Is your husband not attracted to you anymore due to your current size?

soon2beskinny2 · 10-20-2006, 10:08 PM

He doesn't even want to have sex with me anymore until I lose some weight. That's the situation I'm in, and it really sucks.

I can't say that I blame him. If I were a guy, I wouldn't find my body attractive at all either right now. I can't even stand seeing my naked body in the mirror lately! I've got to get my butt in gear and start losing weight again!! Not only for him, but for me too...

Marlee · 10-20-2006, 10:12 PM

I can't even think of what I'd want someone to say to me if someone had hurt me like that. I just want you to know that I'll bet you're really beautiful and some men need punches in the nose.

HAB · 10-20-2006, 10:15 PM

In the interest of not getting my hiney (sp?) booted off here I'm not going to say what I think of a man that would say something like this to his wife. What happened to for better or worse?

to you. Looks aren't everything honey.

soon2beskinny2 · 10-20-2006, 10:17 PM

Thanks Marlee. I know it's not nice of him to say. However, I should mention that he works out alot and watches what he eats so while not "perfect", overall he's in great shape. So, I do think that he deserves to have a wife that is also in great shape. Also, about 4 or 5 years ago, I was a size 6 and due to A LOT of stressful events that have happened in my life the past few years, I gradually put on weight until I reached my current size which is an 18. So, in a way I do think that it's alot to expect for a guy to be content with his wife going from in his words a "hot" size 6 to a size 18. I start various diets, and then I just can't seem to stick to them. I don't know what my problem is.

Denise85 · 10-20-2006, 10:25 PM

Honesty, if my husband was like that then he could kiss my butt good bye. That's not true love to me. My dh loved me when I got to 230 after having our first dd and he loves me now. Nothing changed between us except we've grown closer together. My dh also works out a lot and is training for a triathalon. He's very fit and met me when I was a size 14 and he was at the peak of his athleticism. Just because he's fit it doesn't mean he should have a fit wife. All types of people go well together. The way it sounds uor husband doesn't deserve anything but a boot in the arse. Sorry, JMHO.

Chantel · 10-20-2006, 10:32 PM

Soon,
my DH was interested when I was heavy and when I am lean - heck I got preggy when I was heavy.

What a shame your husband cannot embrace the beauty you are.

I wish you luck in losing your weight. I know you must be hurting.

Laprettygurl · 10-20-2006, 10:45 PM

Yeah, that does suck.

I would probably move on if that were the case. I want someone who loves me for me.

My ex was the other way...he was more interested when I was heavy....just one of the reasons we're not together anymore.

Have you talked this over with your hubby? does he realize how much it hurts to hear things like that?

Jennyl · 10-20-2006, 11:21 PM

I know how hard it is to be in that situation. I once had a relationship end because of my weight gain....it hurt. I'm sure if we'd been married it would have put a lot of stress on the marriage. He did marry you for better or for worse, if you had developed some kind of illness or had some kind of accident it's not like he would leave you because of that. Maybe he thinks that because it's something that you are able to control that you should change it...I'm not saying I agree with this but it could be his reasoning.

makeupmom · 10-20-2006, 11:25 PM

loves me...not my size big or little, not my body parts pre-during-or post pregnancy, but the whole package of soul, body and mind.....

I am about 45 pounds heavier than I was when we married twenty two years ago

he is still slim, but it is not why I love him..

I am sorry your husband is having problems with the outward change in you

you are still the same person inside....albeit a little down maybe because of the stresses that life has brought you

I wish you the success with your weight loss

Hugs

Margot

emeraldskye · 10-20-2006, 11:29 PM

Wow, I feel for you.

That just seems so wrong to me. Like we don't have enough pressure from general society to be thin but to get shafted from our so's is blatant cruelety.

I guess good revenge would be to lose the weight, look hot and deny him!!

With-holding sex to me is not a great motivator. Tell him it would help you more if he was compassionate and loving and hey sex is a good calorie burner.

Purple Sage · 10-20-2006, 11:38 PM

I never once felt like my DH didn't love me and I don't think the OP is saying that either. However, I could sense that my DH was not attracted to me at 250...afterall ,when he married me I was 130 and then a fat person took over my body, that was not what he married.

He is very happy now! the other day he looked at me and said "you look just like the girl I married" and then I knew how much it had hurt him that I had gained so much weight.

He is very thin and fit and always has been. It was not reasonable for me to expect him to look at me and still see me as beautiful when I was "twice" the girl he married. At the time I was hurt by it but really, now I can see it reasonably and I see now why we didn't have relations much then...he was not very attracted to me and I was ashamed of my size. Things are just better now.

I tried numerous diets too and always failed. It was not until I accepted LC as a way of life and changed my eating habits forever and realized it was not a diet, it was the way I would eat for LIFE! that I was able to overcome that diet battle. You can do it if you just commit! and DON"T cheat! Some will tell you it is okay but trust me, if you want to be really successful and succeed quickly you will not cheat! Just ask the ones that have lost weight fast and kept it off!

Jenna07 · 10-20-2006, 11:50 PM

Are you happy with him? Besides what he told you about sex?

Sometimes we gain weight and keep it on as a "beard" to why we are really unhappy.

Just something to think about...I know nothing about your relationship.

scott123 · 10-21-2006, 12:30 AM

Your weight/size may not be the crux of the problem. He may just be using your weight as a way of avoiding a deeper/more complicated issue.

GetFitMom · 10-21-2006, 04:14 AM

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Originally Posted by soon2beskinny2

He doesn't even want to have sex with me anymore until I lose some weight.

So what's he doing in the meantime? Practicing celibacy until his wife loses the weight?

I'm sorry but I agree with Scott123 - there is a deeper, more complicated issue than your weight.

Agee · 10-21-2006, 04:56 AM

Hmmmm....
My dh has been interested in me fatter and leaner and of course everyone is different...but I tend to agree with what everyone else is saying that it may be something else. I mean, he's a man, right?
I do know that when I've been depressed I have been much less interested and so has my husband in the rare periods when he's been low. Could he have something like that going on? It doesn't just have to be some kind of relationship problem...
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Georgia Boy · 10-21-2006, 05:06 AM

Take it from a man there are deeper issues.Although weight does affect how attractive a person is when there is a bond of mind and soul you still will want intamacy with the one you love.

elyseelyse · 10-21-2006, 05:12 AM

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Originally Posted by GetFitMom

So what's he doing in the meantime? Practicing celibacy until his wife loses the weight?I'm sorry but I agree with Scott123 - there is a deeper, more complicated issue than your weight.

She is correct. It sounds like maybe the weight excuse is being used to possibly take the place of other issues. Do you really think if you were to be a dead ringer for J-Lo (or the likes) tomorrow everything would be perfect?

AllieCat0817 · 10-21-2006, 05:33 AM

Even when I was large, I didn't have that problem. Hoping you guys can work through it!

vsch · 10-21-2006, 06:09 AM

Lose wieght for yourself, not him...get down to a hot size six and then tell him "no thanks".

gotogirl · 10-21-2006, 06:29 AM

Use your anger to fuel your motivation! He may just be trying to shock you into losing weight. He may be a jerk. Whatever, I'd use the way I felt about the situation and do something positive.
JMHO

mamagiff · 10-21-2006, 06:32 AM

Today is my 34th wedding anniversary and my DH has loved me and thought I was sexy at every size I have ever been. I have over 100 pounds to lose and the only time he has ever said anything is when it has been concern about my health. And even then, it was not weight related comments.

There has to be more to it if he's using your appearance as an excuse....

Canadianjanie · 10-21-2006, 06:34 AM

i have the opposite kinda husband... It is me that doesn't wanna get undressed unless all lights are out... He continually tells me.. he loves me..not my size... and he said he still gets turned on coz he does love me... The problem is with Me and he is so encouraging..I am so close to the onesies i can almost taste it....
My husband said..if all of a sudden he became large would I dump him.. of course i would not... i'm glad I have him to encourage me..my kids are the same.. go mom

..Hope all goes well for u...Janie

DonnaD40 · 10-21-2006, 06:35 AM

I dont know what to say. I feel really bad for you. I think your husband is an insenstive jerk. Think more nastyu thoughts but I dont want to hurt any feelings so I will just keep my mouth shut.

jojoshops · 10-21-2006, 07:12 AM

I am very blessed, my husband loves me at any size. He tells me all the time. He is supportive when I am trying to lose weight, but never pushes me or tells me Im heavy. He tells me Im beautiful all the time, seriously. He is in perfect shape, muscular, fit, never has an ounce of fat on him. He eats like a horse and doesnt gain a pound. We have been married for 20 years and I was a size 8 when I met him. Over twenty years, I ballooned up to a size 18, and I can honestly tell you that he has never once complained or commented on my size. Sounds to me like you need to boot your honey to the curb. He doesnt sound like he is even worthy of your love.

losin4good1980 · 10-21-2006, 07:13 AM

Your husband is a jerk. I wouldn't put up with that crap. I'll come and kick his butt for ya - how does that sound?

My hubby loves me the way I am.. and always will. He loves me for me - and not what my body looks like... of course I was already this size when we met but... he loves me and every little strech mark that comes with that.. LOL

You don't need that. It's hard enough to lose weight WITH the support of the ones you love... I couldn't imagine trying to lose weight to ALSO make my husband have sex with me...

You need a

Reminds me of a jerk on Dr. Phil one time.... hmmmm.. deeper issues with him (your hubby) I'm thinking... that's just my 2 cents....

Wasabell · 10-21-2006, 07:30 AM

Mine told me I was fat and unattractive at 140 lbs-size 10!

There's no accounting for taste (or tact, for that matter).

We're splitting up now.

elyseelyse · 10-21-2006, 07:36 AM

One more thing, how do you know what will please him physically when all is said and done? What happens if you feel you are at goal and he wants you thinner? That is a lot of pressure to deal with. My DH gave me a shove in the right direction (reminded me I am a mom now and can not die young of diabetes like the rest of my family and something along the lines of I will always love you, but you need to try and respect yourself more than a box of soft pretzals), but he NEVER implied he wanted nothing to do with me physically. To be honest, I think now he wishes I would lighten up on being such a food nazi. I get quite 8itchy at times and I know its just cause I still have food envy and its easy to take it out on him.

ColoradoSweethart64 · 10-21-2006, 08:04 AM

My DH has NEVEr said anything like that, but I have noticed with the 35 lbs gone that our personal life is alot happier and more active. And I'm not saying that's how he is, personally I think it's becaue I didn't like myself then and now I'm more confident, and I feel sexier and I think that shows. It's hard for others to love us when we don't love ourselves the way we are.

10-20-2006, 10:08 PM	#1
soon2beskinny2 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 131 Gallery: soon2beskinny2 Stats: 180/176.25/125.0 Start Date: May 19, 2008	Is your husband not attracted to you anymore due to your current size? He doesn't even want to have sex with me anymore until I lose some weight. That's the situation I'm in, and it really sucks. I can't say that I blame him. If I were a guy, I wouldn't find my body attractive at all either right now. I can't even stand seeing my naked body in the mirror lately! I've got to get my butt in gear and start losing weight again!! Not only for him, but for me too... Last edited by soon2beskinny2 : 10-20-2006 at 10:09 PM.

10-20-2006, 10:25 PM	#5
Denise85 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Chicago burbs Posts: 21,978 Blog Entries: 11 Gallery: Denise85 Stats: 261/141/140-5'5" WOE: Dietician's plan	Honesty, if my husband was like that then he could kiss my butt good bye. That's not true love to me. My dh loved me when I got to 230 after having our first dd and he loves me now. Nothing changed between us except we've grown closer together. My dh also works out a lot and is training for a triathalon. He's very fit and met me when I was a size 14 and he was at the peak of his athleticism. Just because he's fit it doesn't mean he should have a fit wife. All types of people go well together. The way it sounds uor husband doesn't deserve anything but a boot in the arse. Sorry, JMHO. __________________ http://www.myspace.com/deniset85

10-20-2006, 11:25 PM	#9
makeupmom Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 150 Gallery: makeupmom	I am fortunate enough to be married to a man that loves me...not my size big or little, not my body parts pre-during-or post pregnancy, but the whole package of soul, body and mind..... I am about 45 pounds heavier than I was when we married twenty two years ago he is still slim, but it is not why I love him.. I am sorry your husband is having problems with the outward change in you you are still the same person inside....albeit a little down maybe because of the stresses that life has brought you I wish you the success with your weight loss Hugs Margot __________________ Beg. Lowcarb 8/1/05 HW170 /CW154/GW125, ', Age 45 :-). WOE vegetarian/rawfood/lower carb

10-20-2006, 11:38 PM	#11
Purple Sage Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 6,609 Gallery: Purple Sage Stats: 256/148/150 exercising now: 6-08, 159 WOE: Random, watcing calories and exercise Start Date: January 1, 2005	I never once felt like my DH didn't love me and I don't think the OP is saying that either. However, I could sense that my DH was not attracted to me at 250...afterall ,when he married me I was 130 and then a fat person took over my body, that was not what he married. He is very happy now! the other day he looked at me and said "you look just like the girl I married" and then I knew how much it had hurt him that I had gained so much weight. He is very thin and fit and always has been. It was not reasonable for me to expect him to look at me and still see me as beautiful when I was "twice" the girl he married. At the time I was hurt by it but really, now I can see it reasonably and I see now why we didn't have relations much then...he was not very attracted to me and I was ashamed of my size. Things are just better now. I tried numerous diets too and always failed. It was not until I accepted LC as a way of life and changed my eating habits forever and realized it was not a diet, it was the way I would eat for LIFE! that I was able to overcome that diet battle. You can do it if you just commit! and DON"T cheat! Some will tell you it is okay but trust me, if you want to be really successful and succeed quickly you will not cheat! Just ask the ones that have lost weight fast and kept it off! __________________ Christa insert creative signature here

10-21-2006, 06:34 AM	#22
Canadianjanie Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 355 Gallery: Canadianjanie Stats: 235/235/185 WOE: Atkins Induction Start Date: restart again august 27/08	i have the opposite kinda husband... It is me that doesn't wanna get undressed unless all lights are out... He continually tells me.. he loves me..not my size... and he said he still gets turned on coz he does love me... The problem is with Me and he is so encouraging..I am so close to the onesies i can almost taste it.... My husband said..if all of a sudden he became large would I dump him.. of course i would not... i'm glad I have him to encourage me..my kids are the same.. go mom ..Hope all goes well for u...Janie __________________ One meal at a time

10-20-2006, 10:12 PM	#2
Marlee Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: NY Posts: 4,791 Gallery: Marlee WOE: Atkins	I can't even think of what I'd want someone to say to me if someone had hurt me like that. I just want you to know that I'll bet you're really beautiful and some men need punches in the nose.

10-20-2006, 10:15 PM	#3
HAB MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Cocoa, FL. Posts: 2,866 Gallery: HAB Stats: 262/256/158 WOE: Atkins Start Date: 12/30/2008	In the interest of not getting my hiney (sp?) booted off here I'm not going to say what I think of a man that would say something like this to his wife. What happened to for better or worse? to you. Looks aren't everything honey.

10-20-2006, 10:17 PM	#4
soon2beskinny2 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 131 Gallery: soon2beskinny2 Stats: 180/176.25/125.0 Start Date: May 19, 2008	Thanks Marlee. I know it's not nice of him to say. However, I should mention that he works out alot and watches what he eats so while not "perfect", overall he's in great shape. So, I do think that he deserves to have a wife that is also in great shape. Also, about 4 or 5 years ago, I was a size 6 and due to A LOT of stressful events that have happened in my life the past few years, I gradually put on weight until I reached my current size which is an 18. So, in a way I do think that it's alot to expect for a guy to be content with his wife going from in his words a "hot" size 6 to a size 18. I start various diets, and then I just can't seem to stick to them. I don't know what my problem is.

10-20-2006, 10:32 PM	#6
Chantel Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 10,253 Gallery: Chantel Stats: 240/163/150ish WOE: A Mish Mosh WOE! Start Date: July 2000	Soon, my DH was interested when I was heavy and when I am lean - heck I got preggy when I was heavy. What a shame your husband cannot embrace the beauty you are. I wish you luck in losing your weight. I know you must be hurting.

10-20-2006, 10:45 PM	#7
Laprettygurl Mother of the year Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Not Alberta! Posts: 2,765 Gallery: Laprettygurl WOE: Atkins '72 Start Date: Jan 24, 2006	Yeah, that does suck. I would probably move on if that were the case. I want someone who loves me for me. My ex was the other way...he was more interested when I was heavy....just one of the reasons we're not together anymore. Have you talked this over with your hubby? does he realize how much it hurts to hear things like that?

10-20-2006, 11:21 PM	#8
Jennyl Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: calgary Posts: 24,146 Gallery: Jennyl Start Date: manana	I know how hard it is to be in that situation. I once had a relationship end because of my weight gain....it hurt. I'm sure if we'd been married it would have put a lot of stress on the marriage. He did marry you for better or for worse, if you had developed some kind of illness or had some kind of accident it's not like he would leave you because of that. Maybe he thinks that because it's something that you are able to control that you should change it...I'm not saying I agree with this but it could be his reasoning.

10-20-2006, 11:29 PM	#10
emeraldskye Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 3,380 Gallery: emeraldskye	Wow, I feel for you. That just seems so wrong to me. Like we don't have enough pressure from general society to be thin but to get shafted from our so's is blatant cruelety. I guess good revenge would be to lose the weight, look hot and deny him!! With-holding sex to me is not a great motivator. Tell him it would help you more if he was compassionate and loving and hey sex is a good calorie burner.

10-20-2006, 11:50 PM	#12
Jenna07 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Myrtle Beach Posts: 2,347 Gallery: Jenna07 WOE: Atkins	Are you happy with him? Besides what he told you about sex? Sometimes we gain weight and keep it on as a "beard" to why we are really unhappy. Just something to think about...I know nothing about your relationship.

10-21-2006, 12:30 AM	#13
scott123 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Morristown, NJ Posts: 2,141 Gallery: scott123 Stats: 245/220/205 WOE: Atkins Start Date: 2/6/04	Your weight/size may not be the crux of the problem. He may just be using your weight as a way of avoiding a deeper/more complicated issue.

10-21-2006, 04:56 AM	#15
Agee Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: NC Posts: 469 Gallery: Agee Stats: 180/171/135 WOE: LC Start Date: 8/25/08	Hmmmm.... My dh has been interested in me fatter and leaner and of course everyone is different...but I tend to agree with what everyone else is saying that it may be something else. I mean, he's a man, right? I do know that when I've been depressed I have been much less interested and so has my husband in the rare periods when he's been low. Could he have something like that going on? It doesn't just have to be some kind of relationship problem... A A

10-21-2006, 05:06 AM	#16
Georgia Boy Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: macon ga. Posts: 255 Gallery: Georgia Boy Stats: 282/205	Take it from a man there are deeper issues.Although weight does affect how attractive a person is when there is a bond of mind and soul you still will want intamacy with the one you love.

10-21-2006, 05:33 AM	#18
AllieCat0817 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Southeastern Coastal SC Posts: 11,974 Gallery: AllieCat0817 Stats: 213.5/133.5/140 WOE: Atkins Maintenance Start Date: 5/23/03	Even when I was large, I didn't have that problem. Hoping you guys can work through it!

10-21-2006, 06:09 AM	#19
vsch Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: MA Posts: 480 Gallery: vsch Stats: 195/144/135 age 48 5'4 WOE: Atkins Start Date: September 2006	Lose wieght for yourself, not him...get down to a hot size six and then tell him "no thanks".

10-21-2006, 06:29 AM	#20
gotogirl MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 2,142 Gallery: gotogirl Stats: 148/116/120 5'3" WOE: Atkins for Life Maintenance Start Date: August, 2005	Use your anger to fuel your motivation! He may just be trying to shock you into losing weight. He may be a jerk. Whatever, I'd use the way I felt about the situation and do something positive. JMHO

10-21-2006, 06:32 AM	#21
mamagiff Bike Tart Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: right down the road from Bong Recreation Area! Posts: 32,303 Gallery: mamagiff WOE: Switched to Atkins Start Date: 3/24/08	Today is my 34th wedding anniversary and my DH has loved me and thought I was sexy at every size I have ever been. I have over 100 pounds to lose and the only time he has ever said anything is when it has been concern about my health. And even then, it was not weight related comments. There has to be more to it if he's using your appearance as an excuse....

10-21-2006, 06:35 AM	#23
DonnaD40 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 629 Gallery: DonnaD40 Stats: 175/159.5/150 WOE: Atkins 72' Start Date: restart 3/02/07	I dont know what to say. I feel really bad for you. I think your husband is an insenstive jerk. Think more nastyu thoughts but I dont want to hurt any feelings so I will just keep my mouth shut.

10-21-2006, 07:12 AM	#24
jojoshops Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Wellington, Florida Posts: 218 Gallery: jojoshops Stats: 198/184/145 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: 02/16/2006	I am very blessed, my husband loves me at any size. He tells me all the time. He is supportive when I am trying to lose weight, but never pushes me or tells me Im heavy. He tells me Im beautiful all the time, seriously. He is in perfect shape, muscular, fit, never has an ounce of fat on him. He eats like a horse and doesnt gain a pound. We have been married for 20 years and I was a size 8 when I met him. Over twenty years, I ballooned up to a size 18, and I can honestly tell you that he has never once complained or commented on my size. Sounds to me like you need to boot your honey to the curb. He doesnt sound like he is even worthy of your love. __________________ Sally Jo Jogging is good for your heart, but it makes your feet mad! The older you get the harder it is to lose weight, because by then your body and your fat have become good friends. Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels.

10-21-2006, 07:13 AM	#25
losin4good1980 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,582 Gallery: losin4good1980	Your husband is a jerk. I wouldn't put up with that crap. I'll come and kick his butt for ya - how does that sound? My hubby loves me the way I am.. and always will. He loves me for me - and not what my body looks like... of course I was already this size when we met but... he loves me and every little strech mark that comes with that.. LOL You don't need that. It's hard enough to lose weight WITH the support of the ones you love... I couldn't imagine trying to lose weight to ALSO make my husband have sex with me... You need a Reminds me of a jerk on Dr. Phil one time.... hmmmm.. deeper issues with him (your hubby) I'm thinking... that's just my 2 cents....

10-21-2006, 07:30 AM	#26
Wasabell Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Great State of Texas Posts: 219 Gallery: Wasabell Stats: 5' 4" 154/123/125 WOE: Atkins Start Date: 8/1/2005	Mine told me I was fat and unattractive at 140 lbs-size 10! There's no accounting for taste (or tact, for that matter). We're splitting up now.

10-21-2006, 07:36 AM	#27
elyseelyse Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Just north of the Peoples Republic of Cambridge Posts: 12,884 Gallery: elyseelyse Stats: Still too much....grrrrrr.... WOE: Counting calories w/ a LC emphasis Start Date: Sept 2005	One more thing, how do you know what will please him physically when all is said and done? What happens if you feel you are at goal and he wants you thinner? That is a lot of pressure to deal with. My DH gave me a shove in the right direction (reminded me I am a mom now and can not die young of diabetes like the rest of my family and something along the lines of I will always love you, but you need to try and respect yourself more than a box of soft pretzals), but he NEVER implied he wanted nothing to do with me physically. To be honest, I think now he wishes I would lighten up on being such a food nazi. I get quite 8itchy at times and I know its just cause I still have food envy and its easy to take it out on him. __________________ "Nothings so loud as hearing when we lie, the truth is not kind"

10-21-2006, 08:04 AM	#28
ColoradoSweethart64 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Denver, CO Posts: 2,186 Gallery: ColoradoSweethart64 Stats: 250.8/250.8/175 WOE: Atkins Induction Start Date: June 28, 2007	My DH has NEVEr said anything like that, but I have noticed with the 35 lbs gone that our personal life is alot happier and more active. And I'm not saying that's how he is, personally I think it's becaue I didn't like myself then and now I'm more confident, and I feel sexier and I think that shows. It's hard for others to love us when we don't love ourselves the way we are.