I Had a Sad Moment :(

luckylychee · 10-17-2006, 11:29 AM

I was going through some of my pictures the other night, and my husband came over and saw a pic of me from my lowest weight, and his reaction was damn! you were hot!

you WERE hot!!

*sigh*

being pregnant i keep piling on the weight, even though it's monitored by my doctor and he said i'm not over gaining, i still feel fat and unattractive all over. i am torn between being excitted about the baby coming and upset that i've lost my old body.

just wanted to vent, and hopefully some of you mothers out there will share your experiences?

ToothPick · 10-17-2006, 11:31 AM

Sweetie just know when you have the baby you WILL get your figure back. You will be blessed with a beautiful little one and a great hot body...don't worry. Not all guys find prego women 'hot'...he still LOVES you which is what counts.

G

CaroleKI61 · 10-17-2006, 11:36 AM

Best wishes for you and yours, if he was thought you were hot before wait till he sees the even hotter curves after the blessed event........... Love Carole

Purple Sage · 10-17-2006, 11:57 AM

Just eat right after baby is born and you will be back to "hot" in no time at all....sometimes I get tired of DH thinking I am "hot" again....but then I remind myself that for 7+ years he lived with some other woman than the one he married, now he has her back! Of course he is happy!

Dreams · 10-17-2006, 12:02 PM

Men do have a way of sticking their foot, or sometimes both feet, in their mouths.

whippetlady · 10-17-2006, 12:05 PM

Hey- take lots of pics of your pregant body now. In 10 years, he will look back at you glowing and beautiful and say, Damn! you were hot!!

mikejets · 10-17-2006, 12:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by luckylychee

I was going through some of my pictures the other night, and my husband came over and saw a pic of me from my lowest weight, and his reaction was damn! you were hot!

you WERE hot!!

*sigh*

being pregnant i keep piling on the weight, even though it's monitored by my doctor and he said i'm not over gaining, i still feel fat and unattractive all over. i am torn between being excitted about the baby coming and upset that i've lost my old body.

just wanted to vent, and hopefully some of you mothers out there will share your experiences?

you're still hot!

pamhart · 10-17-2006, 12:32 PM

Sometimes we all say really insensitive stupid things. Sorry your DH had a brain fart moment

You concentrate on feeding you and that baby right while you're pregnant and then re-adjust and feed you right afterwards, and you'll do just fine and be hot again by anyone's standards!

emel · 10-17-2006, 12:39 PM

Dogs spend all day sprawled on the most comfortable piece of furniture in the house.
They can look dumb and lovable all at the same time.They growl when they are not happy.

When you want to play, they want to play.
When you want to be alone, they want to play.

They leave their toys everywhere.

CONCLUSION: They're tiny men in little fur coats.

mocha56 · 10-17-2006, 12:46 PM

I don't think your husband meant to hurt your feelings. In fact, I'm sure he loves your pregnant body. My husband is deployed right now and the pix he keeps asking for are my profile shots. Don't be sad, be happy that you are both expecting a baby you created together.

Tink11464 · 10-17-2006, 01:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by luckylychee

I was going through some of my pictures the other night, and my husband came over and saw a pic of me from my lowest weight, and his reaction was damn! you were hot!

you WERE hot!!

*sigh*

being pregnant i keep piling on the weight, even though it's monitored by my doctor and he said i'm not over gaining, i still feel fat and unattractive all over. i am torn between being excitted about the baby coming and upset that i've lost my old body.

just wanted to vent, and hopefully some of you mothers out there will share your experiences?

I had the same thing happen - that's why I thought I would start doing this. Over Labor day weekend this year - we were going through pictures, and we found ones from when I was about 24 (42 now) and about 100 pounds ago. He was like OMG - look at you - you "looked" great!! Okayyyyy.....

It's sad - because I look like I ate that person

Well - that's going to change... I knew the LC watching would work for me. When I was pregnant with my last daughter - I couldn't eat carbs and lost 41 lbs while pregnant (of course after she was born - I could eat again!!).

Sooooo, needless to say - after seeing the look on my husbands face - and my 5 year old not believing it was me - I think it's time for a change!!

xfatchik · 10-17-2006, 01:33 PM

I am sure he didn't mean it to sound negative. I bet you look hot pregnant too! You will have your old figure back in no time.

cleochatra · 10-17-2006, 01:33 PM

I'd say, "Well you had less back hair."

Truly, he probably thinks he was giving you praise and hope for the future. Still, make him wonder about the back hair.

luckylychee · 10-17-2006, 01:33 PM

Thanks for your encouraging words. I know my husband meant no harm. He loves me regardless of how big I get. We live in Europe now and whenever we're out we see these beautiful model figured women, i long to look like them, not that i ever did before my pregnancy either, but it'd be great to have his eyes pop out for my sake again.

Tylar_Connar · 10-17-2006, 01:36 PM

you are still hot. being pregnant is is one of the most awesome things...and you are giving you and you dh the best gift ever..life/child!!

ditto!!

Quote:

Originally Posted by whippetlady

Hey- take lots of pics of your pregant body now. In 10 years, he will look back at you glowing and beautiful and say, Damn! you were hot!!

monique · 10-17-2006, 02:48 PM

It is funny you are torn about being happy about being pregnant or being sad you are gaining weight because I felt the exact same way. I lost 70lbs and had kept it off for 3 years and BAM I am pregnant. I was just getting used to being a 4/6 and now I am pregnant. I was lucky because my man knew how I felt and he wanted kids so he didn't want to make me mad. I say he didn't want to make me mad because I already have a child from a previous relationship and basically I had my little man for him (that sound worse than what it is). I gained 50 lbs with Nile and was very mad. All the hard work and excercise gone. I have lost about 40-45 lbs of it. Long story short I love Nile so much I don't even care I had to lose weight all over again. I felt blessed to have 2 great kids. My body is not the same as it was b4 him but I really don't care. I feel good that I have lost most of the weight and I have the cutest little man ever. You are probably a little emotional being pregnant. Your husband loves you. Don't let it bother you. Soon you will be able to look at your baby and you won't even care about the weight. Two very important things to consider when you get down
1. Some women want kids and can't have them
2. You have lost weight before and you can do it again.
Just enjoy this time.

luckylychee · 10-18-2006, 02:59 AM

Monique - thank you for sharing your personal experience. Are you pregnant at the moment?

monique · 10-18-2006, 09:37 AM

No I am not pregnant. That picture is my daughter and son. I am happy about him being here now but I totally understand how you feel. I also had to control my eating while I was pregnant because I was gaining weight so fast. I was so mad at myself for getting so big but I was hungry. I compared him to my daughter and with her I only gained 30 lbs and lost 25 of it after she was born with no problem. I was also 18 when I had her. I do understand the mixed emotions. I love him so much and wanted to have him I just didn't want to mess up all my hard work. I had been big most of my life and was enjoying being small. After I had him I stayed big until I had to give my size 4 an 6 pants to my daughter I made up my mind right then to loose the 50lbs. You will be fine don't stress enjoy your pregnancy. I believe how you feel when you are pregnant is how your child will come out. My little man loves to eat and is high strung and I was all of that when I was pregnant with him.

gettingstrength · 10-19-2006, 09:31 PM

divinec · 10-23-2006, 10:31 PM

I know how you feel- I get that all of the time from people when they see my wedding pics. They are like "Wow, you LOOKED so pretty and tiny". "You WERE hot."

Gee, Thanks.

You SEEMED so nice, now I hate you.

Just kidding.

You'll probably be one of THOSE pregnant women I hate, who go right back to being your normal size after givin birth. Actually, I DO wish that for you. I wish that for me the next time as well.

I gained 36 lbs (1 lb over what my dr. recommended- 25-35). I breastfed for 6 1/2 months with no additional formula or food and boy could she eat! That didn't help me at all and truthfully, I didn't really overeat afterwards- I just wasn't eating the right things. I am JUST NOW, after her 2nd birthday losing the weight. I was miserable for the last two years about how I look (but so happy about having her).

Sorry, I'm probably not helping. After giving birth and/or breastfeeding, just do what you know works- LC, exercise, water and just be nice to yourself and your body. When we become mothers, we tend to put ourselves and our needs last after everybody and their sister. To take care of that beautiful (boy/girl?) you have to first take care of you.

10-17-2006, 11:29 AM	#1
luckylychee Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Luxembourg! Posts: 4,807 Gallery: luckylychee Stats: 89 kilos/76.2 kilos/61.2 kilos WOE: Low carb, BRING ON THE FAT Start Date: March 10, 2007	I Had a Sad Moment :( I was going through some of my pictures the other night, and my husband came over and saw a pic of me from my lowest weight, and his reaction was damn! you were hot! you WERE hot!! sigh being pregnant i keep piling on the weight, even though it's monitored by my doctor and he said i'm not over gaining, i still feel fat and unattractive all over. i am torn between being excitted about the baby coming and upset that i've lost my old body. just wanted to vent, and hopefully some of you mothers out there will share your experiences? __________________ *You have to stay in shape. My grandmother, she started walking five miles a day when she was 60. She's 97 today and we don't know where the hell she is.* 28 Hours Of Callanetics Accomplished! My goal is to get to 100 hours! http://www.onetruemedia.com/shared?p...edium=text_url

10-17-2006, 12:39 PM	#9
emel Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Virginia Posts: 5,042 Gallery: emel Stats: 150/131/125 WOE: Atkins OWL Start Date: Sept 2006	Dogs spend all day sprawled on the most comfortable piece of furniture in the house. They can look dumb and lovable all at the same time.They growl when they are not happy. When you want to play, they want to play. When you want to be alone, they want to play. They leave their toys everywhere. CONCLUSION: They're tiny men in little fur coats. Last edited by emel : 10-17-2006 at 12:41 PM.

10-23-2006, 10:31 PM	#20
divinec Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Tampa Posts: 370 Gallery: divinec Stats: 176/148/135 MAYBE 128 (SZ 8) WOE: Low carb/low fat/low cals Start Date: 8/14/2006 start AGAIN	I know how you feel- I get that all of the time from people when they see my wedding pics. They are like "Wow, you LOOKED so pretty and tiny". "You WERE hot." Gee, Thanks. You SEEMED so nice, now I hate you. Just kidding. You'll probably be one of THOSE pregnant women I hate, who go right back to being your normal size after givin birth. Actually, I DO wish that for you. I wish that for me the next time as well. I gained 36 lbs (1 lb over what my dr. recommended- 25-35). I breastfed for 6 1/2 months with no additional formula or food and boy could she eat! That didn't help me at all and truthfully, I didn't really overeat afterwards- I just wasn't eating the right things. I am JUST NOW, after her 2nd birthday losing the weight. I was miserable for the last two years about how I look (but so happy about having her). Sorry, I'm probably not helping. After giving birth and/or breastfeeding, just do what you know works- LC, exercise, water and just be nice to yourself and your body. When we become mothers, we tend to put ourselves and our needs last after everybody and their sister. To take care of that beautiful (boy/girl?) you have to first take care of you. __________________ Goal 1-Oct 8-Daughter's 2nd bday 142 (what I weighed when I got pregnant) DID NOT MAKE! Currently: 152 11/30/06 Goal 2- Jan 9th- My 30th Birthday- 130 On my birthday, I weighed 140- now I'm back up to 148- Sigh! Goal 3- 125 before getting pregnant again!!!! So I guess I'll be 135 when I get pregnant since I keep missing my goals by 10 lbs! Last edited by divinec : 10-23-2006 at 10:33 PM. Reason: clarification

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10-17-2006, 11:31 AM	#2
ToothPick Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 3,658 Gallery: ToothPick Stats: 262.5/254/165 WOE: WW Core	Sweetie just know when you have the baby you WILL get your figure back. You will be blessed with a beautiful little one and a great hot body...don't worry. Not all guys find prego women 'hot'...he still LOVES you which is what counts. G

10-17-2006, 11:36 AM	#3
CaroleKI61 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada Posts: 14,719 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: CaroleKI61 Stats: 414/now 280 /goal weight 199 WOE: Dr. Atkins- I love you! Start Date: February 14 2003	Best wishes for you and yours, if he was thought you were hot before wait till he sees the even hotter curves after the blessed event........... Love Carole

10-17-2006, 11:57 AM	#4
Purple Sage Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 6,609 Gallery: Purple Sage Stats: 256/148/150 exercising now: 6-08, 159 WOE: Random, watcing calories and exercise Start Date: January 1, 2005	Just eat right after baby is born and you will be back to "hot" in no time at all....sometimes I get tired of DH thinking I am "hot" again....but then I remind myself that for 7+ years he lived with some other woman than the one he married, now he has her back! Of course he is happy!

10-17-2006, 12:02 PM	#5
Dreams Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: May 2004 Location: Philly Posts: 22,926 Gallery: Dreams Stats: Shrinking WOE: I'll let ya know when I figure it out	Men do have a way of sticking their foot, or sometimes both feet, in their mouths.

10-17-2006, 12:05 PM	#6
whippetlady Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: OH Posts: 6,623 Gallery: whippetlady Stats: 157/133/130 5'5 small frame WOE: Protein and Bourbon Start Date: Feb. 22, 2006	Hey- take lots of pics of your pregant body now. In 10 years, he will look back at you glowing and beautiful and say, Damn! you were hot!!

10-17-2006, 12:32 PM	#8
pamhart Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: West Coast Posts: 729 Gallery: pamhart Stats: 242/164/145 (5'9") WOE: Atkins Start Date: 5/1/04	Sometimes we all say really insensitive stupid things. Sorry your DH had a brain fart moment You concentrate on feeding you and that baby right while you're pregnant and then re-adjust and feed you right afterwards, and you'll do just fine and be hot again by anyone's standards!

10-17-2006, 12:46 PM	#10
mocha56 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 718 Gallery: mocha56 Stats: 5'1" 143 (pregnancy)/105.4 /105 WOE: Atkins Start Date: August 2003	I don't think your husband meant to hurt your feelings. In fact, I'm sure he loves your pregnant body. My husband is deployed right now and the pix he keeps asking for are my profile shots. Don't be sad, be happy that you are both expecting a baby you created together.

10-17-2006, 01:33 PM	#12
xfatchik Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Viva Las Vegas! Posts: 15,460 Gallery: xfatchik Stats: size 22/4/4 WOE: Atkins ( 126 lbs gone! ) Start Date: June 9, 2003	I am sure he didn't mean it to sound negative. I bet you look hot pregnant too! You will have your old figure back in no time.

10-17-2006, 01:33 PM	#13
cleochatra Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: May 2005 Location: Denver, Colorado Posts: 7,939 Gallery: cleochatra Stats: 350/264/125 WOE: Atkins Start Date: January 1, 2008	I'd say, "Well you had less back hair." Truly, he probably thinks he was giving you praise and hope for the future. Still, make him wonder about the back hair.

10-17-2006, 02:48 PM	#16
monique Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: San Leandro, CA Posts: 331 Gallery: monique WOE: Atkins	It is funny you are torn about being happy about being pregnant or being sad you are gaining weight because I felt the exact same way. I lost 70lbs and had kept it off for 3 years and BAM I am pregnant. I was just getting used to being a 4/6 and now I am pregnant. I was lucky because my man knew how I felt and he wanted kids so he didn't want to make me mad. I say he didn't want to make me mad because I already have a child from a previous relationship and basically I had my little man for him (that sound worse than what it is). I gained 50 lbs with Nile and was very mad. All the hard work and excercise gone. I have lost about 40-45 lbs of it. Long story short I love Nile so much I don't even care I had to lose weight all over again. I felt blessed to have 2 great kids. My body is not the same as it was b4 him but I really don't care. I feel good that I have lost most of the weight and I have the cutest little man ever. You are probably a little emotional being pregnant. Your husband loves you. Don't let it bother you. Soon you will be able to look at your baby and you won't even care about the weight. Two very important things to consider when you get down 1. Some women want kids and can't have them 2. You have lost weight before and you can do it again. Just enjoy this time.

10-18-2006, 02:59 AM	#17
luckylychee Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Luxembourg! Posts: 4,807 Gallery: luckylychee Stats: 89 kilos/76.2 kilos/61.2 kilos WOE: Low carb, BRING ON THE FAT Start Date: March 10, 2007	Monique - thank you for sharing your personal experience. Are you pregnant at the moment?

10-18-2006, 09:37 AM	#18
monique Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: San Leandro, CA Posts: 331 Gallery: monique WOE: Atkins	No I am not pregnant. That picture is my daughter and son. I am happy about him being here now but I totally understand how you feel. I also had to control my eating while I was pregnant because I was gaining weight so fast. I was so mad at myself for getting so big but I was hungry. I compared him to my daughter and with her I only gained 30 lbs and lost 25 of it after she was born with no problem. I was also 18 when I had her. I do understand the mixed emotions. I love him so much and wanted to have him I just didn't want to mess up all my hard work. I had been big most of my life and was enjoying being small. After I had him I stayed big until I had to give my size 4 an 6 pants to my daughter I made up my mind right then to loose the 50lbs. You will be fine don't stress enjoy your pregnancy. I believe how you feel when you are pregnant is how your child will come out. My little man loves to eat and is high strung and I was all of that when I was pregnant with him.

10-19-2006, 09:31 PM	#19
gettingstrength Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Tennessee Posts: 9,523 Gallery: gettingstrength Stats: 184 / 170 / ? WOE: atkins Start Date: 6 / 1 / 2002