*sigh*

Dudethecat · 09-27-2006, 12:41 PM

Isn't dieting supposed to make you feel better about yourself? It seems that ever since I started my emotions have become numb and I feel like everyone in the world is better then me. I want to date. I want to find friends. I want to be in a relationship so bad and I can't even feel good enough about myself to do that. I just don't understand why my entire emotional world has been flipped upside down when I am losing weight and getting to be more active. I really could use someone to talk to.

sillykimmie · 09-27-2006, 01:18 PM

Dude

Hang in there!!!
You are making some very important changes in your life and change is scary...
I am in the same boat you are, although I have more weight to lose.
I have been in such denial and I probably still am about my size.
But I don't want to get too bummed out because I know that won't be productive at all.

I am telling myself to just get up every day and move, do some activity.
I just joined Curves and it is so "doable" for me.
Take small steps in changing your eating habits, every change will add up.
Journal your feelings to get them out of your head.

I know if I don't take some action, that a year from now I will be just as big and just as UNhappy.
NOW that is something I can't accept.

You deserve to feel well and be happy!!!!!! Keep coming back to LCF, there is so much inspiration and support here.
Best wishes and prayers to you and your journey to health!!!!

Kim

Jennyl · 09-28-2006, 01:32 AM

Dieting can be very emotional for me. I am an emotional eater...big time! So when I start to make changes in my diet, and I no longer have that release of eating...I get very emotional. Eating was a way for me to relax and forget about things...when I stop doing that I have to face certain feelings that I used to just shove aside with my eating. Food was a good friend for me and when I gave it up, I really missed my relationship with it. That's what it was like for me anyway.

Dudethecat · 10-03-2006, 02:35 PM

Thank you everyone. I am doing so much better now and I feel great! My endurance for exercise has gone up and I feel better then I have in ages. Thank you all for the support.

indogia · 10-05-2006, 04:45 PM

its an emotional journey you go through as well as a physical one........we all go through this,you are not alone,if it was easy everyone would be doing it...

tyler43836 · 10-06-2006, 05:55 AM

It really does rock your world....you've given up a 'comfort zone', so it's bound to cause emotional upheaval. You're on your way! You'll get through this and life will be awesome!!

London · 10-10-2006, 06:38 AM

Hang in there..This is a journey..and the emotions are part of the journey..

divinec · 10-24-2006, 07:59 AM

Hi,
It's really hard for me to make friends also. Luckily, or unluckily (depends on when you ask me), I am married, so I don't have to worry about dating-but I'll tell you right now- I HATED dating. That first date thing-

.

I'm so glad I am married- it's scary out there now.

Ok, I'm not helping.

My only advice about meeting people is that you have to put yourself out there and it's scary. When you're working out- maybe make a random comment to the person next to you- not a crazy one- just like .... "Man, can you believe how high the prices have gotten for our gym memberships?"

If they respond, great. If not, it may feel like a rejection, but who cares? They are obviously not anyone important in your life.

I just want you to know that it is hard to meet people and make connections no matter what your size. I know because I've been thin and heavy.

Just put yourself out there for better or worse- it's better than letting life pass you by!

09-27-2006, 12:41 PM	#1
Dudethecat Junior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Eastpointe Michigan Posts: 14 Gallery: Dudethecat Stats: 225/225/180 WOE: Nothing as of now Start Date: Not yet	*sigh* Isn't dieting supposed to make you feel better about yourself? It seems that ever since I started my emotions have become numb and I feel like everyone in the world is better then me. I want to date. I want to find friends. I want to be in a relationship so bad and I can't even feel good enough about myself to do that. I just don't understand why my entire emotional world has been flipped upside down when I am losing weight and getting to be more active. I really could use someone to talk to. __________________ [The World Wide Web is] the only thing I know of whose shortened form — www — takes three times longer to say than what it's short for. - Douglas Adams Last edited by Dudethecat : 09-27-2006 at 12:43 PM.

10-24-2006, 07:59 AM	#8
divinec Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Tampa Posts: 370 Gallery: divinec Stats: 176/148/135 MAYBE 128 (SZ 8) WOE: Low carb/low fat/low cals Start Date: 8/14/2006 start AGAIN	Hi, It's really hard for me to make friends also. Luckily, or unluckily (depends on when you ask me), I am married, so I don't have to worry about dating-but I'll tell you right now- I HATED dating. That first date thing- . I'm so glad I am married- it's scary out there now. Ok, I'm not helping. My only advice about meeting people is that you have to put yourself out there and it's scary. When you're working out- maybe make a random comment to the person next to you- not a crazy one- just like .... "Man, can you believe how high the prices have gotten for our gym memberships?" If they respond, great. If not, it may feel like a rejection, but who cares? They are obviously not anyone important in your life. I just want you to know that it is hard to meet people and make connections no matter what your size. I know because I've been thin and heavy. Just put yourself out there for better or worse- it's better than letting life pass you by! __________________ Goal 1-Oct 8-Daughter's 2nd bday 142 (what I weighed when I got pregnant) DID NOT MAKE! Currently: 152 11/30/06 Goal 2- Jan 9th- My 30th Birthday- 130 On my birthday, I weighed 140- now I'm back up to 148- Sigh! Goal 3- 125 before getting pregnant again!!!! So I guess I'll be 135 when I get pregnant since I keep missing my goals by 10 lbs!

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09-27-2006, 01:18 PM	#2
sillykimmie MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: The Evergreen state Posts: 1,420 Gallery: sillykimmie WOE: soon to be parking it on the south beach..	Dude Hang in there!!! You are making some very important changes in your life and change is scary... I am in the same boat you are, although I have more weight to lose. I have been in such denial and I probably still am about my size. But I don't want to get too bummed out because I know that won't be productive at all. I am telling myself to just get up every day and move, do some activity. I just joined Curves and it is so "doable" for me. Take small steps in changing your eating habits, every change will add up. Journal your feelings to get them out of your head. I know if I don't take some action, that a year from now I will be just as big and just as UNhappy. NOW that is something I can't accept. You deserve to feel well and be happy!!!!!! Keep coming back to LCF, there is so much inspiration and support here. Best wishes and prayers to you and your journey to health!!!! Kim

09-28-2006, 01:32 AM	#3
Jennyl Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: calgary Posts: 24,146 Gallery: Jennyl Start Date: manana	Dieting can be very emotional for me. I am an emotional eater...big time! So when I start to make changes in my diet, and I no longer have that release of eating...I get very emotional. Eating was a way for me to relax and forget about things...when I stop doing that I have to face certain feelings that I used to just shove aside with my eating. Food was a good friend for me and when I gave it up, I really missed my relationship with it. That's what it was like for me anyway.

10-03-2006, 02:35 PM	#4
Dudethecat Junior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Eastpointe Michigan Posts: 14 Gallery: Dudethecat Stats: 225/225/180 WOE: Nothing as of now Start Date: Not yet	Thank you everyone. I am doing so much better now and I feel great! My endurance for exercise has gone up and I feel better then I have in ages. Thank you all for the support.

10-05-2006, 04:45 PM	#5
indogia MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 1,020 Gallery: indogia	its an emotional journey you go through as well as a physical one........we all go through this,you are not alone,if it was easy everyone would be doing it...

10-06-2006, 05:55 AM	#6
tyler43836 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: New York, NY Posts: 11,484 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: tyler43836 Stats: ugh WOE: Atkins Start Date: Restart 3/31/08	It really does rock your world....you've given up a 'comfort zone', so it's bound to cause emotional upheaval. You're on your way! You'll get through this and life will be awesome!!

10-10-2006, 06:38 AM	#7
London Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Earth Posts: 4,647 Gallery: London WOE: Atkins Start Date: 1/06/03	Hang in there..This is a journey..and the emotions are part of the journey..