Angry at DH for this comment

ColoradoSweethart64 · 07-26-2006, 09:20 AM

He comes home from work this morning and asks me "Are you going to the gym today" ... I said yeah, "Are you" and he said "Why would I need to go" ... that was just rude. He NEVER says anything about my weight but now I wonder what he thinks.

He himself has dropped 25 lbs in a month WITHOUT trying. The MD ran some tests but they're all fine. So I guess now he knows it all ... LOL!!! Anyway I'm just frustrated at that comment ... off to the gym now. As he sleeps on the couch!!!

carebear · 07-26-2006, 09:23 AM

It's okay I understand how your feeling sometimes men speak with their butts if you know what i'm saying (sorry men dont take it personally

). He probably didn't mean it to hurt your feelings. But use that anger towards him and kick butt at the gym

vwchick · 07-26-2006, 09:27 AM

Men!

I'm sure he didn't mean anything bad by it...they just don't really know what (we think) they're implying sometimes.

JuliaL · 07-26-2006, 09:28 AM

I don't blame you - it sucks that men can lose weight so easily. I get mad at my DH because he can eat more than me

But next time he asks you why he should go to the gym you should tell him that skinny doesn't necessarily mean healthy. Losing weight is not the only reason to exercise. There are a million other good reasons!

KajunDC · 07-26-2006, 09:37 AM

Perhaps of you ladies would come out with a manual of "When you say this, we think it means that," then perhaps we could stop you from over-analyzing every little thing we say.

(But probably not.)

LowCarbingIt4Life · 07-26-2006, 09:37 AM

Now before you go and beat yourself up take a good look at the hubby. Don't take his comments like that and let it bring you down. Maybe you could have said he might want to go to tone up that shake in his bootie or tell him he might want to get some AB worrk in cause you don't see a 6 pack yet.

Fire right back and don't make yourself feel bad. Go to the gym for you.....not him!

moonmirror · 07-26-2006, 09:38 AM

Men say the STUPIDEST things sometimes. I hate it. I've been married almost ten years now so I've learned to let it roll off my back. I'm oversensitive also, so it is the comments about pretty actresses and coworkers that slay me. He doesn't mention my weight, but the women he remarks on are have beautiful bodies, of course.

He doesn't go on and on about them, but even the slightest remark; like "this gal in my office just got divorced, lots tons of weight and now she's wearing short skirts," just feels like a hard pinch to the arm. I don't want to look jealous, so I just play along.

shirlc · 07-26-2006, 09:47 AM

I can really identify. My DH makes remarks, too. And I'm overly sensitive (he knows that and reminds me of it). Like one time, he said, "You must have had a good lunch...look at your stomach." I got real mad, but of course got over it and forgave him. He's really wonderful in so many ways (except that one)!

07-26-2006, 09:20 AM	#1
ColoradoSweethart64 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Denver, CO Posts: 2,186 Gallery: ColoradoSweethart64 Stats: 250.8/250.8/175 WOE: Atkins Induction Start Date: June 28, 2007	Angry at DH for this comment He comes home from work this morning and asks me "Are you going to the gym today" ... I said yeah, "Are you" and he said "Why would I need to go" ... that was just rude. He NEVER says anything about my weight but now I wonder what he thinks. He himself has dropped 25 lbs in a month WITHOUT trying. The MD ran some tests but they're all fine. So I guess now he knows it all ... LOL!!! Anyway I'm just frustrated at that comment ... off to the gym now. As he sleeps on the couch!!! __________________ Come Visit Me At MySpace ~ www.myspace.com/ColoradoSweetheart64 Life Is Short ~ Break The Rules ~ Forgive Quickly ~ Kiss Slowly ~ Love Truly ~ Laugh Uncontrollably ~ And NEVER Regret ANYTHING that made you smile!!!!

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07-26-2006, 09:23 AM	#2
carebear Very "Special" Loungie Brat Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: A little place I like to call Home Posts: 18,408 Gallery: carebear Stats: Size 24/ Size 16/ Size 8 WOE: Low-Carbin it! Start Date: Original start October 2003;Re-inducting 4/22/06	It's okay I understand how your feeling sometimes men speak with their butts if you know what i'm saying (sorry men dont take it personally ). He probably didn't mean it to hurt your feelings. But use that anger towards him and kick butt at the gym

07-26-2006, 09:27 AM	#3
vwchick MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,489 Gallery: vwchick Stats: 200.6/ ... /150 5'9" WOE: Atkins Start Date: Restart: 22 Sep 2008	Men! I'm sure he didn't mean anything bad by it...they just don't really know what (we think) they're implying sometimes.

07-26-2006, 09:28 AM	#4
JuliaL Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: May 2003 Location: Louisville, KY Posts: 17,325 Gallery: JuliaL Stats: 190/145/140 16/8/6, height 5'8", age 48 WOE: Atkins/BFFM Start Date: 4/22/03	I don't blame you - it sucks that men can lose weight so easily. I get mad at my DH because he can eat more than me But next time he asks you why he should go to the gym you should tell him that skinny doesn't necessarily mean healthy. Losing weight is not the only reason to exercise. There are a million other good reasons!

07-26-2006, 09:37 AM	#5
KajunDC Natural Healthcare Chiropractor Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Mandeville, LA (Just North of New Orleans) Posts: 2,443 Gallery: KajunDC Stats: Lost 115lbs in 7 months Body Fat-40+%/11%/9% WOE: Organic, Fresh and Non-Processed Start Date: Low Carb-Mar04, BFFM-Jul05	Perhaps of you ladies would come out with a manual of "When you say this, we think it means that," then perhaps we could stop you from over-analyzing every little thing we say. (But probably not.)

07-26-2006, 09:37 AM	#6
LowCarbingIt4Life Senior LCF Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Tennessee Posts: 156 Gallery: LowCarbingIt4Life Stats: 315/294/150 WOE: Gastric Bypass Start Date: RNY June 12th	Now before you go and beat yourself up take a good look at the hubby. Don't take his comments like that and let it bring you down. Maybe you could have said he might want to go to tone up that shake in his bootie or tell him he might want to get some AB worrk in cause you don't see a 6 pack yet. Fire right back and don't make yourself feel bad. Go to the gym for you.....not him!

07-26-2006, 09:38 AM	#7
moonmirror Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Northern California Posts: 898 Gallery: moonmirror WOE: Atkins	Men say the STUPIDEST things sometimes. I hate it. I've been married almost ten years now so I've learned to let it roll off my back. I'm oversensitive also, so it is the comments about pretty actresses and coworkers that slay me. He doesn't mention my weight, but the women he remarks on are have beautiful bodies, of course. He doesn't go on and on about them, but even the slightest remark; like "this gal in my office just got divorced, lots tons of weight and now she's wearing short skirts," just feels like a hard pinch to the arm. I don't want to look jealous, so I just play along.

07-26-2006, 09:47 AM	#8
shirlc Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 648 Gallery: shirlc Stats: 143/132/125-5'5" WOE: Low Carb Start Date: March, 2006	I can really identify. My DH makes remarks, too. And I'm overly sensitive (he knows that and reminds me of it). Like one time, he said, "You must have had a good lunch...look at your stomach." I got real mad, but of course got over it and forgave him. He's really wonderful in so many ways (except that one)!