Tramatic Experience. I guess I am looking for a little shamless support?

amygirl_011 · 12-08-2006, 04:03 PM

Hey all. I have never really posted a thread such as this before, but I reaching out for some comforting words. I understand if this gets moved, because it does not relate to low carb in anyway.
A good friend of mine killed himself last night. He threw himself off of a bluff here at school. I was on a search team with the police this morning when my party found the body. He was a good friend of mine, and I am taking this hard. As in many suicide cases, this came as a total shock to us all. He was the nicest, smartest, and social young man I have ever met. I guess I am looking for a little advice or support. I have never been in a situation like this before.
Here is a link to the incident:
http://kstp.com/article/stories/S20541.html?cat=1 (Horrible picture of him)

And this is a picture that was recently taken of him, me on the right.

Thanks for taking time to look at this.

BuckeyeLori · 12-08-2006, 04:21 PM

Amy . . . hugs to you. How horrible to have to experience this not only as his friend, but as a member of the search team. I work with high school students, and have had a couple commit suicide over the years. It's one of the hardest situations to grieve through. Let yourself experience all the emotions, and reach out to others for help. Look for ways to turn your hurt, anger and sadness into a positive force . . . but also take time for you. Thoughts and prayers to you, your friends and his family.

AllieCat0817 · 12-08-2006, 04:28 PM

Aw he was a cutie. I am VERY sorry for your loss. Very sorry. Be comforted.

gavinsmom · 12-08-2006, 04:39 PM

I am so sorry. I really dont have any advice for you, because no matter what I say it isnt going to take away the hurt. Just know that you are not alone, maybe get together with other friends that love him as well, and help each other get through this. ONce again I am so sorry....

Nicolope · 12-08-2006, 04:48 PM

Prayers for you and your friends, and for his family. There are just no adequate words.

tyler43836 · 12-08-2006, 04:50 PM

So sorry for your loss.

auntiem59 · 12-08-2006, 04:52 PM

I'm so sorry for you.

It's horribly to lose a friend in the first place, but losing someone to suicide makes it especially hard. Many hugs to you.

CaroleKI61 · 12-08-2006, 04:57 PM

Awwwwwwwwwww Dear I'm sooooooooooooooo sorry, it is always so difficult when a friend chooses to take their own life. we always wonder if we could have helped to prevent it somehow, unfortunatly something real or imaginary made the dear soul's life unbearable. Let's pray for his dear soul, and for the family and friends who are suffering right now. ((((((((hugs))))))))) to you sweetheart this has been a terrible event for you. Try to find comfort with your friends who are sharing your shock, disbelief, and grief. God rest his precious soul, Love Carole

Samantha42 · 12-08-2006, 06:09 PM

I am so sorry to hear of your loss

The only thing I can suggest is that you surround yourself by people you love that can comfort you during this hard time.

AsmallerME · 12-08-2006, 06:10 PM

I'm so sorry too. Stuff likes this makes me so sad because sometimes it's so hard to know that they were troubled.

TexasKitKat · 12-08-2006, 06:15 PM

My heart goes out to you and your friends. Prayers for peace for you and his family!

Purrgirl · 12-08-2006, 06:55 PM

How awful. I'm sorry for your loss.

momov2boys · 12-08-2006, 07:12 PM

How horrible.
I am so sorry for your loss, Amy.

I will keep special thoughts & prayers going out to you, his family and his friends.

daisymaiz · 12-08-2006, 07:15 PM

Remember the good times and all the things you loved about him. Other than that I have no advice-just very very sorry for your loss

momacat · 12-08-2006, 07:42 PM

Charski · 12-08-2006, 08:05 PM

It is always such a tragedy when someone finds their life so painful that they don't see any other way out...I'm so sorry you've lost your friend and that you have this pain in your life!

Please know there are many out here thinking of you and your friend's family at this time....and please come here if you need to "talk it out" or need support!

WildflowerMama · 12-08-2006, 08:47 PM

Oh that is so sad! My deepest condolences to his family and friends.

court613 · 12-08-2006, 08:52 PM

Oh, Amy, I'm so sorry. Unfortunately my family has been affected by suicide also. I know you must be feeling very sad and confused. It's so hard for us to try to understand. Take care of yourself.

amygirl_011 · 12-08-2006, 09:15 PM

Wow, thank you so much. This is really touching that you all care so much. I am thankful for all your wise and heartfelt words.
There were about 20 of us on the search team with the police, that have been in and out of school counseling sessions all day. We all gathered together at our friends house after and just were together. While we were there, however, the police called one of his roommates and said that his body is being shipped to St. Paul because they think that foul play may be involved.
Again, thank you for your support. This is a realy reality check, and a lesson that life is so precious. I posted this to get some support, but also as a little reminder to us all that life is the most precious gift that there is.

Groovycadreamr · 12-08-2006, 09:24 PM

Sorry to hear of the great loss to all his family and friends.

Kattbelly · 12-09-2006, 01:59 AM

I'm so sorry dear. It's good you have a good group of friends to support one another. I hope you can all find peace and comfort together.

London · 12-09-2006, 04:40 AM

Shirlgirl · 12-09-2006, 05:59 AM

so sorry for your loss

PhillyDude · 12-09-2006, 08:02 AM

telemetrynurse · 12-09-2006, 09:27 AM

I'm praying for you and your friend's family to find comfort and solace when dealing with such a terrible loss.

Kimmie1178 · 12-09-2006, 02:06 PM

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss.

lgna70 · 12-10-2006, 12:41 AM

You and your friend are in my prayers, I am sorry for your loss. Take care.

Groovycadreamr · 12-10-2006, 12:19 PM

Any updated on his death. Did they determind his cause of death?

Dede66 · 12-10-2006, 02:09 PM

I am so sorry for your pain and so sorry for him , he was so handsome, soulfull eyes.
My sister killed herself almost a year ago, Dec. 18, 05. My mother killed herself when she was 35, I was 18. I never thought my sister would follow her path. Never thought it would happen twice in my life time. I have fought my own demons but always found reasons to stay, and struggle through it, although I can understand why a person does it.
I know when I felt that bad,,,,,, I was very sick, so very physically depressed , chemicals all out of whack and honestly not myself, in a deep dark place. Wanting to end it , is the only way a person in that mind set can get relief. That is how they think , to the best of my knowledge and trying to figure this whole suicide thing out.
Yet,,,,,,,,there are soo many things I dont' understand, so many questions I would love to know.
I think my sister , did not plan this well in advance , I think the 2 beers she had was enough to put her anorexic body chemistry even more out of whack, add to that a cheating , abusive husband and it was a toxic combination.

If it had been a workday instead of a Sunday, who knows, maybe she would not have done it. I think for my sister it was an impulse choice.

Remember the good times you had, and don't blame yourself, as I have both in my Mom and sister's suicides.....even thou I know I did the best I could, I still wish I had done more, but I know I went the extra mile and could not have done more. It was a personal choice they made and I try to figure it out but have to live with not understanding fully why.
I wish for you peace and comfort, and just as I wish for my sister , I wish for your friend, that they are in a better place , free from their pain.

12-08-2006, 04:03 PM	#1
amygirl_011 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Minnesota Posts: 969 Gallery: amygirl_011 Stats: 155/142.5/127 5"5	Tramatic Experience. I guess I am looking for a little shamless support? Hey all. I have never really posted a thread such as this before, but I reaching out for some comforting words. I understand if this gets moved, because it does not relate to low carb in anyway. A good friend of mine killed himself last night. He threw himself off of a bluff here at school. I was on a search team with the police this morning when my party found the body. He was a good friend of mine, and I am taking this hard. As in many suicide cases, this came as a total shock to us all. He was the nicest, smartest, and social young man I have ever met. I guess I am looking for a little advice or support. I have never been in a situation like this before. Here is a link to the incident: http://kstp.com/article/stories/S20541.html?cat=1 (Horrible picture of him) And this is a picture that was recently taken of him, me on the right. Thanks for taking time to look at this. __________________ MEXICO! Te amo, muy muy padrisimo!

12-10-2006, 02:09 PM	#29
Dede66 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 182 Gallery: Dede66 Stats: 159/158/125 WOE: low carb Start Date: 6/12/06	I am so sorry for your pain and so sorry for him , he was so handsome, soulfull eyes. My sister killed herself almost a year ago, Dec. 18, 05. My mother killed herself when she was 35, I was 18. I never thought my sister would follow her path. Never thought it would happen twice in my life time. I have fought my own demons but always found reasons to stay, and struggle through it, although I can understand why a person does it. I know when I felt that bad,,,,,, I was very sick, so very physically depressed , chemicals all out of whack and honestly not myself, in a deep dark place. Wanting to end it , is the only way a person in that mind set can get relief. That is how they think , to the best of my knowledge and trying to figure this whole suicide thing out. Yet,,,,,,,,there are soo many things I dont' understand, so many questions I would love to know. I think my sister , did not plan this well in advance , I think the 2 beers she had was enough to put her anorexic body chemistry even more out of whack, add to that a cheating , abusive husband and it was a toxic combination. If it had been a workday instead of a Sunday, who knows, maybe she would not have done it. I think for my sister it was an impulse choice. Remember the good times you had, and don't blame yourself, as I have both in my Mom and sister's suicides.....even thou I know I did the best I could, I still wish I had done more, but I know I went the extra mile and could not have done more. It was a personal choice they made and I try to figure it out but have to live with not understanding fully why. I wish for you peace and comfort, and just as I wish for my sister , I wish for your friend, that they are in a better place , free from their pain. __________________ Stats: Current 158lbs, 5'3, Goal- 130lbs

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12-08-2006, 04:21 PM	#2
BuckeyeLori Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Central Ohio Posts: 596 Gallery: BuckeyeLori Stats: 225/211/170 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: July 28, 2008	Amy . . . hugs to you. How horrible to have to experience this not only as his friend, but as a member of the search team. I work with high school students, and have had a couple commit suicide over the years. It's one of the hardest situations to grieve through. Let yourself experience all the emotions, and reach out to others for help. Look for ways to turn your hurt, anger and sadness into a positive force . . . but also take time for you. Thoughts and prayers to you, your friends and his family.

12-08-2006, 04:28 PM	#3
AllieCat0817 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Southeastern Coastal SC Posts: 11,974 Gallery: AllieCat0817 Stats: 213.5/133.5/140 WOE: Atkins Maintenance Start Date: 5/23/03	Aw he was a cutie. I am VERY sorry for your loss. Very sorry. Be comforted.

12-08-2006, 04:39 PM	#4
gavinsmom MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Houston, Tx Posts: 2,351 Gallery: gavinsmom Stats: 215/199/140 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: 9/22/08	I am so sorry. I really dont have any advice for you, because no matter what I say it isnt going to take away the hurt. Just know that you are not alone, maybe get together with other friends that love him as well, and help each other get through this. ONce again I am so sorry....

12-08-2006, 04:48 PM	#5
Nicolope Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 455 Gallery: Nicolope Stats: 200/185/150 WOE: Atkins Start Date: June 2003 294/150, restart 9/22/08	Prayers for you and your friends, and for his family. There are just no adequate words.

12-08-2006, 04:50 PM	#6
tyler43836 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: New York, NY Posts: 11,484 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: tyler43836 Stats: ugh WOE: Atkins Start Date: Restart 3/31/08	So sorry for your loss.

12-08-2006, 04:52 PM	#7
auntiem59 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Where everything is big...including my butt! Posts: 10,654 Gallery: auntiem59 WOE: Let me count the ways.. Start Date: Every day at 8:00 a.m. sharp!	I'm so sorry for you. It's horribly to lose a friend in the first place, but losing someone to suicide makes it especially hard. Many hugs to you.

12-08-2006, 04:57 PM	#8
CaroleKI61 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada Posts: 14,719 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: CaroleKI61 Stats: 414/now 280 /goal weight 199 WOE: Dr. Atkins- I love you! Start Date: February 14 2003	Awwwwwwwwwww Dear I'm sooooooooooooooo sorry, it is always so difficult when a friend chooses to take their own life. we always wonder if we could have helped to prevent it somehow, unfortunatly something real or imaginary made the dear soul's life unbearable. Let's pray for his dear soul, and for the family and friends who are suffering right now. ((((((((hugs))))))))) to you sweetheart this has been a terrible event for you. Try to find comfort with your friends who are sharing your shock, disbelief, and grief. God rest his precious soul, Love Carole

12-08-2006, 06:09 PM	#9
Samantha42 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Illinois Posts: 2,599 Gallery: Samantha42 Stats: 205/189.6/150 5'5" 25y/o WOE: LC	I am so sorry to hear of your loss The only thing I can suggest is that you surround yourself by people you love that can comfort you during this hard time.

12-08-2006, 06:10 PM	#10
AsmallerME MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 2,412 Gallery: AsmallerME Stats: 286/243/170 WOE: JC Start Date: too many times	I'm so sorry too. Stuff likes this makes me so sad because sometimes it's so hard to know that they were troubled.

12-08-2006, 06:15 PM	#11
TexasKitKat Senior LCF Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 734 Gallery: TexasKitKat WOE: LC for Type 2 diabetes Start Date: June 2006	My heart goes out to you and your friends. Prayers for peace for you and his family!

12-08-2006, 07:42 PM	#15
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12-08-2006, 06:55 PM	#12
Purrgirl Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Michigan Posts: 5,301 Gallery: Purrgirl Stats: 146/128 5'6	How awful. I'm sorry for your loss.

12-08-2006, 07:12 PM	#13
momov2boys Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Maryland Posts: 3,594 Gallery: momov2boys Stats: 122/107 WOE: LC/Intuitive Eating	How horrible. I am so sorry for your loss, Amy. I will keep special thoughts & prayers going out to you, his family and his friends.

12-08-2006, 07:15 PM	#14
daisymaiz MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Midwest Posts: 1,375 Gallery: daisymaiz Stats: pregnant! WOE: Atkins maintenance, for now Start Date: will start again after baby!	Remember the good times and all the things you loved about him. Other than that I have no advice-just very very sorry for your loss

12-08-2006, 08:05 PM	#16
Charski Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Central Coastal CA Posts: 10,673 Gallery: Charski Stats: 174 (WW)/130/150 goal 5'5" 55 years young WOE: ATKINS! now and always.... Start Date: 5/03	It is always such a tragedy when someone finds their life so painful that they don't see any other way out...I'm so sorry you've lost your friend and that you have this pain in your life! Please know there are many out here thinking of you and your friend's family at this time....and please come here if you need to "talk it out" or need support!

12-08-2006, 08:47 PM	#17
WildflowerMama Senior LCF Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Desperate for Fall Posts: 809 Gallery: WildflowerMama Stats: 185.5/170.6/140 Start Date: Nov 2006	Oh that is so sad! My deepest condolences to his family and friends.

12-08-2006, 08:52 PM	#18
court613 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 1,636 Gallery: court613	Oh, Amy, I'm so sorry. Unfortunately my family has been affected by suicide also. I know you must be feeling very sad and confused. It's so hard for us to try to understand. Take care of yourself.

12-08-2006, 09:15 PM	#19
amygirl_011 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Minnesota Posts: 969 Gallery: amygirl_011 Stats: 155/142.5/127 5"5	Wow, thank you so much. This is really touching that you all care so much. I am thankful for all your wise and heartfelt words. There were about 20 of us on the search team with the police, that have been in and out of school counseling sessions all day. We all gathered together at our friends house after and just were together. While we were there, however, the police called one of his roommates and said that his body is being shipped to St. Paul because they think that foul play may be involved. Again, thank you for your support. This is a realy reality check, and a lesson that life is so precious. I posted this to get some support, but also as a little reminder to us all that life is the most precious gift that there is.

12-08-2006, 09:24 PM	#20
Groovycadreamr Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: a really BIG cocoon! Posts: 4,723 Gallery: Groovycadreamr Stats: 258.7/249.8/130 WOE: Low Carbin' It Start Date: OH, No not again!!!	Sorry to hear of the great loss to all his family and friends.

12-09-2006, 01:59 AM	#21
Kattbelly Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: San Fran Posts: 910 Gallery: Kattbelly	I'm so sorry dear. It's good you have a good group of friends to support one another. I hope you can all find peace and comfort together.

12-09-2006, 04:40 AM	#22
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12-09-2006, 05:59 AM	#23
Shirlgirl MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Missouri Posts: 1,913 Gallery: Shirlgirl Stats: 212/185/150 WOE: ATKINS-K I S S Start Date: 1/1/09	so sorry for your loss

12-09-2006, 08:02 AM	#24
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12-09-2006, 09:27 AM	#25
telemetrynurse MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 2,215 Blog Entries: 8 Gallery: telemetrynurse Stats: 233/149/140 WOE: atkin's induction (72 version)	I'm praying for you and your friend's family to find comfort and solace when dealing with such a terrible loss.

12-09-2006, 02:06 PM	#26
Kimmie1178 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 502 Gallery: Kimmie1178 Stats: 268.5/238/150 Start Date: 9/4/07	I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss.

12-10-2006, 12:41 AM	#27
lgna70 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Seattle Posts: 119 Gallery: lgna70 Stats: 205/185/150 WOE: low carb Start Date: 2003	You and your friend are in my prayers, I am sorry for your loss. Take care.

12-10-2006, 12:19 PM	#28
Groovycadreamr Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: a really BIG cocoon! Posts: 4,723 Gallery: Groovycadreamr Stats: 258.7/249.8/130 WOE: Low Carbin' It Start Date: OH, No not again!!!	Any updated on his death. Did they determind his cause of death?