Called of wedding and want to eat carbs!

arzu926 · 01-18-2007, 10:52 AM

Left Fiance and called off the wedding(lack of respect and understanding) which is making me want carbs so bad. I just posted a new pick so I need to stay motivated but it is so hard. Staying with a friend now until I can sort everything out. Marriage is such a huge commitment and I knew that I couldn't do it with someone who wasn't supportive. I will be strong with God's help.

beachlvr58 · 01-18-2007, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by arzu926

Left Fiance and called off the wedding(lack of respect and understanding) which is making me want carbs so bad. I just posted a new pick so I need to stay motivated but it is so hard. Staying with a friend now until I can sort everything out. Marriage is such a huge commitment and I knew that I couldn't do it with someone who wasn't supportive. I will be strong with God's help.

Oh My God..I'm so sorry but sure if you had doubts it was the right decision. Do not eat carbs load up on fat and protein to get rid of cravings. You look gorgeous and don't stray..

divajmac · 01-18-2007, 10:57 AM

I'm very sorry for what you are going through right now. However, that is pretty brave to take a step back and not do something that will be more painful later.

CaroleKI61 · 01-18-2007, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by arzu926

Left Fiance and called off the wedding(lack of respect and understanding) which is making me want carbs so bad. I just posted a new pick so I need to stay motivated but it is so hard. Staying with a friend now until I can sort everything out. Marriage is such a huge commitment and I knew that I couldn't do it with someone who wasn't supportive. I will be strong with God's help.

So sorry things turned out this way. Carbs won't stop the hurrting Dear, please just sit and feel all the feelings that your dear little heart is going through. Be supportive to yourself and your dreams. Sending big hugs and prayers. Be good to yourself, love Carole

Though I'd share this with you today...

FOR NICK- THANKS FRIEND
Thanks for making me understand that happiness is not a gift…

One cannot make another happy
Whatever one might do or say
For happiness remains a choice
Not even love can hope to sway.

The sacrifice of time and strength
And preference and goods may be
Of help, of course, but cannot calm
The winds that roll a restless sea.

Everything one does, like dust,
Transforms the light in which all live.
However, happiness is not a gift
It is within one’s power to give.

One can only love, and be
A witness to the life that each
At last must live alone, for
Well or ill beyond a lover’s reach.

Love Carole

sunshineab622 · 01-18-2007, 11:03 AM

I went through the same thing back in 2000 - 8 wks before I was getting married. I am sooo sorry you are going through this.

Keep your chin up & stay away from them carbs. You have done a wonderful job losing weight & look absolutely amazing - Dont give in to temptation.

nicdeedoop · 01-18-2007, 11:04 AM

How brave and strong you are!!!!!

mermaid · 01-18-2007, 11:10 AM

That's so harsh! But good for you for not going through with something you doubted.

Want a strategy for those carb cravings? Here it is: Do a mini binge on low-carb foods until you're pretty full but not to the point of feeling sick. That's how I got through a Christmas party last month where a big tray of goodies was attracting me like a heroin addict to heroin. I ate meat, salad, broccoli with ranch dip, nuts, green beans, and topped it off with diet pop. There wasn't any room left for cookies, and they lost their pull on me.

Of course, my situation was much less stressful than yours, but I still think it's a good strategy whenever you have cravings. Even if it makes you bounce up a pound or two, at least you're not going to totally lose control.

Hope that helps.

eloina · 01-18-2007, 11:15 AM

If you were strong enough to end a relationship (my kudos to you for your strength in determining now your future happiness) then you are definitely strong enough to combat a carb urge. Do that for yourself as well!!!!

Fender · 01-18-2007, 11:17 AM

jedswife · 01-18-2007, 11:20 AM

well if you must binge eat sugar free stuff with sugar alcohols - i guarantee you will NEVER binge again once you get off the toilet that it.

that was very brave to call off the wedding better now than after the fact!

Snowangel81598 · 01-18-2007, 11:46 AM

maggieb43 · 01-18-2007, 12:24 PM

How wise and strong you are!! If he's not understanding and supportive now... Life's too short. Find someone who loves you the way you need to be loved.

By the way, you are lovely...don't blow it with a carby binge. I guarantee you, the momentary pleasure will give way to MAJOR lasting regret.

Hang in there. It'll get better.

xfatchik · 01-18-2007, 12:32 PM

Sorry you are going through this.

HOwever, don't eat the carbs...it will just make you feel worse.

arzu926 · 01-18-2007, 07:11 PM

Thanks guys. This has been tough on me as I thought I would be spending the rest of my life with this man. The pain is really starting to set in. Have steak and onions for dinner. Hanging in there. Thanks for all the support. I just need time.

sbarr · 01-18-2007, 07:27 PM

You want to walk away strong and look good - and the best way, stay clean with your eating and hold your head high!

AND, think of it this way - the best way to attract the right person in your life is to look your best, feel your best and hold your head high. I'm not saying you want to meet Mr. Right tomorrow, but if you slide into a binge, you'll feel poorly about yourself, look worse - and what if he did walk by? Hmmmmmmmmmm, hey, just in case, look and feel your best from now on so you're in a good place for YOU and are also confident about yourself.

PalmTreeGal · 01-18-2007, 07:27 PM

I'm so sorry. That just sucks. But it sounds like you have your head on straight as regards your weight and health. You have worked way too hard for this. One day you will want to date again, and it will be a lot more fun if you feel sexy and pretty.

ny_shelly · 01-18-2007, 07:42 PM

Well, I give you a lot of credit for coming here instead of the fridge.

Staying married is hard so I give you a lot of credit for taking your commitment so seriously.

Prayers for you and your ex.

silentkate · 01-18-2007, 07:52 PM

I'm sorry you're going through this. WTG for staying strong.

Maggy · 01-18-2007, 08:10 PM

to you. What an incredibly hard but life changing decision. But if you know in in your heart that it was right...then it was right for him too! You have a lot of courage, and I admire you for sticking to your *gut* feeling about this. You and your ex will go on to be happy and you sound like an amazing person! Hang in there!!!

maya-twinkles · 01-18-2007, 08:28 PM

I agree-YOU ARE SO STRONG- and beautiful too!
don't blow it! you can do whatever you put you mind to!
My DD cancelled her wedding 2 1/2 months before it,and she also did greive for a while-it is normal! She did find a man worthy of her and is now happily married to him.....and her ex? he had problems...and still does. It is sad, but you need to do what is best for you.
Good luck!

dietsprite · 01-18-2007, 08:34 PM

nocandyforme · 01-18-2007, 10:04 PM

That decision could not have been easy, but eating off-plan will only discourage you. Now is the time to pamper yourself, which is to carefully watch what you eat to stay on plan. I have a feeling you will use this as a springboard to achieve all that you set out to do.

CarolynF · 01-18-2007, 10:16 PM

You are SOOOOO wise to call off the wedding. Being married to someone who is not supportive would be a nightmare. I heard on the radio one time a Christian counselor said as he was talking to a bunch of single folks.."The person you marry can completely take over your life and make it hell or heaven, so be sure to marry the right person"..Obviously, you did the right thing..

It's tough, but better now than later..If you like Dr. Phil..he has a book out
about Love Relationships that is really good...

God will get you through it and guide you to the right man for you..in his perfect timing.

Smythe · 01-19-2007, 03:31 AM

annamazing · 01-19-2007, 07:32 AM

ARZU,

Congrats on your courage. Better to break up now than to go through the pain if divorce.

Maerow · 01-19-2007, 07:45 AM

Oh wow, I feel for you. Marriage is so huge, and so miserable to get out of, it was very wise of you to back out now if he was not the right one.

/hugs

Weedydidi · 01-19-2007, 08:33 AM

I don't know ANYONE (myself included) who ended an engagement who ever regretted it.

Congratulations! You deserve the best!

And

I know how much it hurts.

MOMofMICKEY · 01-19-2007, 08:53 AM

You are obviously very strong in that you were able to do what your heart needed you to.
I am going through an awful time after being married for 15.5 years to an emotionally abusive man. I always truly thought we would be together forever but he has someone new (denies it but I have proof) and now I am in the process of doing the legal stuff. He has never been supportive of me either. I am sad for you for your heartache and the grieving that you have to go through like I am but, glad for you that you did it now and not years from now.
I am managing to stay away from carbs and so can you. Remember you are worth you.

Jenadlite · 01-19-2007, 10:16 AM

Congrats on being strong and making the right decision for yourself. You should be very proud. This too shall pass.

01-18-2007, 10:52 AM	#1
arzu926 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Richmond, VA Posts: 154 Gallery: arzu926 Stats: 170/130/125 WOE: Atkins/Low fat Start Date: September 2003	Called of wedding and want to eat carbs! Left Fiance and called off the wedding(lack of respect and understanding) which is making me want carbs so bad. I just posted a new pick so I need to stay motivated but it is so hard. Staying with a friend now until I can sort everything out. Marriage is such a huge commitment and I knew that I couldn't do it with someone who wasn't supportive. I will be strong with God's help.

01-18-2007, 07:27 PM	#15
sbarr Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Albany, NY Posts: 3,008 Gallery: sbarr Stats: 203/173/135 WOE: Basic Low carb, slow, steady, some stumbles Start Date: Jan 2005 (again)/15-Apr-2008 (after baby)	You want to walk away strong and look good - and the best way, stay clean with your eating and hold your head high! AND, think of it this way - the best way to attract the right person in your life is to look your best, feel your best and hold your head high. I'm not saying you want to meet Mr. Right tomorrow, but if you slide into a binge, you'll feel poorly about yourself, look worse - and what if he did walk by? Hmmmmmmmmmm, hey, just in case, look and feel your best from now on so you're in a good place for YOU and are also confident about yourself. __________________ Don't worry about momentary cheats or stumbles, focus on succeeding in the long run. Always keep your eye on the target and if you stumble, get back up and stay in the race. What we weigh is the result of a meal, a day, a week, a month, a year of choices...

01-19-2007, 08:53 AM	#28
MOMofMICKEY Senior LCF Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Edmonton, Alberta Posts: 571 Gallery: MOMofMICKEY Stats: July06 267 /Nov06 228/ July08 160 WOE: My own Low Carb Start Date: Seriously restarted on November 3rd-06	You are obviously very strong in that you were able to do what your heart needed you to. I am going through an awful time after being married for 15.5 years to an emotionally abusive man. I always truly thought we would be together forever but he has someone new (denies it but I have proof) and now I am in the process of doing the legal stuff. He has never been supportive of me either. I am sad for you for your heartache and the grieving that you have to go through like I am but, glad for you that you did it now and not years from now. I am managing to stay away from carbs and so can you. Remember you are worth you. __________________ Nicole I am no better than you, You are no better than me. My Grandchildren however are better than anyone.

01-18-2007, 10:57 AM	#3
divajmac Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 185 Gallery: divajmac WOE: Atkins Start Date: Nov 3, 2003	I'm very sorry for what you are going through right now. However, that is pretty brave to take a step back and not do something that will be more painful later.

01-18-2007, 11:03 AM	#5
sunshineab622 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: MS Posts: 998 Gallery: sunshineab622 Stats: biggest/-42 lbs/smaller WOE: Healthy eating,counting calories & exercise Start Date: Which time!	I went through the same thing back in 2000 - 8 wks before I was getting married. I am sooo sorry you are going through this. Keep your chin up & stay away from them carbs. You have done a wonderful job losing weight & look absolutely amazing - Dont give in to temptation.

01-18-2007, 11:04 AM	#6
nicdeedoop Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Florida Panhandle Posts: 133 Gallery: nicdeedoop Stats: 255/169/170 WOE: Atkins Start Date: 11/04/06	How brave and strong you are!!!!!

01-18-2007, 11:10 AM	#7
mermaid MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 1,073 Gallery: mermaid Stats: 293/222/145 WOE: various LC plans	That's so harsh! But good for you for not going through with something you doubted. Want a strategy for those carb cravings? Here it is: Do a mini binge on low-carb foods until you're pretty full but not to the point of feeling sick. That's how I got through a Christmas party last month where a big tray of goodies was attracting me like a heroin addict to heroin. I ate meat, salad, broccoli with ranch dip, nuts, green beans, and topped it off with diet pop. There wasn't any room left for cookies, and they lost their pull on me. Of course, my situation was much less stressful than yours, but I still think it's a good strategy whenever you have cravings. Even if it makes you bounce up a pound or two, at least you're not going to totally lose control. Hope that helps.

01-18-2007, 11:15 AM	#8
eloina Junior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Lake County, IL Posts: 9 Gallery: eloina Stats: 193/173/150 WOE: Atkins then switched to WW Start Date: July2000;Jan2003;Jan 2007;Joined WW Oct 07	If you were strong enough to end a relationship (my kudos to you for your strength in determining now your future happiness) then you are definitely strong enough to combat a carb urge. Do that for yourself as well!!!!

01-18-2007, 11:17 AM	#9
Fender Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: In My Own Little World!!!! Posts: 3,012 Gallery: Fender WOE: Atkins Start Date: 6/26/06

01-18-2007, 11:20 AM	#10
jedswife MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Texas Posts: 2,909 Gallery: jedswife Stats: 220/160/140 WOE: Body By Atkins	well if you must binge eat sugar free stuff with sugar alcohols - i guarantee you will NEVER binge again once you get off the toilet that it. that was very brave to call off the wedding better now than after the fact!

01-18-2007, 11:46 AM	#11
Snowangel81598 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: San Jose, CA Posts: 818 Gallery: Snowangel81598 Stats: 205/142/145 WOE: Low Carb Maintenance Start Date: Jan. 2003, Restarted (after 2 babies) Oct. 2006

01-18-2007, 12:24 PM	#12
maggieb43 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 211 Gallery: maggieb43	How wise and strong you are!! If he's not understanding and supportive now... Life's too short. Find someone who loves you the way you need to be loved. By the way, you are lovely...don't blow it with a carby binge. I guarantee you, the momentary pleasure will give way to MAJOR lasting regret. Hang in there. It'll get better.

01-18-2007, 12:32 PM	#13
xfatchik Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Viva Las Vegas! Posts: 15,460 Gallery: xfatchik Stats: size 22/4/4 WOE: Atkins ( 126 lbs gone! ) Start Date: June 9, 2003	Sorry you are going through this. HOwever, don't eat the carbs...it will just make you feel worse.

01-18-2007, 07:11 PM	#14
arzu926 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Richmond, VA Posts: 154 Gallery: arzu926 Stats: 170/130/125 WOE: Atkins/Low fat Start Date: September 2003	Thanks guys. This has been tough on me as I thought I would be spending the rest of my life with this man. The pain is really starting to set in. Have steak and onions for dinner. Hanging in there. Thanks for all the support. I just need time.

01-18-2007, 07:27 PM	#16
PalmTreeGal MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: MD Posts: 2,090 Gallery: PalmTreeGal Stats: 181/160.8/120 WOE: LC eclectic Start Date: 9/1/08	I'm so sorry. That just sucks. But it sounds like you have your head on straight as regards your weight and health. You have worked way too hard for this. One day you will want to date again, and it will be a lot more fun if you feel sexy and pretty.

01-18-2007, 07:42 PM	#17
ny_shelly MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Rochester, NY but originally from Pittsburgh Posts: 2,023 Gallery: ny_shelly Stats: 328/313.4/135 ~ BMI 53/50.6/21 ~ 5'6" WOE: Atkins DANDR --> Greysheet Start Date: 4/21/08 - past doesn't matter	Well, I give you a lot of credit for coming here instead of the fridge. Staying married is hard so I give you a lot of credit for taking your commitment so seriously. Prayers for you and your ex.

01-18-2007, 07:52 PM	#18
silentkate MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 2,988 Gallery: silentkate Stats: 242/150/135 Start Date: May 27th, 2003	I'm sorry you're going through this. WTG for staying strong.

01-18-2007, 08:10 PM	#19
Maggy MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 1,463 Gallery: Maggy Stats: 158/123/125 height 5'5 WOE: Atkins Start Date: 3/05	to you. What an incredibly hard but life changing decision. But if you know in in your heart that it was right...then it was right for him too! You have a lot of courage, and I admire you for sticking to your gut feeling about this. You and your ex will go on to be happy and you sound like an amazing person! Hang in there!!!

01-18-2007, 08:28 PM	#20
maya-twinkles Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: northern Wisconsin Posts: 226 Gallery: maya-twinkles Stats: old stats -220/167...new stats 205/195/170 WOE: lo carb Start Date: sept 1 2003/dec. 27, 2006	I agree-YOU ARE SO STRONG- and beautiful too! don't blow it! you can do whatever you put you mind to! My DD cancelled her wedding 2 1/2 months before it,and she also did greive for a while-it is normal! She did find a man worthy of her and is now happily married to him.....and her ex? he had problems...and still does. It is sad, but you need to do what is best for you. Good luck!

01-18-2007, 08:34 PM	#21
dietsprite Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Florida Posts: 882 Gallery: dietsprite Stats: 249/146/145 WOE: scarsdale medical diet Start Date: May 27, 2003

01-18-2007, 10:04 PM	#22
nocandyforme Junior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 29 Gallery: nocandyforme Stats: 139/135/112 - 5'4 1/2" WOE: moderate carbs Start Date: restart 1/3/2007 (10/2001)	That decision could not have been easy, but eating off-plan will only discourage you. Now is the time to pamper yourself, which is to carefully watch what you eat to stay on plan. I have a feeling you will use this as a springboard to achieve all that you set out to do.

01-18-2007, 10:16 PM	#23
CarolynF Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Kansas Posts: 20,522 Gallery: CarolynF Stats: 195/150/139 WOE: Eat Fat, Get Thin/I Can Make You Thin Start Date: January 2001	You are SOOOOO wise to call off the wedding. Being married to someone who is not supportive would be a nightmare. I heard on the radio one time a Christian counselor said as he was talking to a bunch of single folks.."The person you marry can completely take over your life and make it hell or heaven, so be sure to marry the right person"..Obviously, you did the right thing.. It's tough, but better now than later..If you like Dr. Phil..he has a book out about Love Relationships that is really good... God will get you through it and guide you to the right man for you..in his perfect timing.

01-19-2007, 03:31 AM	#24
Smythe MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: New York Posts: 2,727 Gallery: Smythe Stats: here we go again 10/8/4-6 WOE: Atkins Start Date: August 2004 Goal Nov 2005 reinducting 1/2008

01-19-2007, 07:32 AM	#25
annamazing Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 917 Gallery: annamazing Start Date: JAN 1, 2009	ARZU, Congrats on your courage. Better to break up now than to go through the pain if divorce.

01-19-2007, 07:45 AM	#26
Maerow Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Oregon Posts: 208 Gallery: Maerow Stats: 185/129/130 WOE: Atkins Start Date: July 2005	Oh wow, I feel for you. Marriage is so huge, and so miserable to get out of, it was very wise of you to back out now if he was not the right one. /hugs

01-19-2007, 08:33 AM	#27
Weedydidi Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: May 2003 Location: Columbus Posts: 7,696 Gallery: Weedydidi WOE: Atkins OWL Start Date: April 22, 2003	I don't know ANYONE (myself included) who ended an engagement who ever regretted it. Congratulations! You deserve the best! And I know how much it hurts.

01-19-2007, 10:16 AM	#29
Jenadlite Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: San Jose, CA Posts: 471 Gallery: Jenadlite Stats: 189.5/158(1st goal, yay!!)/150 new goal WOE: Lowcarb Start Date: Nov 10, 2006	Congrats on being strong and making the right decision for yourself. You should be very proud. This too shall pass.