the worst thing to give to a child, I would think?
Your right Tammy, there is more going on with my niece, stuff with her mom (my sister) regarding their relationship and my sisters' previous marriage. The ex boyfriend has problems at home too. He doesn't have a relationship with his dad or step mom. But that's what he says, I don't know for sure.
I keep them lifted up in the Lord and believing that they all will come around to Him!
Thank you again Ladies!!!!

LaRae · 07-30-2007, 10:00 AM

The best thing that you can do for them is prayer. They know how you feel, and you have planted the seed. Be a good Christian witness to them, but I wouldn't "nag" them, or they may turn away. The Holy Spirit will convict them at some point, then it is up to them to respond . . . or not, unfortunately. The best witness to them is the life you lead. LaRae

Determinedtolose · 07-30-2007, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by LaRae

The best thing that you can do for them is prayer. They know how you feel, and you have planted the seed. Be a good Christian witness to them, but I wouldn't "nag" them, or they may turn away. The Holy Spirit will convict them at some point, then it is up to them to respond . . . or not, unfortunately. The best witness to them is the life you lead. LaRae

Hi LaRae,
You are spot on about that, I know that's what I need to do, sometimes I need to hear someone else say that.
Thank you, and Thank you Ladies for your response, it means alot to me!
God Bless,
Diana

07-25-2007, 07:31 AM	#1
Determinedtolose Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Glendale, AZ Posts: 10,104 Gallery: Determinedtolose Stats: 243/197/160 or 150 WOE: Atkins/ mod Fat, mod pro, low carb/Stillmans Start Date: Start: 4/07. 5lbs by 12/2008, 150/160 by 4/09	Need Prayer and advice! I need prayer for a situation regarding my Niece and her boyfriend. She is 16 years old and has been seeing her boyfriend for about 2 years now. I'm very concerned about her situation because on Monday I spoke with her and she told me she had broke up with her BF. I guess she did this before the weekend, and she was telling me how afterwards, her ex-BF had come to her house late at night, she told him to leave, which he did. She got on the computer after that, and he figured she would be on it, then she see's him on the computer trying to talk to her, again she tells him to leave her alone. So Saturday she goes to the movie with a girlfriend of hers along with two guy friends. She held hands with this new guy and the word got out to her ex. So he calls her up and said to her, how she is already holding hands with another guy. It's funny as she was telling about this, her guy friends were even discouraging her from getting back with her ex, because they know how he is. As she was telling me this, I told her that it was a good idea that she did break up with him because her ex doesn't seem right. Her ex does not have a good home life, he doesn't get along with his dad. His parents are divorced, and when he was with my niece, he spent all his time her my sisters house with my niece. Then yesterday, my other sister called my niece to ask her about her situation, and my niece tells my sister that she got back with her ex because he was getting sick from not eating and he had to be taken to the hospital! I guess my niece thought that was "cool" or something. I know what her ex is doing and I told my niece before that he is dependant on her and that there is something wrong with that. She doesn't see it and I don't want anything to happen to her. Also, my niece is not saved, and her mom, my sister, accepted the Lord when she was pregnant with her, but she is not in a relationship with the Lord. I don't think my sister see's what is going on because she is in a relationship of her own. My prayer is for the ex and his family to come to salvation and to be restored as a family, and for my niece to receive the Lord and for my sister to rededicate her life to the Lord. My niece is too young to have a boyfriend who is like this. I just ask for your prayers and maybe some Godly advice that I can say or do. Thank you so much! Diana __________________ DIANA Wilkommen, bienvenu, welcome, c'mon in!! DOWN 46LBS 199, 198, 197, 196, 195, 194, 193, 192, 191, 190, 189, 188, 187, 186, 185, 184, 183, 182, 181, 180, 179, 178, 177, 176, 175, 174, 173, 172, 171, 170, 169, 168, 167, 166, 165, 164, 163, 162, 161, 160 MAYBE GOAL, 159, 158, 157, 156, 155, 154, 153, 152, 151, 150 GOAL! It's not what I've done, or can do. . .but what He has done for me. It's Faith plus Nothing!!! Diana's Journal

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07-26-2007, 11:35 AM	#2
Determinedtolose Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Glendale, AZ Posts: 10,104 Gallery: Determinedtolose Stats: 243/197/160 or 150 WOE: Atkins/ mod Fat, mod pro, low carb/Stillmans Start Date: Start: 4/07. 5lbs by 12/2008, 150/160 by 4/09	No need to respond, the Lord has answered my prayers. Thanks anyway! Diana

07-27-2007, 07:37 AM	#6
Nanny2Kara Junior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 31 Gallery: Nanny2Kara Stats: 162/142/130ish WOE: low carb Start Date: June 16,2007	Thats such a hard age. My daughter is 17, and no matter what I say when it comes to boys, I know nothing in her opinion. I would say keep the lines of communication open and let her know you are there for her, for anything, at anytime.

07-27-2007, 07:57 AM	#7
Determinedtolose Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Glendale, AZ Posts: 10,104 Gallery: Determinedtolose Stats: 243/197/160 or 150 WOE: Atkins/ mod Fat, mod pro, low carb/Stillmans Start Date: Start: 4/07. 5lbs by 12/2008, 150/160 by 4/09	Thanks, for all your replies, prayers and support! That means alot to me!! The reason I was saying that my prayers were answered is because, yesterday I picked her up from home to go to my Mom's house. She works in a store at a nearby mall, so she wanted to get ready at the house. She told me how she broke it off with her ex for good and that she was just friends with him now. She said that when she broke with him, after he became sick and went to the hospital, that the Dr. prescribed him sleeping pills and depression pills! I couldn't believe that, that would be the worst thing to give to a child, I would think? Your right Tammy, there is more going on with my niece, stuff with her mom (my sister) regarding their relationship and my sisters' previous marriage. The ex boyfriend has problems at home too. He doesn't have a relationship with his dad or step mom. But that's what he says, I don't know for sure. I keep them lifted up in the Lord and believing that they all will come around to Him! Thank you again Ladies!!!!

07-30-2007, 10:00 AM	#8
LaRae MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: OKlahoma Posts: 1,768 Gallery: LaRae Stats: 273 (highest)/268(started Atkins)243/231/150 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: June 13, 2007	The best thing that you can do for them is prayer. They know how you feel, and you have planted the seed. Be a good Christian witness to them, but I wouldn't "nag" them, or they may turn away. The Holy Spirit will convict them at some point, then it is up to them to respond . . . or not, unfortunately. The best witness to them is the life you lead. LaRae