Disturbing/kinda sad story

skinhealth · 12-07-2006, 05:36 PM

So I have an 83 yo housemate (I'm a full-time grad student in an expensive resort town). We rarely ever talk because our schedules are so different.

However I was talking to her (let's call her Mary) today and she was telling me a little about her childhood & how she had a thyroid problem and was always overweight (she lost a lot of weight after her 6th child & was slim from then on).

So she was telling me that when she was about 5 or 6 - before she started school (she grew up on a ranch) - the doctor told her mother that because Mary was so overweight that'd be best she get used to the inevetible teasing from her future classmates by having her brothers tease her about her weight. This way I guess he reasoned it wouldn't be so traumatic?

So to this day - 77 years later - she still has a complex. She's very trim but those names still are in her head. Granted she does have an amazing, very kind & upbeat attitude - you'd never know.

Just had to share - I'm just slightly disturbed by this story

Doesn't sound like a very well thought out plan to me.

LovesDivine · 12-07-2006, 05:43 PM

That was in a rural town (I assume since she gew up on a ranch) and 77 to 78 years ago. Different mentality.

Can you imagine it happening now? No way. Sheesh, my soon 2 be 9 yr old SS told a kid he smelled (cuz the kid was passing gas - medical condition we are told) and SS was sent to the office and written up for bullying.

Charski · 12-07-2006, 05:44 PM

That was before the current era of political correctness - probably the best advice they had available at the time - poor thing!

susume · 12-07-2006, 05:56 PM

Yes those were the times, sad as they were. They did not know any better.

Cathlena · 12-08-2006, 06:22 AM

I don't agree with that at all..."They didn't know any better." What were they, STUPID?? I am sure they knew what it was like being called names. It was 1929..it wasn't prehistoric times! There were Educated People among the living!

I would have given her a Big Hug and told her how great of a person she was...I bet she would have LOVED that, and would have felt that someone knew and acknowledged that what had happened was wrong.

beachlvr58 · 12-08-2006, 07:56 AM

LT,

I'm sorry if someone is passing gas next to me medical condition or not..i'm saying something..that is so rude go elsewhere to do that..otherwise the actual poster...that is horrible that a doc would say that.

LovesDivine · 12-08-2006, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by beachlvr58

LT,

I'm sorry if someone is passing gas next to me medical condition or not..i'm saying something..that is so rude go elsewhere to do that..

I guess they expect a very young 9 year old boy to say, please go somewhere else and do that....

Not!! None of us can believe they called that bullying. Sometimes I think the pendulum has swung a bit too far to the side of caution. They are kids!

susume · 12-08-2006, 11:53 AM

Okay folks, 77 years later and guess what - I still have peeps telling me because my Mom was fat that I probably will always have a problem. Boy we sure have prgressed, not.

Cathlena · 12-08-2006, 02:13 PM

How did we get from the original post to a story about a 9 your old boy with a gas problem?

If that was directed to my comment above...that is not being rude...it is being truthful...I think too many people have leaned so far left that they make excuses for the ones who are at fault...

Emotional abuse is not Okay...and that is exactly what it was!

susume · 12-08-2006, 03:20 PM

People were as educated then as 50 years from now they will say we too were educated and they will be sorry that we were not educated enough, as in : "we did the best we could with what we had." Boy we have grown and boy do we have a long way to go. Most of us leave a trail of tears. Just my opinion however.

12-07-2006, 05:36 PM	#1
skinhealth Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Santa Cruz, CA Posts: 575 Gallery: skinhealth Stats: sz 16/sz 10/sz 6-8; 5'8, med. frame WOE: low carb/whole foods/organic/Weston A. Price Start Date: re-started Thanksgiving 2007	Disturbing/kinda sad story So I have an 83 yo housemate (I'm a full-time grad student in an expensive resort town). We rarely ever talk because our schedules are so different. However I was talking to her (let's call her Mary) today and she was telling me a little about her childhood & how she had a thyroid problem and was always overweight (she lost a lot of weight after her 6th child & was slim from then on). So she was telling me that when she was about 5 or 6 - before she started school (she grew up on a ranch) - the doctor told her mother that because Mary was so overweight that'd be best she *get used to the inevetible teasing from her future classmates by having her brothers tease her about her weight*. This way I guess he reasoned it wouldn't be so traumatic? So to this day - 77 years later - she still has a complex. She's very trim but those names still are in her head. Granted she does have an amazing, very kind & upbeat attitude - you'd never know. Just had to share - I'm just slightly disturbed by this story Doesn't sound like a very well thought out plan to me.

12-08-2006, 06:22 AM	#5
Cathlena Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Memphis, TN Posts: 434 Gallery: Cathlena Stats: 10/06: 195 CW: 185 GW: 135 WOE: Low Carb, No Grain, No Dairy (some cheese ok) Start Date: 1/1/07	I don't agree with that at all..."They didn't know any better." What were they, STUPID?? I am sure they knew what it was like being called names. It was 1929..it wasn't prehistoric times! There were Educated People among the living! I would have given her a Big Hug and told her how great of a person she was...I bet she would have LOVED that, and would have felt that someone knew and acknowledged that what had happened was wrong. Last edited by Cathlena : 12-08-2006 at 06:25 AM.

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12-07-2006, 05:43 PM	#2
LovesDivine MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Tampa Posts: 2,525 Gallery: LovesDivine Stats: 165/164/130 WOE: Low carb Start Date: 12/23/08 restart	That was in a rural town (I assume since she gew up on a ranch) and 77 to 78 years ago. Different mentality. Can you imagine it happening now? No way. Sheesh, my soon 2 be 9 yr old SS told a kid he smelled (cuz the kid was passing gas - medical condition we are told) and SS was sent to the office and written up for bullying.

12-07-2006, 05:44 PM	#3
Charski Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Central Coastal CA Posts: 10,673 Gallery: Charski Stats: 174 (WW)/130/150 goal 5'5" 55 years young WOE: ATKINS! now and always.... Start Date: 5/03	That was before the current era of political correctness - probably the best advice they had available at the time - poor thing!

12-07-2006, 05:56 PM	#4
susume MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: small town in Northern MN Posts: 1,052 Gallery: susume Stats: 140/135/120 64yr.old 4'10" WOE: Atkins Start Date: Well I just keep starting over.	Yes those were the times, sad as they were. They did not know any better.

12-08-2006, 07:56 AM	#6
beachlvr58 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: PA Posts: 1,516 Gallery: beachlvr58 WOE: Low Carbing Start Date: 1/23/06	LT, I'm sorry if someone is passing gas next to me medical condition or not..i'm saying something..that is so rude go elsewhere to do that..otherwise the actual poster...that is horrible that a doc would say that.

12-08-2006, 11:53 AM	#8
susume MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: small town in Northern MN Posts: 1,052 Gallery: susume Stats: 140/135/120 64yr.old 4'10" WOE: Atkins Start Date: Well I just keep starting over.	Okay folks, 77 years later and guess what - I still have peeps telling me because my Mom was fat that I probably will always have a problem. Boy we sure have prgressed, not.

12-08-2006, 02:13 PM	#9
Cathlena Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Memphis, TN Posts: 434 Gallery: Cathlena Stats: 10/06: 195 CW: 185 GW: 135 WOE: Low Carb, No Grain, No Dairy (some cheese ok) Start Date: 1/1/07	How did we get from the original post to a story about a 9 your old boy with a gas problem? If that was directed to my comment above...that is not being rude...it is being truthful...I think too many people have leaned so far left that they make excuses for the ones who are at fault... Emotional abuse is not Okay...and that is exactly what it was!

12-08-2006, 03:20 PM	#10
susume MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: small town in Northern MN Posts: 1,052 Gallery: susume Stats: 140/135/120 64yr.old 4'10" WOE: Atkins Start Date: Well I just keep starting over.	People were as educated then as 50 years from now they will say we too were educated and they will be sorry that we were not educated enough, as in : "we did the best we could with what we had." Boy we have grown and boy do we have a long way to go. Most of us leave a trail of tears. Just my opinion however.