My brother died....

robinkay · 09-12-2006, 04:52 AM

I haven't been on the boards for over a week. My brother died of a heart attack in his sleep on August 29. He was 47. He was a truck driver and we could not get him to answer his cell phone. The phone was ringing so we knew it was working. We knew he had picked up a load in Baltimore MD and was on his way to Birmingham AL. Our local police began contacting the police in MD, VA, TN, and AL. The Baltimore police found him dead in his truck. My brother died alone. That hurts me. The police said he was reclined back in his seat and there was no sign of any struggle. I miss him and I wish I could take my parent's grief away. Has anyone lost their brother? I feel empty inside. Will I ever feel joy again?

sugarless4life · 09-12-2006, 04:56 AM

Oh my gosh, I am so very sorry. Your family is in my prayers.

Betty

SharonGAPeach · 09-12-2006, 04:57 AM

I'm so very sorry for your loss, Robin. I know how difficult it is to lose a sibling as I lost my sister to lung cancer in June. She was also 47. My parents are still suffering terribly and I believe that only time will help to heal our hearts. I'm sure that one day we will be able to only remember the wonderful times and I'm sure that will happen to your family, too. My best to you,

Sharon

momov2boys · 09-12-2006, 04:58 AM

I am so very sorry for your loss, Robin. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

GetFitMom · 09-12-2006, 05:00 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and your family.

YoYoGirl · 09-12-2006, 05:08 AM

Oh Robin! I am so sorry! Children are not suppose to die before their parents and losing a brother is sooo hard. --My youngest brother died when he was six. He and my parents were at a tractor pull. A tractor jump started, got away from its owner(who was drunk) and ended up landing on, and crushing my little brother. It all happened just a few yards away from my dad. That was on Sept. 13, 1992. ---The deep pain and emptiness you and your family feel right now will lessen with time, but you will always miss your dear brother and will have moments of stinging grief. I am praying right now that God encircles your family with His loving healing and that He gives you the ability to comfort each other in your sorrow. Let me know if there is anything I can do. If you ever want to pm me go ahead. I'm here for you!

Tashi · 09-12-2006, 05:19 AM

I'm so very sorry! What a shock to you and your family. You will all be in my prayers!

Texas Lady · 09-12-2006, 05:22 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will feel joy again but you'll always miss him. I lost my oldest sister when she was 35 and think of her often. Time will heal the pain. Wishing he were here will always be there as we want to share our lives with the ones we love. Be strong as he would not want you to be sad, And take comfort in the fact that you will be together again in eternity. God bless you and your family, and I pray that He gives you peace and renewed strength to endure this tragedy.

BellaCarol · 09-12-2006, 05:23 AM

I am so sorry. My condolences to you and your family.

KarbieGrl · 09-12-2006, 05:29 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. It will take time, but you will begin to find joy in your memories and the happy times you shared with your brother. I wish you peace and comfort during the upcoming days, as there may be times when the sorrrow will feel overwhelming.

xfatchik · 09-12-2006, 08:56 AM

I am so sorry for the loss of your brother.

Mule_Freak · 09-12-2006, 09:46 AM

So sorry for your loss, prays headed your way. I sincerely hope and I know w/the Lords help you will find that "joy" your missing, one day at a time

gotogirl · 09-12-2006, 10:59 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it hurts that he died alone but you can take comfort that he wasn't trying to get help so he must not have been in pain.
Hugs to you as you heal.

Lori · 09-12-2006, 11:51 AM

I am so sorry for your loss.

Besos · 09-12-2006, 12:51 PM

I am so sorry for your loss.

sillykimmie · 09-12-2006, 02:26 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. I haven't lost a sibling, but have lost loved ones.
Sending prayers for you and your family.

kategail · 09-12-2006, 02:30 PM

Hi Robin,
I feel your hurt. My father-in-law died 8-8-06. You will grieve, but remember it is alright to grieve. It is part of the healing process. My husband has found that "keeping busy" is not always a good thing. You have to have time to rest also, because your body is going through so many emotional changes, which can be very tiring. Also as far as your weight loss program goes, try to stick with it during this sad time. If you are an emotional eater like me, you may be more tempted that usual. My husband had quit smoking on April 28th of this year. He had been a ten year over a pack a day smoker. Unfortunately he started back smoking two weeks ago. He said it helped him because he and his dad enjoyed smoking together, and the smell (as awful as it is) reminds him of his dad. Just last night he told me he wish he had not started back and was going to quit again. I have not given him a hard time about it though. sorry i have rambled, i do pray that you will find peace and comfort at this difficult time.

Sweeter-than-Splenda · 09-12-2006, 02:32 PM

Hi Robinkay,

I just read your post and am so sorry for your loss.

My prayers are with you.

I lost my younger brother less than 2 yrs ago and the pain and loss are still with me. It does get a little better with time, but I still miss him deeply and still can't believe he is gone. He died of organ failure at the young age of 41. Way before his time! It was a sudden death also and was so hard on our family. He was in the hospital for awhile and the doctors desperately tried to save his life, but sadly could not.

We lived in different states and I was not able to be with him when he needed me. I feel very guilty about that and always will. Death of a sibling is a very tough thing to go through. I feel your pain. All we can do now is pray for strength to get through our pain. May God Bless you and your family at this difficult time.

You can send me a private message anytime if you need to talk to someone.
Take care!

heidi21062 · 09-12-2006, 02:33 PM

Jewelthief · 09-12-2006, 04:58 PM

I am so very sorry for your loss... I lost my mother 3 years ago and it feels as if I lost my brother too because he hasn't allowed me to remain close with him. I miss him every day.

I understand how it must hurt that you weren't able to be with your brother when he died, but he wouldn't want you to grieve forever after... He loved you and would want you to carry on and remember the happiness you've shared. As time passes you'll remember little things you'd forgotten over the years, and when you do, it'll make you smile inside...

Take care,
Karyn

snaggle · 09-12-2006, 07:12 PM

Oh I am so sorry Robin. My dh lost his sister a few years ago and it has been hard for the whole family, especially her two kids. We try to think of her often and talk about her- it keeps her alive in a way. Some people think its a taboo to talk about death and think you want to avoid the subject of the person, but I find that its better to talk about him/her. My prayers are with you and your family.

Princess Di · 09-13-2006, 04:32 AM

I'm sorry for your loss Robin. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

msjenni1970 · 09-13-2006, 05:56 AM

I'm so sorry for you loss.. My prayers are with you.

Purrgirl · 09-13-2006, 11:11 PM

I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.

laceyannmarie · 09-14-2006, 01:57 PM

I'm so sorry to hear that... I have this problem with always thinking what if something happened to one of my family members how would I feel, how would I react? I am praying for you and sorry for your loose.

gettingstrength · 09-15-2006, 04:29 PM

Pcola Girl · 09-26-2006, 02:58 PM

Robin, death is not the end, its just the beginning of a new life in heaven with Christ. We cannot comphend what God has in store for us in Heaven but it is much better than what we have on this earth. The bible tells us that.
I lost my son four yrs. ago to cancer and I know and feel him here with me everyday even though I cannot see him, I know he is here with me in spirit.
Our love ones never really leave us, they just go to another demension and are changed into a spiritual being and we will be with them again one day in heaven.
So don't be sad, you can still talk to your brother and I am sure he can hear you. I talk to my son most everyday, it helps me cope with my day.
God understands and is here with us to...

09-12-2006, 04:52 AM	#1
robinkay Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Louisiana Posts: 182 Gallery: robinkay Stats: 219/186/150 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: OCT 08	My brother died.... I haven't been on the boards for over a week. My brother died of a heart attack in his sleep on August 29. He was 47. He was a truck driver and we could not get him to answer his cell phone. The phone was ringing so we knew it was working. We knew he had picked up a load in Baltimore MD and was on his way to Birmingham AL. Our local police began contacting the police in MD, VA, TN, and AL. The Baltimore police found him dead in his truck. My brother died alone. That hurts me. The police said he was reclined back in his seat and there was no sign of any struggle. I miss him and I wish I could take my parent's grief away. Has anyone lost their brother? I feel empty inside. Will I ever feel joy again? __________________ Robin 219 218 217 216 215 214 213 212 211 210 209 208 207 206 205 204 203 202 201 200 199 198 197 196 195 194 193 192 191 190 189 188 187 185 184 183 182 181 180 179 178 177 176 175 174 173 172 171 170 169 168 167 166 165 164 163 162 161 160 159 158 157 156 155 154 153 152 151 150

09-12-2006, 05:08 AM	#6
YoYoGirl Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 739 Gallery: YoYoGirl Stats: 197/154 (159)/140 WOE: Atkins Start Date: July 31, 2006	Oh Robin! I am so sorry! Children are not suppose to die before their parents and losing a brother is sooo hard. --My youngest brother died when he was six. He and my parents were at a tractor pull. A tractor jump started, got away from its owner(who was drunk) and ended up landing on, and crushing my little brother. It all happened just a few yards away from my dad. That was on Sept. 13, 1992. ---The deep pain and emptiness you and your family feel right now will lessen with time, but you will always miss your dear brother and will have moments of stinging grief. I am praying right now that God encircles your family with His loving healing and that He gives you the ability to comfort each other in your sorrow. Let me know if there is anything I can do. If you ever want to pm me go ahead. I'm here for you! __________________ Personal Challenge Goals: Now: 154 lbs. (Back up to 159) Thanksgiving --- 164 lbs. Christmas ----155 lbs. (Got to 154!) New Year's Day ---150 lbs 169,165,154,150,145,142

09-12-2006, 05:22 AM	#8
Texas Lady Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 764 Gallery: Texas Lady WOE: Atkins Start Date: 1/1/09	I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will feel joy again but you'll always miss him. I lost my oldest sister when she was 35 and think of her often. Time will heal the pain. Wishing he were here will always be there as we want to share our lives with the ones we love. Be strong as he would not want you to be sad, And take comfort in the fact that you will be together again in eternity. God bless you and your family, and I pray that He gives you peace and renewed strength to endure this tragedy. __________________ 260/256/180

09-12-2006, 02:32 PM	#18
Sweeter-than-Splenda MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Southern Minnesota Posts: 1,095 Gallery: Sweeter-than-Splenda WOE: currently following Dr. Oz' plan "You: On a diet" Start Date: restart restart date 1/02/08	Hi Robinkay, I just read your post and am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you. I lost my younger brother less than 2 yrs ago and the pain and loss are still with me. It does get a little better with time, but I still miss him deeply and still can't believe he is gone. He died of organ failure at the young age of 41. Way before his time! It was a sudden death also and was so hard on our family. He was in the hospital for awhile and the doctors desperately tried to save his life, but sadly could not. We lived in different states and I was not able to be with him when he needed me. I feel very guilty about that and always will. Death of a sibling is a very tough thing to go through. I feel your pain. All we can do now is pray for strength to get through our pain. May God Bless you and your family at this difficult time. You can send me a private message anytime if you need to talk to someone. Take care! __________________ Goals To walk for 30 minutes (min.) everyday, drink my water, and stay true to the program. Proud retired USAF wife. (served in Oman 2002-2003) God bless all the military men and women and may they all come home safely to their families soon! Thank you for serving our country.

09-26-2006, 02:58 PM	#27
Pcola Girl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Pensacola, Florida Posts: 3,295 Gallery: Pcola Girl Stats: Start-325 Today-225 Goal 160 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Sarted Nov. 2000---Restarted New January 2008	Robin, death is not the end, its just the beginning of a new life in heaven with Christ. We cannot comphend what God has in store for us in Heaven but it is much better than what we have on this earth. The bible tells us that. I lost my son four yrs. ago to cancer and I know and feel him here with me everyday even though I cannot see him, I know he is here with me in spirit. Our love ones never really leave us, they just go to another demension and are changed into a spiritual being and we will be with them again one day in heaven. So don't be sad, you can still talk to your brother and I am sure he can hear you. I talk to my son most everyday, it helps me cope with my day. God understands and is here with us to... __________________ Mary

09-12-2006, 04:56 AM	#2
sugarless4life Atkins Ambassador Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 9,967 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: sugarless4life Stats: 5'3 / 101 pounds / 53 yo /maintaining for 6 years WOE: Lost it with Atkins / RUNNING to keep it off! Start Date: January 19, 2002 - 7 YEARS ON ATKINS	Oh my gosh, I am so very sorry. Your family is in my prayers. Betty

09-12-2006, 04:57 AM	#3
SharonGAPeach Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Atlanta Suburb Posts: 428 Gallery: SharonGAPeach Stats: 160/140/138 5'6" WOE: Atkins Start Date: November 2002	I'm so very sorry for your loss, Robin. I know how difficult it is to lose a sibling as I lost my sister to lung cancer in June. She was also 47. My parents are still suffering terribly and I believe that only time will help to heal our hearts. I'm sure that one day we will be able to only remember the wonderful times and I'm sure that will happen to your family, too. My best to you, Sharon

09-12-2006, 04:58 AM	#4
momov2boys Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Maryland Posts: 3,594 Gallery: momov2boys Stats: 122/107 WOE: LC/Intuitive Eating	I am so very sorry for your loss, Robin. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

09-12-2006, 05:00 AM	#5
GetFitMom MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Virginia Posts: 1,054 Gallery: GetFitMom Stats: goal is to lose 3 sizes WOE: Atkins 72 Start Date: Spring 2001	I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and your family.

09-12-2006, 05:19 AM	#7
Tashi MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 1,845 Gallery: Tashi Stats: 205/118 46 yrs. old WOE: Atkins to BFFM/Maintenance Start Date: 2/7/06	I'm so very sorry! What a shock to you and your family. You will all be in my prayers!

09-12-2006, 05:23 AM	#9
BellaCarol Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Dc Posts: 679 Gallery: BellaCarol Stats: 120/109.8/100 WOE: Atkins Start Date: September 27,2006	I am so sorry. My condolences to you and your family.

09-12-2006, 05:29 AM	#10
KarbieGrl Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 7,670 Gallery: KarbieGrl	I am so sorry for your loss. It will take time, but you will begin to find joy in your memories and the happy times you shared with your brother. I wish you peace and comfort during the upcoming days, as there may be times when the sorrrow will feel overwhelming.

09-12-2006, 08:56 AM	#11
xfatchik Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Viva Las Vegas! Posts: 15,460 Gallery: xfatchik Stats: size 22/4/4 WOE: Atkins ( 126 lbs gone! ) Start Date: June 9, 2003	I am so sorry for the loss of your brother.

09-12-2006, 09:46 AM	#12
Mule_Freak MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,220 Gallery: Mule_Freak Stats: 145/125-130/135 WOE: moderate carbs Start Date: Oct. 2003	So sorry for your loss, prays headed your way. I sincerely hope and I know w/the Lords help you will find that "joy" your missing, one day at a time

09-12-2006, 10:59 AM	#13
gotogirl MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 2,142 Gallery: gotogirl Stats: 148/116/120 5'3" WOE: Atkins for Life Maintenance Start Date: August, 2005	I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it hurts that he died alone but you can take comfort that he wasn't trying to get help so he must not have been in pain. Hugs to you as you heal.

09-12-2006, 11:51 AM	#14
Lori Eachday Join Date: May 2003 Location: New York Posts: 14,636 Gallery: Lori Stats: 20lbs goal/16lbs down/ 4 to go WOE: High Stress Diet	I am so sorry for your loss.

09-12-2006, 12:51 PM	#15
Besos MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Mpls, Mn Posts: 2,814 Gallery: Besos Start Date: March 2004	I am so sorry for your loss.

09-12-2006, 02:26 PM	#16
sillykimmie MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: The Evergreen state Posts: 1,420 Gallery: sillykimmie WOE: soon to be parking it on the south beach..	I am so sorry for your loss. I haven't lost a sibling, but have lost loved ones. Sending prayers for you and your family.

09-12-2006, 02:30 PM	#17
kategail Junior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: southeastern north carolina Posts: 20 Gallery: kategail Stats: 148/137/120 WOE: healthy as possible Start Date: February 2006	Hi Robin, I feel your hurt. My father-in-law died 8-8-06. You will grieve, but remember it is alright to grieve. It is part of the healing process. My husband has found that "keeping busy" is not always a good thing. You have to have time to rest also, because your body is going through so many emotional changes, which can be very tiring. Also as far as your weight loss program goes, try to stick with it during this sad time. If you are an emotional eater like me, you may be more tempted that usual. My husband had quit smoking on April 28th of this year. He had been a ten year over a pack a day smoker. Unfortunately he started back smoking two weeks ago. He said it helped him because he and his dad enjoyed smoking together, and the smell (as awful as it is) reminds him of his dad. Just last night he told me he wish he had not started back and was going to quit again. I have not given him a hard time about it though. sorry i have rambled, i do pray that you will find peace and comfort at this difficult time.

09-12-2006, 02:33 PM	#19
heidi21062 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Transplanted to NC...but my hearts in Hampton, VA.... Posts: 14,573 Gallery: heidi21062 Stats: 190/176/110 - 5'3" WOE: Atkins..no WW's...wait a minute....what day is it? Start Date: Started WW 07/28/08 @ 178.6 lbs

09-12-2006, 04:58 PM	#20
Jewelthief Are we there yet? Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 1,042 Gallery: Jewelthief Stats: 200+/150 WOE: Low- to Moderate-carb Start Date: APR 06	I am so very sorry for your loss... I lost my mother 3 years ago and it feels as if I lost my brother too because he hasn't allowed me to remain close with him. I miss him every day. I understand how it must hurt that you weren't able to be with your brother when he died, but he wouldn't want you to grieve forever after... He loved you and would want you to carry on and remember the happiness you've shared. As time passes you'll remember little things you'd forgotten over the years, and when you do, it'll make you smile inside... Take care, Karyn

09-12-2006, 07:12 PM	#21
snaggle Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: seattle Posts: 648 Gallery: snaggle Stats: 202/172/148 WOE: read them all, use them all Start Date: back on induction 9/1/08	Oh I am so sorry Robin. My dh lost his sister a few years ago and it has been hard for the whole family, especially her two kids. We try to think of her often and talk about her- it keeps her alive in a way. Some people think its a taboo to talk about death and think you want to avoid the subject of the person, but I find that its better to talk about him/her. My prayers are with you and your family.

09-13-2006, 04:32 AM	#22
Princess Di Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 7,373 Gallery: Princess Di	I'm sorry for your loss Robin. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

09-13-2006, 05:56 AM	#23
msjenni1970 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Utah Posts: 137 Gallery: msjenni1970 Stats: 245/241/150 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: re-commit 04/10/2007	I'm so sorry for you loss.. My prayers are with you.

09-13-2006, 11:11 PM	#24
Purrgirl Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Michigan Posts: 5,301 Gallery: Purrgirl Stats: 146/128 5'6	I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.

09-14-2006, 01:57 PM	#25
laceyannmarie Junior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Morgan City, La Posts: 38 Gallery: laceyannmarie Stats: 307/304/ WOE: Sugar Busters/Low carb Start Date: Pregnant!!! But still doing low carb..	I'm so sorry to hear that... I have this problem with always thinking what if something happened to one of my family members how would I feel, how would I react? I am praying for you and sorry for your loose.

09-15-2006, 04:29 PM	#26
gettingstrength Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Tennessee Posts: 9,523 Gallery: gettingstrength Stats: 184 / 170 / ? WOE: atkins Start Date: 6 / 1 / 2002

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