Where does the good go?

PRCHICK · 06-12-2007, 01:03 PM

So i first wanted to lose the weight because i was going to run into my ex this summer which would be the first time we will see each other since our break up and i wanted him to want me back. Well how does that benfit me? I need to do this for myself I understand and not care about what he thinks about the way i look or want me back because he thinks im "hotter" I dunno I can't really explain it but today I kinda relize I need to do this diet for myself. To make me happy about myself and not because I want my ex to want me or wish he had me. Where does all the good go? Not to him, but to me. I need to stop worrying about what others think about the way I look or buy clothes because I think a certain guy would like it. Im 19 and I kinda just need to start doing things for myself than always for other ppl. I feel like all my life I constantly adapt to what each person wants from me or expects of me without actually doing it for myself. I feel like I kinda lost my voice on things in life and I think that losing the pounds and becoming confindent in myself would make a world o difference. it's like I like the person I was when i was 15 than who i am at 19. The girl at 15 was full of life, confindent and had a voice. The 19 year old (after dating many scumbags) is not those things at all. I dunno just some thoughts that been running in my mind.

summergirl · 06-12-2007, 01:06 PM

Good for you!
I know everytime I have tried to have a 'weight loss goal' or event that it has not worked out for me.

You are the only one that matters when it comes to weightloss...good luck!

cleochatra · 06-12-2007, 01:06 PM

I understand that sentiment. When you feel better about yourself, you project a better self. You deserve that, and so does the world.

Also, too, when your chemicals are working together and you feel physiologically good, the rest follows. I think a big symptom of malfeasance generally stems from out-of-whack chemicals in the body due to our intake of carbohydrates, which causes everything from blood sugar woes, to depression due to candida.

Finally, living well is the best revenge.

And you deserve that.

Texoma · 06-12-2007, 01:18 PM

Lose the weight for yourself...make your ex kick himself as a bonus but if he is a scum bag just let him look!

Qjakal · 06-12-2007, 01:32 PM

You've discovered a great truth at an early age...sometimes it IS all about you, and this is one of those areas of life. Take control of your health and guard it jealously...it's your greatest treasure. Cars, men and money may come and go but you'll always have to exist with yourself at all times.

Move it to the front of the line.

Q

CarolynF · 06-13-2007, 08:31 AM

Yes, I agree, at 19 you have discovered lots of things..You date scumbags..alot of women don't realize this until they are married to one with several children..

Dr. Phil has a great book called "Self-Matters"..It's like a workbook on self-examination and how to be a more healthy person..

Good luck..and God bless..

BuckeyeLori · 06-16-2007, 09:36 AM

Be more selfish - absolutely! You are worth it!! And for you to have already discovered this is wonderful!!! Enjoy yourself and your talents!

Edin · 07-08-2007, 12:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CarolynF

Yes, I agree, at 19 you have discovered lots of things..You date scumbags..alot of women don't realize this until they are married to one with several children..

Dr. Phil has a great book called "Self-Matters"..It's like a workbook on self-examination and how to be a more healthy person..

Good luck..and God bless..

definitely a great book!! well worth reading. so glad you are recognizing things now. it will save you so much pain in the future.

wanttobethinagain · 07-13-2007, 10:16 AM

I have had thoes thoughts to. I was happier at 19 Thinner more confident now I am 36 overweight and not as happy as I would like to be. So I am changing that. There is this deep part of me that says my husband and my friends might not like the thin me that is the devil playing with my mind and I HATE THAT.

Sweetpea · 07-18-2007, 10:14 AM

Good For You----
You have to do it for yourself - it will not work if you do it for someone else.

06-12-2007, 01:03 PM	#1
PRCHICK Junior LCF Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 49 Gallery: PRCHICK Stats: 149/141/120 WOE: atkins Start Date: cheat free start date 8/31	Where does the good go? So i first wanted to lose the weight because i was going to run into my ex this summer which would be the first time we will see each other since our break up and i wanted him to want me back. Well how does that benfit me? I need to do this for myself I understand and not care about what he thinks about the way i look or want me back because he thinks im "hotter" I dunno I can't really explain it but today I kinda relize I need to do this diet for myself. To make me happy about myself and not because I want my ex to want me or wish he had me. Where does all the good go? Not to him, but to me. I need to stop worrying about what others think about the way I look or buy clothes because I think a certain guy would like it. Im 19 and I kinda just need to start doing things for myself than always for other ppl. I feel like all my life I constantly adapt to what each person wants from me or expects of me without actually doing it for myself. I feel like I kinda lost my voice on things in life and I think that losing the pounds and becoming confindent in myself would make a world o difference. it's like I like the person I was when i was 15 than who i am at 19. The girl at 15 was full of life, confindent and had a voice. The 19 year old (after dating many scumbags) is not those things at all. I dunno just some thoughts that been running in my mind.

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06-12-2007, 01:06 PM	#2
summergirl MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 1,212 Gallery: summergirl Stats: 203.2/193.2/??? WOE: WW=whatever works Start Date: 11/19/08	Good for you! I know everytime I have tried to have a 'weight loss goal' or event that it has not worked out for me. You are the only one that matters when it comes to weightloss...good luck!

06-12-2007, 01:06 PM	#3
cleochatra Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: May 2005 Location: Denver, Colorado Posts: 7,939 Gallery: cleochatra Stats: 350/264/125 WOE: Atkins Start Date: January 1, 2008	I understand that sentiment. When you feel better about yourself, you project a better self. You deserve that, and so does the world. Also, too, when your chemicals are working together and you feel physiologically good, the rest follows. I think a big symptom of malfeasance generally stems from out-of-whack chemicals in the body due to our intake of carbohydrates, which causes everything from blood sugar woes, to depression due to candida. Finally, living well is the best revenge. And you deserve that.

06-12-2007, 01:18 PM	#4
Texoma MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 1,073 Gallery: Texoma Stats: 183.5/145/140 WOE: Atkins Maintainance /Pregnant Start Date: 3/29/07	Lose the weight for yourself...make your ex kick himself as a bonus but if he is a scum bag just let him look!

06-12-2007, 01:32 PM	#5
Qjakal Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 435 Gallery: Qjakal Stats: SW278/CW184/G180-185 Current BF%-15.1 WOE: 40-20-40 Sugar Free Start Date: 6/6/04	You've discovered a great truth at an early age...sometimes it IS all about you, and this is one of those areas of life. Take control of your health and guard it jealously...it's your greatest treasure. Cars, men and money may come and go but you'll always have to exist with yourself at all times. Move it to the front of the line. Q

06-13-2007, 08:31 AM	#6
CarolynF Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Kansas Posts: 20,522 Gallery: CarolynF Stats: 195/150/139 WOE: Eat Fat, Get Thin/I Can Make You Thin Start Date: January 2001	Yes, I agree, at 19 you have discovered lots of things..You date scumbags..alot of women don't realize this until they are married to one with several children.. Dr. Phil has a great book called "Self-Matters"..It's like a workbook on self-examination and how to be a more healthy person.. Good luck..and God bless..

06-16-2007, 09:36 AM	#7
BuckeyeLori Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Central Ohio Posts: 596 Gallery: BuckeyeLori Stats: 225/211/170 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: July 28, 2008	Be more selfish - absolutely! You are worth it!! And for you to have already discovered this is wonderful!!! Enjoy yourself and your talents!

07-13-2007, 10:16 AM	#9
wanttobethinagain Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 87 Gallery: wanttobethinagain Stats: 285/267/125 WOE: Atkins Start Date: tr start date 10/21/2008	I have had thoes thoughts to. I was happier at 19 Thinner more confident now I am 36 overweight and not as happy as I would like to be. So I am changing that. There is this deep part of me that says my husband and my friends might not like the thin me that is the devil playing with my mind and I HATE THAT.

07-18-2007, 10:14 AM	#10
Sweetpea Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: South Louisiana Posts: 4,382 Gallery: Sweetpea Stats: 175/155/135/115 WOE: lc/atkins Start Date: 04/02/2007	Good For You---- You have to do it for yourself - it will not work if you do it for someone else.