Christian mommy who is falling apart! Bare with me...

laceyannmarie · 09-13-2006, 10:14 PM

Ok where to start... I'm a mother of 2 girls, one is 22 months and one is 5 months old. I am on our praise team at church and love to sing and finding that God uses those who are unworthy. I am very blessed. But seems my oldest is going through what you would call the terrible two's... and I find I'm not prepared for it... Seems like I can't keep up and feel stressed all the time... I finally broke down and called the doctor and he put me on of all things prozac. It's only been three days so not sure how thats working.. I feel so guilty b/c it seems like I have no time for God... The only time He gets from me is when I go to praise practice or services... Its like, ok this is God and mommy time... I've thought of getting up before the babies and making time and I'm so tired I can't.... And at night I know I have to get as much sleep as possible b/c I know they both will need me sooo many times during the night... When I say this, I haven't slept one full night in two years, I'm not lieing... my 22 month old would wake up every three hours until she was over 1 year old.... it wasn't until the new baby came that she sleeps most of the night with just waking to have a drink. So I have the oldest in my bed and the new one in her crib beside the bed... Guys I'm just ***** out and find I'm not the christian mother I should be... My husband isn't saved and when we get in fights I just go nuts now... I scream and just loose it... I so want to be different then I am... Can someone help me and pray for me... I want to break through this! I'm just soo tired!

LauraFL · 09-14-2006, 08:52 AM

I understand what you're saying about not having worship time just for God, but I'd call raising two little girls up "in the Lord" a form of worship too! The Lord KNOWS how busy little ones make you and He sees your exhaustion. Just remember, by raising your babies you can serve the Lord too:

"And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men,

knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ." Colossians 3:23-24

And you can take any moment throughout the day to praise and thank Him.

LauraFL · 09-14-2006, 09:02 AM

I forgot to ask you.....Is there anyone who could either take the girls for one or two nights a week so you could get some sleep, or maybe come to your house and get up with them during the night? You NEED at least one or two good nights of sleep per week so you'll have the energy to take care of them. I would go insane without it. It's really the hardest part of having little ones. Does your husband help at all? If not it's understandable why you get in fights and end up screaming at him. You NEED some help so you can get some REST. Without good sleep anyone can turn into a bear!!

CarolynF · 09-14-2006, 09:10 AM

Lacey: My heart goes out to you..I was a SAHM, but I volunteered in our church, etc..HOWEVER, my kids came first..God gave them to me and my dh. God's work for you is taking care of these children and being a good witness while you are doing it.

Hey..drop the Praise Team..you are a MOM first..You need to get your own
walk with the Lord in order before you can give to the church that way..
And, that means..YOU..When the kids sense God's peace from you, their behavior will get better and they will sleep better..

Another thought is to drop your kids off at a sitter during the day for one morning a week so you can have some me time..which is what you need.
You can't give the kids what you don't have..which is peace..God's peace.

There are lots of books on how to help your children sleep..Get one and look through it. Nanny 911 is a great show to watch for helpful hints.

Do you mean the older one sleeps with you?? and the baby is still in your room, too? Hmmm..

Another thought: Is there a mother in your church who you admire or has
control over her kids and doesn't seem stressed? You might need to call her
for advice, help, etc. I'm sure she would be happy to help you..

Don't sweat the Prozac..This is a short term solution that will allow you to
do things that are necessary as a Mom..

I will be praying for you that you will seek the Lord and his advice..God wants you home with your children living in HIS PEACE..that's what he wants from
you..That is the worship he desires for you..

Hugs and prayers..

laceyannmarie · 09-14-2006, 12:22 PM

Today is a much better day! Got up early so I could wake the girls up early so they and I could take a nap... Got to nap from 10:45 to 1pm... That soo did the trick. Guess I'm going to have to just plan my days/nights out better and like one of you said maybe get a book! Thanks so much for the support and prayers. I would give up the praise team, but just started this year and know thats God's will for my life right now... And the devil is fighting me tooth and nail... But I'll win!

CarolynF · 09-14-2006, 08:54 PM

Glad you had a better day, Lacey..Sleep is very necessary for everyone..and
once you get a good sleeping schedule for everyone, you will feel much better.

Definitely lie down when they take a nap...great idea..

Well, on the Praise Team thing...We have one..and it's a good thing...Being on the Praise Team is a privilege because people are looking at you as a "leader" in the church..So..be the best Mom you can be..and take care of
yourself and the kids..so your witness will be strong..

CarolO · 09-14-2006, 10:09 PM

(((hugs))) I have been where you are many times. Lifting you up in prayer.

gettingstrength · 09-15-2006, 04:27 PM

deanmoore · 09-17-2006, 05:41 AM

Lacey I suggest that you find a natural alternative for the prozac."Dr. Atkins Vita-Nutrient Solutions" can be fopund on Amazon .com for 2 cents. N-acetyl tyrosine 500-1000 mg daily/ B12 1000-3000 mcg daily/B1 150-300 mg daily/B6 1000-2000 mg daily/St Johns Wort 100-200 mg daily/ Folic acid 30-60 mg daily. This is a good place to start.

justinsgrl22 · 09-17-2006, 03:44 PM

Lacey...I sing on our church's praise team as well so I know how hard it would be to give it up, especially if you really feel that God has called you to be there. Satan loves to mess with God's musicians...he can't stand all that praise lifting God's people up. You just pray through...if God placed you there he'll sustain you.

I don't have children but I am the oldest of five as well as a school teacher so my two cents would be to ask...do you have your household on a good schedule or routine? Children take great comfort in a routine...makes 'em feel secure. Security lessens anxiety. Even down to naps, meals etc...as much as you can try to establish a daily routine so that they know what's coming next and can anticipate it. No surprises. It'll make you feel calmer as well.

Don't feel bad about needing a little help right now to get by. When the time is right, you won't need it anymore.

Good luck....I'll be praying for you!

In Christ,

Pam

Bubbles · 09-17-2006, 04:47 PM

You can worshp god as you walk your babies in their stroller or sing to them as you sit on a blanket under a beautiful blue sky. You do not need to be in the actual church to worship. The praise group may be too much for you right now, he will understand.
I sang to my kids when they acted out and it did calm us all down.

09-13-2006, 10:14 PM	#1
laceyannmarie Junior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Morgan City, La Posts: 38 Gallery: laceyannmarie Stats: 307/304/ WOE: Sugar Busters/Low carb Start Date: Pregnant!!! But still doing low carb..	Christian mommy who is falling apart! Bare with me... Ok where to start... I'm a mother of 2 girls, one is 22 months and one is 5 months old. I am on our praise team at church and love to sing and finding that God uses those who are unworthy. I am very blessed. But seems my oldest is going through what you would call the terrible two's... and I find I'm not prepared for it... Seems like I can't keep up and feel stressed all the time... I finally broke down and called the doctor and he put me on of all things prozac. It's only been three days so not sure how thats working.. I feel so guilty b/c it seems like I have no time for God... The only time He gets from me is when I go to praise practice or services... Its like, ok this is God and mommy time... I've thought of getting up before the babies and making time and I'm so tired I can't.... And at night I know I have to get as much sleep as possible b/c I know they both will need me sooo many times during the night... When I say this, I haven't slept one full night in two years, I'm not lieing... my 22 month old would wake up every three hours until she was over 1 year old.... it wasn't until the new baby came that she sleeps most of the night with just waking to have a drink. So I have the oldest in my bed and the new one in her crib beside the bed... Guys I'm just ***** out and find I'm not the christian mother I should be... My husband isn't saved and when we get in fights I just go nuts now... I scream and just loose it... I so want to be different then I am... Can someone help me and pray for me... I want to break through this! I'm just soo tired!

09-17-2006, 03:44 PM	#10
justinsgrl22 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Longwood, FL Posts: 545 Gallery: justinsgrl22 Stats: 305/282/150...I've lost 23 lbs! WOE: Back to low carb basics... Start Date: January 7, 2008	Lacey...I sing on our church's praise team as well so I know how hard it would be to give it up, especially if you really feel that God has called you to be there. Satan loves to mess with God's musicians...he can't stand all that praise lifting God's people up. You just pray through...if God placed you there he'll sustain you. I don't have children but I am the oldest of five as well as a school teacher so my two cents would be to ask...do you have your household on a good schedule or routine? Children take great comfort in a routine...makes 'em feel secure. Security lessens anxiety. Even down to naps, meals etc...as much as you can try to establish a daily routine so that they know what's coming next and can anticipate it. No surprises. It'll make you feel calmer as well. Don't feel bad about needing a little help right now to get by. When the time is right, you won't need it anymore. Good luck....I'll be praying for you! In Christ, Pam __________________ Pam My goal for 2008 is to never give up and never give in. Valentines Hottie Challenge 305/291/295 -14 pounds! April Fools Hottie Challenge 291/282/280 -9 more pounds! Getting Ready for Summer Hotties Challenge 282/282/270 The little things? They're not so little.

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09-14-2006, 08:52 AM	#2
LauraFL Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: In the clouds Posts: 7,253 Gallery: LauraFL Stats: 230.2/226.8/170 5'6.5" WOE: What day is it? scratches head	I understand what you're saying about not having worship time just for God, but I'd call raising two little girls up "in the Lord" a form of worship too! The Lord KNOWS how busy little ones make you and He sees your exhaustion. Just remember, by raising your babies you can serve the Lord too: "And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ." Colossians 3:23-24 And you can take any moment throughout the day to praise and thank Him.

09-14-2006, 09:02 AM	#3
LauraFL Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: In the clouds Posts: 7,253 Gallery: LauraFL Stats: 230.2/226.8/170 5'6.5" WOE: What day is it? scratches head	I forgot to ask you.....Is there anyone who could either take the girls for one or two nights a week so you could get some sleep, or maybe come to your house and get up with them during the night? You NEED at least one or two good nights of sleep per week so you'll have the energy to take care of them. I would go insane without it. It's really the hardest part of having little ones. Does your husband help at all? If not it's understandable why you get in fights and end up screaming at him. You NEED some help so you can get some REST. Without good sleep anyone can turn into a bear!!

09-14-2006, 09:10 AM	#4
CarolynF Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Kansas Posts: 20,522 Gallery: CarolynF Stats: 195/150/139 WOE: Eat Fat, Get Thin/I Can Make You Thin Start Date: January 2001	Lacey: My heart goes out to you..I was a SAHM, but I volunteered in our church, etc..HOWEVER, my kids came first..God gave them to me and my dh. God's work for you is taking care of these children and being a good witness while you are doing it. Hey..drop the Praise Team..you are a MOM first..You need to get your own walk with the Lord in order before you can give to the church that way.. And, that means..YOU..When the kids sense God's peace from you, their behavior will get better and they will sleep better.. Another thought is to drop your kids off at a sitter during the day for one morning a week so you can have some me time..which is what you need. You can't give the kids what you don't have..which is peace..God's peace. There are lots of books on how to help your children sleep..Get one and look through it. Nanny 911 is a great show to watch for helpful hints. Do you mean the older one sleeps with you?? and the baby is still in your room, too? Hmmm.. Another thought: Is there a mother in your church who you admire or has control over her kids and doesn't seem stressed? You might need to call her for advice, help, etc. I'm sure she would be happy to help you.. Don't sweat the Prozac..This is a short term solution that will allow you to do things that are necessary as a Mom.. I will be praying for you that you will seek the Lord and his advice..God wants you home with your children living in HIS PEACE..that's what he wants from you..That is the worship he desires for you.. Hugs and prayers..

09-14-2006, 12:22 PM	#5
laceyannmarie Junior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Morgan City, La Posts: 38 Gallery: laceyannmarie Stats: 307/304/ WOE: Sugar Busters/Low carb Start Date: Pregnant!!! But still doing low carb..	Today is a much better day! Got up early so I could wake the girls up early so they and I could take a nap... Got to nap from 10:45 to 1pm... That soo did the trick. Guess I'm going to have to just plan my days/nights out better and like one of you said maybe get a book! Thanks so much for the support and prayers. I would give up the praise team, but just started this year and know thats God's will for my life right now... And the devil is fighting me tooth and nail... But I'll win!

09-14-2006, 08:54 PM	#6
CarolynF Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Kansas Posts: 20,522 Gallery: CarolynF Stats: 195/150/139 WOE: Eat Fat, Get Thin/I Can Make You Thin Start Date: January 2001	Glad you had a better day, Lacey..Sleep is very necessary for everyone..and once you get a good sleeping schedule for everyone, you will feel much better. Definitely lie down when they take a nap...great idea.. Well, on the Praise Team thing...We have one..and it's a good thing...Being on the Praise Team is a privilege because people are looking at you as a "leader" in the church..So..be the best Mom you can be..and take care of yourself and the kids..so your witness will be strong..

09-14-2006, 10:09 PM	#7
CarolO Junior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: On the Way to a healthier me Posts: 56 Gallery: CarolO Stats: 328/325/150 WOE: Atkins Start Date: April 2008	(((hugs))) I have been where you are many times. Lifting you up in prayer.

09-15-2006, 04:27 PM	#8
gettingstrength Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Tennessee Posts: 9,523 Gallery: gettingstrength Stats: 184 / 170 / ? WOE: atkins Start Date: 6 / 1 / 2002

09-17-2006, 05:41 AM	#9
deanmoore Junior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Western N.C. Posts: 12 Gallery: deanmoore Stats: 299/271/220 WOE: Atkins-Meat/eggs Start Date: Aug 11,2006	Lacey I suggest that you find a natural alternative for the prozac."Dr. Atkins Vita-Nutrient Solutions" can be fopund on Amazon .com for 2 cents. N-acetyl tyrosine 500-1000 mg daily/ B12 1000-3000 mcg daily/B1 150-300 mg daily/B6 1000-2000 mg daily/St Johns Wort 100-200 mg daily/ Folic acid 30-60 mg daily. This is a good place to start.

09-17-2006, 04:47 PM	#11
Bubbles Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Live Free or Die Baby!!!!! Posts: 10,100 Gallery: Bubbles Stats: 140 lbs of flabby fun WOE: All the time Start Date: Feb 2003	You can worshp god as you walk your babies in their stroller or sing to them as you sit on a blanket under a beautiful blue sky. You do not need to be in the actual church to worship. The praise group may be too much for you right now, he will understand. I sang to my kids when they acted out and it did calm us all down.